Politics › Re: Ask Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour (GRV) Any Question About His Lagos Governorship Bid by dannex4adx(m): 10:01pm On Mar 08, 2023 |
Seun: Peter Obi's defeat of Tinubu in Lagos during the presidential election, and the defeat of many PDP/APC/APGA senate and house of reps candidates by Labour Party candidates have allowed many Labour Party members and supporters to believe that it is possible for the Labour Party to seize control of Lagos State from APC by defeating Governor Jide Sanwo-Olu in the 2023 governorship election of Lagos State.
The man of the moment, who has been tasked with achieving this feat, is Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour, also known as GRV. He's a MIT-trained architect, activist, and a politician since 2017. He has agreed to answer your questions about his bid to be the next governor of Lagos State. Please feel free to ask any question and also like and share any question that you want him to answer, so that it will not be missed.
I'll set the ball rolling by asking a simple question: * Why did you leave architecture for politics after practicing in UK and Nigeria?
Previous thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7542193/gbadebo-rhodes-vivour-lp-lagos-governorship
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Politics › Re: Lagosians, Let Us Recover Our Destiny! by dannex4adx(m): 1:35pm On Mar 08, 2023 |
Mediahq: Ideally, democracy is meant to be a government of the people by the people for the people, but it has been twisted to be a contrary experience in Lagos State. For so long, the politics of Lagos State has always supported and benefitted only the privileged politicians, the elites, the hanger-ons, the henchmen of politicians, the ruthless enforcers, the transport unions officials, the market women officials and others at the expense of the people.
By and large, the popular political system called ‘state capture’ is the predominant behind-the-scene hand of treachery that controls the levers of economic and political power in Lagos State, while marginalising the less privileged and leaving the general average hardworking Lagosians to scramble for crumbs of survival. Thus, our state has been captured for the private benefits of less than 1 percent of the citizens of the state while 99 percent suffer from the huge infrastructure failure and large scale corruption of the APC government.
Today, as a result of the lopsided, exclusive, corrupt character of government in Lagos State, many questions are begging for answers. How many Lagosians have access to good healthcare services, potable water and affordable housing? How many low-cost houses were built by the APC government in the last 20 years for Lagosians? Perhaps the government built at best 30,000 units for over 20 million struggling tax-paying citizens of the state! Still, how many of our people are gainfully and productively employed? How many new jobs were created directly and indirectly by the state government in the last 20 years? Quite insignificant!
As the grim realities of misrule grind on Lagosians year after year, many are still living in the squalid and poverty-ridden areas of Ajegunle, Okokomaiko, Badagry, Ikorodu, Epe, Alimosho, Lagos Island, Lekki, Bariga, Shomolu, Ketu, Ojo and so on. The sadder reality is that most of the people living in such slum conditions have no hope in the next 50 years of being pulled out of poverty as they continue to suffer acute lack of electricity, potable water, decent accommodation, health and education facilities, gainful jobs and more, due their total oppression by the political elites.
So, right-thinking stakeholders are now asking: where are the so-called acclaimed massive developmental projects being trumpeted by the APC government to deceive voters for a second term when life still is short, hard and brutish in the state for most residents? Curiously, in this same ‘centre of excellence’, consultants to the state government collect over 50 billion naira annually in various commissions for taxes and other levies collected on behalf of the state. Multiple taxation that kills businesses is the order of the day, with all kangaroo kinds of consultants such as in inland revenue, tenement rates, land use charge, advert isement, telecom infrastructure, power infrastructure approvals, building permits, fund raising, markets, abattoir and transport unions all oppressing and fleecing Lagosians of their hard earned income. But where is all the money going into? Where is accountability for our commonwealth? Isn’t it time Lagosians woke up and demand concrete answers as the next elections approach fast?
The Labour Party governorship team of Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour (GRV) and his Deputy is firmly of the view that in every four years of an APC government, over N100 billion is frittered away in special fees payable to consultants and other politically backed rent seekers. When this is coupled with an over bloated and corrupt contracting process, inflated figures by various ministries, plus the state capture by the political leader, his agents and government officials of the land assets of the state, it can be boldly affirmed that over two trillion Naira has been wasted and diverted to some people’s pockets in the last twenty years of the APC government. That is the same massive amount of money that would have helped provide educational scholarships, world-class healthcare, affordable houses, potable water and the creation of millions of jobs for the most disadvantaged, marginalized people of the state. However, all hope is not lost. That is why GRV’s message is that Lagosians must take their fate in their hands and seize their chance in 2023! We have been taken for a ride for too long. If elected, the GRV government will declare within its first few days of office a total war on poverty. Our focus will be to create a good life and living for the lowest income earning Lagosians and others. We will improve access to quality education, quality healthcare, clean water, affordable housing and so on. We will set up and finance skill acquisition centers for ICT in high-demand jobs and training for at least 2 million people in all the local government areas in the state, in disciplines such as fintech, programming, cybersecurity, gaming technology, data analytics, online marketing, artificial intelligence, machine learning, etc.
