₦airaland Forum

Gbadugbakun:
That's true because I'm a talkative. Very serious talkative. I'll say both the one they ask and the one they didn't. I just want to stop it.

This thing dey really bother you. Wish you Goodluck minus Jonathan in your quest to be a better person.

markidoo:
Leave Tunji Ojo make we observe him doings,,cos it seems he means well for Ministry of Interior

Na you appoint am? WHEN YOU GET THERE, YOU CAN APPOINT HIM.

Ogonimilitant:
It is being speculated that Nigeria's political system may undergo significant changes in the near future, possibly leading to the dominance of a single political party. This could have far-reaching implications for the country's governance and political dynamics, and it remains to be seen how other parties will respond to this potential shift. It will be interesting to monitor the evolving political landscape of Nigeria and the impact it may have on the country's future.

One party state is coming and Nigeria is finished. Who suffers? The ordinary Nigerians. Who gains? the elites who subjugate their citizens. At the top the are friends and cronies irrespective of tribe and religion. They spread hate between tribes.

The success of these elites is the stupidity of the youths who fight among themselves along ethnic line.

If you have a good understanding of LEADERSHIP, you'll not be saying what you're saying. LAGOS is the most successful state in Nigeria because of leadership stability. Other states that have been changing from one political party to another have not been able to reach the development level of Lagos. Check countries where leaders are committed to a DEVELOPMENT PLAN, it has led to undeniable progress. Examples the UK (with the ROYAL FAMILY as the permanent head), the Netherlands (with the DUTCH ROYAL FAMILY), China, Russia, Saudi Arabia, UAE. Even IRAN is a better organised country in the Persian gulf than IRAQ because of the stability in governance.

Westerhoffe:
Be fair enough to let her go, not because of your mum's words but for her future.
She's 34 years old, she also has needs and desires and has declared she wants a family… so just let her go.





You're the one reasoning negatively because you did not read my comment to understand, but rather to reply.

Nobody said the OP is the one tying her down. But she comes to the OP's house to work everyday, that even the OP's mother had advised her to let her go. Or is it until the OP comes to post shocking stories before you tell her why hasn't she let her go since?

The said woman declared she wants to have a family, I've heard and read and seen similar stories that end up in tears because the right steps were not taken on time.

This is not about labeling the lady a husband snatcher, no, I'll never call her that, but you don't trust people too much till they come into your relationship, and even replace you.

So @OP, if you value your relationship, let that lady go.

You don't have to ill treat her; don't try that. Just pay her, tip her, thank her, and tell her you'd no longer be needing her services.

Try and keep your advice short nah. Must you say everything in your mind?

sniperr007:
The Sophia babe no wise. When the girl growssl up she will realise that her mother used her as a weapon against her father and she will know how selfish her mom was .

But which kind urge carry Davido give babe like this belle with all the fame and money.

Davido was still NAIVE at the time. Stardom was still turning his brain. That girl don tey for street. She just open the place for Davido, now she has turned to a bone in his throat.

Larryndelaw:
So how much is $800 that Davido can't pay. I spent more than times 4 of these monthly on my children. Have friends that pay $2000 child support monthly. So if Davido can't pay $800 monthly on his daughter, he is not a man

Lol, small yansh sef dey shake. How much you get for account wey you go pay $2k for child support? The lady is asking $800 for NANNY not total CHILD SUPPORT. Try and read well b4 you type a response.

CoronaVirusPro:
Why are you acting like you don't know women!

Just don't dive into it and get hooked, once you do, take full responsibility. You made the mistake!

I doubt if we have 10% of women who tell the truth about money, even the ones you married to. So once they come with that bill and its feasible, pay it off!

If she is charging Davido $800 a month for a nanny, it is feasible for peace of mind! Shouldn't be making headlines!

That girl is ready to do anything to bring down Davido. The guy reacted, quickly Tiwa savage don carry the matter go police. And I believe Davido will still be paying her for the daughter's upkeep. About #800k per month for NANNYYYYY, DEM DON RUN DAVIDO STREET 😧😧☹☹.

in the USA or uk it's 2k up, and if you fail to pay, your body go tell you.

anonym0us:
Try leave ekiti travel.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

CoronaVirusPro:
You think we talking about Iya Tunde the nanny here?

