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"My boyfriend spent his days killing me" should be the topic

When I was in UNI a pastor came to preach in my fellowship and he asked people to drop seed offering. He said if you don't have money, sow your gold jewelry, your belt, your shoes your expensive bags belts and every thing. Na so student run go hostel O. They retirned with school fees, pocket money, cash held on behalf of friends etc, Some babes started stripping off gold and dropping every expensive stuff on them. Guys were dropping shoes and belts and gold Chains. Mehn Na that day I fear some pastors sweet mouths o

plaetton:
Can't you see that all they want is to retain the Goose that lays the golden eggs, the money-spinning church ?
The widow, in their greedy eyes, is both a liability and and an obstacle to their greedy ambitions.

E tire me.

Backward family. What do they mean by they shielded her from some traditional practices done by widows?
If they suspect her, they should go get autopsy. Why make it look like they are doing her a favour by not accusing her of his death?
When will they free women sef? Its a shame they make their women go through he'll after losing their husbands.
Wetin concern them for the mans church? Were they running it for them when he was alive? Why don't they allow his widow handle the affairs her late husband and her laboured for? They wish to state that she is free to do whatever she likes with her late husbands affair and ministry. Before nko? Does she need their permission to do so in the first place?
All these bullshit widows face sef. Gods judgement would be plenty for some people sha. Scavengers of human misery

Awww! Happy birthday baby.

midolian:
What kind of nonsense is this?

If no be curse sef, wetin e fit be? A grown up man will always get a grown up woman to drill if he really means business...so why this madness?

Homosexuality is the biggest form of hypocrisy since mankind.

A lesbian would say she needs not a man but she still moves around with a Diildo. The fact is, that little opening between her legs needs to be filled every once in a while.

A gay man on the other hand would say he needs not a woman but keeps drilling the butt of a fellow man. The fact is, that joystick needs a home every once in a while.

God that created man and woman to complement each other is no fool. Neither does he sleep nor slumber. He is a perfect and Supreme Being. I see this practice(homosexuality) as a way of challenging God.

This is not about being gay. This is about sexually abusing kids. Whether they we're boys or girls it makes no difference.

If you step foot, you will be killed no two ways.

I have it. Damn! Which normal human being would not itch when looking at these photos?

abdul4new:
women and jealousy are like bread and butter

Yeah, a man would have welcomed his wife's lover had he met him at his sick wife's bed side. He would have hugged him and ebven given them space to talk.

Only women ever get jealous when their partner has been banging someone outside their matrimonial bed. Yeah, men love to share only women hate to share their men.

NevetsIbot:
please. Reasonable people have said this earlier in the post. Too late girly!

Nb; I noted that majority of the people who posted defaming posts here are females... That says a lot innit?. Have a nice day.

It should show You that women expect you to tell them as soon as you notice such from their daughters or kids. Cant you see?

Chubhie:
I'm afraid to break this news to you--You've shown all the traits of a master pedophile.
You must report and seek help. The sisters are there yet,you got sexually attracted to a 5 year old

Lets slow down here, I don't think it has gotten to this stage. Abeg, let's just not start calling each other names here. Abeg una for the sake of God. We can disagree and speak our minds without accusing someone without proof.

Sermwell:
Iam not saying I should earn more than him! But you should consider that I spend some money going around and also spend on recharge cards to clarify issues on phone and make the deal possible! The only time he spends for transport is when the deal is set and we are going to conduct the seminar! Don't you think I deserve more for my effort?

Then both of you should agree on what to spend on marketing. Get a cheap phone and then let the business fund the calls and transport . Both of you first remove the agreed sum, then split the remaining according to agreed upon formular or just tell him to give you 3K extra for it.

Some main kwesion sef ehn!

Next time discuss howmuch goes to you guys. You made a mistake. Even if it is your own dad, as long as it is business, discuss every detail and even sign a contract. Just write it on paper and you both sign with a witness.
Eh for now, you can ask him for some extra cash. This is the next best time to discuss your cut.

nextprince:
Address the cause rather than wasting ur time on the symptoms as that wouldn't solve the problem. The Christians should stop blaspheming cos the muslims don't joke with it. The earlier u take that instruction, the better. Must u insult their religion as if ur life depends on it? Freedom of expression does not include insulting other people's religion. let the mentions start rolling in, nonsense.

