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CuntMiner:
waooo,hows d lady ur seeing now?

CuntMiner:
waooo,hows d lady ur seeing now?

CuntMiner:
waooo,hows d lady ur seeing now?

Katier00:
take your time and everything will be fine

sassysure:
U started well but ended very unruly.
U would have stated this in your opening post.
We wouldn't have been having this discussion in the first place.
Goodluck

ifyalways:
@ OP, what does he talk about?

Work, Politics, religion, Sports, marriage?

Roland17:
Here is my take and it may be different.

If your girlfriend is understanding as you claim and you both love each other enough to commit into marriage, then marry her according to your pocket. You don't have to do anything extraordinary to the point of borrowing money. If your family and her family understand your financial situation then they would be supportive considering they want their child and brother in other instances to get married. Don't get it twisted, your family wants the best for you in the instance, the problem may be their approach. Except you don't want to ever get married, then at 34 you should be making honest and concrete plans to settle down especially since you have a good woman.

It would be unfair to keep the lady waiting with hopes that you "hammer" while she continues to age. She may meet someone who is ready, not necessarily financially buoyant and move on from you and she would be justified in my opinion. If you don't know when or are unsure, please let the lady go, na somebody sister be that and body counts no dey fair for woman body, in comparison to men. You have a job and I hope she has a job, gather your finances, keep it very simple and plan your future together before and after marriage.

Part of being a man is making difficult decisions.

May God guide you and give you the wisdom to navigate this situation.

sassysure:
At 34, u are still searching for work of which u may not be too sure u won't be sacked soon going by the situation of things on ground in Nigeria.

Why not learn handiwork?

34 yrs is indeed old and yes, they all have the right to be worried.

If u desire trading, u can go and learn and they can help you raise the capital. If you know your onions and the lady u want to marry isn't doing any tangible thing, the two of you can combine and run the biz.

And u don't have to borrow to marry.
Who does that?
It tells a lot about ur character and I will be worried if I'm the said lady.

Katier00:
I understand dear but it's time to start ignoring those calls and messages. Heaven won't fall. Don't let anyone pressure you even your wife to be will frustrate you when you don't have money to provide for her basic needs. You can't enjoy marriage without money

Katier00:
Are you still living with your family at 34? Or is the pressure coming from phone calls?

yvelchstores:
Also add this scripture, he that considers the weather will never sow.

Ecc 11:4

"Farmers who wait for perfect weather never plant. If they watch every cloud, they never harvest."

stag:
I can’t seem to wrap my head around this. They are not putting pressure on you to start earning a living, instead they decide to mount pressure on two broke & unemployed people to get married?

How do they intend both of you rent a house and feed?

I’m not good with giving advice but why not turn the table around and turn the heat on everybody that you need to settle down. Start disturbing all of them for money to settle down. Once you see them, start singing of how you need money to settle down. Maybe, just maybe, the message will dawn on them that you need a job first.

Expectedly, watch them start avoiding the subject. In turn, the pressure may subside.

For each person telling you “probably” doors will open after wedding citing examples, remember they’re “probably” a thousand others with opposing stories to tell.

EVILFOREST:
PLEASE take it easy.
We are here to help.

1. WHAT DOES your GIRL do for a Living and where is she based on earth....??
2. If she does not have a JOB, please for how long...??
3. If she is Jobless.., can you leave her for someone that has got something meaningful doing.......??
4. What did you study.....in your A’Level....??
My FINAL RESPONSE to you will depend strongly on the answers you will give me now...

mumdd:
I will like to say do not allow anyone,family or friends pressurise you into marriage, because at the end of the day none of them will be there to face the consequences for u. However, marriage is a good thing and it actually comes with a lot of blessings but you cannot plan marrying someone without any source of income.
my advice will be for you to double your hustle, start a job no matter how small, teaching, hotels,private hospitals etc. when you are sure something comes in every month, you can sit your woman down and discuss with her, work out a plan and do a low key ceremony maybe with just your families, no point spending so much on ceremony when you don't even have, life after wedding na him be koko.
Also, does your woman work? if she does,makes things easier,but if she does not, let her also get something doing as soon as possible.
sometimes you never can tell, marriage may open doors but don't bank on that and not make your own preparations.
I wish u best of luck

ImaIma1:
Please don't let them push you while you are not ready. Put your foot down and tell your family tht you are not ready at the moment.

If you go and borrow money to wed, your family will not help you pay back. They will enjoy the wedding and later condemn you for borrowing.

Don't put yourself inside problem

jakandeola:
guy doble ur hussle u aint getting younger.is bad when ur mate have granbaby u are still struggling paying ur children weac fees. Am talking to u am talking to myself. Am 36 And the pressure to i s much. I wish I marry at 28 not my son will be 8years I dont belive in DAT talk of wanting to get money before u marry u will wait a long time. Economy is bad is ur girl working.sit her down tell her u want to marry her but DAT she understand its not a big wedding. Let her bring money too see did u know DAT marriage and born baby is a spiritual thing I know a guy and his wife in pains of poverty as dey born a baby did u know dia level change. Dey name d baby korede. If I were u I will marry her as u married pple will give gifts also pray to God and use bible of marry to pray. Things will change. I did my intro last year and I pray between April to July I will marry. Be a man and dont be afraid

ValCon888:
Bro you better chill o. Forget what your friend said. Not every good thing is a 'good' thing. Don't soicit for funds to marry because once you get married, youll have to think of paying back the funds plus the children will start coming in and yet you still have no stable source of income.
I'll advice you to get a steady job first.
If your serious babe is understanding, please explain to her. Forget family pressure before you commit suicide in the name of marriage.

Daeylar:
LMAO


He has someone to talk to yet he leaves her and would rather talk with neighbours?

There is nothing wrong with him, leave him alone, and its not a curse.
Just keep doing what you doing,
You'll be fine

Elder0001:
Fake story

lilmax:
I do not talk with talkatives

no matter the face you make, their eyes are blinded by their mouths, they don't just know where to end it,it's draining, and I cannot correct them in love, I tell them straight, you're a talkative I don't like you

Ranchhoddas:
This had me laughing. I know a man like this in Lagos. The man can talk from morning till night. Just start any political discussion, na you go run.

Chubhie:
The guy is sitting on a goldmine. He should learn to channel his gifts creatively and contribute to life instead of wasting his talent with you people.

His scope of actuality is very wide. From the dangerously wealthy pastors, The chief servant politicians to the Ali Baba's of comedy.