Also, we will deal with the miserable traffic situation by building efficient road and water transportation networks all over the state. In all, we will definitely block all leakages, rent seeking, corrupt diversion of our commonwealth, terminate all evil consulting agreements of the APC collaborators and recover our commonwealth for the entire benefits of Lagosians. We will fight the evil extortion of our traders, drivers, market women etc. Major focus of GRV administration will be on catering to a better life for artisans, lower cadre civil servants, lower cadre private sector workers, domestic workers, drivers, market women, underprivileged youths and senior citizens, unemployed folks, and all those living in the ghettos of Lagos, to give everyone a sense of belong and a good standard of living. A new beginning beckons to Lagosians. GRV is ready and prepared to take Lagosians to the next level. Join us!
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Politics › Re: I Used To Think Nigeria's Problem Was Bad Government - Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo by dannex4adx(m): 12:59pm On Feb 26, 2023 |
[quote author=onthehill post=121258042]Nigerian relationship coach and counsellor, Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo has said that Nigeria's problem is bad citizens and not bad government, IGBERETV reports. He said this following his observation of Nigeria's presidential election held on February 25, 2023. He wrote on his Twitter handle; Because your candidate no win Abi https://twitter.com/kingsleypst/status/1629748721280770048?s=20[/quote] |
Career › Re: Mass Job Losses Loom In Q1 2023 Amid Naira Crisis - Manufacturers, Economist by dannex4adx(m): 11:14am On Feb 21, 2023 |
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Family › Re: Problem With My Wife, Mother, And Mother Inlaw. by dannex4adx(m): 10:48pm On Feb 20, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Stop using God's name to defend foolishness! 
Jesus Christ taught His followers to love their enemies , going the extra mile to appease them... tell us what part of this woman's actions can be supposed love for her supposed enemy here? You heap curses on your heads when you use God in your attempts to hide what is blatant wickedness of ordinary men and women.  Hey boy! Mind your words, ohk? |
Family › Re: Problem With My Wife, Mother, And Mother Inlaw. by dannex4adx(m): 2:14pm On Feb 20, 2023 |
Mindlog: She saw what?🙄
Using spirituality to rationalize someone who is hate-filled and lacks empathy is very unreasonable. You don't understand. |
Family › Re: Problem With My Wife, Mother, And Mother Inlaw. by dannex4adx(m): 1:29pm On Feb 20, 2023 |
Norah199: Good morning guys. I need some matured minds and married men and women in the house to look into this matter and give me an ideal way to go about this. Would be a long read pls bear with me.
So late late 2021, I got married to my long time girlfriend. Before the marriage, my mom had a little reservation about the girl and her family for some odd reasons due to her tribe. She’s Igbo. Everything was funny because the first day I introduced my wife to my mom. She liked her and everything was cool. They where going on well until my mom started telling me she’s having some dreams about the girl and her family. She’s white garment member. I think her dislike started growing when she told my wife about her church and she said she can’t go to her church for any reason. I was a former member of the church when I was a teenager but with time as I grew I stopped going to the church not because it’s a bad church or something wrong with it. I just don’t fancy going there and also not a church type of person. My mom believe it was the girl that made me stopped going to the church which was funny. She has said that several times.
For the record, I’m an only child of my mother, my dad is late and she’s yet to marry again. I do everything for her like her rent, monthly upkeep, and also got her a good car. Initially I thought she was doing all these because she felt she hasn’t enjoyed me yet and another woman is coming into the picture which is normal for most parents. So I did everything I could to make her comfortable before my wedding.
We did the wedding and everything went on smoothly aprt from some normal family disputes and all but the wedding was successful. Deep down I know my mom still doesn’t like my girl because of her statement s most times but I don’t always give her that room so she’s always quiet and rather not talk what’s on her mind. Later on, my mom started complaining of the money I give to her. She seems not to be ok with it. Trust me guys. I do more than enough for my mom. I just tried my best to handle everything well and sometimes allow her have her ways with her demands so she doesn’t see my wife as a stumbling block to her.