Do you know that a simple talk can be termed as blasphemy? You would do well to ask those radical and vengeful Moslems not to be touchy and blood thirsty in the first place. What you consider to be blasphemy may not be Co sidered to be such by godfearing humans. That they hide under the cloak of blasphemy to carry out planned vindictive attacks doesn't mean the accusations ate true..ask them what the blasphemy is now you will hear very flimsy excuse.

NevetsIbot:
delishpot and cococandy. Before you start your cynical converstations. Note... I've never handled a situation like this before. And this proug 4yr old is soo arrogant that if you beat her now, she'll be back to torment you everytime and the only correction she heeds to are those from her parents. Even her brothers can't wrap their hands round her. Ive never seen a Kid as spoilt as her. So, stop defaming me. I came here for help and advice to tackle this situation.

I know how africans think and I know things can turn around against me if I take some actions. My security first. Although I love the girl and want to rid her of the bad habit, I can't sleep in a police cell cos of that. It's not easy to tell a mom that ''I think her daughter has been introduced to sex''.... You guys keep thinking I'm freezing cos its a sexual advancement. Wrong! If curvy ladies couldnt get their hands on me, one tiny 4yr old can't!

And I've beaten this girl with my drumsticks cos of her habit times without numbers thinking she'd change. Talked to her, it all bounced off her head. You don't know the girl like I do! So! Stop the bloody defamation.

And Delishpot.... You don't seem cool when you throw slight accusations at me just cos I want advice on this issue. I won't rush into things cos of you.

Dear, I am not causing you of anything, how crazy can a 4 year old be that you can not tame her if you are consistent? If you do not entertain or a knowledge her presence, she would move on. She is only 4 for Gods sake. She can not scheme like an adult female who is bent on bedding a man Na. Reading on, I see you sounding like you are in deep trouble or experiencing some trauma due to her action towards you. Haba you sef reason it Na.

Very clear to see.

Illiteracy and ignorance at it's peak. OP, on a good day I would question your IQ level at this stage. If you find such story worthy of being shared under such ignorant heading but I won't do so.

Abeg OP, you are sounding strange to me now O. As if you are helpless with the girl and you are acting like a victim sef. A child of four is what is giving you all this headache? You can not tell her mom, you can not tell a pastor or elder, you can not shake the little kid off either, you are having sleepless nights, worrying as if the child is saying sleep with me or lose your job. I don't get it anymore O. What exactly do you want? As in what do you want us to say or do on this matter? Maybe it's me not understanding it anymore. Why is it hard to tell her to leave your side when she cones around? Or ask her mom to hold her as she is disturbing you and you need to focus? If you can't tell mom, why not tell dad? Hian

Izonpikin:
see me see wahala oo..so you want the communities who are dead afraid of these guys to go around yapping about the same miscreants that wreak havoc in the community...if the armies cant carry out their intelligence well they can as well leave the community alone...rubbish..


so the job of our army is to carry out reprisal attacks on community people..do you hear your goddamn self...oya let them try it na....

My brother, that is the mentality of many Nigerians. They think squealing on some one is easy. If that brother was in the same boat as those people, he would not say one word. What with one not knowing who is on their payroll. Before you know it, your Identity may be leaked and then, where do you escape to with your family? Will the police protect them? The villagers are also victims u fortunately, the army may take the easy way out by willing the land of every living being. As if the militants themselves will hang around for long. Most unfortunate is the fact that the military may also have the same "you are one of them if you do not report them" mentality towards the villagers.
Its just like saying because boko haram members operate from a certain village, the govt sends in military to wipe out the whole place.

double0seven:
I'm not going comment on who's right or wrong between Stella and he ex-husband, Eurotomi.

what I would like to talk about is about the son's public remarks about the father.

No matter what, it very highly disrespectful and rude for the boy to talk to his father in such a manner. It is obvious Stella approves of his indecent and highly disrespectful behavior towards the father, which is really sad.

The boy has no right to say what he said to his father. The matter is really between the mother and father. It would have been better if Stella spoke for herself.

That boy or man lacks proper upbringing for him to be so unbridled with mouth, even publicly towards his father. Even, his friends, though they may not say it, but will be distributed by such attitude.

