₦airaland Forum

SlyDev:
We keep saying North is backward but there is a tribe in our backyard doing this to women in 2022

When will grooming of little girls stop
When will shaving of women head stop
When will men stop regrading women as property
When will women start inheriting their father wealth

bomb24:
Yoruba women are now neck-deep into rituals just like their bonobos male counterparts.

Those of you dating them should be extra-conscious.

The current trend of ritualism and it related activities in yoruba-land should automatocally set an alarm and self consciouness of those that reside in their region, most especially their rural areas; apparently were such cases are high..

precaution measures:

1) If you are bald always wear face cap.

2) albinos are high on demand. so if you are one I would personally advice you to move closer to a security basement for safety.

3) get a safety helmet.

4) Meet any skilled 'cratftman' to craft a solid body plated armour for you.

5) if you have hunch back hmm sorry ooooh.

6) Plz avoid midnight movements in Sw. Especially the ladies, which of course are their predominant victims..

And also plz take note of the code-names of their ritual related activities:

BALL- head

TRANSFORMER- heart

FANS- hands

Nukilia:
Zelensky destroyed Ukraine and he must pay dearly for the loss of lives.
Putin will make sure any disgruntled country is taught a lesson they will never forget.
Never side with the enemy of Russia.

Today Zelensky wants to talk, tomorrow he's requesting for EU, US, NATO support. What a confused soul failing to protect the lives of Ukrainians.

The twisted minds quoting me should continue their palmwine business and focus on Buhari and the Almajiri crew

kaymart:
Na by sepaking on plans?
Wake up..
Consider what Buhari promised during campaign and what he did after election.
Buhari promised to cleanse Nigeria off corruption, feed sch children, provide multiple jobs for the teeming youth population, build refineries, diversity the economy, provide security and was going to crush Bokoharam in maximum of 6months.
Oh! He even condemned foreign medical trip for public office holders.
As a matter of fact and time, he did none of that, infact he did the reverse of most if not all of what he said.
So, forget talk....you still can't be gullible in this day and age.
I remember the way they used to exemplify and dignify Buhari's body language and the so called "man of integrity status". Where's the integrity as at today?

Or do politicians swear oaths to become Devilish immediately after attaining power?

POSmecrhant:
While the Governor is busy sending hilux to Niger Republic

Nwodosis:
That na old format, it won't work. The woman and the kids should visit the
nearest Spanish embassy and their documents restored.

saintneo:
Sir, please be patient with your son. This Nigeria is not very friendly, no child would want to be dependent. A few questions:

1. Does he smoke or drink?
2. Does he live above his means?
3. Does he come around with girlfriends?

If there is a yes amongst these questions, kindly kick him out ASAP. Else, I suggest you
encourage him to get a better employment.

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Exkandayee:
Oga calm down, your son is saving money to japa,I know dis 100%, he's not helping because he sees you're still strong and hard-working, just give him sometimes, you'll know he's really thinking about you

Yomit71:
pray always that God should open ways for him.
I have once been in his shoes and I can tell you that period of life for a man is really tough, depression could set in. I left home after my youth service thinking I want to start life on my own, see the reality is that it takes the grace of God to stand.
So after praying fervently for him, you can tell him you want him to go out and hustle for himself but equip him with some few cash to assist him for the period he will be walking helter skelter in search of greener pastures.
That's what my mom did for me and today, God has enlarged my coast and I have been reciprocating the good deeds ever since.
Glory to God.

philosophie:
Tell him you're giving him a grace of 1year to save at least 90% of his pay every month and decide on how to move ahead.

nams77:
Ok. Maybe I was to harsh. Maybe it will not be proper to send him out but If he is teaching as his father posited, then he should add some value

Blackbishop:
I will tell you from experience that it is futile to talk and talk again you will turn his enemy on a long run and what you are preventing will happen which is neglecting you.

But to be the wise man here, like my father did, he became my friend for more than a month he never hint me of his plan. He was so friendly that I have forgotten what we use to fight about then gbam one morning without provocation he just came over to my room and said I want to rent this room out due to the fact am old and I can’t work again. So when is it convenient for you to move out?

