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Omihanifa:
But the rice is much

Really?

Pauldollars:
Eating at eateries is always quite a lot these days.
Even in Chicken Republic and others, its around the same price but may be a bit less.

Next time, branch at good moderate restaurants. The food at eateries are sometimes not as delicious as the ones in restaurants.

True talk. But I couldn't find any at that moment.

Good day Nairalanders, so this morning I woke up very early to see a friend in order to conclude a deal with him. I was at his place before 6am and we spent over 2hours before concluding our deal. As I was driving back home I noticed I was hungry and the only thing that was on my mind to eat was jollof rice and chicken 🐔 🍗.

I called my wife and asked her how long will it take to prepare the jollof rice and chicken, she said at least three hours that she need to go get chicken that none is left in the refrigerator. I told her I can't wait that I have to branch an eatery, but she still got to prepare it, because it's my favourite food she said ok. She said I should just take bread and tea when I return why she make preparation for the meal that's what she and the kids took this morning. I said no, she knows I don't like taking bread and tea, I can't even remember the last time I took such. She said no wahala.

I branch one of the eateries and ordered for jollof rice and chicken the girl served it and I noticed it was small so I asked her to add to it she said that will be two portion I said no problem. I collected coke and water and asked how much she said 5k 5hundred. I was surprised, it's been a little bit long I ate at any eatery because 95% of food I eat (especially when in town) is from home, my wife is very good at cooking so it does not really make me fancy eating outside. A portion of rice #1500 (×2) chicken #2000, water and coke #500. Naija which way how the average man on the street go take survive nah?

Sorry for the long write up on top jollof rice and chicken matter . How is the eateries in ur location is it this expensive?

deltateam:
Shouting on a social forum clearly shows who's a kid.

Now crawl back to your hole.

🤣🤣🤣

Sisib15:
I would advise that you take action and let your mom know her place in your marriage. She should not meddle in you people's affairs. One of my uncle has a similar story when he got married to his wife he was taking charge the way he could, gradually his mom started controlling the marriage by giving the wife money for upkeep. It got to a stage that my uncle's mom never wanted to see his son again, like she disowned him and took the wife as her child. My uncle has left the house for the wife now

Quite touching, but mine can't get to that. I provide for my family including my parents I pay all the bills, thanks to God for His Grace and Sufficiency. My Mom just want to take charge of my life like she use to do while I was still single, that I am trying to change now. Thanks for ur contribution.

Collins4u1:
Lolz

this man just dey whine me..

😂😂😂

ambale:
Asin person wey suppose dey do Thanksgiving every Sunday say two women for him life are pals

Make he wait until them show am the other side of life now 😂

U guys should be calming down small nah. I hear all the advice and insults, I appreciate everyone for their contribution. Will definitely make amends.

Mobog:
I'm the last born too, I love your stand and please you've created your space don't be a weak man. Just call her as if nothing happened and visit her to say hi whenever you're around. My mom tried the same thing with me but I no let am cold before I told her how I want things done in my home.

Sometimes this our partners are tired of the way their mother-in-law put mouth in their marital life but because of the African fear of being rejected by them they accept it as it comes. If you continue like that uhm, your sisters will rule your home join.

True talk brotherly, will definitely follow ur advice. Respect.

Aliou007:
GOD BLESS YOUR WIFE SIR! Idk what my fellow men really want? Lol. In this generation, you find a wife who's living peacefully with your mum and obeying her but you're still complaining?? LOL!! My chairman, remember it's your mother you're talking about here and she has control over You!! You're still a SON to her. Please be happy for what you have. You can also respectfully talk to mama about the situation and let her understand you wsnt to remain the Commander of your territory. Do so respectfully please. God bless!

Thank u Sir.

Kholiwe:
You did the right thing and your useless mom should be the one apologizing to you. She has no business or authority in your house or over your wife. She should know her place and overstep. All these useless mummy boys are irritating.

U are mad, is ur mother that is useless. What is wrong with u children of nowadays. Jesus.....

Dchampion65:
1. Poor wify, perhaps she is trending carefully not to have collision with your mother since you are always not around.
2. Or she noticed you are too fond of your mother and you will not be there if she cross path with your mother.
3. I can smell fear here. If I don't want to loose my marriage I better "worship" and take "orders" from mama. The fear of mama is the beginning of wisdom.
Wise woman that want to build her home at all cost.
On your mama,
Have you not make her a "watch guard" over your house when you are not around. She is simply carrying out your instructions or what do you expect from over zealous "guards"

Please apologize to mama, give your wife confidence that you are with her as well.

