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ckkris: Maclatunjihad is a latent and potential bomber, that is if Christians can be deceived to relax, believe the lie that Islam means peace. Maclatunjihad can strike when its safe for him to do so. They don't ever want to go to their virgins alone.

Prove it.

So, are they supposed to sit with each other and say, you know, I earn ...

Or for one to ask, how.much do you earn?



Or is it just ok for the two of them to just not snoop around nor be hiding.


I believe most couples dont know each other's financial worth in specific terms.

Nairatalks:
As a new member here, I truly find this disturbing. This comment was made by Seun on the religion section.

You would make a good experimental organism. I didnt want to say lab rat specimen..lol


How you feel comfortable with your lies need some examining. A new form of personality disorder could also be found out.

Faking names and identity and religion and all that...

bellong: ^^^ That is the advice of religious fanatics

Name calling. Smh

It is normal for people to provide different views.

There was a time a woman came here to claim her husband didnt tell her he was infertile before they got married. 99% of the people on the thread advised her to divorce him because he deceived her. This is also deceit. He waited until they had their child before making religion an issue.From the same point of view, you may be giving same advice and that would be your view.

In the case mentioned, everyone thought having a child was important. In the same view, you can think making it to paradise is a must.

Before you call people names, try to have an understanding of what you would have acted like if presented the same scenario.

You might end up being the real fanatic here for making comments out of prejudice.

This man is abusing his wife.


It is a shame.

The foundation of their relationship was shaky. He, acting like a maniac and she, couldnt live without him.


I wonder what she is still doing with him?

O ga o.


Una no go rest ontop this issue?


Fact is, no Muslim on NL has been proven to be violent. Christians have made similar 'threats'.

That we have not made a case out of it does not mean they are saints.

If Seun's statement adds any value to any of you's sleep, please accept my congratulations.

Sweetmom115: Thanks alot

I tried to email you but I got failure delivery reply.

Please try again or use the nairaland PM.

You can also give me your email add and I'll send u a mssg in sha Allah.

@AbdH


Seriously? You know so much about the Qur'an but failed to see the part that says that you should preach to them with wisdom??


How does anyone listen to you if that is the best way to present it? You are doing more harm than good, unfortunately.

Interested

She is emotionally attached to the other guy.

And what you have to offer her, money, he can also provide.

She is long gone. The earlier you realise this, the better.

It is a pity sha that you have to go through all of this.

Wow. Thats good.


I will adopt that in a different style.


Something like, 'what are your long term goals'?

majalisa: deols in wonderland!ur fantacies are too bad if not to worse...Gudluck

Pfewwww.


But not every man is gonna be counting how much they spend on their wife and children. Not everyone's gonna have their status as men trampled upon.

Not everyone is hopeful of being broke while married. Some people do work hard enough to take care of their family.

Now if you've never seen such, PASS...and dony refer to me again.

Raymondenyi: Sorry dear, really gotta ask! How old re u? Becos from ur comments thus far u seem,obviously single, too young, Naïve n inexperienced 2 comment on issues of matrimony. It 'll do u better good, If u just pass, n come to contribute wen u re mature @ heart n married!!!
No insults ppls; just saying d oobvious

The problem with the dumb posts is, even it gets liked by the dumber. Just when you think that soon enough the dumbs would stop existing, the dumber comes to like the posts.

Now the dumb thinks he was liked and feels wise and the dumber is happy there is his like.

The vicious circle continues. #justsaying.

olawalebabs: I still have the opportunity to go 'masna' wa 'sulasa' or 'arubawa'. (some people will be furious now). Deols, when last do you contact her?

Why should other people be furious over your decision?

It is your life o jare. Enjoy as you like.

And about her, na me suppose dey ask u about her nahh.

The responses got me speechless. Things cannot be sooo bad.

I believe people who have it good are more than we think. But the tales of the bad are louder.

They will learn Yoruba first.

But if I marry a non Yoruba, we'll probably be speaking English. Efforts would then be made to ensure they learn the native languages.

What is good for you can only be known by you.

Understand whom you are and what you want. Then when you see it, dont let it pass you buy.

It would be interesting to hear of nikkah(s) from among us.

Is everyone here sooo young? Abi what is the matter sef??

tbaba1234: Lol!!

The sister is the missing 'X'. I am just saying what I have in mind, when I meet the sister, she might object.

Still a long road.

Okay.

I Wish you the best.

busar: They weren't married in the first place because it's prohibited for a muslim lady to marry a non muslim man.The first thing she should do is to terminate the marriage and make taubah.

What is your proof. I know that a Muslim should not. But it has happened already. It feels like the disliked acts and not haram to me. Please provide your proof.