To cut the long story short, my wife took in and was due for delivery and her mother came like a month before the delivery. Actually my wife had a false labour that made us rush to the hospital and doctor said she has very high maleria and was in serious labor. I called the mother immediately and she started coming the next morning because she lives in the East. The doctor gave her some injections and drugs for the maleria and the labor stopped. Doctor told us it wasn’t the right time for the baby to come out because it was 8 months. The next morning when she was strong, we went back home with the mother that was already in town.
The mother decided to stay till the delivery instead of going back and coming again when she delivers which I supported. Two weeks the doctor gave us turned to 1 month and labor didn’t still come. All these while I never knew my mom was so bitter that my mother inlaw was in my house for that long. She once asked me why the woman didn’t go and come back. It was that bad. To make matters worse, I lost my child after a CS was done on my wife. It appeared the baby was in distress which the doctors failed to notice and came out with birth asphyxia. After about two weeks, she died. I opened a thread on that.
Problem started after I buried my child. Everyone was in sorrow and so much pains especially my wife. A day after the burial my mother called my mother inlaw and asked her why she hasn’t gone yet. Started accusing the woman of killing the child and all manners of things. How she had turned her husband to vegetable and now she wants to teach her daughter how to turn her son into vegetable too. It was really bad. They both insulted each other and quarreled seriously on the phone just a day after the lost of my child. She also called my wife and told her “shebi she doesn’t want children” my wife was quiet and didn’t utter a word.
I was in so much pain and so pissed at my mom for everything she did and didn’t even speak to her for like a month even though I still sent her upkeep money. I reported her to her uncle and a few respected people. I don’t know if they talked to her but nothing was done. No body called for any meeting even her own pastor that I reported to. Instead he told me it’s woman talk. That they both insulted each other and the rest..
After that incident till date. My wife, mother, and mother inlaw haven’t spoken to each other even though I have had more peace since then but the fact still remains my mom and wife are not in good terms. I have long forgiven and moved on with my mom even though that closeness is not there but I don’t fail to send her money for upkeep every month. My wife is cool with it and said she doesn’t want that closeness with my mom even though she has forgiven her too.
My mom and I talks once in a while and never for once has she asked about my wife since that incident and my wife hasn’t called either which I don’t blame her. The last time I visited my mom. She said some ill things about my wife and her family and even told me my wife is not my rightful wife and some other things. I usually don’t listen to her talks because I know how religion has turned so many people into something else.
The question right now guys. What do I do in this situation. The truth is nothing can change my moms mind about my wife and her family. But still as a husband, I still feel somehow knowing my wife and mom are not in good terms. My mother inlaw the last time told me she wants to make peace with my mom that they can’t keep fighting forever especially because of her daughter. But deep down I know the thought my mom have about them. So I just told her it’s not the right time and with time everything will be fine. I can’t force my wife to call my mom because she didn’t do no wrong. At the same time my mom won’t even listen to me for any peace making. There are more things to say but I will end here. Sorry for the long write up. Your opinions would be deeply appreciated. Thank you 🙏 You shouldn't have married someone your parent doesn't like. Your mom is a spiritual person and she knows what she saw, God has revealed somethings to her about your wife, that was why she told you not to marry her. That's why she accused your wife that sebi you don't want children. I pray that may God give you the wisdom and knowledge to handle the situation. |
Christianity Etc › Re: What Are Your Favourite Hymns? by dannex4adx(m): 2:10pm On Feb 19, 2023 |
Frank25: Let's gather and discuss
Mine: stand up, stand up for jesus On christ the solid rock i stand
Those hymns soothes for soul. Great is thy faithfulness, oh God my Father. |
Politics › Re: Pictures Of Datti Baba-Ahmed At Obidient Million-Man-March In Abuja by dannex4adx(m): 2:08pm On Feb 19, 2023 |
2blessed01: You're d one being decieved my dear 👌 . . . PO is coming 🙏🇳🇬 Ohk bro! We will know next week. |
Politics › Re: Pictures Of Datti Baba-Ahmed At Obidient Million-Man-March In Abuja by dannex4adx(m): 11:31pm On Feb 18, 2023 |
2blessed01: Yea... struggle to take over naija from d devilish and selfish party PDAPC... Inshallah...by this time next Saturday....it gonna come to pass💯 Who dey deceive you. |
Politics › Re: More Pictures From APC Presidential Campaign In Borno by dannex4adx(m): 5:53pm On Feb 18, 2023 |
OsunOriginal: More pictures coming... God bless Bola Ahmed Tinubu! |
Politics › Re: Pictures Of Datti Baba-Ahmed At Obidient Million-Man-March In Abuja by dannex4adx(m): 5:52pm On Feb 18, 2023 |
oyin44: Dis one na struggle rally..very bored
Is like calling potential buyers to buy ur goods Na real struggle rally. |
Politics › Re: 2023: There Will Be Crisis If Peter Obi, Tinubu Lose - Primate Ayodele by dannex4adx(m): 12:29pm On Feb 15, 2023 |
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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Previous Company Sued Me To Court After I Got Another Job With A Company. by dannex4adx(m): 5:13pm On Jan 27, 2023 |
Othniel4mi: Fellow Nigerians. I need help because I don't want to be terminated from my new job.
