WebGuy:
Mistake 4: Training Each Body Part Only Once a Week

Yes, our bodies do need to recover after an intense workout session, but most men take the rest or recovery period way too far. You’ll see some guys work out their legs and chests on Monday and then say to themselves
“Mehn I’ve really worked out my legs, now they need a long rest” and they end up not working out their legs again till another week has passed.

Lifting weights causes the muscle fibers in your body to tear, and as your body repairs itself, the muscles get stronger and bigger (just like the way scar tissue forms on our bodies).

So it’s important to actually rest after exercising, but between 24 to 48 hours is adequate enough. Anymore and you aren’t working your muscles hard enough.

Usually I work out the same muscle groups every other day. I also leave Sunday out just to reset my body before the next week.

OP please if you train each of the body part a day, how many hours do you spend on the gym? How many seconds rest do you take between each lift? How many reptitions do you do on each lift?

Like the chest for example how many lift type do you use to build? And how many body parts do you build a day? I.e. chest,Biceps,Triceps,leg etc.

When you answer the above questions then I will take you on why you should not build more than 2 body parts a day,invariably leading to building just one body part a week and still get result.

Wait oooo! But 9 Million is enough to set the brother up in business na? Which kind of employment does he want? Oh! Nigerians... Jesus your second coming is delaying...

I wish Women could do without make up... That is the only way i can measure their beauty, anything more is scam.

steffans:
Give him a job...

Stop snapping and raising the boys hopes...

Hard work pays!

Him go need to go service come back before job na...Abi na old man wey get exemption?
It is too early to reason with your hand oooo

Vinshu:
In order to reduce the level of poverty amongst homes, in my opinion I think a man who has not enough money to buy a house of his own not rent at least a 3 bed room flat and a car to move him and his family around should not get married.

When he gets married in his low credit, the family tends to suffer. The probability that he will get rich is actually 0.5 not up to 1 because Sundry expenses will now become expenses when married. Things he could ignore when single will now be important.

When children arrive, the probability of getting rich falls to an all time low of 0.2. Have you observed that most men have a higher credit score when single? If you have $500 at the end of every week when single if your job/income doesn't change or upgrade when you get married your $500 falls to $200 because you no longer feed yourself but feed a woman and probably a child.

When the child grows older school fees will set in. And other bad debts will be incured .

Don't get me wrong, I ain't saying he will never make it but in the mean time, why bring a child to the world to suffer? Even if it's for 6 years before you make it? Why take a woman from her father's comfy house to hardship in the name of marriage?

I advice ladies never to get married no matter how cool a guy is unless he is proven to be able to cater for your needs and that of your children financially in all ramifications both expenses and sundry expenses.

It doesn't make any sense, what you enjoy when single as a lady why stop enjoying it because your husband has no money or your money now goes to supporting him?

They say women ain't equal to men. Ok let the men be rich and rich enough to take care of their wives 101% before getting married. In fact, studies show most men marry for sex.

@OP what if the Dude got the car & mansions and 5yrs into the marriage, he is rocked with issues that would warrant him to lose everything, including his ability to cater for the children...Are you going to jump ship?

It's true one should plan and to some extent be financially stable before venturing into marriage, asking him to own a property and a car is utterly ridiculous.

Most of you women think too highly of yourselves... As a woman what are you bringing to the table?. Jesus Christ knows i hate women with empty skulls.

postmann:



People like you constitute the biggest test to civil debate! You're easily repugnant.



How does the above submission translates to mean "all" to you?

I'll not dignify any further quote from you with any further response.

Please provide your statistics that a "staggering number or vast majority". It is simply a widely held belief,we should let children from these homes to rest, it was never their fault...Every Tom & Dick wants to make reference to them as evil doers.

OP do yourself some good...I am tired of reading some nonsensical post filled with generalization... What statistics do you have to show that all armed robbers,street urchins are from broken homes? We have a very big problem in this part of the world... No doubt it is expected for children to grow up in homes with both parents but i beg to differ with you that every child that from a broken home turns out to be a nonentity.

The delinquent children from broken homes are reflections of their irresponsible parents.DON`T GENERALIZE This is also applicable to irresponsible parents who lives together and cannot adequately bring up their children. Not all marriages are sustainable,in most cases it is advisable to divorce and move on with your life..However,many divorced parents fail especially the men as they also divorce the children with their Mom. If both parents should live up to their responsibilities, put their differences aside and tender to the needs of the children (Moral,educational,spiritual,etc) after the divorce the children will surely grow up to be responsible adults irrespective of the home be it broken or intact.

Jennystyle:
I think am guilty, but the word was just too harsh.

Don't beat yourself up more than necessary.. Every mistake gives an experience and that is what makes life beautiful.

He could have said it better but i doubt of it will sink like it did right now...

Strahovski1:


I do not follow the Bible.. I am Hindu.

