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LadySarah:
Can she bear weight on her legs or hold things to move around.If yes no worries but if her legs are wobbly,back to hospital.
Sometimes fear,poor nutrition and slow development plus too much carrying are the culprits.Check them out .

I dont think she can bear weight on her leg because each time i help her to stand, her legs will be shaking as if she doesnot have the stamina to stand. But I think with time, she will improve. I said this because any time i help her to walk, she would be lifting her legs as if she want to run. lolz

Gloriagee:
My pleasure. Sometimes the physiotherapist may have to recommend a cast but hey, stay hopeful and positive.

Thanks

johhbekeboh09:
Mine wasn't interested to walk at more than 30 months old i had to beg him

This is helpful. Thanks

Gloriagee:
A baby not walking at 16 months is a nightmare for every parent. Apart from seeing a peadetrician, here are a few suggestions I have:
1. Quit carrying the child. Encourage floor time
2. Avoid putting your baby in a rocker. Here's a link to the type of rocker I mean at this age (https://monmartt.com/product/7155/infant-to-toddler-ro) . This will make the child's muscles develop strength.
3. Construct a local walker if u can ( https://reviews.momjunction.com/smile-pick-wooden-baby-walker/). A local carpenter can help with that and make sure the child exercises 3ce daily for about 15 mins.
4. If all else fails, ask to be referred to a physiotherapist that has experience working with children.
5. Above all, pray like mad.

Cheers

michlins:
Mehn being a parent isn't easy oh. You're worried about your life and that of another person.


Me that walked when I was almost two years must have given my parents nightmares. Leave that child

Thanks

Richy4:
You did not even give out any information of signs of development ie If she can stand holding onto couches, sofas or moving around holding a table but scared of standing alone/ falling...Just straight up "she can't walk Fullstop" ... That's sign of impatient and kids requires all the patients in the world ....

There was those walkers in 80's/ early 90's mothers used to put kids into those days, When they were throwing tantrums, the wheel helps move them around ... I don't even know if they still make those nowadays... See a pediatrician buddy.. she will walk...she's only taking her pretty time

Yes she is. hhmmm. Okay

Vision101:
Is the baby healthy? Some babies start working early while others start late. 16 months delay isn't much.

Hello everyone!
I have a baby of about 16months now and she is yet to walk. Those that I have seen over the years started walking before 13TH months. I want to know if this is normal and how long will it take for a baby to walk?

boldx:
Have you scanned it?

I once did. It revealed that 3 of my o2 sensors is bad. So also my cramshaft sensor. I have to fix that first and then I will observe the effects.

boldx:
type of car
nature of transmission ?

Manual transmission

I don't know if it is misfiring or something else. My car jacks at 80 when I tried reaching 100 or beyond. What could be the problem?

crackhaus:
Their reward is in heaven...

NoToPile:
Loool @ bolded

But then there are men who spend most ( if not all) the money and still do house work.

This OP only wants to share bills, he doesn't want to share chores,it does make sense if he wants his financial burden relieved he should also relieve his lady's domestic burden that should balance out the European system he is quoting.

Like I said, whatever responsibility means to you in a marriage. It should be shared equally. I hope you understand what i am saying now.

SweetCunt97:
Go and check the history of the Europeans. Do u know there was a time their women was raised to simply marry and care for children? They couldn't even have their own money. But then, change is constant. In every culture, d man is d breadwinner. Nothing will change that.

I will do more research on this and come back to this page.

Mehn! you did save the day. Thank you

crackhaus:
Dear OP, don't kid yourself...
There's no where in the world that a woman would agree to share all financial responsibilities 50/50, I dare say this.

I could make an exception for families where the husband and wife have decided not to birth kids. A woman in this union may just (emphasis on may) agree to do 50/50, but then it'd still be rare.

Women are simply not built to want to split financial responsibilities straight down the middle – doesn't matter how modern or exposed she is.
You could very well meet exceptions to the above generalization, but they will all be non-african women.

If it's a naija woman you're looking for to split bills/share financial responsibilities 50/50 with you, then sorry oo.
Our wonderful sisters believe that opening their legs for you entitles them to your money (lots of it), not to mention when they now have children for you... ohh trust me, it's a mountain of gold sef they expect from their men for pushing out babies.