Truth be told, I am the only son of my Mother and the last born at that. Before I got married my Mom is my best best friend and I share every idea and secrets with her. But I think she is trying to bring that dominance as a Mother into my home, I am not against it, but they should be boundaries that's all. Thanks for ur advice. We all will make amends.

cassyrooy:
While I understand that you should be a bit more angry, take a time off and be grateful that;

1. She rather turn to your mom than hers, or to friends and outsiders.

2. She follows instructions but not as at when you instructed (lacking timing).

But be careful how you react, you're more detached from home and may not be feeling the emotional side that makes people waver impulsively.

Correct her but respond to her calls whether you're happy or angry with her, else, you lose the marriage completely.

Don't follow people who don't know what it takes to build a stable and strong relationship on Nairaland.

🙏

promiseland245:
What most men are looking for is what you are complaining for.
Your wife is close to your mum, your plan is to find a way to manage it to your advantage.
Your mum knows what is good for you, your wife I presume also desire what is best for you (I am not disputing the fact that you know what is good for yourself also).
Please this combination is to your advantage, it's rare these days and a golden opportunity, use it well.

You are an offshore worker, the challenges sposues left at home by offshore workers face are numerous, yours is close to your mother, you should be in church doing Thanksgiving.

Make peace with both of them and enjoy what God has blessed your home with because some homes are looking for this friendship between Mum & wide but can't seem to find it.

Thank u very mucho, I drop this here because I needed advice and I think urs is one I will abide to. Thanks once again 🙏

GudPpleG8Nation:
Destiny4luv, you are not always around. It's better and reasonable your wife is bound with your mom than her mom or outsider.

Please apologize to your mom and don't try to separate the bond between your wife and your mom. Try to discuss what you want with your wife in a calm way but not to discredit your mom.

🙏

2dream:
U should count it all lucky it was ur mum and not her,

I understand d nature of ur job

But ur wife need a companions
That's y she always run to ur mum

U know ur mum better

Stop over reacting,

Be a man and reconcile with ur mum

Thanks. Noted.🙏

gasparpisciotta:
Bros you should understand that your wife needs someone close by to run things through before she can her decide on what to do.

The bottom line is she carried out your instructions but earlier than you planned.

On the other hand, tell your wife to inform you if she plans to amend any part of your instructions that seem unclear, instead of running it through a third party in this case your mum.

Would you have preferred she runs it through her own Mum, or somebody else?

Lesson: stop leaving your wife to live alone...if your mum no dey to be her company, neighbour go take over, your friend sef fit take over.

Loneliness is the enemy of a married woman

Thanks

Beremx:
You reconciled with your wife and left your mum angry. Now she's angry with both of you.
Your mum shouldn't be interfering in your marriage though. Try and reconcile with her

Thanks, I love ur response 💕

VeryWickedMan:
OP stand in front of a mirror.
See?

You look like a weakling.

U be small pikin, u never see anything for life. Rest

thesicilian:
You should be happy it's your mom and not her own.

But on a more serious note, from your own explanation it seems you're overreacting

Like seriously, so should we call her to apologize?

Good day Nairalanders. let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.

But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later while I at work that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.

Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to hang up and she hang up the call, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.

My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?

I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down?

Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.

But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.

Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.

My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?

I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down?

This ur marketing strategy nor follow at all. Try come up with something better and matured. No offense 🥳

🥰🥰🥰👏👏👊👍💓 got it now. Well done Seun.

Didn't see where to select the new emojis here

Bahamas95:
Fresh catfish banger soup and starch.....The soup should be served with that traditional clay plate (ēwērè)


When you eat that food even if you nor be witch you go confess.

Oh my Lord, the best soup in the whole world.

What are u saying...

Kizyte:
I like it simple

Men, I love this setting. More success Bro.......

Killermamba:
Which hotel be this

That's my home, it's a bet sitter. (some call it self contain), a room, toilet, bathroom and kitchen. It's not an hotel. U can pay me a visit I base in Warri. Look at the mirror at the extreme u will see my pictures hanging beside the mirror. Will I take my pictures to an hotel? Lol... ; . I believe any comfort I can get in any average hotel, I can get more in my home.

My simple home.

It's important that all the Peter Obi group leaders should as a matter of responsibility, encourage Obidient members to apply for INEC adhoc staff job, Especially for those who would have love to vote Peter Obi but did not register to vote, collecting Officers, returning officers and presiding officers. This is another way we can stop rigging or stop the electoral process from being compromised.

Please the Obidient family members, let us do this.

Victory is sure, let us block all loopholes.

*I NO GET PVC NOR BE EXCUSE*

Newton2024:
This is the only challenge Obi is having. And there are more than the people in urban areas.

Let Campaign start properly we will go to rural areas to educate them for sure.

Reinaldo:
The pain is getting too much for you. Seeing someone you dislike so much being loved by the whole of Nigeria. The pain is just getting started. By the time campaign starts no one will tell you before you become Obidient.

I am telling u bro. Las las all of them go Obedient