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Sissie: @deols I totally agree with you this is about how awkward, not about the process of going to ask him.
Telling his mahram or her own isnt the point, the point is will a lady even bother to show the interest and even go ahead to tell her mahram. Best or better way isn't the issue.

And true even thou something is better it doesnt mean, the other scenarios isn't allowed in Islam.

And in this situation we are assuming he's single and searching, and that he's a good Muslim brother.

yemi 22: Powerful Tips for the Last 10 Nights by Tawfique Chowdhury

1. Do not let your 'performance' until now affect your last 10 days. The moment of forgiveness could be today or anytime in the coming days! It is not all lost! If you sincerely wish it could have been better - Chin up and get ready to make it your best yet! Start with a positive, sincere intention!

2. Today, take a little time to read the Tafseer of Surah al-Qadr to understand what actually happens this night! You will feel its power & greatness so much more!

3. Do not wait for the 27th Night to give it your "all". The entire last 10 days should be your target. Stay up each night! Would you want to miss Laylatul Qadr even "by chance"?

4. Do not fall into any innovations/celebrations any masjid or culture might try to promote. Follow the Sunnah! The Prophet (sallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) guided us simply: "Whoever stays up and prays on Laylat al-Qadr out of faith and in the hope of reward, his previous sins will be forgiven.”

5. Memorize and keep asking the dua' taught by Rasulullah (sallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam): Allaahumma innaka ‘afuwwun tuhibb al-‘afwa fa’affu ‘anni (O Allaah, You are forgiving and You love forgiveness, so forgive me).

6. Prepare a short dua' list. Remember this is as awesome as it ever gets for a servant of Allah! The Night of Qadr, of Destiny! Consciously pick each and everything you crucially wish for in this dunya, in your deen, family, and in your aakhirah! Don't forget to include the brothers and sisters around the world who are suffering and in grief!

7. Take brief naps during the day, if possible. Keep your stomach light and sleep as soon as you have prayed 'isha. Do not delay! After a brief nap, refresh yourself and get ready for worship.

8. Don't neglect your family! Rasulullah made it a point to wake up his wives throughout these nights! And yes, your children are not too young to stay up some part of the night - if they can be allowed to play video games or watch TV, they can be inspired to be up atleast for sometime! Prepare them, make them excited, plan some activities for them to do!

9. Look the Part: The way we dress and prepare has a big effect on our psychology. Wear your best, perfume yourself, and feel the energy!

10. Choose a spot, whether in the Masjid or in your home, where you can have peace and solitude. Keep your mushaf, praying mat, and water at hand so that you are not distracted by constantly getting up for this or that.

11. IMP: This is not the night to tweet pics or update FB statuses about how amazing the night is and how you are feeling & worshipping Allah! Let that be a secret between you & your Rabb! So switch off those phones, wifi, laptops and computers. Disconnect with the world, and connect with al-'Afuww!

12. If you find yourself feeling sleepy, vary your acts of worship. Alternate between qiyaam, heartfelt dua'a, reading the Qur'an. Do not spend the night listening to lectures or recitations. Or do it only for a short while when you feel the sleep coming on!

13. Patience is the Key: The last 10 days might be tiring. You might still have work or school. This is the time to bear all that hardship, and keep firm sabr. Think how Allah has blessed you with this tremendous opportunity that might NEVER come again in your life again. If you knew for sure that this was your last ‪#Ramadan‬, if you knew certainly that Jannah was up for grabs, wouldn't you sprint for it no matter what it takes?

14. This is most important: Keep husn adh-dhann bi Allah (good expectations from Allah). When you ask, remember you are asking the Most Generous King. If you hope for the best, He will give you the best. Don't hold back. Trust in Him, pour out your heart in front of Him, and let no doubt, no barrier, no evil thoughts keep you away from ar-Rahman, ar-Raheem!

showietee: Mummy! You're xoxo funny.

Did you say facebook?

Short of words....,..

If interested in such, try to know first if such person won't abuse such opportunity, afterwards tell him someone is and would like to contact his parent for proceedings...

I'm not sure most guys wouldn't like a woman proposing. in fact,on the contrary,it makes the whole business easier for the guy (i mean a serious and really matured guy o). I have experienced such a thing before and i did not degrade the lady in question. in fact i respected her the more for her courage!!!....But for her religion, she would have been the 'one' lol

tbaba1234: Responding politely won't make it less awkward.

A sister should go indirectly, much better for her. She has to make sure the guy comes to see her mahram, if he agrees. No secret conversations, he has to be man enough to do so.

She could be vulnerable, just going alone to meet a Man for this purpose. Men would do and say anything to get with a lady.

