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xMrPx:
which of una girls dem dey bring back? """ My friend,go and seat down

Be Comprehending and Coherent.

EIGHT MONTHS AND ONE DAY SINCE TAKEOVER..and still hunting #BringBackOurCampaignPromises..

PoliticalThuG:
if having sex with a lady will stop the thought, why not.. Though i am afraid to have sex before marriage as a christian but the thing is pushing me to have sex

Rely on your Christian thoughts to push you through. You can invoke prayers and the word of God to banish your thoughts of evil. Having this thoughts is simply human and natural, but letting them develop roots is purely your mistake. Try to remember the Lord whenever you're having these thoughts and like a habit, it will soon become a thing of the past. It is human to err, but no matter how many times you fall, always remember to repent, to trace back your footsteps. I've seen people who abstain from sex and they lose nothing.

On the other hand, should you decide to forge ahead and have sex with her, then by all means, do so and handle the consequences. Perhaps, you'll be disappointed it wasn't worth all those sweat and time. Either way, there's too much at stake for you to keep being bothered by this 'flimsy' (as you will come to see) issue.

Well, Pregnant women experience nausea so vomitting isn't predictably as a result of the food. As for the 'Milo' talk, Milo is a cocoa product and it contains caffeine, which can affect the baby's heart rate and development, the same way it affects us. It even affects the baby more because the baby isn't as developed as we are. Other reasons are what the effect on the mother can cause on the baby as well. The nurses surely had a point.
Note, I am not a doctor, but I was very attentive when my partner was in her term.

Depends on what you would like to do about it.
Since you have second-thoughts expressing your desire for the opposite sex, you are resorting to fantasy to fulfil your intentions.
Forbidden fruits taste best, so we are being led to believe.
The first thing is to sort yourself out.
Do you want to have sex with HER or Do you not want to have sex with HER yet?
It's not about stopping the thoughts. It's about admitting what you really want.

My kind of man.. A dual-analytic mind.

If after this product promotion and you don't get a benefit of sorts from Nairaland, I have a good lawyer.
Keep me informed

The sweetness of madness is best known to a mad man.
It's very demanding to EFFECTIVELY manage a nuclear home. Thus a man who wholeheartedly goes for two or more has his reasons.

This is a gossip blog info right? It's not a must that the information must be correct.

If she's irrelevant to your plans for tomorrow, you won't even spend ten minutes thinking this over.

Not necessarily all conditions must be fulfilled.

While there may be some element of truth in your post, the relevance of this opinion is still another matter.
One of the problems of our political atmosphere today is that masterminds over the ill-fated past regimes still have a say in how Nigeria is run today.
If Jonah, OBJ and all other past leaders could just fade into oblivion when new leaders are installed, we'ld be much more able to pinpoint out problems as they arise.
But as it stands now, in line with your opinion, we're wasting much time living in their shadows.

LordReed:
You must be new around here. Over statement is her stock in trade so don't take it personally.

Thanks for the heads-up.

tpiander:
hm, is it because of this topic that folks are now preaching "tolerance" and "sacrifice"?

why you no preach am before I opened the thread, and why does "toleration" and "sacrifice" not also apply to individuals so involved, as mentioned in the thread title?

It's not an argument thread plz, if you don't like the subject matter, ignore it.

Let's remind ourselves of some facts. We don't know ourselves for sure. And if you're the owner of the thread, I certainly have forgotten. Hence, your reaction is somewhat weird if not funny. I have no aversion for the thread or people affected thus, it's a world of variety.
What you see as an argument, I see as a subtle exchange of ideas, sorry about our contradictory perceptions. The bottom line remains that you seem to be over-reacting to something unconnected to me or my submissions.

DollyParton1:
Chill and understand the Shyte u are typing first.

You need to understand that tolerance and sacrifice have their breaking point.

Saying 'tolerance' and 'sacrifice' have a breaking point is like saying the 'end' has an 'end'. I think it's either there, or it isn't. Then, there's the understanding part. I think a lot of factors work together to prevent many cracks that tend to eventually tear a home apart. Those two are just part of what maintains a bond through betrayals or breaches of trust. We must take our own responsibilities for every of our failed relationships instead of pushing the blames lest we lose the ability to maintain one or make things work.