I resigned after working for the previous company for 3 years for the following reasons: 1. No benefits except HMO 2. Only your salary 3. Performance commission not paid 4. I was doing job of 4 people without appreciation. I have to do it to keep feeding my family.
I got another job after 7months I have resigned properly from the previous company.
The previous company has sued me to court with my new company. My New company doesn't want to let terminate my employment with them because I am the operations manager and I have the business knowledge.
Myself and 1 Lebanese man started the previous company in 2018 in Nigeria before the company became big. I have full knowledge and my new company is now a big treat to them. I believe because of this they sued us to court.
My new company doesn't have enough money to pay lawyer we consulted.
The previous company said I have signed a letter that stated that I cannot work on same field for 3 years. When I checked their claim, they didn't write that I cannot work on same field for 3 years AFTER TERMINATION (Please check the attached document).
I know if I go to court with them i will win this case. How can a company said i shouldn't use my skills to work in another company.
In the previous company they didn't do any training for me, the only in house training was the onboarding training for 2 days and after that no training cost invested on me and no any form of performance benefits paid.
Now I got another job, the previous company is trenthening my new company to terminate my job. Now we need to go to court and they claimed 20M for damages.
Fellow Nigerians what can I do to this Lebanese company that want to deprive me of my right in my own precious Nigeria where I dey hustle to feed family and make it in life.
Please what can I do 😂.
Kindly check the attached document they said I signed, of which it was signed after like 8months of starting with the previous company.
We didn't have HR when we started in 2018, I was the one that recommended the HR through a friend from my Church. The HR is the one persecuting me and acting as a witness in court against me.
I wish I didn't help her to get the job.
Please help. If you are in Lagos, go to human rights and table your case there or go to the Lagos judge court that we normally see on Facebook. |
Politics › Re: Throwback Photo Of When Tinubu Signed The Agreement To Establish LFTZ by dannex4adx(m): 2:10pm On Jan 27, 2023 |
lhordspy: Roy T. Bennett, in 'The Light In The Heart' said:
“Great leader have vision, share vision and inspire others to help them turn vision into reality"
This is the state of the same Lekki freezone today. An idea conceived in 2006, now worth $210billion and with a capacity to provide 170k jobs for youths.
Tinubu's 2006 dream. Lagos 2023 reality. Yes bro! |
Politics › Re: Tribunal Judgement: Adeleke Rejects Tribunal Verdict, Heads To Appeal Court by dannex4adx(m): 2:08pm On Jan 27, 2023 |
Asgard13: Not just heading to appeal court
Head with all funds you can muster.. I mean much usd ..
And make sure you blackmail Buhari as much as you can get
Conquer .. all Tinubu media outlets .. before going
Otherwise .. you’re a goner
Tinubu is so desperate now.. I mean real desperate
This has already dirty his chances in many area and he needs it to bounce back
PDP must push with muscle to recover this state
Tinubu has gotten them on defence once again.. but not distracted
We remain focused
Power to the people North 2023
Politcs is a game You can help him instead. |
Education › Re: I Finally Signed Out At 42 by dannex4adx(m): 12:51pm On Jan 27, 2023 |
Toktee: Born and raised by parents that sees education as total waste of time. From primary to secondary school no one was there for me but God. I dropped out of secondary school six times because of money. I also dropped out of college of education once, but later graduate.
