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dominique:
Yusuf with his second goal in the dying minutes of the game

FT 3-0.
Welldone boys!

IgOga:
Arab is a tribe not a religion. All Arabs are not muslims. Don't blame the religion for discrimination. In Europe many people detests inter-ethnic marriage too

Even within Nigeria, inter tribal marriage is not acceptable in some families and communities

God1000:
But why is it that when Africans commit crime against white people, they can be extradited to face charges and be imprisoned over there but when it's the opposite you hear things like their laws doesn't permit their citizens to be flown to another country for such

OverCalculating:
Folorunsho Alakija did not study Geology.

​She started as a Secretary. Then she became a Fashion Designer.

Yet, she beat the global oil giants at their own game.

​Most people think she just "got lucky" with an oil license.

Thanks for this. I really enjoyed it and I learnt from it.
You are one of the few intelligent people in nairaland.
God bless you.

But the truth is, she used a strategy called The "Rejected Stone" Advantage.

​Here is what happened:
​
In the 90s, she applied for an oil license.

The powers that be gave her OPL 216.

​They didn't give her this block because they liked her.

They gave it to her because nobody else wanted it.

It was "Deep Offshore" (Deep Water).

At that time, the technology to drill that deep was expensive and risky.

The big companies (Shell, Mobil) wanted the easy, shallow water.

​They thought they gave her a "useless" paper.

She saw a "Golden Ticket."

She knew she didn't have the billions to drill.

But she had the Rights.

She approached Texaco (now Chevron).

She told them: "I have the access. You have the technology. Let's work."

​She didn't try to dig with her hands. She used her "Paper" as equity to attract a giant.

This is the most important lesson.

When they finally struck oil (the massive Agbami Field), the Government was shocked at the volume.

They got jealous.

The Government tried to use a decree to forcefully take back 50% of her stake.

​Most people would have bowed to the Federal Government out of fear.

Alakija sued them.

​She fought the Federal Government in court for 12 years.

She refused to settle. She refused to be bullied.

Eventually, the Supreme Court ruled in her favor, restoring her full stake.

​Why am I telling you this?

​Don't despise the "Hard" road:

Just because an opportunity looks difficult (Deep Water) doesn't mean it's bad.

That is often where the biggest treasure is hidden.

​Defend your Value: In business, creating wealth is one thing.

Keeping it is the real war.

You must have the audacity to fight for what is yours, even if you are fighting a Giant.

​She went from sewing clothes to owning one of the most prolific oil blocks in Africa.

Not by luck. But by Grit.

​Nairalanders! I hope you learnt something today.

SpencerForbes:
How does all the things I bolded correlate with what you wrote up there

Teeneyo:
Bro
No vex
So wetin u wan do
No b exploit

robosky02:
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ChizzyBuna:
So my parents are in village for christmas.
Coming from lagos to visit for xmas
I decided to visit our house in town where our family lives. Before going to meet them in village

What i found in my fathers room shocked me


Condom packets that were not prpperly thrown away.

Ky gel found open on the table
For those that don't know Ky gel is lubricant for sex.

This is enough proof this man is cheating.
Should i repirt him to my mum??

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Veetee:
These days I have been wondering how the dating pool has gone from bad to worse.

I would make this story brief. A friend of mine though married was trying to get a side chic for himself.
He met a girl on instagram and they have been chatting for sometime. He shuttles between canada and nigeria, since his family lives abroad.
We both had a man to man discussion where he talked about getting tired of doing runs girls that you would have to pay money to nack

The girl is a student of unical. So while he was in canada they both got talking, doing video call and the rest.
Once in a while he sends her money, 250k, 100k from time to time.

Then he said he noticed something, the girl travelled to zanzibar in Tanzania on a pleasure and vacation trip. He said during that period she doesnt respond to calls and text messages. he was wondering how a student could afford such an experience trip out of the country. In my mind I was like these young yahoo boys must have sponsored such trips.

After he returned from canada to nigeria, back to his base in lagos. they got talking and he asked her to visit him in lagos from calabar

He sent her 320k for her flight ticket. she requested for some other money which he sent 100k.

Omo after she got the money she didnt book the ticket because according to her the network was bad and she doesnt want it to het stuck.

They started going back and forth of this booking issue. my friend got frustrated along the way , that was when i got to know about the story.

sometimes he would call she wont respond, claiming she is in class. At the end my friend asked her to return the money to his travel agent
somehow she found that suggestion annoying. She angrily told him to send his own account so she can refund that she is no longer interested in seeing me.

My own conclusion in this story is if you are dating a beautiful girl in nigeria, you have a lot to do. The competition is very fierce.

These young yahoo boys at the moment have so much money to lavish on these ladies. If you are a young man doing legit hussle, my advice for you is just focus on your hustle.

Purpletee:
Ok

Theresa
Female
15-01-1998

ijustdey:
https://dailytrust.com/unical-mobilised-bread-seller-who-didnt-attend-school-for-service-nysc/

Namaster:
Society has DAMAGED a lot of men.

When men get married, society FORCES them to make their wives the Alpha and Omega of their lives. They CAJOLE men to make their wives the CENTRE OF GRAVITY in their lives.

Men put their wives FIRST. Think of their wives FIRST. And make endless SACRIFICES to make them happy.

