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Blackazuma99:
Good day to everyone in this forum, please I am in desperate need of your advice.

Early 2014 she lost her dad, 2016 she lost her only brother (my uncle) and then the worst happened in 2021,i lost my father which is her husband, and since then God has been faithful, I graduated same year, my elder sister got a good job same year, we got our first family house same with other benefits.

But the problem has been my mum, she's always depressed and always thinking, thinking of my late dad, we have tried our best as the children to make her happy, especially me the first son. Please i need advice on what to do, I really don't want my mother to die of depression 😞.

Let her know Christ!

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

My advice!
It us better to marry late than to marry wrong.

hisexcellency34:
With today's ruling by the Supreme Court dismissing PDP's suit, is there any hope for Labour Party and Peter Obi at the Supreme Court especially after Tinubu must have been sworn in as President?


Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/7703882/court-dismisses-suit-seeking-stop#123380638

It's only a fool that still believes obi won the election

manee2:
I really can't give the best advice to my 24-year-old sister struggling with the frustrations of a married professor in his late 40s who wants to have a sexual affair with her.

The lecturer handles two different courses, each having a three-credit load and she is afraid of being failed for not complying with his sexual advances.

Having given many excuses for not meeting up for a date and refusing his gifts, tonight I found her crying after talking to him over the phone and it seems he is upset about the whole situation.

If the institution is in Lagos. Let's talk privately!

Ilamina:

What is IDAN?

naptu2:
🦅 ℙ𝕒𝕤𝕥𝕠𝕣 𝕆𝕜𝕖𝕫𝕚𝕖 𝕁 𝔸𝕥𝕒ñ𝕚 🦅 @StFreakingKezy

"Allow me to rest, eat Amala, and sleep.

Work will commence tomorrow"
🤩🤩🤩
~The President-Elect, @officialABAT to his supporters at his Asokoro Residence. pic.twitter.com/LfkrAofiyn

— 𝕊𝕚𝕣 𝕃𝕒𝕓𝕝𝕦 (@sirlablu) April 24, 2023

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YxurE-rBsFA

Baba yin ti de!

Karen2024:
I am so disappointed in myself.

So I decided to tell a guy who has been my crush that I want us to be friends but he outrightly rejected my proposal.

This guy is just irresistible but he's very immature. I am very much disappointed.

Since he has disappointed you don't worry, you can shoot your shot at me, I will gladly accept.

concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again

You are a crazy fellow! So you become depressed because of a girl. If you die today, another man will be sleeping steadily with her while you die in vain and rot in hell fire. Break up and forget about her and move on.

iHateFraudsters:
Still the same mantras : party, sex, women, drugs, money, fraud.

Nothing creative.

I miss creative musicians like Asa

You be better person.

Nonny95:
Nigeria's literary superstar, Chimamanda speaks truth to President Biden in open letter published in @TheAtlantic. Thanks, Chimamanda for your integrity and bravery.

https://twitter.com/valentineozigbo/status/1644024591919067137?t=iBbeMsT06-3qXPdVDe7U7Q&s=19


Nigeria’s Hollow Democracy
Why is America congratulating the winner of this disastrous election?



https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/04/nigerias-hollow-democracy/673647/

Two statements that can describe this letter.
1. Flogging a dead horse.
2. Dead on arrival.

MostImportant:
I have noticed that some Nigerians have a way of putting all the blames on politicians as the ones destroying the country when they themselves are equally contributing.

A fellow job seeker turned back and do evil to me for the good intention I had for him. I was only trying to be a human which of course I always try to be no matter how tight it is with me. Not as though I have but I would share the little i have when I see someone so in need.

I met this guy in an interview venue and we got talking based on job search experiences, how we got to hear about the very one we were at, about the company, tips we can use to perform better in the interview and all that.

I think we were more than 40 in that place and interview was based on first come, you pick a number based on your arrival time and wait to be called in.

