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Edoboy1: I disagree with ALL....a guy who means business,will beat all the points you listed and will still nt take the gal seriously in his heart. A player is a guy who knows hw to cover his tracks, d one who doesn't knw how to cover his tracks,are the ones ladies know. Just pray you don't meet one,these your rules will disappoint you,because he will give u all of them and at the end u will be askin urself,"WERE DID I GO WRONG"?

Dykecosby: A 'star' can do all these and still not into you....no use em play o. Advice to ladies: there is no sure way of knowing whether a guy is genuinly into u and there is no rule to it, what worked for u may not work for another, since u don't know his heart, believe he is not still urs until he put d ring in ur hands while praying it works. Jst saw I can do all these and still not into u!

Babzilla: A MAN AFTER MY HEART.

KenGali: Guy na wah you! Do not put me on the bad side of them Dollz! Every woman is beautiful in her own way, though it takes a certain man to see that beauty. Just saying I have to see it and other things

[size=13pt] BROS, YOU GO BE CONFIRM SCOPE MAN.. [/size]

Rooneyboy: My Brother , true talk u just made here ooo, the ruth about our Naija Ladies is that they love learning the hard way , don't know if its a curse from our ancestral fathers or what, they just never get to listen to very genuine advice, as for me , I'll personally have a nice koboko under my bed for whoever I get to marry in future.

Like my friend will always say "NA ONLY ONE DAY WOMAN TAKE USE SENIOR GOAT".

U "real MEN" will agree with me that having the type a creature"woman" by my side as a life partner , one will also need a healthy koboko by the side that will do all the talking, sensible person no dey use mouth talk to goat.

[size=13pt] Confirm chief. But i dont know about the goat part sha ( I dont wanna be declared a persona non grata by the ladies on NL)[/size]

nifemi16: hmmm you said maybe I am ugly, you need to really see me. but I am not bothered about what you said cuz little do you know.

[size=13pt] Well ma'am, if you are what you say you are (a superstar). Then have no fear, the crowd will cheer. Since you are a cutey as you have stated, then its his loss then. Or maybe he is Gay.. [/size]

edelweiss: Good morning dolls, edeldoll so excited to be here!its nice 2 be able to talk with ladies. Am single and I think I have a problem, I don't know if its a problem per se. I came out of a 7yr relationship, intense relationship I meant, we were like Siamese, we knew each other's parents and siblings and my Ex was a man who spoils a woman with money!he believed in taking 100 percent care of his woman,but 5yrs in d relationship, I became miserable, I discussed it with him that I wasn't happy. He felt money answereth all things, cos he was taking care of me financialy so I shld be hapi, but its not TRUE. I lost my self esteem, I lost my life in d rltshp, I mean I didn't have a life outside my relationship,at a point I was almost suicidal! I mean I lovED(lol)dis guy and I know he loves me,like seriously he won't let me be, he won't let me go yet he was cheating like mad! When I couldn't even look at another man all those 7yrs how much more kiss another! Choi na wa for men love sha! No matter the love the wil still cheat! Me I took a bow ooo, I walked out with no man beside oo, I just walked straight out.He let me be 4 d 1st time in 7yrs, but 23month later he came begging till now, but am over him! My problem now is I see a lot, I mean a lot of guys I cld date, but I have just lost interest totally, I leave my life open, I just say anyone who cld make me have Butterflies in my tummy I would date, but so far none, and 2ndly this is d first time am single in d last 12 yrs I have bin dating, I took my time 2 look at relationships, attitude to it and things suppose couple do, am not impressed, am a totally different kind of person,I see what guys do, I see what dolls do and I just to o good to settle for less, I feel like any guy doesn't deserve me, I mean my true self, no can is worthy of the love I can give, now that is my problems!I know a lot of guys, but I have bin nothing but civil, friendly with them, I don't like clubng, I hang out briefly with some,but I have no interest in a relationship, am not a child any more am 31, and I really need to date and marry, what do I do pls!

