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So devil can steal your peace this easily? So you to carry ya two left legs waka go find out of you be mammmy water true true based on what that mad man said ba?
What if that pastor wanted to chop ya money and had told you yes! You are the queen of the coast herself? And start making you attend service and pay for deliverance?
Let thunder be preparing to fire any useless man that will use church and tell me that any of my kids is mammy water. Chei, I will burn down that his church. Anyhoe, better respect yourself and rebuke that demonic brother. Next time you are in such a situation rebuke the spirit in that person and let your holly ghost fire be louder than his own. Inshort tell people that he is doing it because he toasted you and you rejected his advances.

Egyptian Bride.

I can replace any of them o

Dharniel:
true, them go dey chop like say nah the "last supper"...

Haha, you get mouth o.

INTROVERT:
WTF

Lol

Queen of ge.nitalia and D'banj

Shake bumbum aka Oliver twist

Waiting.....

greatgod2012:
never knew you're a daddy o. Thought you're a mummy. God bless you real good!

One of the things we have inculcated and achieved with our kids is "operation no lie". No matter what, don't tell a lie and they've been up to expectation in that area.


Honestly, i've concluded that it's easier to raise a well-behaved children when one is calm and cool than when one is violent and unnecessarily nervous and difficult.

Exactly. My mom, bless her soul was the harsh type. She had 6 of us and raised us up alone (Dad traveled offten) and strictly plus she and dad were having problems from time to time and she frequently poured her anger on us. It affected us all. Some of us turned out cold, and easy to push around, not being able to say NO, some of us turned out strong headed and have the I dont care attitude. I learnt from my parents how not to treat a child. The feeling is different when you and your child are on same frequency. Its just different when your child does stuff cos the child respects you and knows what makes you happy unlike when they do it out of fear.

Hiannn. These people are demons o

taryour:
You are MALE? Dint know o. All the same thanks for the point sir.

Welcome

greatgod2012:
you really need to exercise self control and restore his confidence by showing him more love. Honestly, nobody enjoys being yelled at, even you, try as much as possible to stop it. Call him and ask him to look at you straight in the eyes, and tell him ..............."i love you, i want you to happy and free around me, i want you to see me as your friend.
Gradually and persistently, you will start to win him back. If he makes mistake, call him calmly, point out the mistake to him and educate him on how to do it better if faced with similar situation next time.

All in all, a yoruba adage say, "eni ti o ba ma mu obo, a se bi obo' .......meaning if you want to catch a monkey, you have to do like monkey. Sometimes, you have to come down to the level of these children before you can totally win them over.
It is well.

Very true

greatgod2012:
Wonderful!
Beautiful!
You know what? Almost everyday, i talk to myself early in the morning.
Things like.....
Today, i'm not yelling at anyone today including my children!
I'm not exchanging words with anyone today!
I'm going to be calm and cool throughout today!
And i do this often, whenever i'm stressed, i let my kids know, i call them, and tell them, "kids, i'm tired and stressed, i won't like to be disturbed, because if you do, i might be tempted to yell at you. Do you want me to yell at you? They all scream......noooooooo. Then, in that case, play gently and don't disturb me. You can now go". My baby is the most troublesome, almost 5 now, he must just make report of his elder siblings, and once he comes the first time, i arrest him, and tell him sleep beside me.

As you have said, it has to do with self control indeed.
Personally, i don't like yelling or spanking, i prefer tasking and withdrawal, as well as eyeing.
May God help us all,

Yes o. God help us. Its not easy.
Just tonight I noticed some bruise on my daughters leg, she just turned 4 I asked her what happened, she said her brother pushed her. Their mom said be calm, let me talk to him. She went and talked to him.
When he came into the room, I asked him what happened. He saw the dissapointment in my face and wanted to cry. I said dont cry just tell me how she got hurt. He said you wont yell and get angry? I said no, I promise. I just want to know what happened so I can know how to care for her,
He said if I tell you we fought wressling, will you be mad at me?
I said no, I promised you already.
He said ok, I was wrestling with her anf she fell.
I said see? This is why you must not wrestle with your sister. She is too small for that.
He hugged her and said sorry. Now, if I was a yeller, he will never tell me the truth unless I flog him.
I told them anytime you spoil something or hurt yourselves, you must tell me immediately so that I can try to fix it. I wont yell at you.

taryour:
Nice one egbon. Does yelling/shouting equal to over reacting/ being oo harsh

And instance is when you have kids playing rough, running around and jumping , struggling for items, rough plays which could lead to falling and injuries. And after trying to calm them down with the best possible calm voice and still go ahead to play rough. What do we do in such instance

