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where are all those that believes once a cheat is always a cheat?
Isn't this a case where you should show your sincerity?

na wa o
not often but I am guilty ( I never marry o)

I thought I should feel comfortable around my relations na?
and in my own house o? ( at least not very tight boxers not very small also and they are of rigid materials)

however when female friends are around I put on a top and shorts or trousers .

I never really thought it as "bad" o.......well let me adjust a little.

SmartFaces:
He said he is waiting for Indegine slot of his state to work, after service, he stayed in the house for 3good years till late last year he got a job with ministry of education as a teacher.

For the ambition, he always says, he will be a very wealthy man, that if his dad wins the case with the gov't over land that he will be swiming in money.

I thought you said he doesn't have a job and doesn't want to work?
how come three years after he left school,he could able to hold on to a job he got (even though its a teaching job)?
or are you just trying to accuse him of being lazy because he doesn't have a well paid job?

all he needs is the ambition of getting rich, so if one way fails, he certainly will find another as long as he hate being poor.

however if truly he his lazy as u claimed.... she/your friend should get herself a life and stop looking for who to depend on, she is just 26 and also a new graduate, she has a life to build rather than worry about marriage and searching for the financial capabilities of others.

Dragonking:
How did you know she was in an abusive relationship? Were you living with them? Nonsense.

I replied adaobi12 post based on her assumptions.

Adaobi12:
Though what she did is very appalling, but the blame shouldn't be one sided. who knows what she has suffered in the hands of her husband and MIL.
hell hath no fury than the wrath of a woman scorned.
I wish the man speedy recovery sha. though some men deserves this kind of treatment.

All she had to do is packup and leave an abusive relationship instead of being wicked.

Violence solves nothing

cococandy:
you know what I think even when I didn't say any such thing?

See how deep seated issues make some people unreasonable.

get off my case!
Mrs candybrain
or you wanna hit me and hide behind " i am a woman"? it won't work cocobrain
cos I don't accept punches
a nigga should know when to move away from violent bitches and when to 'self defend' against violent bitches
you don't worth me defending/ attacking,
so i wanna to leave right now, thus get off my back!

Kimoni:
Exactly, steer clear of violence. Don't get hooked to someone who brings out the worst in you. Avoid the person or the situation totally.

I relate to this post.
and not those post that sounded as if its OK for a woman to hit a man and not ok for a man to hit a woman. or is it?


moreover why didn't she leave but decide to go physical

cococandy:
If you can quote me on any thread anywhere in this forum supporting a violent woman, then maybe you might be worth listening to.

Since you can't because I NEVER support such, my appropriate response then would be to advice you to channel your issues to their origin.

say what you will, we both know you thought that guy deserves all he got but not the lady

well I don't care about your attention,i hope you realise that I responded to your mention.

I guess you don't worth "quote back" on this issue.

where is my remote, I've got to change this channel

Kimoni:
I once heard the story of a guy in naija years back that stabbed his wife multiple times, obviously out of anger and maybe provocation. She died but who is regretting daily right now? Who is wishing he could turn back the hands of time and he would never have touched her? Who is languishing in jail now despite having become "born again"??

wrong for him to do so therefore he deserves it
that's the more reason we should advice men or women to keep clear from violence
www.nairaland.com/2172077/hit-regret-it-she-deserved
that is a recent story, am sure that woman must have been slapping the husband and smashing properties
violence is bad irrespective of the gender

Kimoni:
Sir, if a man keeps beating his wife or any woman who provokes him, how many times in in just a year do you think he is going to beat her and then kill her eventually?

So you see, you get to a stage in life when you are going to be totally responsible for your actions and will not be able to blame anyone else for the actions you take. A married man has to attain that level of maturity to keep a happy home.

It doesn't mean the woman is blameless though...but self restraint is very key!

exactly the woman is guilty of physical abuse and she needs self restrain or she should be responsible for her actions.
cos if she keeps up with this attitude she will light the man on fire one day , abusers starts little by little and when it becomes a norm for them they move to the next level.

that doesn't mean the man is blameless but self restrain is the key

cococandy:
the man physically abused her first? I didn't read that anywhere here

not this thread but thread(s) you called stupid, instead of telling this women to stop hitting their partners you lots don't, but when it gets to stages like this one you scream the woman is wicked
slaps or burning are both physical abuse and none should be ignored.


yes the woman in the OP is wrong and wicked
and so is this
www.nairaland.com/2172077/hit-regret-it-she-deserved
its not an excuse for violence but that woman is guilty and should be stoped

cococandy:
Of course I called those excuses xtupid. The same way I will call this woman's excuse xtupid and whoever supports her action.

Nobody has any right to use the excuse of being pushed to the wall as justification for displaying violence or saying the other person deserved it.

Gerrit?

it wasn't a push excuse, it was a physical abuse and not a push, and that is what is stupid

gerrit?

cococandy:
@ bold. Newest morals by who's standard?

@ colored. Totally agree. So what was your rant about again?

didn't you call the excuses/complaints of guys who are being hit/push by their women xtupid?

[quote author = cococandy post=31207766]You think we are like those guys that make
excuses for violence in the name of being
pushed to the wall undecided
And all those other very xtupid excuses
abusers use to justify their wickedness while
some of you cheer them on.[/quote]am not saying is an excuse to be violent am saying those women need to be stopped and not the blame the men for every single misbehaviour of the women or tag their complains as xtupid.

collarfreak:
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U r mad mumu

brainless skull, I know you won't understand


sick monkey, waste of life

cococandy:
So this man deserves to be burnt?

Since we are making excuses for those who beat up their husbands and wives now.