Hello! $800/month for a nanny is not exorbitant based on Davido`s status!

Which nanny dem they pay $800 per month for this Nigeria? Shey na imported nanny ni. It's like you dont even know what you're saying? The nanny go still chop for your house O. That money may not even include feeding money that Davido will be giving the baby mama for feeding. That girl wan open factory on top Davido head, her entitlement mentality is too much.

AqualinaXYZ:
Every educated family has one or two government workers



If e no reach your immediate family your uncles or aunt will benefit so don’t ridicule the movement



Abi you wan make Tinubu use the money add more Yatch

Have you watched the movie "THE TAILOR OF PANAMA"? One fool is enough to get a whole country into trouble.

lexy2014:
But u haven't answered the questions.

How should other women emulate her? For what exactly?

What did she do that is worthy of emulation?

Before this incident, What exactly was she offering her husband except second hand toto?

Well, I've checked her Bio but there's nowhere she, her husband or any other man around her confirmed that her toto is second hand. If you have REAEONABLE PROOF that she's second hand, we can start from there.

In any case, one of the most important things brand new toto brings is GOOD LUCK.

lexy2014:
How should other women emulate her? For what exactly?

What did she do that is worthy of emulation?

Before this incident, What exactly was she offering her husband except second hand toto?

The way you carry this matter for head ehn. Try calm down, life no hard like this. I pray peace of mind locate you.

Foodqueen:
The way your mom's end

Nanana.... from me.

Una don reach this place. Matter that doesnt concern you, fight has already started.

Shes now on 87k followers. See favour.

EreluRoz:
Bleaching man
Men that bleach their skin are actually looking looking for what?

All a man need is money, leave shakara for women.

Dont really know why people cant MIND THEIR BUSINESS. Hows is his life your concern?

Was body tattooing, piercing, use of ear rings, nose rings and chains not only attributed to women years back?

And who told you he doesnt have money. Are you as rich as he is, nobody knows you. Try and mind your business. He's not bleaching your skin neither has he asked you for money to treat any skin infection.

Seefinish:
The government is indirectly telling some of the people who are hawking those things to go into crimes.
High crime rate is in offing

What kind of PRIMITIVE THINKING is this? All this methods of selling are archaic and it's no longer practiced in the advanced countries we want to be like. If you want to sell, go and get a space in a market and sell your wares there. Lagos is a forward-thinking state and loves to set the pace. In this age, many people now sell their wares and do deliveries through social media. I just got a brand new wardrobe yesterday and didnt need to visit any market. I saw the one I liked on Facebook marketplace, ordered it and it was delivered to me same day in Lagos through Glovo dispatch rider. I dont know what THE SELLER looks like, I only spoke to her on phone. THE WORLD IS MOVING FORWARD, we cant afford to remain in the 20th century.

BabaO2:
That is his true immediate consistuency, he should be bold enough to say the truth and stop being an impostor as a yoruba man.

Whatever Obasanjo does, I try as much as possible not to ridicule him. This guy has tried so much for Nigeria. My problem with him is that he tends to OVERDO certain things sometimes. All in all, events has shown that he does whatever he does because of his love for the country. As far as am concerned, among all past Nigerian Presidents, HE'S THE GREATEST. I hope TINUBU will surpass him because he did so much in Lagos.

DamnnNiggarr:


so, because you feel that technology is not familiar with Northerners, that other Nigerians should adapt to your backwardness? why calling for computer-based-test for waec to be cancelled?

North Nigeria be dragging southern Nigeria back to the ice age.

Lagos state where I live and my Oyo state are not in the ice age, whether you're talking Metaphorically or you mean it.

FireUpNow:
The Zagallo kick is supreme way of scoring a goal. A legend of the game is gone. My sincere condolences to the family.

Dem sabi you? Wetin be your own condolence?

CatchMeIfUCanMO:
Is this not the man the popular dribbling style/tactics "Zagallo" was named after?

