₦airaland Forum

Jamean:
No. You are really selfish. You don't want a single parent lady, but you are one.

Second hand should marry second hand. Don't go about looking for tear rubber with a condition not have any child of her own. You want to deeptest her. That is really selfish.

BTW..what happened to your first marriage I hope it is not this same selfish attitude

Why is it difficult for you to understand what "choice" means? If you are unmarried and you are asked what's your choice man, definetly it will read like " handsome, tall, light skin, Must be rich, caring, God fearing, must love my parents, siblings & ready to train them bla bla, is that not self fishness.

favoured234:
I laugh and I laugh again
Na true joor but I know say the OP no get money if not e for don meet that person

Unfortunately, I don't need money to have a good relationship so I can't meet the gold diggers.

Qmab:
Hey OP. What you want is impossible. Marriage is all about compromise. You won't find any woman who will match perfectly all the conditions. You would need to meet up with her halfway if you want your future relationship to work out well.

my only condition is a lady who does not want a child and she must not be a single Mum... I don't see how this is selfish or over board. This is the only requirement every other thing will fall in place.

cococandy:
there may be a few who don't want kids. You can't really speak for everyone.

Thank you.
I am not given up, i know it is feasible and will surely keep my search active as per your recommendation above.

Wedon:
An to think I opened this therad cos I thought it was speaking against child brides.

Mtcheeeeeeeew.

Huh? I hope you don`t visit it again...Please don`t make me believe what i am thinking,your next action will disapprove or confirm it.

moreeni:
No sane African Woman will deliberately choose to miss out on the joy of motherhood. Those little bundles absolutely make a woman complete. The little hearts with the biggest spaces...I won't give up the chance for that for all the money in the world!

Calm down...Is it the one you will give birth to and begin to nag about caring for him/her? Or probably buy a Nanny from OLX to care for him/her? My search continues.

moreeni:
Whoops...you are on a long thing! You will need to go look for a woman who can't have kids by circumstance. Otherwise, you are on a loooooooooooooooooong thing!

lol! Really?

moreeni:
Yes nau, u are on the right track. Search out single parent women too

I mentioned i don't want a single mother.

Dyt:
Good luck in your self centred search

Thank you & ensure you keep a check on the thread hopefully to read the good news on my search.

Dyt:
Not at all sir
You shouldn't have had any child in your previous marriage then

If Couples with issues of the fruit of the womb can still find love, joy & happiness in their marriage then what is wrong with my wish?
The only limitation i have right now is the fact that i want a Nigerian woman, my wish would not be a problem if i extend my search to the west. ( United States, Europe).

Dyt:
You expect to marry a single lady and she shouldn't have a child?
You are wicked
Damn

When did marriage become ONLY a baby making affair... So Couples with no child she go and hang themselves?

mystiqueDZ:
when i say a glorified nanny.....she takes care of your kids and you.....at what expense?tu es egoiste!!!!

Unfortunately, I realize a lot lady's detest caring for their spouse and most even detest caring for their kids... How do you explain the situation of the parents that got a Nanny through OLX to cater for their 3 kids between the ages of 4-11yrs? Simply because the woman cannot find a balance btw her career and family?.

Pls for your information i don't need any woman to care for me in your definition of "care".
I need a companion and not a care giver.
Can we move on?

mystiqueDZ:
All i see is a selfish person looking for a glorified nanny....

Huh! She must be a career woman who is willing to dedicate her time to get to the pinnacle of her career while still sharing life with me her love. I can't live with a redundant woman.. Sorry!.

mystiqueDZ:
please tell....If she dont want kids do you think she will treat yours well?

Tell me why she will not treat them right? I am not looking for a jerk but a reasonable woman.

favoured234:
Bro sincerely you need to have a rethink about your decision, most times we don't see things clearly when we are in, but trust me on this "its out rightly selfish"

I believe there are single ladies who really may not want a child and I will find one real soon. I hope we are able to click and find a common ground to live with each other in peace & love till death do us.......

ddaammyy:
awwwww! Am so relieved now, knowing cooper is doing well. I really felt bad wen I saw him down nd not minding his toy bone which is unusual. Weldon deeptesting u ar doing a great job. But pls we would want to see more fotos. Tnx

Thanks.

Wedon:
If you want companionship, get a girlfriend.

Don't dangle marriage around for desperate women so they can live with you, cater to the needs of you and your children and not that the satisfaction of carrying their own child.

And yes, you are selfish. Else you you wont expect a woman, who has been specifically created to nature and nurture a child, not to have children in her marriage just because you already have children from a previous marriage.

Ask yourself, if you didn't already have children, will you still want to a marriage without children?

You already got what you want, and suddenly you've remembered that marriage is for 'companionship'!

Oshi!

Dude you seem paranoid for something that obviously should not, even going to the extent of calling me "Oshi".

I guess you need some temperament therapy, hopefully, help will come your way as the thread moves on.

This is my wish and i know i will find someone some day.

favoured234:
You want companion then you don't necessarily have to get married...
Again you want her to give you her time and all and maybe take care of your own children all her life...
I think you should start looking for someone that has attained menopause, that will just do..
But what could be the reason behind not having a kid from her if not selfishness...
You want to keep your own and don't want her to come with her own or desire one from you

It has nothing to do with my kids from the previous marriage..They are with their Mum who is economically empowered and well educated to take care of them..Except she is dead, it will be the last thing for her to do.(Give the kids out even to me).

I have no other reason for this decision other than the fact that i want a companion in marriage & not the girlfriend thing as been proposed.

favoured234:
I don't know the reason for your desires but sincerely you sound too selfish

Selfish? Not all.
I just want a companion or is marriage totally about bearing kids?