Aguogba:
Graduation in Nigeria now is no longer a passport towards meaningful livelihood. It only ensures that the graduand can become a reasonable member of the society.
What you have to do is to invite your son for a talk.
1.Ask him what his passion is in life. As in, what is that one thing that he knows that he is good at. That thing he does with little effort and excels.
2. When he tells you and you're convinced that he got it right (of course you must have seen signs without being told)
3. Verify from him if he is motivated to chase that passion, if the answer is yes, your problems are halved.
4. Ask him to make a budget of what it takes to KICK-START that passion.
5. Make your own research to confirm if he did a good job with (number 4) above as you won't entertain hiccups after.
6. Provide that "LAST PUSH" and make it clear that it's handsoff from that point as long as economic parental support is concerned.
7. Follow up with advice when called upon.
8. Good luck to both of you.

Aguogba:
Graduation in Nigeria now is no longer a passport towards meaningful livelihood. It only ensures that the graduand can become a reasonable member of the society.
What you have to do is to invite your son for a talk.
1.Ask him what his passion is in life. As in, what is that one thing that he knows that he is good at. That thing he does with little effort and excels.
2. When he tells you and you're convinced that he got it right (of course you must have seen signs without being told)
Hmmm,still learning, great thanks.
3. Verify from him if he is motivated to chase that passion, if the answer is yes, your problems are halved.
4. Ask him to make a budget of what it takes to KICK-START that passion.
5. Make your own research to confirm if he did a good job with (number 4) above as you won't entertain hiccups after.
6. Provide that "LAST PUSH" and make it clear that it's handsoff from that point as long as economic parental support is concerned.
7. Follow up with advice when called upon.
8. Good luck to both of you.

Carlyboi:
Dear Sir Desusi!

I’m firstly gonna applaud you for constantly fulfilling your fatherly duties to your kids even though you owe them that responsibility being their progenitor but as soon as they become adults you’re not necessarily obliged and even young kids abound who have got only deadbeats Sperm donor to call Dad!

To your post I think you need to understand how unfavorable the economy is to people generally not to talk of someone who’s underemployed and a male child..we males deal with loads of pressure and responsibilities which sometimes can be overwhelming,but....I can’t absolve him of responsibilities especially if the bills have become a burden for you...so he needs to sit up and man up.

Let me ask these questions..do you deprive access to the house or visit especially females?second do you think he’s genuinely financially incapacitated or he’s just not willing to try?I asked bout the access cos he might spending money on entertaining women elsewhere if he’s into women and if he’s actually kind then you can’t go too hard on him...you can tell your daughter bout it and get her to see reason or anyone else you think can get through to him friends,relatives or lover(s)if applicable.

Then try and saddle him with the smallest bills to start with and try awaken that sense of responsibility in him,also don’t try push him or force him out,don’t put me under undue pressure,don’t denigrate or Shame him cos of his financial and employment status...that would do more harm than good and strain and scar your relationship for life.

At the end of the day if nothing changes do whatever you can going forward and prioritize your needs he would always sort himself out and also it’s only a matter of time he won’t live with your for life I’m here thinking 5yrs at the most he would find his footing and move in to his own apartment...if you can accommodate,groom and raise him for 29years of his life what is 5years less or more that you can’t bear and also put him in your prayers constantly,pray for him to thrive!

medriano:
He is a lazy and selfish man. Do not for a second think he’ll be if any assistance to you even if he earns good money.
At 29, he should be out of your house, hustling to assist you and his younger one.
You make him comfortable that’s why.
What you should do is this.
1, electricity bill, food and other little stuff in the house should be shared. If he doesn’t contribute, make sure he does not eat or even charge his phone. Disconnect the light in his room.
2, give him an ultimatum to leave your house. You have over pampered him.
Is it not obvious that when he marries, he won’t take responsibility of his own family?
Whatever you get now, use it for yourself only.

PrimadonnaO:
He won't know where to look, sadly.

Blastedholligan:
Mehn, this is so disheartening to even read. I'm so sorry about this sir. Why is he being oblivious to what is happening around him? I wish I had the best answer to give but I'm not a father so I won't know how to act in this situation. What I feel you can do best is reach out to any of his closest friend in confidence and tell him what's happening then ask his friend to speak to your son.

If I were son's friend, the kind talk I'll tell him ehn, he might not even want to be friends with me anymore.Thank you,my brother.

I'm so sorry about this sir.