So the guy went in first before me, and came out to meet me waiting. On coming out, I tried to ask him to hint me based on some questions asked inside. The interview was scheduled for 10am but it started way late, around to 12pm. So not long after which he came out, he started complaining of hunger. I told him I am hungry too, and truly nothing entered my mouth that morning, so I was seriously hungry too. From hunger, he brought in the issue of how he managed to get to the venue due to lack of transport fare. He then asked me if I can assist with any amount to pay his way back. To be very open with him, I removed the last N500 that was with me and showed him. I told him I am the same. We are all struggling as we don't have a job yet. In fact, why I have N500 in my pocket is because I woke up early enough to prepare which I partly trekked to the place just to save some expenses. Just because I saw frustration in him and the humanity in me won't let me be, I wanted to give him N150 from the money while I keep N350 for myself. From our conversation, my distance was even farer than his.

So I wanted to go out with him to go look for change but just then, it was my turn to go in for the interview. Already the money was in his hand, so he said I should go in for my interview while he goes out to look for change and come back. I thought I was dealing with a human being, not knowing I was making a mistake. Leaving him with the money was the mistake I made. I'm only human after all, and I have learnt my lesson but it won't stop me from being good.

To cut the story short, that guy ran away with my only N500. That was all that was with me in and out. I mean home and abroad, all with me was the N500. Account balance looks like a radio frequency - 87.9. Laughable. So nothing was reachable any where else but even after telling him, he still decided to pay me back with evil.

To think he is a job seeker and he still behave that way, I won't curse him even though he succeeded in making me trek for more than 2 hours, going home with an empty stomach.

May he reap whatever he sows. I'm sure he won't come back to the place even if he's called up for the job, which I doubt though. And I pray I am shortlisted for the job, to bring joy to me.

Although a sad one for me but I pity his life.

God will send a better help to you bro. 98% of Nigerians are wicked people and selfish. They repay kind people with evil. Please don't stop being kind.

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

It requires common sense! It's possible that you may give birth to an SS and this may bring distress to you and your family. Why not pray to God to give you a better person.

ozalogbo:
I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum.

However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it.

Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum passed on after a few years.

Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i remember the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed.

What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?

So painful that you allowed your wife to dictate to you on how you should treat your mum when she needed you most, I'm sure that could be one of the reasons she died within few years, your mother that took care of you and a you became a person and now karma has found your wife's mother too. The ball is in your court, the only advice I can give you is to ask God to forgive you for treating your mother badly.

Jking20:
I hope this man of God they say isn't turning his church to one political party...

Don't mind him, he wants to turn himself to God.

Amah70:
If he has the money he can win.
If you see Yorubas living in the East, they blend beautifully with the locals, sotay, you may not be able to distinguish them from the locals.
Those who go to church so blend in the church that you may believe their grand parents were the original worshippers in the church.

Yes it is because they respect their hosts and never brag that it's a no man's land. I served in the South east, ebony state.

Naira20:
Bayo Onanuga: It's a lie.There is NO Yoruba person in the Southeast. IBO go back to your state

Let him contest for governorship na

incandescentena:
Wow!! Bashir Elrufaida just got served, HOT!

My dear Aisha Yesufu, do not drag yourself in the mud with this un-cultured, sick, ignorant, abusive, smelling son of a midget, Bashir Elrufai.

Let me not drag his wife into these, but she must be a very fo0ling Igbo woman to marry this mentally unbalanced Bashir

EDO NOR DEY CARRY LAST

Na lie, Bashir dey give her hot hot. Go and verify.

jesusjnr2020:
Are All Leaders Appointed By God?

Surely not, if we're to go by the teachings of Christ.

Matthew 15:13-14 (KJV)

But he answered and said, Every plant, which my heavenly Father hath not planted, shall be rooted up.
Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.

So if not all leaders in the House of God were appointed by God, how much more those of this world?

Hence the idea or teaching that all leaders were appointed by God is false and did not come from God. This was also corroborated by the Word of the Lord through the mouth of one of His prophets.

Hosea 8:4 (KJV)

They have set up kings, but not by me: they have made princes, and I knew it not: of their silver and their gold have they made them idols, that they may be cut off.

So although God appoints and raises leaders where need be and in accordance with His plan and divine arrangement concern mankind, not all leaders were appointed by God.

God bless.

Why are you misleading people with the Holy Bible?