DollyParton1:
A broken home is not something abnormal.

An unbroken home filled with fights and hatred is abnormal.

Going by the definition of abnormal, a broken home is definitely abnormal. Home and broken aren't bedmates. A home poses images that 'broken' cannot begin to identify with. Anything short of that isn't a home but an arrangement of some sort. Besides, 'perfection' is the reason 'tolerance' and 'sacrifice' are associated with a successful union.

MrsPhyno:
Pllllease space out your writing.

I wish I had a better understand of how formatting works in Nairaland on mobile devices. So far, that has been a task.

bukatyne:
OK then

So it is more of the women marrying extremely early. Do the women possess a trade/work or are they all housewives like the great-grand mother?

And why do the young mothers keep their kids with great-grand mother?

All are farmers and traders. They possess very fertile grounds on the island and other islands scattered about. And Mercy being cared for by her grandmother has something to do with inexperience on Mercy's part as regards to childbirth. Victory's could be attributed to having obscene number of siblings more than her parents could cater for, hence the 'distribution' to relatives. There two scenarios are quite common here, in addition to polygamy.

phabulous88:
Wonderful! Well like the saying goes, you're a product of your society How about their husbands? Did you find anything about them? I just hope that Corp members are not responsible for putting these naive girls in the family way

Their husbands are around and much older than their spouse in almost all cases. And Corp members really avoid this place.

bukatyne:
What about their husbands?

Husbands are very much around. Most males are fishermen and aren't usually at home till late.

On a beautiful Saturday evening, I opted to take a walk around this lovely island in Delta State that I've come to love. After a hectic day spent cleaning the house, and a long relaxing sleep through the afternoon, a walk by the breezy water edges surrounding the community seemed the perfect remedy to reviving the dull spirits I awoke with.
So I left, noticing time and again, that the water level is on par with the island. (River Niger precisely; I just don't feel comfortable telling myself this is it). A few more rains, and the island will be about 90mm deep in water. This, the indigenes waited for expectantly, happiness radiating from their faces as they talked about it in anticipation. If only they knew how quickly I'll escape once the water claimed its first millimetre of the island.
As I lazed along, taking in the rumbling waters to my right, speedboats flying to and fro on the sandy-coloured waters, the sound of kids screaming in delight as they played reached my ears. A thought suddenly occured to me; to visit the kids in one particular quarter of the community. I frequently have sessions with the kids where I taught them Algebra and Vocabulary majorly; and some random facts. It was a recent idea to visit them in their homes on Saturdays.
Therefore, I wheeled in the direction of that section of the island, and walked leisurely until I reached the 'really bad', waterlogged muddy pathway leading into my destination. Here, I folded the cuffs of my trousers, shoving my handkerchief and my phone into my pocket, for I would need my hands free to grasp the branches or limbs of the trees around when I slip (which was quite a norm.)
Luckily, I made it to the other end without needing my hands, except for balancing myself. As I happened upon the first set of kids playing in the breezy weather, they quickly broke up, chanting 'Brother Don! Brother Don!!' which happens to be my name, Donatus. I had to shake everyone of them one after the other, smiling as I inquired how each of them were doing, for the usual 'Fine' response. I was filled with contentment, as they continued their welcome chant, which is quite funny considering for some years, I had ditched 'Donatus' which sounded quite old-school for the fancier 'Louis'.
As the kids already knew I was here for visits, each somehow managed to find space on either of my arms to drag me towards their own houses, imploring as they tugged, for me to come to theirs. Some obstructed the path in front and behind me and I was quite stranded, unable and unwilling to rebuke the convivial children. I finally announced that I'll be visiting 'Victory' first, a petite eight-year old girl that I've taken quite a liking to.
Amidst her whoop of joy as she ran ahead to lead me to her place, the other kids yelled their discontent, some clinging unto my leg when I began to inch towards Victory despite their tugs. This made movement difficult and all my pleas and endearments fell on deaf ears as all 15 families or so milling around me wanted to be the first. Luckily, a man coming unto the clearing ordered them away and dived towards a shrub nearby to pluck a cane. The kids scampered a safe distance away as they continued their playful protests. I thanked the man immensely and went off with Victory to her house.
As we neared the entrance to her house, a rectangular mud building synonymous with this island, I saw a teenage girl washing some baby wears outside the door. I greeted her and was about asking if she was Victory's sister when Victory, pulling me indoors, announced that her mother was inside. "She is with Baby" she whispered as I waved off Victory's sister and proceeded into the house.
When I saw her mother, I was certain I had seen her face before and on more than one occasion. What I was uncertain about is if I had seen her 'pregnant' before because I've been on the island for about four months and the infant she was cuddling couldn't be more than a month old. I greeted her with all smiles as I tried to place our first acquaintance. She already knew, as Victory proudly announced, that I was their teacher.
In pidgin English, We exchanged pleasantries for a while before I told her about Victory's impressive performances in classes.
Me: 'Your daughther performs quite well for her age. I think you must have been monitoring her well'
She: She tries. She's my grand-daughter. Her mother is with her husband in Ughelli.