Seperate them.
When my kids play rough, I split them up. I ask them to read, draw, paint or I play some edicational video for them.
Look no one is saying yelling is bad, just dont make yelling a rule or way of life.
My kids know I hardly yell at them so when I yell, they get shocked and know I am not joking and they sit up. most times, they cry cos to them, I have "quarreled" them.
See how you handle them.
When they wake up, tell them you want change in your home. You dont want to yell at them again, you want them to listen to you and you want them to express freely how they feel to you. When they are messing up and you say stop, tbey should listen and stop and you all put your hands together and agree. Eh, NEW ERA.
So anytime they dont listen to you, remind them of tge pact and show your dissapointment by sepperating them and giving them things to keep tgem busy.
With my kids I have drawing books, color pencils, water color etc. So i make them do art work and make sure each child faces his own. If anyone disturbs I send that one to bed.

Sweetlily2819:
Yes am always angry whenever he makes mistakes and sometimes spank he often times.pls,how do i stop,because its really affecting our relationship.

Self control my dear. I used to be like that with my kids.
You have to remver that a child is not a perfect being, they are prone to mistakes, they have their own desires, wants and ideas, they are people, alive and with free will.
You should talk to yourself, anytime you freak out at him, you must call him and hug him and in soft tone tell him you shouldnt have yelled and you will try to stop being angry at him.
You must work on yourself too. First thing in the morning tell yourself today you want to be calm and collected esp with the child. Before you scold him, close your eyes and ask if the action or deed is worth you yelling. Kids must do what kids do, ie break a cup, spill water or juice, pour sabd in their hair etc. Such things should not be made to look like disasters. Just caution the child to make him see your dissapointment and handle the situation calmly.
From time to time you may forget yourself and overreact, when that happens, just take a breath, caln down, sit and call your child. Hug him abd say mommy had a hard day today, how do you feel? Based on his response, talk confdence back into him. With time he and you will trust each other.
The bottom line is to be calm and handle situations with wisdom.

Lol. E remain small. When time reach na NTA him go give the pin.

Blessings upon him in his hussles. Man must chop.

Now am giving my Testimony
Oh ohohoh


Pkele o Baby Test(y)
Many happy years ahead for you
Grow up to be a kind, livibg abd peaceful woman.

Street sweepers.

Nigeria go better.......one day.

Make person no die there ooo. Hope tgr owner is safe.

Its sad. See their wicked plans?

Cheii.

Nice one OP

Sweetlily2819:
Nice,my child is scared of me how can i make he closer to me.He is so quiet,i want him to be Active and smart in everything he does.please help.

Maybe you over react to the childs mistakes? Are you always angry? Do you always yell? These can make your child fear you cos he wont know what he may do wrong and you explode on him.

Oga, look for a well grounded beautiful girl to date.

Na wa o. FP please

seniorklop:
Are u sure you are not owing NEPA? Lol

Haha et me go check my NEPA bill again.

Jenny1010:
your mother must be an old slut

Haba, no fighting

Werehkpe:
Yes you will not see the improvement just yet. WHY?

1. Before GEJ took over we were generating ONLY 4,500MW - which is grossly inadequate to even supply only Lagos.
2. PMB took over when we were generating just above 1000MW - because GEJ admin had dropped electricity generation by almost 3,000MW


If now there is improvement, we will be using 1000MW as a base. Right now we are generating about 3000MW which is an improvement from 1000MW. The FG is targetting about 10,000MW by the end of this year. If they achieve this, it will be the first time in our history we are generating above 5,500MW

Good explanation. It was good at first but after ellection it went down.

honeychild:
Check your transformer o...we are having light in my area. In fact I had to get up last night to turn off d a.c. I was freezing.

Realy? Enjoynent babe. It comes for like 4 hrs and goes for 20 as I heard. I will check again.

Skillz02:
Contact your power distribution in your area perhaps wuna transformer get problem

E fit be o. I will contact them.

emzila:
Cant really understand what is happening in PH but hatred and sentiment apart, electricity situation has improve nationwide. And we can see that aside d bokoharam issue, sanity is gradually returning to our dear country. At my place in lagos, we now have regular light yet pay less than what we used to pay when light was not as stable as dis. We used to pay between 9k-11k and enjoyed light for btw 8-12 hours per day but now we pay between 6k-6.5h and enjoy light for btw 18-22hours. Location: magoro-cement area of agege, lagos.

Wow, thats good. Looking forward to our turn o. Better life for all.