Lannister360:
THE BIGGEST DRUG LORD IN NIGERIA IS TINUBU, A YORUBA MAN, HUSHPUPPY AND DAMMY CRANE WHO ARE BOTH SERVING JAIL TERM IN THE US ARE ALSO YORUBA. BIG FOOL

Ode! Why is it giving you severe pain. Your people are damaging Nigeria reputation all over the world.

naptu2:
https://cddfactcheck.org/?p=19603

The full interview

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qRTBOuw44xs

Obi is a liar na

Neweramify:
MY EXPERIENCE AS INEC AD-HOC STAFF IN ENUGU NORTH LGA

I'm currently a Corp member (NYSC) serving in Enugu North LGA, we were used for the 2023 presidential election at Enugu North LGA. We had three days training before the election date. During the training, we were told provision would be made for our transportation and feeding, but we are yet to receive anything.

We were told to be present at INEC office a day before the election and that we will be sleeping at our collation center which didn't happen. We all ended up sleeping at the INEC office.

We never knew we will be sleeping in an open air, without a roof over our head and on a MAT.

Neither did we know we will be visited by a Snake, BIG rats, spiders, BIG black ants, etc while sleeping. We almost got bitten by a snake but God safed us.

it all happened without any medical personal on ground.

Provision wasn't made for food, not even a sachet water. we went through all this without getting 5 naira from INEC.

On the day of the presidential election, there wasn't enough vehicles to convey us to our polling unit. Some of us got to our polling unit by 1pm, 2pm etc and almost got beaten by the angry voters who had waited for so long to cast their vote, thank God for the Reverend father who intervened on our behalf.
I'm grateful to God for a peaceful conduct in my polling unit.

After election, our buses came to pick us back to INEC office for submission of election materials.

Arriving INEC office, The INEC officials refused to collect the election materials from us. We were asked to spend another night in their office (without food and water). Some of my colleagues disagreed with them, begged them to get the materials so that they can go back to their destination which they refused.

A Corp member said to one of the officials,

i quote "please sir, why is INEC treating us like animals"

How did they expect us to return from our polling unit, with all the stress we went through at the polling unit, standing all day without food & water yet expect us to spend another night here without making any provisions for us. Not even the training/feeding allowance was given to us.

We had no option than to sleep just to secure the materials given to us since the INEC officials refused to collect the election materials that night.

I told God, if I survive this night, I will never do INEC work again. I was so hungry, tired and stressed out, I had just 200 naira with me which was supposed to be my transport (remember it's hard to get cash in Nigeria).
How I survived till morning being Sunday 26 February 2023 is still a miracle. This incident made me conclude that hunger doesn't kill.

As early as 5am on the 26 February, INEC officials started collecting the election materials while checking if everything was complete in the BVAS box given to us.

In conclusion, I want to appeal to you all to help us beg INEC officials in Enugu North LGA, Enugu, to please pay the Corp members they used to carry out the election and all the INEC AD-HOC STAFF here in Enugu North.

Let it be known that we the Corp members at Enugu North LGA are not going to participate in the Governorship election if we don't receive our allowances for the presidential election.
Thank You.


The president
Corp members affair (NYSC)
ENUGU NORTH LGA.
13/03/2023

Mobs Please help move this to front page

Did you rig for obi?

maleekberry:
Where is nigeria going for God sake
Rice and chicken with Fanta (5k)

Why are you believing the lies. The guy is not saying the truth.

amnesty7:
God really helped us. Imagine if it were the yonder man that won the presidency, we for no hear word.
Once again, Congratulations to the Great Asiwaju!!!

Waa gbayi!

Proudlyomonna:
You also said worse before, infact you said LP will not win one polling unit outside Anambra State.
Let's wait and see sha ko jina mo.
The owners of Lagos State are with Us to say
Eko lo kan.
Up Labour.

Do you know why LP was because Christians were brainwashed by their pastors. But now they are wiser, and churches for sanwoolu.

Proudlyomonna:
Iro ko le le anything si.
Every PdApc structure on sight everywhere in this Country will be crushed by the people and common masses who have suffered greatly from this PdApc structure of suffering, insecurity controlled by fifth columnist.
E lo tun ile yin se tori ojo repkete nbe lo no.
Eko lo kan.
Up Labour

Don't be decieved. We Lagosians are wise. Gbadebo can never reach there.

Sorrynovex:
Picture Slides from Labour Party Gubernatorial Candidate For Lagos State, Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour's visit to the Riverine Areas of Lagos State.

