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Cooolme:
I have a stepsister living abroad, the daughter of my mom. She's been there since childhood, raised by her father, and has become independent.

Despite the physical distance, she has been supportive, particularly to my mom. Although she occasionally sends money to my mom, it's never quite enough for her.

I share a unique bond with her; we've always been close, even during her visit. The last time she sent me money was during my 100 level when things were tough. However, my focus shifted from financial help to maintaining a connection with her.

Recently, I noticed a change. Since July, she has been snubbing my messages, a puzzling behavior considering I don't seek financial assistance. I've made it a point to check on her regularly, something she mentioned our mom doesn't do. At my level now if she needs money I can even send for her but her recent attitude has totally changed my mind towards her. I'm contemplating blocking her and ending contact, as it seems that's what she wants.

It's a challenging situation, and I'm curious if anyone here has experienced anything similar.

Just archive her chats. Don't block her but don't bother about her either. Whenever she come around you ask her what happened

Bliss62:
Crab mentality and envy... Wisdom

Exactly. The person you are forming club member with; and thinking left hand wash right hand and vice versa about, has his own plan to take his share and your share too.
It might take tears o, but last last he will shock you. I have experienced this first hand. What will end it is ...ehn, are you the first person to help somebody? So I should die because you helped me?
There was this naija guy I was chatting with once. We were flowing until I revealed that I was from homeland. My guy just go silent on me sharp sharp which I understand even tho it was a sad thing to happen.
I had a friend assisting one naija guy like that. Before you know it he don dey threaten them demanding for cash from them. They were whites Sha so they kind of were worried at his actions. They now told me to avoid Nigerians which I responded that I am a Nigerian they shouldn't worry about me lol.

Bliss62:



Well from my own experience oo, Nigerians or Japarians are hardworking and not lazy

Pakistani, Indian, Lebanese, Arab, comiunity would gather together to socialize, help themselves, intermarry, network

Nigerian neighbors won't even great themselves

One time our philipino HR back then needed, workers, overseas ... see as Pakistani, Indian were submiting CV for there people, we Nigerians submit nada, no help, we still dey survive



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Cos lots of Nigerians are desperate and can stab your back to get up the ladder. They also have this mentality of who has more money has more power so to them even their helper is competition and can be moved out of the road to glory wether deserving or not.
I don't blame Nigerians who avoid others in the abroad. It's painful but I understand.

Jewessgratitud3:
You still be small pikin. Na person like you Dem dey use mugu.

Their wedding pictures were on the wall. I saw the dead wife's picture in their photo album with my ex. The sister is an old 50 + woman and you think I did not look out for those details and evidences when I got there? Na so you dey do? Ta!

Lol. You just dey learn work. Inshort, I am sure he go still chop you Mugu again at this rate. That is of you still reason his matter as you are doing now. Chop you for down chop you for pocket chop you for emotion join am 🤣🤣

That guy chop you Mugu. You are brave going to someone you don't know and spending days there o. See that his aunty? She is his woman, the kids are probably not all his. No wife died. They were just using you and others like you to survive.

Gadafii:
I am not a slave to pusse like you my brother, I have it in abundance, but deciding when and who is very important as a man, it gives you edges over women,😎😎

Being served in a platter and rejecting it is not a weakness, rather is dominant virtue

But what does a pusse nigha like you know

Pusse nigba like him chop anything he is offered cos food scarce for him side. He na Alpha wanna be

Even their love annoys you guys too? That is to say nothing a woman does will satisfy some of you.

Humanity is doomed for real. May the real God please stand up? Humanity will self destruct using fake god books to justify their thirst for blood.

Yul go and sit down fes.

Dino. Stop wasting money. I feel that you can not govern that state. Maybe in 15 yrs you can try again.

Thell plant the next one in a kindergarten and cry when Israel goes there to bomb it out. People will now say no matter what, Israel shouldn't have bombed a school.

HardMirror:
why are you guys lying? He did not bathe in blood nau. Haba.

Did I say he bathed with blood? I was replying someone's comment o.

descartes400:
where was it proven that he bathed in human blood? and how did you arrived on the conclusion that most blood rituals involve the killing of human for the blood?

Oga sir, if you follow my quote to the person I was replying to, you will see that my comment is tied to an example the person gave.

xtervaganza:
I will tell you what happened.


He was looking for nonsense and found nonsense. It's a very common scam. Some fake babalawo will give clients blood or in some cases red chemical to bathe. They will tell the client it's human blood and they will also direct him to where he'd take the bath. They will also send people to ambush him like night vigilante. They will record him and make him confess in the middle of the night he's bathing with human blood which they will use to extprt him



It's actually very common

Wow, those Kain mugus deserve the extortion. If someone tells you they gathered human blood for you to bath and you accept to go through with it. Unless they say they bought it from a blood bank then I will excuse the victim as just ignorant trado voodoo practitioner. But we know that most blood rituals involve killing someone so any mugu that accepts to bathe in blood is an evil person who sanctioned the death of others for their selfish gains.

Good move

They have not said what really happen.

mariahAngel:
This is fonio.