Wedon:
Selfish much

Oh! don't go there! Learn how to respect peoples opinion.

Hello fellow NL, i am a single father with 2 kids from a previous marriage.I want to give marriage a second shot because i believe love is real but i don't want to have a child from it..Is it possible to get a lady that will agree to my wish?

PS: I don't want a single parent lady.

The Vet visited yesterday and thought may be Cooper either ate or drank something that is not good for his system. He was given an injection to neutralize what ever it is he ate or drank.. He is up and running again. Hopefully, will get some pics today.

Cooper is down, i don`t know what went wrong.. He took is bath this morning and then his break fast,he ate a little then vomited it. It is the same meal he takes (Royal Canin) dry food, then his stool was watery and greenish. I have called the Vet to check on him, we will have to take every action within the last 24hrs into consideration to see if we can unravel the course of his illness.

He is so laid back right now,just want to be alone.

XBLadez:
DEEPTESTING!!!!
Have you not gotten the replacement yet?

Bro. i have not,gave it to someone and just can`t understand how people behave with little things entrusted to them.
I have ordered for a new phone via Jumia will arrive next week.

Cooper is doing very fine.
My phone fell and the screen got cracked, hence, my inability to post pictures of our activities.
I am getting a replacement today,so hopefully, will get more pics and update.

tranxo:
Just read your post about lack of finances for a new bowl. Well once he does it, pack up the food and take away the bowl. Let him go hungry for an hour and give it to him again. Repeat till he stops. Also use disapproval remarks that you normally use when he does something he shouldn't. It may work. Try it and observe @ deeptesting

Thank you.

Up until Gov. Rotimi Ameachi APC party wins the governorship election like his APC counterpart Bola Ahmed Tinibu will do in Lagos State his decision to join the APC will be a political miscalculation for him and his APC members & supporters in River State. Imagine Asiwaju Ahmed Bola Tinibu loosing Lagos State to PDP and wining the Presidency.

Lagos State and Rivers States are States that can live without federal allocation, only a fool would want to give it up for a federal slot or appointment. it is like selling your Range Evogue to by Molue bus.

No doubt APC will loose Rivers State because the SS people will vote with emotions and sentiments that Nigerians voted out their brother GEJ.
Ameachi is truly a selfish person, he thought of himself alone and his deputy Tele Ikuru was wise enough to decamp to PDP because should PDP win Rivers State then all APC members and Supporters will become Abuja politicians and the Abuja is too concentrated.

In my opinion Ameachi is the looser.

kuzee:
wonda wetin him de find again

Where I live on a strict budget and already bought the wrong bowl for my dog without the necessary finance to get a new bowl as you have recommended does it mean my dog behavior cannot be corrected not to turn his bowl with its content? Please be civil in your responses & manner.

tranxo:
Getting a proper bowl won't correct the behaviour?

I doubt because Cooper does not only use his leg to turn the bowl but also use his teeth to pick it.
I will get the proper bowl and experiment with it...However, the idea behind my post is to correct a bad behavior.. Using an improper bowl or proper bowl it is a bad behavior for a dog to turn its bowl with its content and i wanted Peeps to share ideas on how to correct the behavior.

kuzee:
get a dog bowl sire,
that is no dog bowl, even water, they are growing, so expect such..

Thanks.
I know the dog bowl but ignored it because i felt it was to small and i wanted something that can serve them even when they get older.
Come to think of the cost compared to the wash hand basin called "bowl" i am using at the moment. In fact, i was grateful to Mama Sikira for advising me to buy it but look where it has landed me.

Ok Jokes over.

Ok i actually thought peeps will focus on how to correct the behavior, i intentionally brought it up to keep the thread lively and also increase its educational value but Ooops!.

googlepikin:
I was on a bike yesterday and the Abokii guy asked me who did I vote for, buhari or GEJ , I said buhari. I asked him who is he going to vote for in Lagos governorship election, he said all okada association and northerners have had a meeting that they can't be deceive by APC for the third time. that they have agreed to vote for JIMI AGBAJE. it's amazing that Lagos state presidential vote was 700 and something to 600 and something thousand mind you half of those who voted for buhari have plans to vote for JIMI AGBAJE. So imagine the North, SS and SE voting for JIMI AGBAJE in dis kinda free and fair elections, then I'm sorry for tinubu , fashola and co. there will be shock in Lagos state in few days time.1,000,000 vote for JIMI AGBAJE dis coming election. am pleading to all Northerners , southerners and Easterners to come out in our millions to vote for the rightful man for Lagos state. let's all vote for JIMI AGBAJE because he's the right man. LIKE IF YOU WILL VOTE FOR JIMI AGBAJE and share if you will vote for ambode.

My Brother let us don`t deceive ourselves.
Those who will vote for Jimi will do so out of emotions and sentiments.
Lagos has been reposition by the APC led Government and if you are a progressive Lagosian you must vote for Ambode to continue with the great master plan of BRF.

I have no doubt that the election will be a close fight because majority of the people especially the SE people will tilt their vote against APC and the low class people whose livelihood were affected one way or the other by the policies of the APC led Government to bring change to the people.

It will be a tough fight but i give it to APC... I will be fully out to thumb print for my candidate Ambode.

XBLadez:
Lmao! If he does that next time shout "Don't!" and then take away the food, or pack it off so he won't be able to eat it. Make him know ur displeased. After one hour, serve him another. Repeat and repeat, he'll understand. But make sure the quantity of food served is small to avoid unnecessary wastage

Ok. nice input...Good.