If an orphan like me can do it, you can do it. Never give up on your dreams. Congratulations. |
Romance › Re: My Fiancee Jokingly Said She Will Separate Me And My Brother When We Get Married by dannex4adx(m): 12:27pm On Jan 26, 2023 |
Ndubuisipaul1: My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.
Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)
I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.
She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).
And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .
This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.
We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.
So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?
Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ? She is not joking. You better use your sense and find a solution to her. |
Career › Re: My Innocent Looking Female Assistant Carried Out A Massive Fraud by dannex4adx(m): 12:18pm On Jan 26, 2023 |
Otunbakayce: I just discovered that my innocent looking assistant perpetrated a massive fraud of #3,860,000 under my watch from the month of May - December 2022.
My new hospital Administrator called me for a private meeting to inform me that I am under remitting and she wouldn't want to work with me anymore. I requested to see her book and I was lost in awe when I saw what was being recorded for my unit as remitted revenue.
I got angry and left to get my book which we compared to the administrators book and discovered that there were some months that this lady didnt remit a penny and when she remits for some months she would remit only about 20-30% of the amount we generated.
I went back to my office after comparing my books with that of the administrators with a promise to arrange receipts and other books for her to see. The administrator apologized to me for her thoughts towards me.
As soon as I got to my office I gave the books to my assistant and told her to arrange all our receipts and keep it on my table. This lady went home with all the books and didnt drop them as instructed.
I resumed work on Monday and she brought the book with incomplete receipts. This lady didnt remit a dime from the month of August to December. She was issuing a forged receipt and putting same in the books for me for monthly checks.
I generated about #5,362,000 and this lady only remitted 1,123,000 and the rest were paid through bank transfers which I am not sure if they were really paid.
Till this moment I can't believe that this lady could pull such heartless and wicked heist.
She has been begging me to help her die the case as it was because of family issue that made her do such. I have made up my mind that I won't work with her again and its left for the Hospital management to find how to get their money from her.
Please your advice will be appreciated! Don't cover her. Report |
Family › Re: Am I Being Manipulated? Is Her Anger Justified? by dannex4adx(m): 11:41pm On Jan 21, 2023 |
Slime7: Hi guys, I need your advice on this. It is causing issues in my 2 years relationship. I came to Lagos in 2018 after my NYSC. Prior to that, I had plans for my older sister to come stay with me, considering how difficult things were. Note that my married eldest brother was in Lagos before then. I understand that maybe he needs his privacy, but he didn't help in any way (he didn't have to). When I got the apartment, I met my girlfriend while she was serving in Lagos. My older sister has yet to move in with me, but I have mentioned to her not once but twice that she will soon come and live with me. I will also like to mention that my elder sister was living with her boyfriend before I came to Lagos. This doesn't seem right to me or to her. She moved in, and we were living together peacefully. Along the way, she broke up with her boyfriend. About 6 months later, she got into another relationship. The man seems interested in marrying her. And they were making plans for settling down. Unfortunately, she got pregnant out of wedlock for the man. She had to move in with the man. Now this is where the issues begin. After a few months (after her childbirth), they always have issues. They go on and off. Two times they had issues; she carried her bag and came to my place. Two times it happened, and she stayed with me for not more than two months put together. This didn't go well with my girlfriend. She complained that my sister is always in the picture, and she doesn't like that. The third time, the man abused my sister, and he beat her up. I went to the man's house with my "married eldest brother." We fought with the man and threatened to arrest him. He pleaded, plus the neighbors and the landlord too. That night, we took my sister away from him. My sister chose to stay at my place until she gets an apartment for herself and her kid.
This really annoyed my girlfriend. She always says things like, "My family does not respect me." That's why my sister can move in to my house knowing that I am in a relationship. "Why does she like to stay with me and not my brother?" "Why do I have to always be the one to bear the burden?" Note that my sister works, and she can take care of herself and her kid. She just needed a place to stay until she got her own apartment.