I am not African. I am Asian(Indian)

Again, my wife is not subjecting herself to me. She is my friend, my partner and my soul mate. Not my subject

I dont know about you

I will leave you after now but the stuff about the online world is it`s difference from what is real in the real world.
Have a blessed day Buddy.

Strahovski1:


You guessed wrong. I am married with 3 Kids

Then you are not been sincere or you are 1 out off 1000 with a partner who is willing to subject herself to the leadership of the home as clearly stated in the Bible & African Culture.

Strahovski1:


Yeah, i am one of those people who see marriage as a partnership between two people in love. Oh i'm male.. and i'm proud to be a man.. so continue shaking your head.

Love your wife. If you do, all what you posted wont even be an issue. That's my point. Love is unconditional. It has no "but" or "if".

Bro "That is how it should be but that is not what it is". Can human love unconditionally without reciprocation from the other party? I guess you are not married... No doubt love is a necessary factor in marriage but keeping the marriage requires more than love.. Or are you Jesus Christ? As they say "Easier said than done".

The reason for failed marriages cannot be pinned to one, two or three factors, so also the solution. The success of a marriage is dependent on the two individuals involve, how much are they willing & determined to swim the tide together.

Informative write up.
However, the submission of less jogging as a form of exercise once above 40 is very controversial and many fitness trainers and health practitioners have debunked it as a ruse. I think we should read up more on it...I commend your effort once more..

NgeneUkwenu:


Ask anybody within and around FESTAC, OKOTA, And FESTAC Extension, all In LAGOS..

You are a big liar, since, we are entering 2016 i hope you reflect and turn a new leaf... I have an uncle who stays around the basket ball court in Festac extension, i called him to confirm this news and he said you are a pathetic liar. Please you people should stop making stupid Government popular, Nigerians are suffering and would need a proactive government to bail them out...

godwinony:
Those plastic chairs are not encouraging..

This attitude encourages public officials to steal, does he need gold plated chairs to unwind?

It is no longer news to hear about couples going their separate ways today,immediately after separation or divorce most father`s cut off all ties with their ex including the children, it really beats my imagination why most men also divorce their children.

Most men quickly move into another relationship abandoning the children for the woman, they don`t call, visit or even write letters to the children. We have witnessed few cases here on Nairaland where the children now grown ups put up pictures of their fathers taken 30yrs ago in search of the man who gave birth to them..

Real men don't divorce their kids too.

Bro just take it easy 21 is also a tough period for you, peer pressure, concern for your future, anxieties of what has been accomplished and what has not, emotions are high, pursuit for indepence and all what not... How do you want to grow into a responsible adult if you don't respect your parents.

You saw Mum crying and you did not deem it fit to go in,wrap your arm around her and if possible cry with her; i bet if it were to be your bae you would surely cry with her.. That been said, please do the needful, even nature will be against you when you disrespect your mother.

We are Africans, we are not trained to shout back at our parents it connotes poor manners and path to self destruction.

I thought of my Mum, far in the village
Old, skinned wrinkled
Leg refuse to move when needed
Eye delibrately refusing to give vision
How fragile she has become
She could not chase me around anymore when i pick the only meat from the soup pot
I reminisce, gazed at the sky like i could bring back her blossom

Being coupled up should not be the end goal of your personal life: Being truly happy, regardless of what your relationship status is, should always be the priority. In fact, you'll likely be a whole lot happier single than you would be if you chose to stay in the wrong relationship. Below, relationship experts offer eight convincing reasons why.

1. Not all relationships are created equally.

Relationship aren't always mutually fulfilling. If you are deeply unhappy with each other, being on your own is probably the preferable option, said therapist Heather Gray.

"Having a person in your life doesn’t mean you have real love," she said. "When you lie to yourself and pretend your relationship is something that it isn’t, you’re hurting yourself. That lie is embarrassing and shaming. It can make you feel weak and pathetic when you don’t even believe the story you’re telling. Your truth, even the painful one that this relationship isn’t right for you, frees you of that."

2. Confidence and independence are traits honed on your own.

There's a big difference between being alone and being lonely. When you truly embrace single life, you'll start to enjoy your own company, said Neely Steinberg, a dating coach and personal image consultant. (Plus, getting to sleep diagonally across the bed is pretty damn blissful.)

"It's really important to have some time in your life to discover how to be single, how to be alone and how to get validation from yourself instead of from your relationship status," Steinberg said. "When you've had time to explore your independence, you learn to be comfortable in your own skin."

3. Time spent in a bad relationship is time wasted finding the right one.

Not sold on the whole "being on your own is actually awesome" argument? Think of it this way, then: You can’t find the love you deserve if you're giving attention to a dead-end relationship.

"You have to get yourself in the right place to find the person who’s right for you," Gray said. "That won't happen when you’re accepting less than you deserve [from the wrong person.]"

