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This isn't advisable, except in the younger stage of life when marriage is still a far cry from reality.
But it helps, knowing what makes women tick.

Much needed viewpoint.

LegendarySage:
lol, welcome.

Thank you..

chibwike:
it better be to sleep, coz its already past mid nite

Yeah.. Although I'll prefer to witness this modest beginnings..

#wiping my sad tears#

#spreads my mat#

Why it's this shocking?

It's just a twitter handle for Christ's sake! Not a sex-change!

How you guys manage to get over-excited by these 'internet-whims' baffles me.

missterious:
Wow. Ok. Some people are crazzzyyy though. How can you just start dividing a family?

Envy of course!
You're probably getting praised for being an excellent student. Or being hit upon/attracting the fine/rich schoolmates. Or being fawned upon by many hostelmates. Or just 'chopping' good money.
Someone is being directly affected negatively. Someone close. And he/she has been watching this go on.. Now, what do you expect?

I have nothing against beggars except the goddamn little kids!!
They succeed in filling you with a variety of emotions everytime you meet them: Anger, Sadness, Pity, Frustration, e.t.c.
Their modus operandi is when they see you, and you see them, but may or may not notice them really, as you pass by, they grip your wrist (I really mean grip as in IRON GRIP, which they must have been receiving training for).
You look down at them to see really young faces looking at you with the most sorrowful eyes and making hand signs from their mouth and begging you to help with body languages.
They mostly grip the left hand. If you're really unlucky, you'll get two of them kids, who're unwilling to let go, except you somehow communicate to them that you need to be freed so you can get money from your wallet/purse/pocket.
If however, you're unwilling to give, you've got two passengers for a short while who will slow you down and pester you till they sight new preys..
And you end up feeling guilty!!

These are nice tips though I'm sure I've seen an identical post elsewhere here.

missterious:
This is interesting. Why?

Particularly amongst the female folks, you'll get instances of parents knowing all about their wards activities in school from friends who had access to their parents' contacts.
The worst part of it is the lies and exaggerations that follow up, so that such people may gain favours from the parents or succeed in breaking a home by sowing the seed of distrust.
It happened quite frequently for us to just 'ignore'. I quickly deleted both and have had them in memory till now.

Ahh.. When my GRANDMA died, I was really devastated. It was the first death I've witnessed but it didn't scare me as I continued to live in the house alone. But I cried terribly on that night, when the ambulance took her away and by her graveside.
But three years on, my GRANDPA died, which I witnessed as well. I didn't even shed a tear, just came close to doing so when the ambulance took him away. But I couldn't sleep in the house anymore. I joined my cousins for quite a few days.
I think the difference is while my Grandma died still brimming of life even on her last day, my Grandpa died amidst terrible pains till his last day, perhaps emotional too, because his health suffered a steady decline after my Grandma's death.
He will be buried on October 17th.

Committed her number to memory.
My University days taught me never to keep my parents' numbers in my phone.

Sanbuchi:
....is it always necessary..

The message underneath determines if it is necessary.

It isn't proper, but it is necessary.
They'll find out the truth in the long run, the most important thing being the great lesson underneath.

Sweetheart, don't be scared. This is your best opportunity to find out if the family you're becoming part of will welcome you as you expect. They may be playing all cool in the presence of their son, now it's reality check. Just treat it as your first day in the University.
You know, it's you coming to live with him after marriage, not him going to live with you. You will benefit greatly knowing the kind of household he grew up in, which will help you handle your own home to prefection.
From a guy's point of view, this is an assessment, typical in the igbo tradition (don't know your tribe though). But if he is, you'll have to accept it. He has full pride and trust in you that he feels so eager to present the diamond he has found to his parents. Go for it!!
If he calls you frequently, then know that he deeply cares and is as scared as you are..
I wish you success in your exams.

Overgeneralization.

I wonder if this is just an avenue of sending your message across to the ladies.
This is Nairaland, not Nigeria.

Surely.
You just need a great plan. Every family needs one, whether 60k, 10k or 1m per month.

bushdoc9919:
A radiographer is a very important part of the hospital's management of patients.

Thank you very much for this wonderful piece of information.
One of the most interesting replies I've ever gotten on Nairaland.
God bless you. I'm very grateful.

I wonder if that course is economically important

For me, I'll just rub my chin, then tell her "I'll call you" and walk away with out a second look.

He probably thought he could get the 'African Woman' in his mother from you, but he couldn't.
You should probably learn how a woman does her thing in an orthodox Nigerian home.

This statistics is not reliable.

Turn off your phone(s) and electric gadgets for a start.

It is possible for a person to have all these traits.
Factually speaking, I think I have all these traits expressed habitually or as an alter ego.

My Dad doesn't mind much. My mom is the person who even shows such resistance, especially to no-goods..
Both both become hard to please when they become too much.

Any lady who insists all men are the same in the first place either didn't have the opportunity to attend a normal university or has beliefs firmly planted in an archaic traditional setting.

Well, I'll want to grow very old.
Then I won't want my great-grand kids and all relatives to cry hysterically. The only way to achieve this is to be in constant pain so they'll welcome death as a permnent relief and not feel too bad.
But I'm afraid of pain dammit!
Solve the puzzle.

Igbo don't sport such tribal marks, hence it's an impossible scenario for me.

From my Dad, his jovial and benevolent disposition, even towards enemies at times.
From my Mom, keeping family issues strictly familial.

Just love the profession.
The everyday learning that comes with it has no substitute in life to me.

Well, if the parents get to know, in a society like Nigeria, it's public news already then.
As awkward as being 'gay' seems to me, I can't think of any perfect reaction.