On the other hand, wives ALSO put themselves first. Think of THEMSELVES first. And DEMAND endless sacrifices from their husbands to make them happy.

Men need to understand:

Your life is like a BUILDING.

A woman, even your wife, must NEVER be the pillar of your life. Otherwise, get ready for the inevitable COLLAPSE.

Instead, a woman should be like a lightbulb. Makes the building nice and bright BUT if it goes out or gets spoilt or explodes, you just go out and REPLACE it.

Chikena.

Sapasenator:
About three years ago. It was a bitter winter and I was dining at a restaurant around 11 pm in the night. It was very cold and if I remember correctly, it was -35 degrees Celsius below freezing point and if you pee outside, it freezes before hitting the ground. cold.

The restaurant was filled with everyone white except myself. I looked behind me and it was crowded with delivery drivers working for the delivery app, Skip the Dishes, waiting to pick up food orders. Nine delivery drivers and all black guys mostly Nigerian looking.

Imagine what it means to have to drive constantly in the bitter cold to deliver food when most people are either sleeping or enjoying themselves in a warm restaurant.

Some of these guys are even delivering with brand new SUVs purchased on credits and after a deeper dive, I came to realize our people here live mostly above their means to impress fellow Nigerians. They buy houses or cars they cannot afford and now have to work three jobs and drive on the side to maintain their fake lifestyles.

This is not a healthy way to live guys, learn to relax and enjoy yourself once in a while, do not live above your means and the fact that you are pre-authorized for that big mortgage, loan, or line of credit does not mean you have to accept.

Learn to live your life without trying to please or impress anyone and occasionally, take time off to have fun and enjoy yourself, take vacations.

Fergu:
Nigeria must be better in our lifetime

BlindAngel:
That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

Fairview1:
Men be honest… would you date someone who’s a little chubby? I feel like men only want skinny woman these days and that’s something I have never been.

Dating has been super hard for me and I’m wondering if it’s because I’m a little thicker than most females I know, I’m not talking obsessed but thicker for sure.

So, men… does weight matter to you when it comes to choosing a lady to date? Be honest, let's talk.

Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

Beeb1e:
Hello everyone, I got a call from a man in the Village (Elele, Rivers State) on Tuesday night, that we should look for a way to come and carry our mother as she has slumped and was rushed to a hospital, where she was in coma.

He explained to me that my mother went to demand for the payment of the debt the man is owing her and he angrily beat her up, he stripped her , tore her clothes, her underwear was torn too. I’m literally crying as I type this. Everyone that tried to stop him he chased with the machete. Now my dad is late , else he won’t have tried this.

I am in Lagos so I’ve not seen her my sister that was able to travel to Elele to see her sent me the pictures.

She is out of coma now, but still unable to sit or stand or talk. We also noticed she is bleeding from her private part.

We arrested the evil man with the Elele police but the community Igwe bailed him, he is a known person in the community and owns a hotel there.

I really want this man to receive this level of Physical pain or more, because my mum almost lost her life.

I don’t know what to do or how to go about getting justice for her.

We are at military hospital port harcourt now.

nlfpmod:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enoch_Adeboye

jmoore:
Una never learn from una babablu.
You promised to teach them a lesson but the tinubulation is hitting you. You are now want to put them to shame.
Can your emlscatter make petrol to be sold at 200 naira per litre? Can your emiscatter make 50kg rice to be sold at 28,000 naira?


You guys are already drowning in shame with your tinubulation.

Gistsnaijamedia:
https://saharareporters.com/2024/02/23/hardship-yoruba-elders-complaining-about-tinubu-should-learn-igbo-who-are-not-protesting

Mrperfecto:
I will just be brief without writing too much.

We are based we have 4 children, my first child is 13 from my previous relationship, she has become very terrible, she doesn't listen to me or my wife. She tells her that she is not her biological mother and she cannot control her. She had threatened to call the police on my wife telling her if she touch her she will fight her back and call the police. She goes to school and closes at 3.45 her school is 10 mins walk from home, but she is always late for home.

She comes home around 6 sometimes 7pm , as I am writing now every friday she closes at 12.30 but she is still hasn't come back home yet.

I am on my way to work. I start at 6.30pm till 2.30am so I rarely get to see her and she only misbehaving when I am not around. So far we have seized her phone because we had found so many inappropriate messages exchanges between her and boys. We had also removed the TV from her room and her behaviour has gotten worse. She is behaving like she's possessed.

My wife and I are fed up. Even her siblings are tired of her. We want to send her back to Nigeria maybe in a boarding school until she is 18 in order to protect her younger ones. If we keep her and she continues with her terrible behaviour I may beat her badly and we may end up loosing all 4 children to the authorities.

Please what advice will you give to me concerning this issue?

marsup:
That's what learning is about.
Makes a lot of sense for serious minded students.

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

doneback04:
I am 29year and I am still eating my fingers and I don't find it funny but most times I just find my hand inside my mouth and right now I am looking for a possible solution on how to stop it permanently,

adaperry25:
Is it a Nigerian thing or something? Met 2 ladies already and its same old stuff.

I initiate all chats and calls. If I don't call..no communication..if I don't chat..no communication.

While chatting..you have to ask all the questions and bring up gists.

They can't call u randomly to ask after you.

I don tire o

Trying foreign ladies might not be a bad idea.