4. Dating around can be fun if you give it a chance.

Swiping right and actually making a real connection -- or finding Mr. Wrong and regaling your friends with details from your nightmare date -- can be fun, said divorce coach Kira Gould.

"After my own divorce, I wasn’t sure what I wanted in a relationship and I dated all sorts of 'wrong' men -- and I have to say, I loved it," Gould told us. "Mind you I wouldn’t enter into a relationship with any of them; I just enjoyed the chance to explore, and 'try them on' so to speak."

5. Being single gives you the chance to figure out what you want -- and absolutely don't want -- in a relationship.

You probably don't want to date someone just like your ex -- so what do you want in your next partner? Being single gives you the rare opportunity to answer that question with a clear mind, Gould said.

"You can't assume you know what you want. As life changes, so do we, and so do our priorities, desires, and needs," she said. "Being single in today’s landscape gives us many opportunities to date, and to explore what sorts of qualities we like or dislike in a partner."

6. That newfound independence makes you more attractive to potential partners.

Nothing is sexier than a person who can handle their life, said relationship coach Lisa Schmidt.

"Learning to accept and love who you are without a man or woman in your life makes you more desirable to partners," Schmidt said.

7. Staying in the wrong relationship is a recipe for sadness.

"There is nothing more painful than to feel lonely while in the same room as the person you’re with," said Gray.

8. Because ultimately, relationships don't guarantee happiness.

Happiness lies within yourself, not in any would-be soulmate, said Steinberg.

"The truth is, a relationship will never bring you happiness if you're not already happy with who you are and your life," she said. "The best part of being single is that you get to explore life on your own time and your own terms. You get to figure out what makes you happy in life."

Source: http://huff.to/1TjfQzR

Quite true but few points are applicable to those who look inward, admit their mistakes, take responsibility and move on....Not for those who refuse to take responsibility but put the blame on the other partner... Falling out of a committed relationship is a school on it is own, you need to take a chill pill and feel like someone taking a ride on the train observing all the scenes outside from the window along the journey without uttering a word... #Justlearning.

ifeanyiLoveday:

Marriage is a covenant, not a contract. Covenant cannot be broken while contract can be broken.

So why don't Couples go to church but the Court for the dissolution of their marriage? Make room for those who don't believe in God..

obi123:


May God bless you , Marriage is a massive task , it is the biggest effort you will have to make that can last a lifetime .
so many people are married and are still lonely, are childless, are loveless, are penniless, are miserable and the worst thing some arent even getting any (if you know what i mean).
They are just living with someone with whom on a certain day they called friends and family and made elaborate declarations of which they have zero belief in .

Marrying late is not necessarily a bad thing , i married at 36 and good lord i wouldnt have coped if i had married in my 20's , i realise now that i knew nothing then, right now i am a grown WOMAN ,i deal with things differently in a more diplomatic way than i would in my 20's, more patient, i am bringing more to the table , i am accomplished in my career and in my life in general, i now know my priorities and this helps me focus only on important things ,i went into marriage knowing myself as a human being, knowing how i want to be treated .

while single it is important to educate yourself, improve yourself, read up, take time to fully understand who you really are so that you dont waste your years being someone else, dont waste your single years sleeping around and exposing yourself to all sorts .Your old age will reveal the kind of life you lived in your youth

Ask yourself will you marry YOU? i.e will you marry your type of person if you were someone else , start there

Use your single years to actually understand your OWN personality, a lot of people dont even know who they are , they have multiple personalities which confuses even they themselves , Find out what you actually like , write it out if it helps ? this will help you determine who you are most likely to get along with , whats your type? be realistic and honest in every way

My Dear that is the point, you don`t go into marriage when you are yet to discover who you are what you really stand for in life, otherwise you begin to grow apart from your lovely Cyndy who you thought you love so much, you become disconnected... I love the Maslow theory of hierarchy of need, self actualization which is the highest point of need in his theory is necessary to achieve before delving into marriage... Emotional instability and lack of clear focus on life priorities is a big hindrance to marriage..

I love your submission, so in line with my view and concept.
Wow!

Laeroy:

BRILLIANT!!!!!
Now give 5 Reasons why the OP needs to get married

I cannot enumerate reasons for anyone but your reason(s) must go beyond yourself or to fulfill your personal desires, fantasies, societal expectations, general conventions etc. Your reason(s) must be deep and encompassing to help your partner actualise her goals while you are achieving yours at the same time. Marriage is for matured minds, dont get it twisted age is not maturity.

Personally, loyalty is a quality i cherish.. I am getting old to be hanging around people who don't understand the concept of loyalty. Don't also get it twisted loyalty does not mean throwing away your rights..

400billionman:


Bros, was she working class when you married her ?