[size=13pt] yes, yes, i have said it before and i will say it again, (most men are dawgs). All we need is blood to flow to those sacred veins and we are good to go. So we will most likely cheat, even if you cut your pussy and pack it in our lunch box. you really need to date and get married.... if all the guys that you have been meeting dont deserve you, then change your location and refresh the search. OR maybe you are the problem, too much pride. I am too much for this guy.... You are on your way to becoming a lesbian (bet thats how ellen degeneres started).. But for youu, to have dated a guy, for 7 years, met each others family, were really fond of each other, for 7 (seven) yearssss. And you two did not think that it was time to get married. Then it just means that you got tired of the relationship. It lost its excitement. 7 yearsss (BULLCRAP). And yes, you've got a problem, i know that, cos i have got a problem too (a similar one) .... [/size]

edelweiss: my dear I met dis guy in my final year, my dad was paying my airfare to sch and this man was doing same, b4 service I worked, after service I am still working and I have a shop, I have never bin financially dependent on any man, this man just likes taking 100 percent care of a woman, I believe its becos he is emotionally not able to care for a woman so he makes it up in material things. He is a good man, yes I will say that because unlike most relationships I see he thought me a lot of things, the woman I am today he mad atleast 70 percent of it, and believe u me, am a picaso, if u understand art. I have an idea atleast of anything u wanna discuss, am curious, and am an avid reader, am doing my 2nd degree in another field just to stay sharp. Meanwhile I was the one who walked, not him, I walked cos I was mal nourished emotionally! I was in a relationship but was feeling LONESOME not LONELY, my soul was empty, and who will be satisfied materially but his or heart is craving, yearning desperately for sometin! My problem is guys these days are soooo shallow!they can't even hold my attention, my attention span with them is so low!no depth in their discussions and they ones that probably do are in a relationship so I draw the boundries, I will never take another sister's man knowingly.so if u have an advise for me pls do.

[size=13pt] Emotionally malnourished.... what do you discuss with these guys of now adays that lacks depth.[/size]

Mad Lion: After going through most of the sermons from ladies here, i can honestly say that the kind of men they crave for is not on this earth. Men r cheats, men don't understand me, even though he takes care of me i felt empty, i was lonely ...blah blah blah. I rememba wot dis man told me wen i was in ma teens.

1. Derz nuttin u will do for a woman n she will be satisfied so don't put a woman's interest b4 urs becuz of luv.
2. If u r in relationship n all u do is to give n never receive den end dat relationship.

Da way most of u women view relationship gives men da audacity to behave da way they do. Oh he is very stingy, wot hv u done for me at all blah blah ......
For women who don't fall into diz category n were still messed up by men i say sorry but u can't deny da fact dat most women r in da category i hv described above .

Babzilla: ON THREADS LIKE THESE EVERYONE COMES 2 TELL HIS/HER VERSION OF HOW A PERFECT REALTIONSHIP SHOULD BE. IN SPITE OF THIS WE HAVE MORE MISERABLE PEOPLE. WELL I DEY 1 CORNER SHA DEY LOOK.

carmelion: Now there is one secret,I want to let the guys into.Ladies are we good?.I call it a secret because from their posts,especially those complaining of the ladies being desperados.Ok here we go.
Guys,no mata how close you feel you re to a girl,no matter,how many times you call her on the phone in a day,no matter the places you guys have have been together,as long as you ve not taken her to that place you your house,even if it is a one room apartment she won't feel connected to you or even think of you as a potential life partner.what am I trying to say?Once you invite any lady to your house,we the ladies see as a silent way of saying "baby,i ve been observing you all this while we were hanging out,you impressed me,oya let's move to the next level".Yes thats how women see your invitation.But its so unfortunate that guys don't see it that way so they go ahead and invite every girl they know to their house.Then when all of them starts vying for the first ladys seat,he gets confused.I also want to tell you that any lady who agrees to come to your house likes you and is comfortable with you.If you re a working class guy who is old enough can and can afford to get married but still single,hmmm,then you need to be careful with bringing ladies to your house if you re not interested in her.I am saying this because majority of we ladies would starting adding your surname to their name(in their mind o!) once they like what they see.Sorry o if it sounds silly to you but thats the way majority of us think.That was why I advised one of our brothers here KENGAli to be sure of what he wants before he invites her over to his house.I hope this helps some dudes who need such advise in the house.

[size=13pt] this shyte has so many scenarios. Well, if i invite a girl to my house and she agrees to come over, i take it that she is comfortable with me enough to shagg, so, like it or not, i will try to lay the pipe.. . Please note that some guys dont neeed to like a girl before they ask her out.. So, the girl might see the guy as a serious dude, inviting her to his house, while the guy might see the girl as freestyle akpako. (sare wa gba, sisi shalewa).. [/size]

carmelion: Hello manfred,obviously you read my post in hurry/with a thing or two in your mind.you must be a good guy for you not to know what's reigning for the guys now.They go after a lady pretending to love her and once they go down low with them,they come up with stories like the following
"My mother has arranged another girl and she threatened to kill her self if I don't marry her".