Goal tactic actually. That bicycle kick by Ronaldo, Gareth Bale, Rooney and lately Garnacho. Na Zagallo goal be that.

Danisaint112:
Shush it. Nobody is hating. It's just you guys drowning in inferiority complex propelled by unnecessary envy and jealousy for some race that doesn't and would never give a shit.

Meanwhile, you need to hold your government by the balls to lay waste to the shanty towns made up of brown roofs in various settlement in the west before we begin take you guys serious.

Lastly, what is it with every Yoruba being from Lagos in recent time?

You all need to be man enough to mention you states and make comments without trying to ridicule anyone because of projects that gulps little to what is being budgeted for it and time it takes to build atleast three.

ENVY and JEALOUSY for who?
Theres no tribe or race in Africa that Yorubas CAN BE JEALOUS OF. What has the tribe achieved?

AntiMen:
Thought Lizzy Anjorin said Shepeteri, rubber band obo e ja , is the face behind jist lover.

😧😧😧 See what you're saying in public.

YoungLionken:
Great movie; a must watch..

However, she shouldn't have given it that title, especially when the movie didn't in anyway portray Christ..

I really like how Funke always mix all tribes in her movies, she is a wise woman with vision. Although, most times, it's usually those in the trenches that are being deceived or used as tools for tribal wars. Even here on nairaland, the poor and the struggling middle class are always at each other's throats on this ..

In all, congratulations to Akin Funke (she could get an Oscar nomination for this), next deputy governor, Lagos state ...

Most of us that defend the Yoruba race are NOT POOR. I dont know about you guys. Reno Omokri, A NON-YORUBA MAN has also extolled the value of the yoruba people several times.

obedience4:
You and your conspiracy theories,
If they ask you to prove the nonsenses you just wrote you won't be able to.


PS I know instead of replying me with verified facts to back up your bogus claims you will result to insults.

Abeg leave the Eyi je, eyi o je conspiracy theorist. No be him type dem dey find for conspiracy theory.

Better advise your friend to go and look for job that will better his life.

FreeBiafra2018:
Really?? This is only where we're recognized as Nigerians abi?

Well, the only thing I was interested to find out is wether he has any of the industries located in Lagos, but thank God there's non and would NEVER be, otherwise by now his industry would have been amongst Sanwo Olu and Tinubu's list of Igbo properties to be destroyed in Lagos.

Enemies of progress that have attracted courses on themselves and their innocent generations ahead because of their uncalled for hatred on those they're surviving on.

Lol, there are vehicle manufacturing PLANTS in Lagos. Not just one. You probably still think innoson is the ONLY vehicle manufacturer in Nigeria. NOBODY wants the INNOSON in Lagos. Lagos has the largest IGR in Nigeria WITHOUT INNOSON so you can start using your utazi soup to eat the vehicles if you like.

sotall:
You call him a clown 🤡 and several other names but nobody in your entire family or lineage whether dead or alive is equal to or greater than him in intelligence, social standing, education, financial capacity and any enviable area of human life.

As if you know his family members. Mentally deficient rabid dogs like you often resort to insult when your mental capacity cant carry intelligent discussions anymore.

VeryWickedGoat:
Anybody with a working preeq knows that Putin is the Man of the Decade.

🤣🤣🤣🤣. May God forgive you

lordfemzy:
Hello friends,

I am please asking for all the genuine help i can get right now to deal with an issue that has tormented me all the days of my life. I am open to criticism if it comes my way.

Situation: my mum (biological mother) is extremely lazy, lacks discipline, difficult to advice and very manipulative. However the laziness aspect is my main issue.

A brief history of myself, i am currently in my late 30s, firstborn and only male, with 2 sisters also in their 30s. I have been managing her case for the past 30 years since our father passed. I should mention that her mental health isn't that perfect and she suffers breakdown at least once a year whenever she misses her drugs. The nature of her breakdown is that she will keep on talking about most events from the past and view them in a negative way, she gets violent at times and uses foul words while cursing anyone who she thinks has wronged her. I pray non of us reading this will experience this in their families.

