₦airaland Forum

MALIGNANTGuest:
OGA send him to us in the United States.
Here, parents evict their kids from homes.
IF kids don't generate Revenue and are only consuming & possibly causing troubles, they are immediately ejected.
In Fact, POLICE immediately issues them a restriction order from the house.

I know it's unAfrican.
But traveling has taught me a lot.
Just same way I will never advise a struggling Young man to marry a completely jobless lady.
No one does such Abroad.

He should be encouraged to get something doing, no matter how small.
Small is far better than nothing.
May be I may have to share my story too.

Thanks, brother.l enjoy your gist, tell me more!

Someone is in need of developers to complete his property.l want to ask from the house, particularly from the barristers and estate developers and from experience men and women among the naira landers to counsel him.what are the pitfalls to avoid?Any harm in such a venture?How can on know genuine developers ?

Tina001:
If not for anything, at least respect his age. See the way u talking to a 60years old man. Must you display your lack of home training I blame social media

You're right, its one of those things social media can bring.

udomonday:
the son might even kill him one day in other to inherit the house.I have seen cases like that.

Wow! Great heavens,have mercy.

Richy4:

Sir, u have done your part wonderfully well...
Since he is earning, use your church mind to calculate how much his take home is...Write a love note, stating what you want him to contribute clearly....

Since it's gonna cause a misunderstanding, put it in writing by telling him to contribute towards the upkeep... Example..

<<< Monthly electricity Bill... # 7000
<<<Saturday Lawn mowing... # 1000 or u mow the lawn by yourself..
<<< Food.. since I am your father, I will provide that..
<<< Water rates... #5000
<<< General house cleaning...#6000

Conclude by saying....Son, I want you to read this carefully.. U will only approach me over this subject matter if u want to negotiate only... But if u can not help me your father, Your certificate is enough to get u any where u want in the world... I want you to leave my house first week after Easter holidays...

Oga please type it... So that he will know that you are serious...do not right with pen...

Print your own copy as well just incase he wants to negotiate... It's called tough love... I believe anywhere he will be, he will pay rent and bills? Haba!!!

Your suggestions are superb.It means there are cool headed Nigerians who can see things on ones side like this. Great thanks. I will work on this too.Advice is a second mother to a child.

Beremx:
The current situation of the country made him to still be living under your roof. Don’t frustrate him and make him misbehave. He’s still a good boy unlike some sons who are jobless and shameless. Give him more time to look for a better job and let him move on

OK.

Kobojunkie:
Desusi, your son is a grown man and you and he can, as suggested here, have a grown up conversation about such things.

If you don't know how, watch some American family movies to get you an idea of what you can do.

l will see to that too.Thank you my brother.

Mooh247:




See wetin bad economy cause

You can't repay your father for raising you, you are still taking from him even at retirement

That's a crime


Use the method my mum used on us..

Note ; she is a retired Federal Government worker with my dad and they both earn good money from pension and house rent

Call all your children to have a serious conversation early in the morning...

Mandate each and everyone of them to take care of a certain bill or give you a certain amount every month so as to receive your true blessing

Start with little commitments for them

*filling of cooking gas
*service and fueling of Generators
*buying of pure water and water dispenser refill
*even your kid in school can afford to buy bread or live chcken every time he comes home if you mandate him to do so
*3k monthly subscription of internet or DSTV




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Thanks for your fantastic advice! How l wish he would read this and complied. I will try your suggestions too.

Naira landers, kindly advise me on what to do.

l am over 60 years old, a widower. By the grace of God, l was blessed with three children of which two are graduates with good grades from reputable universities here in Nigeria, one is still undergraduate before the departure of my late wife some years back.

As a retired man with meager money, I decided to manage a little business which barely gives me much money. One of these my children, a professional, though not teacher, is currently residing with me doing teaching job in different places as part time, pending when he would get a much better job.

We are living in my personal house. l would single handedly pay electricity bills, lawnman, etc. My son would not want to help in any way, not even with pure water of #10 claiming that he is with his father.

Efforts to convince him to assist me is not yielding positive result, instead he would pick quarrels with me. His senior sister has married, while the junior brother is still in the school as dependant, what sort of counseling do you think he needs to change.

I am afraid even if this boy owns shop rite in future, he would not help either.

How come that your wife didn't lock her phone?How did proprietor knows her password. Something must be fishing here.There is more to this story. To avoid more trouble, let the sleeping dog lies.

