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*Hauwa*:
Kimberly, no let fire burn you o.

be careful sister.

Hauwa, are you light or dark complexioned? I think I might know you from somewhere.

reeree75:
I am married to a Nigerian man and I am a southern american girl. I love my husband but I am beginning to think he married me to become a citizen and that really hurts.

Just like most of the people on this form, I was happily married. I thought I had the best husband. A christian who knows the word and loves the lord. We got along well he is IBO and very traditional I understood that and learn the culture. The food, I traveled to nigeria as often as possible. I loved the culture because it reminded me of North Carolina were I am from. I love Nigerian movies, I cook the food and love it. I dance. When I even learn some of the language.

I did all this for the love of my husband. Even his sending money home, many travels. In fact the main reason we can not get a head here in the US is because of his my travel and business explots back home. All promising BIG money and then nothing.

I never put down his culture but embraced all. But after many years of him denying he even wanted to become a citizen oneday I found out he had applied and completed without me even knowing it until the end. He even went to be naturlized without me. I was so soso hurt after 7 years of marriage. Now, he has basically moved down to Nigera no warning, just quite his job for the latest contract.

I have since found out about women, so many women, About 2yrs ago he stop touching me, no sex unless i begged and pleaded. I have never cheated on my husband despite his trying to prove and say I have with people in the church. ( A church that embraced him loved him and even made him Prayer leader) he has so much respect by everyone. I have never tried to tarnish his name. But i am hurt. In the past I would be the 1st to say on one of these boards no you are wrong. Nigerian men are great, lovers, fathers, husbands. Until now,

I try not to say all of any race/culture but I am begining to see more and more IBO wives say the same thing.

Tell me how can a man stay away from his wife 6mths and not desire herI am not ugly or fat, I am beautiful and I love life, and love the lord, but somehow the love of my life left me empty here in the US.

so now agree with Nigerian men are hard, no sensitivity, no love (only for themselves) heartless.

living sad in VA
ReeRee

See, this is what I'm talking about. This is the norm, while a relationship like this in which actually works out well is the abnorm. You women will be better off hooking up with a Caribbean guy if you do not want to stick with us (your own AA guys).

Kunbee:
She is as cute as a button, hope her brother likes the new addition

He's starting to get jealous of all the attention she's getting from folks.

Thank you all for the compliments, and congratulations. The baby's name is Zaria Naomi by the way, and she was amazingly born while still inside the membrane sack,  which is supposed to be a sign of very good fortune for her in the future.

Well, at 5:01AM my daughter was born 8Lb 4oz and cute as can be.

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Hey, I asked a question similar to this one, and folks came up with all the same ol bull carp stereotyping answers as seen in this thread. I'm AA and am married to an Nigerian girl, though she was born and raise her whole life here, and her sister is also married to an AA guy, as is one of her female cousins, but they all were born here and I think that is where the big difference lies in this situation.

A first generation African just does not evolve into American society as fast as the African men do, and thus feel less secure about getting involved with the unfamiliar. As for the second and and beyond generation of Africans here, well they were born and raised here and thus are generally, for the most part, assimilated into the greater AA conglomerate and thus connect with the AA better than the FOB.

Why is it that so many Yoruba and other south-south, south-western, males begin sounding like Kermit the Frog or Cookie Monster once they begin getting a little base in their voice? Almost every Nigerian guy I know that is South-South and or South-Western ethnic sound like Cookie Monster or Kermit the Frog when they speak. Is it their native language in which gives them this groggy voice?

By the way, I'm not trying to be funny here, this is a serious question, and I don't know any Yoruba or others from their region personally enough to ask them such a question.

makajibbz:
datz suprising. anyways he's cute, when girls start gatherin him then u wunt be confused anymore.

like women hav patience.

Actually, his look is rather common amongst us Black-Americans. You must remember that most of us have quite a bit of generational mixture, meaning some mixture from several generations back in which often tends to pop up strong. I have German, Scottish, and Cherokee Indian mixture from 3 and 5 generations back in which shows well within my entire family.

makajibbz:
paedophile



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half cast kids are normally like dat.

Half cast? No, my son is not half cast as you say. I'm a Black-American (not mixed) and my wife is a Nigerian Igbo (not mixed).

bk.babe97y:
Your still insistent on this your being "Black-American" claim? lol. Freaking clown!