The chaos we experience whenever there is a breakdown is something i don't wish for my enemy at all, the effect is draining financially, emotionally and in various other ways you can think of. Infact looking back i owe God a lot of gratitude for the strength and courage he has given me and by extension my sisters in managing her very tricky situation. The shame, embarrassment, wasted time and efforts, lost opportunities that have come with her condition can only be imagined. I have had to sleep over at the hospitals various times whenever she's on admission running into weeks at times, i have had to represent the family at functions she was suppose to attend but due to ill health. I was lucky i didn't fail any of my last papers in Uni cos she was on admission, i missed a second class upper courtesy of my mums condition, the only 2 courses i ever failed in my 4 years at the Uni can be linked to her condition. I had to practically plan and organise a wedding for our last born cos she was on hospital bed. Some of her breakdowns happen whenever an occasion or celebration within the family is about to happen... my 21st birthday, final exams leading to graduation in uni, weeks to my wedding, weeks to her second born wedding, a whole month to our last born wedding, funeral of her mother in law, funerals of our grandparents, her own 60th birthday... the list is so long and at times i almost consider it spiritual but i am better informed.

In the last 2 years or thereabout i have been able to connect a few dots and patterns based on what i have experienced and seen. When my mum and her siblings (five) were being raised, the kind of family setup was such that cousins, distant cousins and relatives lived with them. This was because her late dad was a University lecturer, probably the 1st in his Hometown and granny was a primary school teacher, you know how it was in those days. I was able to understand that my mom and most of her siblings except one practically lived a life free of stress cos they had other relatives who were willing and at disposal to do major chores and take up responsibilities at home, they sort of lived a carefree life. I have stayed and lived a couple of times with these other siblings of my mum due to various reasons like holidays from boarding school, moving to another location for job opportunities etc.

I can practically tell from what i have seen with this people. All her life, things were being done for her and she's just free to do anything she wants apart from chores. Even her building project though her own money and sweat was an initiative of her late parents. They were practically her project manager and support system throughout their lifetime. Its a good thing to do but not setting limits and not being hard has it own detriments eventually, cos till date she's entirely reliant on anyone available to do even the simplest of chores. Let me quickly breakdown some of her acts and attitude which is very injurious to her own health.

1. The first on the list and perhaps the most annoying one is her laziness and OMG it reeks to the heavens. She avoids responsibilities and doesn't do house chores and generally procrastinates. My mum will use the toilet in her room and even living room and not flush properly on a constant basis. She does this even when she travels elsewhere. My mum can eat but cannot wash her plates and utensils, she will leave her plates in the living room for days or just anywhere, pots will pile up in the kitchen and will not be cleaned until every other option is exhausted and a new meal must be made. She will not lay her bed or change sheets constantly. She doesn't dress smartly and lacks good wardrobe management. She doesn't sweep, her corridor may not be touched in weeks same with other rooms in her apartment. Shes doesn't bother if she's unkept. Whenever she eases herself, due to her carefree attitude she will leave stained urine on her clothe and she will wear this throughout the day causing mayhem wherever she goes. Just add anything you can thing of as examples, you will find it with my mum. The annoying thing here is that if you advice her or suggest a change, she will rebuke you and tell you your are insulting her.

2. She's carefree and lacks good financial management. She earns well over 100K per month as pension and if we calculate her expenses per month she should have over 30 to 35k as savings. You can never account for how she spends her money! 10 days into a new month, the money is gone. Most times her friends abroad send her free money from and she will just squander the money on frivolities. She has a small shop that she runs, but for her to even stock the place sef na issue, she doesnt have a separate account for business and no stock is taken end of month or at least a quarter. We actually warned her against the line of business as its very common and the profit isn't much. We have practically considered her carelessness, carefree attitude and inability to keep things safe and warned against the shop idea. In the last 3 years she has lost 2 phones of high value. As if she likes to brag, whenever shes having discussion about money that is in her favour, maybe salary or someone abroad sends her money, she will begin to speak at the top of her voice such that an average person passing round can almost get full details. We have severally warned her against this but no luck at all. The consequence is that she has been defrauded a couple of times, you can act as a fake customer care agent of any bank and ask my mum for sensitive details like card number, password and she will give you immediately without a second thought despite the fact that she has been warned repeatedly. As a matter of fact she doesn't listen to her children's counsel or advice, but anybody from outside will give her advice and she ll make us of that one. She once told me off that i am not in any position to advice her that shes older than me and it should be the other way round. But when all the shit happens yours truly will be the one managing d situation.

