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uboma: I also agree with the writer. But he better watch his back because I'm sure they libel him an infidel and may resort to eliminating him for condemning the action of destroying those bottles of alcohol. What a bunch of hypocrites they all are.

See how you contradict yourself. I wonder if some of you write just so it appears you have said something.

How could he have written it and have Muslims agree with him and they still all get called a bunch of hypocrites?

Aren't you the hypocrite here for calling someone who says his mind a hypocrite even when you don't know him.

It is a shame that many like you abound.

The prejudice is unfair and shameful.

This is interesting.

Gimba Kakanda writes on facebook-

Sometimes we design our doom without exactly knowing its backlash. Having been a fan and stalker of Kwankwaso, I can understand the expectations of the locals on religion. His predecessor left behind a legacy of shariah he either enforces or be labelled "liberal" - which is a politically correct word for an apostate. He is a politician, a likable one with impressive cult following, and has to play this "religion" card to his advantage.

But the destructions of hundreds of bottles of alcohol in a bid to entrench shariah is an obvious violation of a people's fundamental human rights - the non-Muslims based in Kano are never to be affected by any injunction that is inherently Islamic. If you condemned the reported ban of Islam in Angola, which is not even true, and yet applaud Kwankwaso's militant anti-alcohol campaign which violates the rights of non-Muslims, may God redeem your hypocrisy!

If you don't know the backlash, here is an analogy: one day, a state in eastern Nigeria may consider, say, the calls for prayer from mosques there pollutions, noise pollutions, and for their convenience, they may pass a legislation outlawing that aspect of Muslims' rites. And when we react, they will offer a predictable excuse that we're just a negligible minority and that if we can't obey that, the road across the Niger is open. We abuse each other's rights mindlessly, polarising the country, yet nobody finds the wisdom to sue perpetrators over violations of rights - because it's God's business?

I don't know how long it'll take the black race to evolve into rational humans. This is why the toughest thing in life is being a Blackman. Being born black naturally qualifies you for an activist. You see too many aberrations wherever you turn to: aside from racism, we deal with self-denigrating, intra-racial carnage over hitherto alien ideas and beliefs. Well, we weren't given options to select skin colours of our choice!

What do you think?

Another example.

One of the things that got her into the union was how much he was able to spend on her. She was used to the big life anyway. He met her as a high maintenance lady.

He did not allow her to work because he could provide for her needs.

But he lost in a big investment. Now, she can't have all she used to and just cannot deal with that.

How practicable is it that she stays on and cuts her spendings and just accepts the inadequacy and lives with him like that.

Looks impracticable to me but looks like breaking the marriage isn't a good option. How does she handle this?

Andyblaze: Isn't this too early for you to be on the net

Do you know where I am?


male or female? are you interested in Op?

I have heard people say that love is selfish. But does it have to be?

They say that the reason someone wants the other person is for what they can get from that person and it is just not enough to simply love.

So, in some cases, people only seek those who can satisfy certain needs of theirs and there is nothing wrong with that. But what happens when the need can not be met anymore due to incapacitation, a sickness, or a crumbling economy.

Would it make sense to drop the thoughts of entitlement and have it in mind from the start that we could really do with less from our spouses.


I want us to use this thread to discuss instances where a couple can actually not ask for too much from each other and still have a successful union.

A case study-

The man cannot cook. So, he married a woman who can with the hope that she would be able to feed him and his children with delicious meals . She agrees to this. After some time in the marriage, and after successfully discharging this duty for a while she gets a promotion at work. This now keeps her too busy to do as she used to. Leaving her job is not an option as she believes so much in hardwork and financial independence.

Now, breaking the marriage up is not a considered option at this time as a lot of energy and perseverance have been put in the marriage and Children involved.

If the man would learn to do the cooking or allow a maid do the cooking or allow the family get their food from restaurants at those times that the wife is unable, without harbouring ill-feelings about it, the marriage can go on smoothly with no one hurt.