You silly ignoramus, I'm going to explain this to your silly Monkey azz once and only once, so listen up. I'm not an African, and thus I do not have now, and never will have,  a desire to refer to myself as such. Some of us don't mind using the term African-American though many more, like me, do not. Get it, learn it,  and shut the fu,ck up about it,  you silly Simple-Simon, bi.tch azz Nig.ga.

Have a nice evening, now. 

Well, thank you all for your responses. My son is now 15 months old, and we've decided to cut his hair back when he turned 13 months. His face has really matured solidly in to that of a boy, and his haircut pronounces it even more.

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librangyps:
@mobo, your hear sayin we cnt survive witout u, and on d other thread u want us to quit our jobs so u can earn a livin, keep contradictin urself, *hisses, goes out to fart* PRA!!

You go out to Fart? That's freaking disgusting, and un-lady like of a thing to say. I thought you African girls were supposed to have some couth about you. A lot of you are speaking in ways, I've never hear even the most ghettofied American girl speak before. Librangyps, when I read that last comment of yours, I instantly pictured you as some raw, nappy, hoochie looking butch broad.

You and some other girls on this site speak very guttural. I'm disappointed in the quality of Nigerian females on this site. Many, though not all of you'all are being very poor representations of your kind.

EWW, that's some nasty azz shi.t. I remember how back when my wife and I took a trip to Nigeria, some of the females there who my wife interacted with were surprised of the fact of that,   not only did she shower/bath everyday, but that she did so twice a day.    My wife had to explain to them the importance of bathing at least once everyday for a female.  I felt sorry that they were never taught that.

adconline:
truth be told, African  girls dont want to c a situation where their family would be responsible in  paying for the wedding.  Men pay for weddings in most African countries, while the lady's family pays for the wedding in the west.

My wife is Nigerian, and my parents were going to pay for our wedding, and her parents insisted on contributing to the expense.

Pafuri:
Why Naija women prefer Naija men:
‎1. He understands your accent.
2. He knows that when you suffix every sentence with 'now', its not a command, e.g. "Come let's go now, "
3. When you guys go out, he pays and doesn't expect a refund, not even of the tip.!
4. He understands why you have to send money home - probably doing the same himself!
5. He doesn't see your kid sister staying in your house as an inconvenience/ cramping his style.
6. He doesn't think you should put your parents in a home.
7. He eats 'Gbegiri and Amala' and doesn't think it's 'yucky' or 'spicy'. In a nutshell, he loves your cooking
8. He gets your jokes.
9. The way he licks his ten fingers 'cos that Ogbono soup with Iyan hit da spot, Oh Yes!!!
10. He has gotten his education or he got something going on.
11. He may be a baby daddy but he loves his kid and takes care of him.
12. He can have a bus load of conversation without him saying much 'cos his momma taught him that.
13. He loves to see you shake that backside to Sir Shina Peters, the original "Back That backside Up" master.
14. He will settle an argument and say sorry while maintaining his man status.
15. I am IN charge but he is THE charge, we understand that.
16. He knows where he is from. Living in NY does not mean you are from NY.
17. He thinks you're so pretty without makeup.
18. He calls you native endearing names like "Nne" or "Omo"
19. He has respect [not to be confused with obedience) for his elders(important).
20. The way he gets embarrased and says "I beg oh" when you compliment him.
21. The way he says "I love you baby" may be very fake yet sound so TRUE!
22. The way he eats meat with his bare hands. For some reason it is sexy to me.
23. The way he calls you his wife in front of all his friends.
24. The way he says "Shey you get am" when he thinks you are not paying attention, but you really are.
25. The way he knows that it is you calling and answers the phone "Hey Baby!" without looking at the caller ID.
26. The way Naija men look when they are all decked out in native? There is nothing sexier than a dark chocolate man in lace o!
27. Pronounces your name like say na im born you.
28. The way he flows from Ebonics to Pidgin English to Akata with ease.
29. He is just at home at your office picnic as he is at the Naija reunion.
30. The very satisfied look on his face after eating one of your meals and the way he glares at you while picking his teeth with the tooth pick,and you both know that you are his next "meal".
31. He appreciates the art of yanshrolling when he sees one!
32. Keeps you from doing wahala by buying a stickshift vehicle he knows U can't drive!
33. He saves you money on groceries a la "limited diet". Just cook the stew and he'll figure the rest? Eba, Amala, Fufu or even plain old White Bread!
34. No need for bosom implants to impress him!
35. No need to go kill himself trying to maintain a six pack. He knows u know say big belle is sexy inside Agbada!
36. He knows to allow you like three hours to get ready for a party!
37. He will not complain when you waka with headful of rollers inside house but quick to let you know that aint nothing sexy about that when you want to go outside.
38. Your singing while doing housework is a classic reminder of wetin he dey miss when he dey carry Akata woman! It also reminds him of hiis mother.
39. His lunch (Rice, Beans, Dodo, complete with carefully selected assorted meat) wey you pack for am na something u know sey im no go wait "Palam" (gobble up!) when him reach work
40. He thinks the small gap between your front teeth are actually sexy!!!!
Finally; Cool Cos He Is Just A Naija Man Period!!!"