If e pain you scream

#sorrynovex

Sanwoolu le nkan si!

Mediahq:
My First 100 Days
As Governor of Lagos

I have a vision for a new Lagos
Here is my action plan for the first 100 Days in office.

1.0
Increase Minimum Wage to N60,000 on Day 1 in Office, the salary of Civil Servants will be increased by 100% to N60,000 monthly. The target is to reach N100,000 as soon as possible. This will cover everybody including street sweepers.

2.0
Moral suasion to persuade the Organised Private Sector to follow Govt's lead by stopping casualisation and also increase their minimum wage to a living wage. Banks, telcos, oil companies, multinationals, large national corporates, etc will be incentivised with PAYE tax credits to stop casualisation and index their minimum wage to their capacity to pay rather than current market wage rates which are suppressed by high unemployment. A first step for a Lagos where every worker has health care, pensions and similar benefits.

3.0
Cancel Alpha Beta's Contract which costs the State N5bn monthly.

4.0
Use the savings from the cancellation of Alpha Beta contract to set up a grand Loan Scheme for Micro, Small and Medium Scale Enterprises. Ensure at least 10,000 beneficiaries in the first 100 Days. We expect the scheme to benefit up to 1m beneficiaries in 4 years.

5.0
Establish a portal for publishing costs of all government projects and compare them to World Bank standards to eliminate waste and corruption.

6.0
Issue a 10-year order for 10,000 vehicles to an auto manufacturer that commits to building an auto assembly in Lagos with a credible plan to achieve 50% value added within 5 years.

7.0
Pull down all toll gates in the Lekki Ajah axis and Ikoyi link bridge.

8.0
Build a monument in memory of our slain sons and daughters at the old Lekki Toll Gate.

9.0
Advertise for the employment of 10,000 teachers with outstanding grades (First Class and Second Upper or Upper Credit) to start a process of repositioning teaching as a middle-class career.

10.0
Execute a Memorandum of Understanding with all Road Transport Unions for the implementation of a rehabilitation and retraining program, and take Agberos off our roads.

11.0
Invite bids for the design and construction of 100 km of rail across Lagos.

12.0
Host an education summit with all stakeholders to get buy-in into GRV's plan for partnerships to upscale public schools to the standards of the best private school.

13.0
Host a health summit with all stakeholders to get buy-in for partnerships to upscale services at Primary Health Centres to best-in-class, laying the foundation for an effective referral system.

14.0
A summit for various artisan associations such as bricklayers, plumbers, mechanics, welders, carpenters, tailors and other technicians with the objective of creating a process for their certification and access to small-scale loans.

15.0
Working with my Party, the Labour Party, appoint first-class caretaker Chairmen for each Local Govt,
each appointee being skilled enough to be a potential Governor.

16.0
Set a date for Local Government elections.

17.0
Issue Guidelines to open up the BRT routes to all investors who meet the minimum standards. Create a program for widespread investment in public transport by all willing Lagosians and investors.

18.0
Issue Guidelines for markets to operate autonomously and appoint their own Iyalojas and Babalojas.

19.0
Release Guidelines for a new waste management system for separating waste to paper, plastic and organic from homes; a first step towards a world class system for turning waste into biogas and fertilizer.


20.0
Emergency rehabilitation of buildings and facilities in 100 primary and secondary schools pending comprehensive reconstruction.

21.0
Enumeration of all apartments that have been vacant for more than 180 days, and commencement of a program to ensure occupancy by 31st Dec. At least 100 such apartments are to be occupied in the first 100 days.

22.0
The commencement of the rehabilitation of 100 inner roads spread across all Local Governments in Lagos.

I am determined to set Lagos on course to become First World in 30 years.
Hold me accountable after the first 100 Days.


Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour
Labour Party Candidate for Governor of Lagos State

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Sanwoolu le nkan si!

Dapagun:
1. You can't increase salary without budget considerations. Have you spoken with the Accountant General, Finance Ministry, is there budgetary allocations for this? Does this person understand governance in anyway?

He's a scam

EcoBrick:
https://punchng.com/obidients-close-alternative-result-collation-portal-after-tinubus-lead/

Elu pee ti lule