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Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

Postinor:
ok although I heard jamb no longer approves change of date of birth again

Postinor:
ok so they didn't fill a correction form for you, and have you graduated, how would you apply for nysc because I heard that if your university certificate does not tally with jamb result you won't be allowed to serve

Postinor:
were you cleared during your university clearance

darling4242:
Cause? Hardship

IconicR:
See comments above me 😂
Nigerian men will happily drink the menstrual blood and eat oyinbo feaces.

ExAngel007:
Actress Genevieve Nnaji, supermodel Oluchi and a friend of theirs, are currently holidaying in Italy.

Oluchi shared the photos on her Instagram page.

https://www.instagram.com/p/Cv5J11VKqc5/

Kanekwagii:
Long story

DonroxyII:
... How u Go Be My Grandson... My Grandson no go dey do Fvckaside ...

falcon01:
Make it known that its her fault and she shouldn't try that again then apologise to make her happy.
I'm sorry I shouldn't have reacted that way, it's clearly your fault you shouldn't have done that either way I'm sorry, sorry for making you feel that way but you shouldn't have done this.
The problem is not you apologising, does she apologise too? Or does she expect you to keep apologising all the time? And it should be minor issues. For serious issues raise your voice scold her for doing nonsense if she likes let her cry and if she apologises for been wrong then you apologise for making her cry, at the end of the day love conquers all

elmagnifico411:
sounds like she's paying u for being in a relationship with her.. if that's the case, please always apologize oh. She's your Oga.

DonroxyII:
All these una Kids no go face una school before doing things with ladies ...

See this one asking Jamb Questions....

Grow to become a Father Figure & She won't ask you Sh.it anymore till then Go & Finish Ya School Bro !

placeofallure:
I'm a woman and I'll be candid with you. It's nonsensical if a woman wants you to apologise always even if she's the one at fault.

If she's somebody you want to share your future with, theń don't condone that rubbish. We take care that people we care for turn out well. If you envision her as your children's mum, you'd want to ensure her morality is top notch. You can still school her if she's willing to learn and change. My husband did that for me when we were still dating, he had more experience about life issues and he passed it down.

However, if she's not anything important to you, you know the code already. Let her have her way if you are still interested in shinning her Congo. That's not nice anyway, if you won't eat it, don't smell it. So, let her go.

GO0DHardDick:
How sane guys manages to date Nigerian girls is still a mystery to me till now.

Dating a Nigerian girl is the most 3rd foolish thing on earth. Are you aware you spend more money when dating a Nigerian girl unlike when banging kpekus around?

Dude your beloved girlfriend is emotionally manipulating you and you're dancing to her tune. The choice is yours to either snuvb, ghost and stop apologizing or continue simping for a girl who's obviously collecting dicks around. Na she go get pregnant by another guy and she'll command you to apologize

Tit4Tat1:
I'm watching u, hence forth i don't want to ever see u comment here on nL again and I'm very serious about it. Why come in a public space to constitute nuisance, or do you this is a play ground for idiots to exhibit their stupidity?

officialwdhtv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FmrstLuVp3o

Hawker spotted refilling her bottled water with unsafe water 😲😥

#wetindeyhappentv

https://fb.watch/meb96xQp-t/?mibextid=Nif5oz

VinnyBaba:
OP
Is she Pretty and Sexy?🤔

because, when some Guys manage to date Pretty Girls, they behave like MUMU.

Edipet:
you are wrong for asking the bolded questions. You need to apologize the the king's for asking that.

Jennyclay:
Just apologize for peace to reign.

Will you die if you apologize . Even you too, you have pride

Fredoh:
You have no problems then.