Yeah, he should smile and endure. That has always being the way our society operates. Just smile while suffering and pretend it's not your cup of tea. See where it has led us.
Do you know what that young man has seen/heard to boldly come out and say such? Are you in the know about what has happened in the past? How are you sure it was just between dad and mom? Do you know the impact dad and mom quarrel has on kids? Do you think a child can shrug off abuse from one parent to the other and say oh well, it's between mom and dad? Even friends feel impact of their friend's problems talk less of kids and parents.

Well, even if you tried, you will not die in battle.
But don't think you should die because the general entered water. Do it because you have brothers in arms and civilians who depend on your support to sleep safe and sound.

idupaul:
Any stranger that drinks from those drinks with dem boys is on his own ..they are doing that as part of a yahoo plus ritual

For real? Baba told them to spend as if they have arrived?

Bravo, news like this gladens the heart.

Typical trash there is always an excuse as ro why the man would do what ever he decides to do and as usual, our society blames the woman for it. Make una well done. Na una daughters go surffer am.

I suspect say.....Dem kill that man.
Someone broke his neck and set it up to look like suicide

freshvine:
In the old when a man pay your bride price and marriage ends, children are left with the father cos it is adjudged children belongs to him.

Nowadays women runs away with children. So if that's the case, yes. The ex husband is still responsible for the upkeep but independent women out of hatred block the man from providing and handle everything just like Stella Oduah case

Hmn, okay. But I understand why moms try to leave with their kids sha. Not every broken marriage has to do with mom being bad. Sometimes the men are the cause.and we can't blame a woman for leaving an abusive home if she could afford it plus taking her kids from the toxic home. But spoiling dad in front of kids is a no no for me ESP if dad was neutral with the kids and not abusive in any way towards them.
Thanks for clearing the Igbo marriage culture with me.

freshvine:
Dowry is like a seed money. Only parents of a bride know about it and accept.

A groom do not only pay bride price, there are certain rituals /obligations done to the kins men, and community. That's the real deal and those things are not refunded back cos it is regarded a taboo.

So when a man collect back his bride price, he is still entitled to the spoil of that marriage while it last cos the community that gathered and gave him their daughter have not and cannot gather again to return their rights They've accepted.

Hian, I thought bride price was the koko Na. That, When a man takes it back, he has given up his rights and duty and has nothing more to do with the woman and her kids. Just a question, Can the woman whose bride price has been returned go meet the man for the upkeep of the kids?

OP, teach him how to write proper English Na. He needs help. Abeg help him.

If they returned dowry, and you accept, that means the kids are not yours again Na. Abeg, people that know this culture better should educate me here O.


I feel this dads pain sha. How I wish they settled this ish smoothly so that everyone involved would find peace.

NevetsIbot:
Bro, Ive decided to take that step, to spend very little time with her. Before my new gets on NL... And that girl can pretend to be hurt to put her brothers into trouble.

Ion think I can tell anyone. This little girl actually looks for ways for her mouth to be close to mine and she does strong eye contact. Whoever is doing stuffs with her is a bastard

Okay, better run fast before one uncle would touch her for real and she mention your name when they ask her.
She is a child, she has a crush on you all kids go through that phase just that for many, it's not sexual. For them its innocent likeness of someone and you hear them say...... I want to marry so so person , even wanting to marry mom or dad and it is normal. Just that she has been exposed to sexual stuff and it is unhealthy that you continue to allow her explore those things with you. For her sake, you should tell somebody that can pass the info to her mom so that she can be adequately supervised and protected from worse thing happening to her in future. For your sake, stay away from her.

NevetsIbot:
Gee... Whats with the finger pointing ke?....its best to just run from the church.. ASAP after reporting to her parents

Why run? You are not guilty Na. Just dont say she has been doing it with you for long. Just say you noticed it just now and you thought it wise to tell somebody so the mom can supervise her better. Unless her mom is #Jagunlabi and would turn around d to fight with you or blame you, then abeg, just stop entertaining the girl.

Put her for jail and throway the keys. No excuse

cliquevibes:
Women....Lord, me nt to ever encounter dis kind of women in my life

Yeah, no man on earth has ever done this sort of thing. Only women do it.