I love my Naija man. No one else will do.

@ this silly chick. Yeah, and all the while he screwing 2-3 other Naija chicks on the side, who think just like your silly ass.

Pafuri:
They are MOSTLY lazy and ignorant (they think Africa is one country!)
They have a baseless arrogance (they think they know everything, and would even make jokes about Africans who know much more than they could learn in their own lifetime! Its not like they want to learn, anyway.).
They are dirty, live off of women (pimps, all!), would rather phuk than work.
They would turn their families into love-peddlers
They will phuk, despoil, beat, sell, and kill their own mothers.
Their fathers are their drink buddies, and they even share women.
They will make babies with ten women fron the same family
They are irresponsible in every sense of the word.
Their lack of good sense is appaling
They lack the ability to take things step-by-step to the expected goal (some call this logic)
They use/sell/push drugs.
They live to eat, drink, and phuk
They steal and kill.
They are lacking in communication skills, so they are loud and extremely violent
They kill and maim.
They are very disrespectful of their women; mother, daughter, girlfriend.
They are a group of people quite apart from others. Only God can help them!


Ladies, stay away from them. They will use you, dump you, and boast about it to their buddies.

@ this Gorilla a.ss [b]NIGGER[/b]ian coming with the jokes. Go take a seat b.itch, your a.ss is tired.

Ladyjide:
I am not sure what part of my post was ignorant?? Name calling is ignorant------but Ok, thanks, for that--just because you said it, I am ignorant,!! As I stated in my post- not all Black Americans fall in the category that I stated- but the majority, and that is NOT what I want for MY future- I stick to what I want,  Every one has their preference, and I have mine.

Yes, name calling is ignorant, hence the reason I referred to you as ignorant for referring the "MAJORITY" of us AA as ghetto, thus making you ignorant of the truth.

Ladyjide:
I am a woman that falls in this category- and the reason I refuse to date Black- American guys is that  mostly we share different family values. I have dated them in the past, but things are really different. Now not all black Americans guy fall in the category that I am saying, but there is a large majority.  As Nigerians, we are taught that the father is the head of the household and family comes first. Education is important, and with  hard work- anything can be accomplish. Most Nigerians in my Age group do not come from broken homes and lived in a house with a mother and father present.  A lot of times here in the United States a lot of men do not have that understanding and all they know is a broken home,  There for that is not what I want for my family in the future, and would prefer to date someone that gets it!

You are ignorant.

SA Goddess:
I have dated American guys but I refuse to DO ghetto, hoodrats, hell NO!

So you think we're all the same? We are as diverse in our individual mannerisms as any other group of people.

Yeah, most of you I know are very attracted to Black-American guys, but will not date them. Why is it that African guys feel free to date plenty of Black-American females, but you African girls will not date Black-American guys?

queeneve:
Well, I am a damn fool cos I am marrying my NIGERIAN FIANCE! We might name our boy after you, HATER!

Humm, let me guess, he's different, he's a nice guy, he loves you. LOL! Yeah, I've heard it all, just weeks, months or a couple of years, before hearing every negative comment you can immaginon spewed out of the same mouths about those same African guys, after they left these stupid girls upon gettin their papers or whatever else they USE you foolish AKATA girls and your equally foolish white counterparts for on the low before kicking you to the curb like some field winch, back on the plantation used up for their "massas" pleasure.

Anyway, good luck on your relationship, I'm just giving you a heads up.