Any woman (like some above) who tells you to share in the housekeeping, child raising, and chores, so that they can share the financial responsibility with you 50/50, is lying to you oo. NA TRAP!
You will just end up doing plenty housework, and still see yourself spending the most money. LOL! No such thing as 50/50 when it comes to money in a naija woman's handbook... Better make peace with this fact and learn how to be following dem with brain.

turasumon:
I totally agree with you. Men want women to share in their responsibilities but they don't share the women's responsibilities. if we share the financial responsibilities of the home 50- 50, then we should also share domestic responsibilities. Both of us will be cooking turn by turn, bathing the kids and other domestic responsibilities. You can not expect me to to do part of ur own without you sharing mine.

PS: I believe that women should work and earn money.

but their contributions to the home should be voluntary.....same for the man, he should help with chores and not forced to

That's not fair. What if both share the responsibility including the financing of the home?

Biglittlelois:
@daylay7 I hope you're satisfied with the three comments above.....

We are getting there

Parenting is a responsibility as well.

eyinjuege:
Responsibilities are not only financial.
Both should contribute financially, both should contribute in housekeeping of the home I.e cleaning the home, cooking/feeding members of the family, both should equally look after the children e.g this week you're responsible for bathing, dressing kids, dropping and picking up from school, homework etc while the other partner does same the following week.
There are many more responsibilities in a family that should be shared tbh.

I am sure many will be interested in them. Can u pls share?

bdchange:
It is easier to say lets copy the European culture in terms of sharing responsibilities in marriage. But are u also ready to give power to women in marriage and other benefits accrued to them in those European countries you want to copy. If I list them now, then you will see an african man saying it is not our culture to do such. Please just stick to what work for you and your spouse.

Thanks for this piece

LeoThaGreat:
In mathematics, there's something called "Collect like terms together."
I believe men who thinks financial responsibility should be shared should marry a lady who shares their belief.
Also, men who thinks a lady should be financially dependent on a man should marry ladies with similar mindset.
There's no manual for marriage. As long as husband and wife and on the same page, outsiders can go to hell.
There are couples that split the bill and are happy. There are families the man provides everything and are also happy.
Don't go ahead to marry someone who you're not sure of what they think about financial responsibilities and other responsibilities at home.
Shalom

I was wondering why we were raised to be a provider in a marriage. Responsibility should be shared 50/50 but here in this part of the world, it is the man that must provide everything. I was speaking with a woman the other day and she told me out-rightly that it is the responsibility of the man to pay all the bills. I feel if I'm paying the house rent, my woman should be able to pay the children school fees. But No, it is the man's responsibility here. I don't think it is like that in Europe.
So, why can't we imbibe the European culture? It was on the app that a woman built two houses from her earned money without her husband knowing and yet, he pays all the bills including the womans' need and many more.
Why can't we share the bills in a union/marriage? Is it fair enough for the man to carry all these burdens?

Kobojunkiee:
Do you know why there are over 40,000 Christian denominations, over 2 billion "Christians" but not even a sign or hint of the world being better for it?
It is because Christians have been getting their knowledge of God from the mouths of men - other people - rather than from the mouth of God Himself. God is not in the mouth of someone else... He said that He will be your Only Teacher.... He will teach you about Himself. Someone said "Let God be true and men liars!

Anyway, about tithing, I am afraid you have been lied to by people you listen to. Jesus Christ preached a different doctrine from that given the Old Covenant Jews, and so, it is instead the teachings of Jesus Christ that you ought to busy yourself learning.

Thanks for this piece

Amotolongbo:
Then you have to pay the tithe of your debt. That is going to be a negative value, ie the church is meant to pay you and help in settling your debt.

I thought about that too but I doubt it will be possible.

Kobojunkiee:
People have been telling you?

Yes

Hello everyone,
I have been thinking alot about this and I need to find my bearing concerning the topic. I have been in a huge debt since 2018 and people have been telling me the reason I couldn't finish the payment is because I have not been paying my tithes.
So, I need help truly. Which one comes first? Can I be paying my tithes while trying to settle out the debt?
or I should just focus on canceling the debt first and tithe comes later.

Thanks @vision101

Vision101:
Good to be back but I have to start from the scratch. I loss the last account due to the noise from different quarters about my last post. How I wish I can retrieve it back! Once again, I am glad to be back.


Welcome back

Good to be back but I have to start from the scratch. I loss the last account due to the noise from different quarters about my last post. How I wish I can retrieve it back! Once again, I am glad to be back.