But if he keeps on with the 'You must do as I say, the opposite may happen.

Such thoughts as this run in my head. I wonder how much practical they are.

kulyie: Salam maleku ke? In romance section you will have to move this thread to islam section.as a matter of fact notify maclatunji or deols.they will help you with that

if you are looking for a partner in romance section,na 'keferi' you go find who will tell you they cant fast with you,go to the mosque 3 times a day,they'll rather masturbate with their vibratorh while you are doing your morning prayers or whatever you peeps call it

You never can tell o. Most of the ones in the Muslim section are not ready to mingle. He may just find his amarya here

But if he does want it in the Muslims section, he'd have to send his request to the romance mods.

moved to religion section.

Acidosis: Yes.. That's the norm and you can't change that.

Though, you can send your husband to the kitchen..
Nothing is new under the sun

Everything is changeable. If men can stop farming and hunting, as their primary duty, women can stop cooking. #justsaying

lady gogo: 1000 likes!


Why are Ibadan raised people like that though? The most homely friends i have are from Ibadan. Those peeps can whip up some bad ass Amala.

we love Amala..It is our food.

I am probably homely too. What does homely mean sef? It always sounds vague to me.

Logicboy03: Wrong, it usually ends with you going back to your cave. You can't ban me here.

Take your butthurt there

hahahha!! Is this one actually talking to me like this??


This is my last post here.

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Sissie, let him be done fooling himself. he will soon come crawling to the Islam section. Have a good night deary..
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How much I await the DSs..LOl

Joshthefirst: maybe its because you're online.
In real life, I'm sure you won't resort to mockery. If you and deols meet in real life, there will be tension, maybe even hostile tension.

You're an atheist mehn, isn't the best way to be friendly and "human" so others will see that despite religious or irreligious differences we're all the same inside?

I honestly do not think mockery like this will do anything other than promote more division, tension and hostility.



And my post was adressed to her and everyone involved in the bickering as well as you sir.

In real life, his type wouldn't dare.

Igi imu jina sori..

I can tell that his likes wont even get close. No be them fault..lol. No wonder someone is talking about how Seun treats me..lol.

Joke of the century.

Alfa Seltzer: Why don't you get Seun to unhide my and LB's comments so everybody can read what we think about how he treats you.

Lol.

sometimes I wonder if you lot are kids.

How he treats me? Are you for real?

Now I know I shouldnt bother.

BUT it is a new me talking, I would have expressed what I think of your IQ.

Logicboy03: Is this an attempt at trolling from a mod?

Bwahaha.......she must be pained

You keep mentioning pain. Is that an attempt at expressing how you feel??

hahhaa. don't try BS with me. You know how it usually ends. you'd wish you never started.

Looks like a party of the banned is going on here.

I know it hurts to get banned but you all can do well by being good boys.

If I don't train you, who will





oops! I await the DSs

the spineless are backing each other..lol


lol


let him show his worth nahh

Pattey: I'm not of your ilk that threatens to get attention! Or kills innocent people to appease some 'g'od!

I dare you to make your records open that you have not been exchanging correspondence with individuals who could be terrorists!

So Seun has been 'begging' you? What a shame! And HBG is not up to your level . . . Clown!

Shekau will find in you, a worthy bride!

The only reason that I won't insult you is that I decided to stop insulting people. Fact is, nothing you say takes a sweat off me. I just like to make myself clear anyway is the reason I have responded to your likes in the past and is why I am responding right now.

You gust shot yourself in the foot by expressing why you have been mentioning my username like your life depended on it since you got the ban..You want attention. Let us give you one but you better be ready for this, boy.

If you are sure of yourself

and are not just seeking attention

and are not just getting your jobless hands busy by typing on here, you would keep to your threath and at least have deols silenced.



You made a threat, Why not stick to it and carry it out and not try to push the responsibility??