"My ex girl friend came back and pleaded with all the pastors in our church so baby please I have to go back to her"
"My boss in the office said I must marry the daughter else I would loose my job".
Now tell me what you want the lady to do after she has connected to this guy?And also tell me why these excuses won't come up when they re yet to go to bed,why after?It happened to me and it wasn't funny.Though it didn't make hate men,no there re still nice ones out there.Why would I be single and still not want a man in my life,I am only advising my fellow dolls to be careful. I hope am clearer now.

women, if you advise them from now till infinity, they will still phuck up. Told one girl not to go out with a friend of mine. Told her the truth about the guy (plain hardcore) . Later on, she came to tell me how he used and dumped her.

white dove: @OP..tanks a mill for this post. Am an introvert to d core. My friends especially d males are tired, all invitation to hang out I always turn down. I don't know if its cos I was a boarder or wat. Sec schl/Uni and all. Am more like a loner in my own world. I find it diff keeping friends both male n female. Doe I have d best man in d world but I feel sumtimes this attitude of mine gets to him. Can't afford to lose him. ...most times wen he takes me out like clubbing, I end up sleeping by d corner! Its dat bad.

austushi1: In as much as I kinda like ur face, after searching on twitter thru ur handle, and also feel ur story, I do not like d way u respond to single guys or guys dat are ready to mingle! How do u intend to get a guy if u keep replying dis way? Dis is actually ur 2nd reply to a single guy or a guy dat wants to mingle, and its nothing 2write home about. Very discouraging!

Meanwhile, d major reason y majority of u ladies are treated wrongly is because ur more concerned with material things! Guy wey hold side!! Then wat should happen to single graduates like me( with a bright future) looking for a job and love? As far as I'm concerned, if u wnt a guy dat would respect u, hv just u, treat u like a lady, n finally puts dat ring on ur finger, u should 4get about made guys and give dat single graduate with a lot of hope, a chance! When u guys suffer together and make it together, he'll never leave u. What do u think?

nifemi16: hi cammy doll, you are God sent. I have been crying and moody all day. feeling heart broken, lonely and rejected. Just cause I am single and lonely, was introduced to a guy, I call him more than he calls, always sending him text messages, but he is always so reluctant to respond. Twice he has stood me up on a date. Today I got really frustrated and I sent him a message on how I have cheapened myself before him, how I have chased him, yet he has made my efforts worthless. I told him how he has pushed me away. I promised never to call him again. instantly I deleted his number.
He hasn't replied me, but I am feeling really hurt cause truly, I have come to love him. Now I am hoping that he would realise that I truly love him, and he would give me a chance. nifemidoll.

kitty kat: Oga, ur advice is wrong. I have dated a broke ass man, who as Godfearing and caring. When I helped him a secure a job in a lucrative field and aslo assisted him to gt his first car and flat, he be came the biggest womanizer on earth. Infact I heard from outsiders that his family said that I was dating him cos he is now succesful. This is because he refused to tell his family the truth about how I helped him.

This same person has only bouht me a 3,500 earring in a 3yrs relationship cos his friends forced him. This is someone I buy all his clothes and so whatever it takes to move hois future forward. What do u think someone lik me will do after such an experience?

And all my friends advised me against the realtionship then as they felt he was a gold-digger but I refused to listen. I wanted to be the kind of woman that helped her man grow. Now that he is rich, he wants to enjoy all that he hasn't enjoyed in his hole life. He ants to be a Big Boy chasing all the Big and small girls in town. D worst part is that he never acknowledges that I ever helped him.

I have learnt my lesson. I will never be any man's messaiah.

Boss13: Chike a man whose income cannot accommodate a partner should not be thinking of having a partner. Let me give you a breakdown. A man with low income of say 100k per month, adds a wife to himself - split that into half because 2 people now depends on 100k per month. Within a year, a baby enters the equation; share that equally (N33,333 per head per month). Do you know what that would result into (I don't want to say). The man should be working on increasing his networth and not reducing it by adding a woman into his life.

carmelion: Thanks Mad lion for taking a deep breath,calming down,and coming again.At least now I can comprehend what you re saying.Yes I was hurt,but no anymore.Am better now.Seeing this thread on the front page and the no of Nlanders viewing it below makes me feel like the best doll ever!.If a thread like this this existed long before then,I wouldn't have been a victim.But unfortunately,life throws us around.Doing this is a way of warning others.I have younger sisters too,you need to see the see the way I beg them not to mess around.Am willing to dash them any amount just so that they won't mess around.I let them confide in me,cos a problem shared is half solved.its not I was a love peddler,Now changed or born again.No,am just the usual girl you can find in street,office,occassions e.t.c ,trying to find her own man and settle down. I welcome people like you(not people who talk the way you do) in this thread.You have a point in your statements but it would make more sense if you re-phrase it.I know some people like getting attention in a crowd and the easiest way is to always behave odd.whichever the case,I can see you re having fun.Your smileys says it all.

good for you, you sound like a nice person, but check your sisters, they might not even be virgins anymore. Lord knows i tried with my sister.