And with that, I goofed for the first time that day. Trying to divert attention from my error, I made a rather flattering of her young looks for a grandmother in contrast to the sights I'm used to where I come from. Considering the fact that most ladies on the island married early, this shouldn't have shocked me. However, her next information is the reason I decided to share this experience.

She smiled at my flattery and said, 'She's just one of my grandchildren. And Baby is my great-grandchild. His mother is the girl you met outside.'

All I could say was 'Wow' as I digested this information. I guess my facial expression revealed that I wasn't believing that so easily. She probably sensed my disbelief and confusion or just wanted to make conversation but she went on to tell me that she got married aged 14, during which she had her first child, a girl. This girl did one better than her and had her first child at 13. The child, now 15-years old was Mercy, that was washing baby wears just outside. And Baby, currently in Mama's arms (can't help calling her Mama), was Mercy's child. A quick maths put Great-grandma's age at 42 years.
All sorts of lectures to give on abstinence, teenage pregnancy and family planning came to my mind but I offered a lame 'Congratulations' and a number of phrases I can't remember. Besides, for a community where teenage mothers was the norm and where relatives marry relatives amidst really huge smiles, I doubt if an impromptu lecture would hold much water, especially when a veteran woman was observing a quiet 'ancestral bliss' of some sort with her miniature descendant.
I left with a comment about hoping to see Victory at next week's classes, stopping to congratulate Mercy and then continued to my next port of call. All the way, I couldn't shake-off the figure '42' from my mind.

(A personal experience. For confidentiality sake, the name of the town and some details were omitted)

Actual figures in the individual months?

APC winning Bayelsa is unimaginable.

Una dey try o

Where them?

wahabian:
You are a liar and a rumour monger,must you go to that extent in deceiving people?

Why do you think soldiers can be dismissed?

tommykiwi:
One of the best achievement Sai baba have achieved since he resumed office..please guy crush boko boys.God is with U guys.

Sai baba or not, this is Nigerian Army you're talking about, not employees of Oxford Cabi Biscuits factory. If you dismiss 2,500 soldiers with 102 officers who are already well aware of the country's strength and strategies, common sense would let you know you've sold the country's safety to the dogs.
Common sense, Sai Baba or not.

E no dey easy to dismiss soldiers nah. They know the repercussions of attempting such. Welcome to the NA

This is the kind of news that Nigerians prefer to feast on. A constructive one won't even garner such audience.
And some will still complain 'Rape everyday'. How many of you contribute efficiently in other threads.
Tired of this monotony

After attacking the opposition, they'll still attack themselves.
Sit back for the stage performance of 'A play of giants'

The gathering was Pro-APC right?
Not surprised

Kennedyiheme:
the question didn't say he withdrew anytin, the question is straight and simple. "How much interest will he get at the end of 20yrs for saving 2000 monthly, at 12%......no bank will give u 19million naira bccos u saved 480,000....it won't happen anywere in the world

The question didn't ask about interest alone. Says 'How much will I receive'.
It isn't that straight forward. The bank uses the cash before paying interest right? Interest can't be paid on the whole cash at once because they didn't get to use all of it at once.
My figure is #1,058,400 consisting of Principal of #480,000 and Intrest of #578400