She feared that my sister could just move in with her bags when we get married, which I have assured her is not possible. She claims she likes her space and all. She claims she doesn't like the "on and off" as sometimes she may want to spend a "lone" time with me. Spend weekends... and this won't be possible when my sister is around. She claims that she has never seen a scenario where an older sister with a kid is leaving with younger brother. She always give instances where she has never seen guys in relationships allow their older sister to come stay with them. She claimed that sometimes I should "man up" and say NO to her. Is she overreacting? What did I do wrong in all of this? Am I being manipulated? Is her anger justified? N.B My sister has gotten a place for herself and has moved out. Your girlfriend is a devil, infact she is a witch. She wants to destroy the relationship between you and your family. You know your sister first before you idiotic girlfriend. If anything bad happens to you (God forbid) your stupid, empty skull girlfriend will abandon you and only your family will stay beside you. |
Politics › Re: 2023: He Is Reason I Call Lagos Home, Okocha Endorses Tinubu by dannex4adx(m): 12:02pm On Jan 14, 2023 |
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Christianity Etc › Re: Did You See Pepper In The Last 8 Years, Oyedepo Asks Nigerians by dannex4adx(m): 11:58am On Jan 14, 2023 |
Tareq1105: I'm voting APC. Great, I am also voting APC. |
Christianity Etc › Re: Did You See Pepper In The Last 8 Years, Oyedepo Asks Nigerians by dannex4adx(m): 11:57am On Jan 14, 2023 |
Felabrity: They can't directly tell Nigerians to vote Peter Obi, but who wise supposed know say they are against APC We know pastors like them. They are also part of the problem of this country. |
Politics › Re: We Need A ‘Stingy Man’ Like Peter Obi To Run Nigeria – Pat Utomi by dannex4adx(m): 3:52pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
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Family › Re: My Marriage Is Stressing Me by dannex4adx(m): 10:42pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
all4zionlover: Honestly I'm going through so much here. I'm losing it. I feel depressed, so much fear, unhappy and lonely. My husband's gambling habit has removed love and affection from our home. He quickly finishes any money that comes to him. Either salary and anything in bet nija and concentrate on asking me for money. I'm have no job, I'm buy little things and resell. My capital is not even stable because all the financial expenses is on me. Yet he doesn't care. He keeps malice with me for not giving him money and not coming home to meet food. This year, I have decided not to keep food for him so long as he can not bring money for feeding, for the children he claim he love and upkeep. I've endure for too long and I'm getting fade up.
All my actions and his behaviour really makes me sad. I have no love, respect for him. I excessively worry for upkeep, school fees, bills, things we don't have at home. Everything is on me. I'm so stressed and lonely. I feel I need a shoulder to rest on maybe to cry. I'm so sad because our two sons are too attached to their father and I'm scared of their feelings if I decided to divorce their father
My first son wouldn't even go to bed until his father return back from work.
Have you been in this kind of situation? What did you do? How do people survive this kind of situations? Prayer is the key! |
Romance › Re: What Should I Do About This Lady I Want To Marry? by dannex4adx(m): 5:33pm On Jan 10, 2023 |
Fmartin: weak as in how??
Do you know how hard I have been on her? Bro! You are very weak. If you were hard on her, you would not be here seeking for advice on what to do. That's a big red flag, it's not even sure if you are the owner of the pregnancy she's carrying. You better find solution to your issue now, or else if you later marry her, she will grow bigger wings and it might lead to hypertension to you. Do you know that there are more widow than widowers in Nigeria? |
Crime › Re: Sexual Molestation Of A Minor. by dannex4adx(m): 12:30am On Jan 05, 2023 |
MsJackson: Good morning house. I need your opinion on this issue.
Around May last year, my husband and I went with my 4 year old daughter to visit my sister in-law (hubby's elder sister). They insisted they wanted her to stay some days with them, that I should return for her in two or three days time.
After much persuasion from my oga, I left her. But my heart wasn't settled because I've never stayed away from her for that long. I just noticed that when we called her on video call the very next morning, she looked and sounded depressed, telling us to come take her home. I just thought she was missing me.
I returned the next three days to pick her up. It was even the oldest cousin, a 15 year old girl, who was actually very fond of my daughter that helped me carry her on her back and saw us off to the bustop.
Two or 3 months later, at the end of a Bible study I had with her, my baby said she wanted to tell me something. Hubby was lying on the couch. My baby said the period I took her to that house, the 15 year old girl was always sucking her vagina. My brain shut down immediately. Her dad jumped from the couch and told her to repeat what she just said. She did. She also said that the girl usually holds her mouth close during the act, and that she beats the girl on the head to stop what she was doing, but the girl refused and beat my daughter back.
I broke down. Hubby had never become so mad at his family to the extent of turning his back on them, to the extent of shutting his dad up, but he did all these because his only child was involved.