It is beyond maturity. An indirect approach is better even from an Islamic perspective.

showietee: One of the deficiency of internet.....
But i expect the forum/sites to have moderators which should be qualified adult to help sort out twisted issues like this.

Sissie: I think the question is how do you come to the conclusion she might be engaged.

showietee: I expect men to be MEN.

DEOOOOOOOOOOOL......

SUBHANALLAH...

The tongue is a very powerful weapon, you can alway talk to anybody the you see to be faulty... Dialogue!

Help such person out by showing him is errs, so that he ll make amendment and won't plunge ahead in such deficiency.
The Prophet (Sallallähu alaihiwa sallam) narrated that Allah said: “My love is incumbent for those who love one another for My sake;
My love is incumbent for those who sympathize with one another for My sake;
My love is incumbent for those who meet one another for My sake;
My love is incumbent for those who spend on one another for My sake. They
would be seated on pulpits of Nur (light); Prophets and Siddiqin (truthful followers) will envy them for their high ranks

showietee: Ask him out? Lol...

If a sister feels so, she should tell a matured and understanding adult to help arrange the whole thing and it might not end us being that she perceived him first....


May Allah increase His mercies on us and give us the best spouse.

AMEEN SUNMO AMEEN!

Sissie: It may be that she thought the guy was humble (and the guy may be humble really) and then she asks him out and he gradually starts feeling cool about himself, human behavior can be complex LOL.

deols: SalamuaLaykum.

As we all know, the ‘last ten days of ramadan’ is here!, the most important part of which is a night, the Laylatul Qadr, a night greater than a thousand months !We, as Muslims are encouraged to seek this night by staying in seclusion,  This seclusion is I’tikaaf. This write-up is aimed at providing the basic things to know of I’tikaaf in order to get the full benefit of it. May Allah help us!

I’tikaaf

I’tikaaf literally means to stick to something and block out every other thing. In this context, it means seclusion, intending intimacy with Allah.
It is Mustahab(desired) but becomes Waajib(compulsory) on anyone who made a vow to perform it.
It can be performed at any time of the year but is of much importance in Ramadan because of the seek for the Laylatul Qadr.

Conditions for I’tikaaf

    It has to be in a mosque.

    It may or may not be accompanied by fasting.

    The least period for it is a night but is best done for the whole of the last ten days.

    The best time to enter it is after solatul subh and the prophet would leave it after subh on eid day.

what nullifies I’tikaaf

intimate intercourse (…but do not associate with your wives while you are in retreat in the mosques,  Q.2:187)

Desirable acts

    All the acts of worship are encouraged at this time- voluntary prayers, Qur’an recitation, repentance.

    Give charity, increase in good deeds.

    The prophet especially taught us to say-Allahuma innaka afuwwun tuhibbul afwa fafuanni.

Don’t forget

This is the time to ask Allah for all the things you want. Don’t be too shy or reluctant  to ask and don’t you think your sins can prevent you from asking. Remember, he knows you in and out and he is the oft forgiving, most merciful!

WHat Allah says

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3- the night of power is better than a thousand months

SuratulQadr(97):1-5

phunmy dahdah: hello please do not bring any religious sentiment into this. why would you say the other religions are pegan. I enjoyed write up and I was about asking if I could get the English version of the Quran. can't you make a comment without sentiments.

frosbel: The Dead are Dead until judgement day when they will be judged and rewarded according to their conduct.

adezzy01: salam to d OP. May Allahu swt let us die as a momin in is dis deen cald Al -Islam. Ameen.

Ayoobscom: Subhanalah wabihamdihi Subhanalah liasim

No wander while my mallam (arabic teacher,chief Imam of my town) in his last moment kept saying "this is where I want to go,that place,yes that place" pointing his hand forth with ease,with his eyes already half close...Subhanalah..

Thank you @op......unlike the counterparts that visits hell fire on daily basis

"Walatanutuna ila wa antum muslimun"

And do not die except you are a Muslim...

Xtians,hinduist,budihist,traditionalist and idolaters are all a family of peganism and polytheism

Setting up ideas as God and inviting people like it is real,,attributing death,son,pain and other funny funny ideas as God

Islam is open...come on in...before you die and go to hell

trolling: question, if you are not a virgin or married what are you

movado19: Salam Alaikum to you all.

@ deols: so sorry to hear of your mum's condition, and may Allah give her a quick and permanent healing very soon, inshallah. There is a homeopathic doctor in the UK who specializes in the treatment of stroke.....please, send me a mail to movado19@gmail.com and I will inshallah give you his details; if it is of interest to you.

Wa Salam.

tbaba1234: Lol.... No.

We shared pictures via whatsapp.