Wow!You said you're a Christian. Which Christian? Christian who is glorifying devils above God.Somebody told you that there's nothing His God cannot do,you said 'ko mo aye' My brother as long as you continue to praise devil,he will continue to rule over your family. The Bible says for this reason in your family,the son of God was manifested to destroy the works of the devils. Go extra miles with Christ your life and you family issue will never remained the same. Where shall l start from to teach you.?God who delivered me and made me a terror to the kingdom of darkness will deliver you.Look for good praying partners with your wife or call me using my phone number, l will put you through. Jesus means life!

Menn! A life dog is, better than a dead Lion.The soldier has done the needful seeing without being seen.

Callous man,you don't need to be told whether or not she has been defiled.Many men have experienced same before, yet they still hold on to their wives. Though it's painful. Nonetheless, men are double standard. When the dude husband slept with other women outside his matrimonial home and the wife heard it,no problem. But now,the unexpected has happened, the wife must go.

Allow her to go, without divorce her,she Will soon see reason why she should remain. Exception of the fact that she's Christian and you're a moslem.if this is the argument,give her a letter of divorcement quick.

Merely looking at him,you will sense demons in sheep clothing. Her man'sfriend is like a monster.
Hmmmmm,may God keep our children from evil partners.

IBO man again? Why IBO pipu are very aggressive like this? If its not IBO man,it Will be IBO woman this kill somebody.I love this tribe seriously but this evil of anger and desperation to kill at the slightest provocation is horrible thing about this tribe. Iam sorry all men are truly a descendants of Adam and Eve but its unfortunate.

Akeredolu okunrin meta,most roads in ondo state are like farm roads.They are so narrow that you would wonder whether there's Governor in the state.After Ogun state governor, you're the next most horrific Governor ever l see.

Sorry father, you're not born again.I guess you have never witnessed one. Neither,pray for anyone in your life's time as a father and experience healing. I have witnessed healing, ministered healing to the oppressed and experienced miracle myself. You're Orthodox church. Is it not Catholic? You're not born again.

We want action not cock and bull story. For how long?

Continue..........Eti ti kii gboro, a maaa n gee mo ori nii.So continue.

Ogun state governor, where are you?pls,learn something here.You're not measuring up here at all.

This is the first time l will read a cool and well composed thread from iyaebe.Now to your question, to me it's a must,not only to our girls but our boys also.We are living in a modern world.Though, its generally accepted as a norm that ladies should have a good knowledge of cooking so that she can take care of the home.She is the mother of the home. On the other hand,where a man fail to know how to cook,he is only putting himself into future jeopardy of hunger when the wife is not there.

Let's wait for the outcome of the investigations. For those who wish the principal, teachers and others in connection with this incident be slaughtered, do we do evils that good may come?

Kindly show us the evidence. We are highly encouraged. Seen is believing.

You have heard it all,mind your business oooo.Even where you saw them holding hands,the evidence is not enough.You might be saving your self of life's time trouble. A word is enough for the wise.

The heart of man is wicked.Hmmmmm,only God can know it.whether white or black, beautiful or ugly.A life with out the knowledge of God is evil.Can anything good come out children of Belial? And Supposing this wicked woman is more devilish than others, except you repent you're going to perish.

Thank you my brother, what has tribalism got to do with this terrible and painful news, what has his marrying Igbo girll done for him? Has he been made special than others? My people from Igbo land are so proud and full of self,may God deliver you oo.Rest in peace beloved of God.The killer will never know rest as God of Heaven reigns.

Don't mind those who asked u to bang on her oo.No be every snake man dey chop oo.of you do that you're in trouble. Now that you yourself realized that she's oppressive, she may hide your apaerm inside the belly of fish inside water and may never have children in life.Just leave her completely.

What's the essence of the CCTV when no one is there to monitor customers activities in mall? Many years ago in Germany, l was carried away by merely appreciating latest electronic gadgets while doing this, l was scratching my head,before l knew what was happening my picture has been taken. I later saw my self on their giant screen being displayed with great amazement. That's it! Even when l have not stolen anything!

Can two walk together except they agreed Amos 3:3?
In marriage, there should be absolute trust.More especially this evil times. Your husband should know your whereabout, so also your wife. Where either of the parties is not been specific or authentic, then,there's cause to worry.Jesus says your yeah must be yeah and your nay, nay.Anything short of this is evil.To diagnose this issue properly, are both of you born again Christian watched in the blood? If no,anything can happened.

Pastor like this is the reason why evil men of this world speak against Christ an her church. It's said ,by their fruits we will know them.To those who called Christianity a scam,you will give account of yourselves to God on the day if judgment, God has no respect of persons.

May l ask,what will happen to the bottles of beers collected afterwards.?