The family, they all said my daughter was lying. My question is: can a four year old lie about such? The nature of this supposed lie. I don't think so. But all the family members said my daughter lied. And even the girl denied it. They are totally refusing to address this. They even after some weeks have codedly believe such happened and have called my husband to beg, hubby said so, I don't know if it's true or not. But me the wife, NOBODY, I REPEAT, NOBODY CALLED ME. Like I am nothing in their eyes. Not even the evil mother that insisted my daughter spent some days with them. It's not like if they called me to apologize it would change the past, no, but I might have some tiny relief.
My daughter talks about that experience till date. Even up till yesterday. I am beyond heartbroken. I can't forgive.
The family all turned their face away. Nobody cared to address it, even his parents. I'm thinking of going to their church to expose her because I hear the 15 year old girl is getting baptized next week. Hubby told me to forget about it, his brother told me not to try it. But anytime my daughter remembers this incident and brings it up, I become very disturbed. I don't know what to do.
Please advise me. Don't go and disgrace yourself and your family in the church. Work on your child. Obey your husband and forget about it. If it was your family that did it will you go and shout in the church. The problem we have in the society is bad parenting. Most people who still need to be under discipline are the ones giving birth. |
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Christianity Etc › Re: What I Was Offered By An Occultist While Preaching In A Bus Park by dannex4adx(m): 1:09pm On Dec 04, 2022 |
jesusjnr2020: What I Was Offered By An Occultist While Preaching In A Bus Park
This happened not long after I had returned from the 40-day turned 9 days dry fast I embarked on in the "wilderness", which I shared here early last year, as that gave me the audacity I needed to begin to live the life of the Spirit here on Earth and to boldly preach the Gospel of Christ on the streets of the FCT.
https://www.nairaland.com/6443340/what-happened-me-when-attempted
https://www.nairaland.com/6203578/day-faced-police-brutality-preaching/2#95312849
On this particular day, I had come out in the morning as usual and began preaching. In the course of my preaching, i entered into a bus park, and continued to preach at top of my voice (I don't think I had gotten a megaphone yet), "REPENT, AND GIVE YOUR LIFE TO JESUS" or whatever I was saying at the time.
I was in full flow, but as i was preaching, I began to hear a voice screaming, "where is he?" "where hin dey?"
I wasn't sure about what was happening, but as I continued to preach, the voice continued to ask loudly, "where hin dey?" It now become clearer that it was Jesus who I was preaching about that the voice was asking me about, so I sought to know where the voice was coming from and the person behind the voice.
I later saw it was a man who sat by the window of a parked empty bus that was asking the question, so I went towards him to seek what he was about and also to use the opportunity to preach to him.
It was only after i had gotten into the bus he was and sat beside him that I got to realize what the man was about and that he wasn't really seeking for any answers but actually an occultist who appeared troubled by my preaching of the Gospel of Christ in the bus park.
He told me that he was just coming from a midnight meeting (12am - 4am) held atop Zuma rock, located in Suleja, Niger State. He said that he'd not yet had sleep, that I should be able to see it in his eyes.
He also said he knew me, that I could see the way he looked at me while he was entering into the park, and I could remember seeing him passing by and looking at me while entering into the park, but I thought it was just because I was preaching.
He then went on to mention some characters in the Bible using them as reference to what he knew about me. He said that I was strong like Samson and wise like King Solomon.
He said that I should leave what I was doing and join them, that I would become rich. He told me about some of his riches.
He also told me that most of the richest and popular church leaders were part of their group and mentioned some of their names to further entice me.
However while he was yet trying to convince me to join them, something happened that struck me.
As i was trying to show him something in the Bible I was holding while preaching to him, and consequently moved it closer towards him and where he was, I noticed that the guy suddenly dodged and took cover as if I had just pointed a gun or wielded a knife at him.
Lol! I didn't see that coming at all. The way he panicked.
This was still the same guy who's trying to persuade me to join the occult, yet he couldn't even succeed in hiding his phobia for what I had from me. He even made it more glaring, to confirm that it was indeed more powerful and stronger than whatever he or his group had or could muster.
So why would I want to leave what I had for something clearly worse or much less, just because of riches or whatever he was offering in exchange for it?
So that with the so-called riches or whatever he had to offer, I would now start living in fear of those like me as he was?
If anything, he ended convincing me and giving a powerful reason never to join the occult, because he hence proved that POWER pass power, and that GREATER is HE that is in me than he that's in any occultist.
God bless. Mention the names of pastors he told you |