What more could we ask for? 🤷🏽‍♀️

Pictures' source: Google

If it tastes like rice......why not? Like chickpeas taste exactly like beans so it's easy to replace bens with chickpeas. If this tastes exactly like rice then yes. It can easily replace rice.

Lol. Nigerians fall for anything. So if those countries had them in the past, or even presently Nigeria must have them now? Looking at our economy presently, Tinubu's government thinks this is of utmost importance now?

As na man Dem off, nobody will say they understand and pity the killers.

seborrhic:
But how did she expect to collect the money since he wouldn't have made her the beneficiary on his death,as she is only a girlfriend?

She might have his bank card na. She might think that she will use the card to purchase items or she planed to transfer the cash using his bank app if she knows his login details. Very evil woman.

Tallesty1:
Alright.


But for the sake of yarns, what would a Nigerian man who doesn't have this archaic mentality but ends up with this type of woman do in a situation like this?

If you still want to be with her then have a heart to heart talk about how you perceived her character during those trying times. (Hopefully you were not a big part of her change in character cos many men frustrate their families when they go broke) If she repents then don't bear grudges but be very aware of your financial spending. Start a new chapter. Look for means to diversify income so that if something like this happens again it won't be too bad.

I hope you have it

Tallesty1:
I just watched a clip that inspired this post.

Imagine this scenario.......

You are married to a beautiful woman, and you have like three kids. It is a beautiful family, really.

You have a nice house, a good ride, beautiful children, always selfie-ready wife, and salary alerts keep coming. Then life happens, and you start losing things until nothing is left. No salary, no more savings, and you're officially wiped out by poverty.

Your wife has something she does for a living, makes her own money, and does whatever it is that women do with money. You never cared because you were doing okay, but now the tides have turned.

Naturally, you expect her to provide support while you work harder to regain your footing. But what you are getting from her is something you never knew she was capable of: insults upon insults, disrespect, and all. This lasts for a year or two.

Then, fortune smiles on you again and you get back on your feet. As usual, there is money now, and your wife is the woman you married at first. She is loving again, respectful, and caring.

I want to know, will you still go back to loving her like before, as if the past two years' experience never happened, or are you going to quit?

That tupe of wife is what Nigerian men deserve. Since you use the "I provide for you" mentality to oppress your women and demand respect for winning bread. When you don't win the bread again, what respect do you expect? And if she doesn't treat you like that you won't double your hustle. So Naija men with their archaic mentality should get only such types of women.

Herdamorlar:
With the high rise in the prices of all the basic needs. I returned from work this evening and I tried to write all I needed and to my surprise, my salary has finished with no savings for me.

I just don't know what to remove from the list right now, are we really going to continue like this? Especially those of us working for private companies, these private companies don't even bother to increase the salary of their workers with the rise in all commodities in the country.

How much be the salary?
Plus, do you think those private companies are making so much profit to be able to increase staff salaries? If yes then have a chat with your boss

Day169:
These guys are just savages. It has little to do with religion.

Islam is a savage religion.
I know you only said that because they touched an Imam and torched your Islamic books. That's the only time Muslims condemn Islamic terrorists. If they limit themselves to only attack infidels, Muslims won't complain or speak against them.

Congrats

Dino is wasting his time. He will be like Atiku. He will campaign but not sit on the throne.

It was revealed to Atiku the very first time he contested. He will NEVER be Nigerian president unless a power stronger than Nigerians gives him the seat

MarrisManah:
Make him raise am come na ... Him will know the difference between a governor and a minister.
How many men Amaechi raised when he was collecting as a minister? How many men Odili raised when he was collecting from Amaechi as a former governor? Abi how many Oshiomole raised? No matter what Wike thinks he has on Fubara, if the governor is hell-bent on breaking loose, Wike raised to power 5 can't stop it. This is Nigeria politics!

You said you will arrange a group to shoot at Wike. That's what I am talking about. So unless those against Amaechi, Odili and Oshomole banned them from stepping foot in their states at the cost of their lives then that particular thing shouldn't be considered. Unless he want start tribal war.

MarrisManah:
Nothing will happen. If I be fubara, wike will not visit Rivers state either as a private citizen or a minister. CP will publicly tell him his security is not assured and advise him to stay away. If he dares, like is expected, the kind of gun battle that will ensue will shock the devil. And I, as Fubara, will be the one condemning the shootings and promising to bring perpetrators to book. I will also assure wike of protection and assistance

Very silly comment. So na Wike no fit raise men to also start shooting and destabilize Rivers state in retaliation? You people think power is just a one mans game? Esp power in this naija in 21st century?

Nyesom Wife will be fine. His eleda , his chi,God and I are behind him. He should not fret. He Ef up a lot Sha but in the spirit of the game a thief cannot be a thief if he stole from a fellow thief.
He will be fine.
If you know Wike tell him to reach out to me.

Their religion forbids them from shaking hands of opposite gender but.....wait for it........ permits them to rape, sexually molest and murder women. Isn't their god great?

Now they will start accidentally bombing churches. This one that they have divided the Nigerian air force based on religion. Muslim air force, christian Air force, Trado Airforce and Atheist Airforce. The disaster that these evil religions bring to humanity is insane