I simply cannot share most things online, they are private and would like to keep it private..However, i like to share my experience with others and also learn from them..You can PM me.

olalat:
Are you married? If ur answer is no. I regret to say u are disoriented. I wish to have ur profile. Coming from a broken home is one of d worst to happen to anybody in life.

I will take your punch lines as cimpliment than an insult..I usually don't respond to people who haul insults at others on social forums simply for being different.. It is immature, learn how to make your points without insulting the other party, it will help you in life even in your marriage... Learn how to disagree and still remain civil.. Good morning and have a beautiful day.

Laeroy:

Can U Explicitly spell out just 5 wrong reasons people go into marriage?

Lol!
1. They are of age as defined by the society.
2. Others are married so why should they be an exception.
3. For the guys they don't want to loose their beautiful girlfriends.
4. She is pregnant, cannot abort so we marry.
5. For the girls material reasons, the guy has an apartment, looks good, a good ride then let's marry.

You can help me add yours because the list is inconclusive.

tranxo:
deeptesting, that's DEEP! Thanks. Hope your health is much better. We miss you at the dog thread

Thanks.. I am doing very well and in good health now.Thanks!

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Bro, i don't know how old you are (no pun intended) but at the attainment of a certain age you will surely careless about what people say or think most especially about your PRIORITIES, that is when you begin to live in accordance with your principles and values..

Miggs:
you are absolutely correct.it doesn't take much thought to realize marriage is bullshit especially for men

i laughed so hard at the bold part... Bro.. don`t get it twisted marriage is beautiful, having a companion to share with is awesome but as you already know life has become so complicated, selfishness, egotism, modernization and greed is messing relationships up.

Go in with the mindset to be a blessing to your partner and less expectation from her things will surely be fine but do you have what it takes to be a blessing to someone else without expecting a reciprocation? Happy marriages are built on selflessness.

blakky97:
obviously sir, you are a wise man. the decision has been a tough one for me. I do not crave entirely independent women because I fear my position as the head and General Officers Commanding in my home will be jeopardised. and yet do I run from demanding ladies who I feel will never appreciate the concept of sacrifice and struggle and may feel they are entitled to kindly gestures just by virtue of been women.

Lol... Bro you can`t eat your cake and have it or sit on the fence on this issue... A decision must be made either way.. I wish you the best.

Dexema:

marriage does cure loneliness if its to the right person, even the holy book says " it is not good for a man to be alone "a man feeling lonely in his comfort zone is a sign he longs for companionship and a family.

I think i have responded to someone who also made reference to the Bible.. The school will teach you the theory but life teaches you the practical.. If you are lonely and want to marry then look for a lonely woman and marry so both of you can pursue same goal of getting out of loneliness but if you think getting a partner will take you out of loneliness then you are on a long thing... Marriage has it`s own troubles big enough that will compound your loneliness and take it to 360 degree.

And what is the right person? So you want to marry a happy girl and bring in your garbage inherited from loneliness to her life so she begins to pamper you like a child? If you are lonely fix it, find the root cause of it.. I think the OP is bored living alone don`t get it twisted.. If you are lonely get out and make friends, get social and enjoy singleness.

blakky97:
when you acquire good properties, especially lands and a good business, you might just want to will it to someone after your demise. except you dont mind a child born out of wedlock, marriage comes to mind.
I really dream of being a father close to his kids, making a happy home, grooming sons and daughters who I will be proud of; and whose intellect will stupefy mortal minds. but the trouble here is; most ladies seek for comfort and security in marriage, dreaming of riches and fleeing any prospect of being paired up with a struggling man. I realise; the more progress I make the less attracted I get to ladies especially because they were absent at the beginning.

*Smiles** It is in your head not all ladies are after riches or wealth.. The fact depends on where you are beaming your search light, you see the irony of it is if you meet an independent woman or one who does not place value on riches you may call her a Feminist.. Those who place values on riches are low lifers and not women of virtue..

Be bold to approach independent girls.

blakky97:

bro, what are the factors that make mr A get married at 25 and mr B at 50? please dont say money because not all married people are rich. and some people get rich while married.

You cannot factor it to just one reason, people do same thing for different reasons especially in marriage.. However, from my point of view people go into marriage for wrong reasons in this part of the world as a result of our cultural belief in marriage that once a man or a woman is of age the next expectation is to get married and start raising their children. Hence, majority marry because they are of age, have a job, have a roof over their head, A is married so why won`t B etc and that is why we have so many unstable homes and people who are married but lonely or not happy and does quadruplet the rate of cheating and broken homes.

Of course you know it is rare to find an African Man not married at 50. Those who marry late are an exception who do not follow the dogma or general convention.

[quote author=Freemanan post=41255136][/quote] Thanks you don`t know how touching it was for me looking at that pics...We all need love and don`t let go those who share your in your pains..Thanks! Thanks!! Thanks!!!