3. She's manipulative. My mum is a master in this game and i am ashamed of her actions. I can't even mention some of the things she has done to my wife and I on this platform. She lies, deny incidences and things she has said. About her drugs, there is just one rule, do not skip any of morning or evening doses. Whenever she does she will never own up to you and when the effect is now seen, she will still try to cover up by saying she can't remember.

4. She's unforgiving. My mum is the last person you want to offend, even things that shouldn't be considered will be used against you when the time comes. For instance my mum may give someone raw food out of her own freewill or maybe the person asked for it, but months from that time the story can change that the person is the one stealing raw food or looting her house.

I apologise this is a long read and i can't even explain a quarter of what is going on at the moment, but the summary is that her laziness and lack of motivation is driving me nuts, i always have to bear and manage the consequences whenever shit happens. Its not easy for me cos i have my own family to manage and the responsibility is killing. Currently her househelp resigned 2 months back and the house has been a mess since then, she does practically nothing. I have been attending a workshop for the last one week and heard she's been feeding on puff puff and cornflakes every other day without making stew or soup and eating real food. This is a woman that money on her, even if you are lazy to cook, why not indulge yourself and patronise eateries till you have motivation to enter kitchen. Why not even make an arrangement for someone to come cook food for you everyday amd pay the person weekly or daily. We have to think for her and suggest things that require no initiative in most cases. I had to go and buy beef and made blended stew for her last weekend for example to motivate her amd assist like i always do. When i got back the following weekend, the stew wasn't even half used and there was mould on it indicating that she never cooked a serious meal, she was probably buying bread and removing the meat until it finished and lost interest in even heating the stew to warm.

Its more like if i don't do things for her, she will make herself fall into a state where she will enter deep sickness or starvation or depression such that people will see me as a bad person if anything sould happen to her. Already she has created that impression and she's living the lifestyle. Its been two weeks she's has remained indoors for no reason, no opening of shop, no cooking, no cleaning, no laundry, no strolling out and always expecting unknown help from anywhere it comes from. I have told her to pick herself up that help is something we must give ourselves. I have to go out to work daily not sitting down to baby sit my mum who is not an invalid. Her body is complete with no defects but i can't just help her laziness and attitude anylonger, its choking for me and i can't take ot anymore or do more than i have been doing. I have literally carried this woman for the most productive part of my life and done nothing wrong just loving my mother unconditionally. I have come to a point where i have to move on and break some unnecessary connections for my sanity and future of myself amd immediate family.

Please help and advice me guys on what to do. When she not in good health mentally na wahala and serious commotion and when shes stable, i have to battle with laziness, constant manipulations, carefree lifestyle, lack of discipline and vision and lots more. I have endured these cycle for too long. Also note that my sisters are married and are not even available at all, one is overseas and the other in a faraway state. I may not have touched some areas cos the issue too plenty but if questions are asked i would digress into it and share details truthfully. God bless

Moderator Sir/Ma, i beg you to help me push this to front page. I am not feeling good at all. Thanks

With everything you wrote here about your mother, nobody and I mean nobody will give you any meaningful advise on how to handle her situation.

raskymonojendor:
What are they doing in Torino. The crimes are either drug related or cultism related.

We know who the cultists are and where they're from in Nigeria.

MEEVEET:
So who says we no longer have subsidy?

You removed subsidy and petrol is 680 and diesel is 1200

Dey play make una dey play

Nigeria is paying more subsidy today than we have ever paid in our history we are paying over 550 per liters

Wehdone,ELUPEE monitor for subsidy removal. Even if you do your job well for the next four years, no vacancy in Aso rock.