KenGali: Hi CarmeDoll, seriously the observation thing never works for me. I have never fallen for a girl just because she is beautiful. I like the intelligent, focused and ambitious lady. Its after this that beauty follows in my value system not that I will touch an "unbeautiful lady" with a long stick. Grew up in a family of very bold women. From experience it always takes me some close interaction to confirm that a lady is my type. So they always get to know am interested for sure. But then they become impatient for me to make them official, sometimes I try to drive the Relationship to the friendship zone in order not to start a relationship that will hurt them (cause I do not believe in keeping what I do not like or something that stresses me) but it usually fails, then comes their angry phase. Bottom line, I often do not get to effectively check the girl out as much as I would like without starting up a formal relationship. How can I get to interact with a lady without her seeing me as the most eligible bachelor, even if it means entering their famous friendship zone cause I can always find my way out of it? I need some answers cause the only logical strategy I have come up with is to catch a young one, but I relly prefer ladies that are 5 years within my age, any thing below feels like a kid to me. Ladies closer to my age do not seem to have any friendship zone at all.

you have never fallen for girl just because she is beautiful, but she has to be beautiful and then add other qualities. Remove beauty totally and lets see how that works out for you.

Mad Lion: ABSOLUTELY NONSENSICAL . U hv a brain as small as a N/I/P/P/L/E.

nuclearboy: Slight digression here but I cannot contain myself - I notice majority of those demanding Nigeria break up, are Igbo and I wonder

1. How many of you live and work in eastern Nigeria?

2. To those who are not children - where are your investments? Where are your properties etc?

3. Will such a "break" not further traumatize you and your people?

4. What we read is that "no man builds a house without first counting the cost" - why are you so militant about breaking up yet spending all your lives and fortunes, building up peoples that you claim to hate?

I think your Eze-ndigbo needs to sit down with most of you and consider the effect of brewing further hate against yourselves just so it can be said that uou are "brave"! Because these noises don't serve you except to make you sound tough, a meaningless thing when you are in a cafe or at home behind your laptop! If this break happens as you all pray, I pray for you to not find you had wished a problem on yourselves!

Mad Cow: [b]Its funny how many Nigerians think that forcing someone only means using physical force.....




Isn't it funny how 700 People gave out 700 cars to a pastor, (One Man), but if 700 people had asked each of these men to please dash them these cars, they wouldn't, if we had asked 700 of them to each sell their cars and donate the profit to a charitable course like; The motherless babies home, Home for the Physically Challenged kids, Special needs children's home, Leprosy victims homes, flood camps, e.t.c, they would never agree, if anyone of their extended family had even asked them to please give them half of the cost of that car, they would refuse. Some of these people would not even dash their own parents car, BUT THEY CAN ALL GIVE THEIR CARS TO 1 MAN....


Go and find out from all 700 people when was the last time they gave alms to the poor....


#Amazingthings............


Judas Iscariot must be the first Pastor on earth, he was the first to see profit in the blood of Jesus..
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Danex1988: All this'll go on. Till people learn that God blesses who he will. Your gifts to the pastor will hardly influence anything. And also until churches stop encouraging the notion of give to receive.

stagger: We have a saying in my place that when you agree, your God will agree with you. The way you make your bed is the way you will lie on it. If you are born into poverty, you decide whether you will remain there or not. Or don't you know that many of the world's billionaires were born poor and are hard core givers?

Giving is a principle of this life. It is a law that works for both Christians and non-Christians: YOU GIVE, YOU WILL RECEIVE! You can never become rich as a Christian by fasting and prayer. Money answers to giving!

Kamanda: The quality of the average Nigerian mind has progressively declined over the years.

You guys should no that Mad man too dey see road o.

Majek has some knowledge here cos he toyed with spirituality years back to gain money,fame and power-he said it in an interview on the Charley Boy Show and I confirmed from a relation who did the 'toying' with him-(dat one is now Kolomental Grade one in Benin)-Seven Books of Moses Tinz.
Don't forget his mum was his spiritual (CELE)backbone in Benin back ina d days.His wahala started when she died.Majek has spiritual problems not drugs-that is just a physical manifestation of the torment.
But that no mean say he is right about Skibang sha.my 2 Cedis.