I know that the conditions for marriage are four and Islam is never mentioned as one of them.

joker5180: Salam brothers and sisters in islam, am following a thread on nairaland in which a muslim lady married to a non muslim husband is worried because her husband said she must convert to his religion and her mother said "a good wife MUST follow her husband religion" what is ur take on this pls?

Thank you for pointing the thread out.

Sissie: Is financial contribution the only thing that makes one's wife an asset or not a liability.
There are men who take pride in catering to the needs of their wives, and its a thing of joy to be able to take care of your family COMPLETELY

Thank you o.

Is being broke something to be proud of? Any man running away from financial responsibility better keep running

No bus stop around my side

@Op

Be careful whose advice you take. Many of those telling you to go ahead and be with him are saying so because they are Christians.

I dont know how much of a Muslim you are. But I can be sure that you are concerned about your hereafter and that of your children.
of course you dont want to lose out on al jannah just because of your husband's threat.

If he truly loves you like you claimed, he wont be lording this over you. In fact, when you maintain your stance about remaining a Muslim, he will allow you practice your religion because as much as you don't want to lose him, he also doesnt want to lose you.


Please talk to me here-

deols001naija@yahoo.com

@tbaba, una dey plan this thing big time ehn? Shey we get to meet the sister?

joker5180: what an interesting thread, nice to meet u all

It is good to meet you too

joker5180: Salam brothers and sisters in islam, am following a thread on nairaland in which a muslim lady married to a non muslim husband is worried because her husband said she must convert to his religion and her mother said "a good wife MUST follow her husband religion" what is ur take on this pls?

Can you post the link to that thread?

The woman should not have married a non Muslim in the first place. Too bad.

showietee: salam aleikum brother and sister,
Morning, hope your weekend was lovely?

^^^my intention on the trivial issue could be drawn from the post, the hadith brother lanre posted afterwards is also a footnote in the same part of the source but i wasn't heading that direction, reason i didn't include it.
To me, the post was a lesson for brothers on “consciousness and carefulness while relation wit females“ (our sisters, aunts, wives and mothers)....am wholeheartedly sorry it was misinterpreted... Am human prone to err(sisters pls forgive and forget my err).

Haven't known that “the best of man is he that see good in others“ belief me i wouldn't wanna talk ill of anyone.

I belief my sisters must have cleared it now,thanks.

Wish all al the best.
Maa‘salam.

Wa alaykum salam.

It is alright. May Allah forgive us all.

ShehuAba: Salam alaikum brothers and sisters.
It's been a while here and i have really missed alot.
Let me comment as follows:
The issue of women not been contempted. Well, let me say categorically that this a characteristic of all human beings whether male or female.
Though, in a marriage knowing fully well that a MAN is supposed to take care of the woman ideally.
It's thus expectd dat statements like that are made from her. But experience has shown that it's usually made out of anger, frustration and not in the real sense of it.
But as a MAN if your wife tells you that what have you done for her since you're married,Then Your reaction then wil speak more for you.
If U're d type that'l go on mentioning i bought phone, laptop, cars etc, U'l just keep on goofing because she'l keep on mentioning what others have done for their wives which you've failed to do which's a minus on ur own part.
Things like these are expected in marriage, but the way u manage it portray the kind of Husband u are.
Finally As Singles, let's imbibe the culture of been grateful when we're married.
As a Man, u should be able to thank ur wife for washing ur clothes, cooking, taking care of d home etc.
And as a woman, u should be grateful when he pays ur bills, buy u clothes, take u out etc.
All these make Marriage blissful, joyous, memorable and as prophet said been the best to his/her family.
Prophet S.A.W said: 'THE BEST AMONGST YOU IS THE BEST TO HIS/HER FAMILY,AND AM THE BEST AMONGST YOU TO MY FAMILY.

Thank you for that. It makes so much sense

lanrexlan: Action? Why putting the larger part of the thing on my head? I didn't bring the idea of the hadith afterall,I only give reference.I am really sorry ma

No problem sir

You actually only needed to see how we people react to such things as this and try to avoid it in the future.

Mintayo: Polygamy will not stop him...if the allegations were tru,d no of women he must v been intimate wit wld b more dn 4!
Adultery is 'spirit' that cannot be stoped by polygamy...what gurantees u that all d his wives will satisfy him!

Btw...madam,don't dodge his question; can you be the 3rd or 4th wife of a man?
Will u allow ur husband to marry like 3 women on top u?

So polygyny wont stop him? That is your opinion sha.


He said something about his wife's bedabilities. One would think that he'd make use of the church's counselling facilities.

But then, I am still interested in ways out for this young man and people like him.

Could it be temptations from the ladies's assemblage? Is there a christian way out?

yinkson: @deols hope d lucky dude isn't from ijb

An Ijebu man with a difference??

Are all Ijb men the same?