I can so easily laugh at your naivety. I could tell you'r one of those who think you'r smart even when you are not.

I'd be here sipping my drink while I await your guys from the DSS..

Prove your worth, man..Show us what you can do.

Go ahead.. You might just be working your way to nairaland stardom.

coogar: i like your honesty - ogbonna or no ogbonna.



all we are saying is there are gender roles - there are some stuff men are naturally good at, same as the women.

do men not open doors for women? help carry their bags? i cannot count the number of times i have helped mothers carry their buggies at train stations - i dunno these women but it's just something most women cannot do themselves....

Many women will cook for their families. I have no problem cooking for mine.

But the problem is the idea of gender roles. Things don't have to be so and we've seen instances where roles have been interchanged and perfectly so.

[quote author=tpia@]I am yet to meet a white woman who openly says she doesnt cook.

Maybe i havent met anyone from high money so far.[/quote]who cares what a white woman does??

so so unnecessary. You do realise that our daily struggles and those of white women are different?

chaircover: Mama niyen

But seriously would you leave your bedroom at 2am in the morning to go outside and switch on the gen, if oga was lying beside you
Me I wouldnt o! I will even wake him up if he is sleeping to ask him to go and do it.

LOl.

I don't have to do these things but I try to. Boys do the gen thing in my house but I make sure I go close and ask them how. I hate to be in a situation where I am not able to help myself.

So, imagine that no one is at home and I needed to On the gen? I would just go and do it..I have only had to do it a few times though.

and I was very young when I learnt to change the tyre. I havent done it as an adult but I remember I did a part of it and I have watched enough times to know that I would get down to business when and if need be.

My problem with all these cooking wahala is, some men get too comfy having everything handed to them that, their pregnant wife won't even get help from them. She is made of iron and must even pound yam.

coogar: good - now preach the same to the other women to learn to fix "those things".

my preaching is to both men and women to learn to take responsibility for themselves and not put their inadequacies on other people.

If you must eat home cooked food, learn to cook and if you won't pay to have your bulb fixed, learn to fix it.

[quote author=$ugardaddy]I don't care how delicious or tasteless my wife's food is, I just enjoy it as it is. However, if she annoys me and shows no remorse, my most potent weapon is to always abandon her food for days (or weeks sometimes) until she apologizes and I am convinced she is truly sorry. I doubt if this OP can reject his wife's food even when slapped and insulted on top of it when he evenetually marries.[/quote]So after cooking, you would allow her time and energy be wasted just like that?

Is she allowed to punish you in some ways when you also offend her and until you beg and beg?

coogar: just like women should learn to change car tyres, repair garage doors, install huge electrical appliances, change a bulb, replace a blown fuse.

there is no big deal in any of those. I like that I am able to do anything I want to without having to rely on others.

So actually, I would fix all of those things if I could and not wait that someone else must do them for me.

I'll let things go as Seun asked.

But I have to clarify that my intention was not to fight humbledbygrace. I choose my fights and she's just not it.

But did I read someone threathening me?? That must be the most hilarious thing ever.

Hahhhhahah!! I am so scared!! Lol..I am shaking and in fact afraid to go out...LOl.

Shouldnt I just deactivate like the many cowards?? hahahaha!!

Dokubo has the president's ears.

All of u talking Yesterday about how Nigeria can't be concerned about him only got me laughing.


President Jo will do everything for his second term and Dokubo is one of his boys. What were you all thinking sef

[quote author=tpia@]This is just wrong.

If a man is expected to learn how to cook, then why cant the woman also learn how to cook?

And since when do women glory in telling men they (the men) are expected to be the ones doing the cooking? Where is all this belated women's lib coming from, since white women do cook for their african or non african spouses?

If you are both working and you expect to be too tired to cook afterwards, thats different ftom openly stating the man is the one who should be in the kitchen.[/quote]Men and women should learn to cook.