Mtchew

you tell me.
I thought a wife should be allowed to hit her husband or isn't that the newest morals in the society?

the root has to be tackled and not the leaves, if not the leaves will grow out again.

no reason what so ever should any idI0t abuse his/her partner


I almost forgot mtchew

cococandy:
you really think anyone will support the woman burning her husband?
Or you just like typing lame sarcasm?

You think we are like those guys that make excuses for violence in the name of being pushed to the wall
And all those other very xtupid excuses abusers use to justify their wickedness while some of you cheer them on.

If this woman felt he wasn't treating her right,she had the option to leave than recourse to violence.
What if he died?
Irrevocable bad solution to a temporary problem when she could have taken the less difficult way out.

Now prison calls. I hope she finds the romance she wanted from him in there.

Mrs "I too know"
do you think violence starts big?
if a stupid woman starts smashing phones and using house equipment for weapon, she will soon use the match stick and kerosene, after all they are both home utilities.

lame sentiments every where!
violence is violence and it starts little, from words to slaps to burning as long as it is been giving a chance

mcdokwe
www.nairaland.com/2173673/police-arrest-woman-set-husband

don't regret
go and read their lazy comments on that thread
"wife are not smiling these days"

no woman will be my death
I refuse to be the victim of an abuse
I accept to be the Victor


hypocritical,sentimental e-idiots

what nonsense, why should she be arrested?,
don't they know she is a woman and so she is permitted to do so?



no woman will be my death
I refuse to be the victim of abuse
I accept to be the victor

Aprime:
Damn.
And people like you vote... SMH.

I wish I had something more terrible to say


like (she is........I can't find another thing to say)

as for you, mind your business, fowl!


am waiting the "e-sentimentals" , not you.

all form of rape is criminal

adultery is allowed
she should move on if she's not comfortable




I lost my pity

I use to believe women are equal to men
but now I see clearly
just a few can take responsibility for their actions

cococandy:
why is her father mad and can't stand your presence? Most Nigerian parents would want a girl to bring the man who impregnated her home.

Except they have something serious against him.
What do they have against you?

Is this girl the one her love made you go to jail?

Men especially can see through each other just as women can. So a man knows when another man who he thinks is not good enough for his daughter wants to come get her and he will do his best to protect his little girl.

Same way I'm sure when the time comes you won't want any scumbag trying to ruin your daughter's life.

If you know what the man has against you,you're halfway to solving this problem should it arise between you and your next babe because I sincerely hope this one doesn't come back to you. One of you might end up dead if she does.

simple the dad doesn't want a broke nigga, the reason he is angry the reason he does not want marriage

babyosisi:
Akpuruka
His previous posts and threads are hilarious
I thank God for the parents of Nkem
Man pass man



Hehehehehe
Papa Nkem,a gi nwe aka a

I use to think you were mature,
oh well never judge a book by its cover.

Dragonking:
Dont mind all these female clowns that parade themselves on nairaland..I just read were someone said his gf hits and slaps him about 11 times when they get into an arguement, and the very day he couldnt take it any longer he hit her back and was labeled a beast..The lady that has been hitting all this while remains a saint. SMH.

They expect that a man should show self control meanwhile they are permitted not to have self control..thats just crazy.

any lady that has these qualities or support these qualities is a lesser being

these women are jokers.
so now if someone feels pity for a guilty person, it means the guilty person was never guilty!
I can't seem to understand where these reasonings births from.

Rose2014:
Don't get me wrong o, I've not for once said I support the lady's actions. No not at all
Just that I'm not taking the op at face value maybe cos of his wrong choice of words(blame it on English language )

Anyway sir, your points are well noted.

you are not such a violent person after all, maybe I misunderstood your sentiments .
good day ma'am.

Rose2014:
My dear, you were not there hence u cant know exactly what happened.
Let me ask u this, So u think d op sent a text to her friend is all that is to the story?
If u do, you'll believe anything

D funny thing with these kind of story is that if the op is as innocent as he claims, he won't be looking for comforters here

No I don't believe the text was the only offence, the op admitted he said some bad words to her as well, however that was in respond to hers, moreover the op never raised a finger on her before she began with the insult and even after she has insulted him and kept insulting him but only got physical when His girl decide to get physical and also stopped him from leaving.
now why won't I believe this story when we have most ladies here saying on no account is the op right including you.
OK the op is not right ....agreed
from the "op" what do we call a lady like that?
the truth is this, if ypu don't advocate violence in any case for one gender then don't advocate violence in any case for the other.
next time the woman should be able to control herself , end of discussion.

Rose2014:
I'm happy you admitted your mom went verbal sometimes. That's women for you. Why didn't your dad beat her in revenge?
You see your dad(bless his heart) was able to deal with it without everything degenerating into a fight
Physical abuse is a no no for me. A woman should never ever raise her hand on a man. But also a man should not push a woman to such limits and come here to justify beating like op is doing now.

I maintain that the op's role before going physical doesn't add up

so sending a text to their friend to tell her off interfering in his marriage is pushing beyond limits of diplomatic reasoning and yet you say under no circumstance should a man beat woman!
HYPOCRISY!!!
I don't support violence but I regret giving you a taste of your pill
we are all humans.

mcdokwe:
I am not justifying anything, like I said people shouldn't be pushed to do things they would regret later.

I didn't do anything special and for the records I still believe I owe her a lot whether or not we end up together, I know there are men who could be more tolerant than I was but there are also some who couldn't take an inch of all I took. My wish is that she overcomes that so that she wouldn't find herself always saying sorry to the tolerant man or ending up with black eyes from the less tolerant one.

guy please justify yourself o
look at what she did and some idiots are not saying anything instead they to crucify you.

just for being mean to her friend for interfering in your relationship she went physical and verbal on you and your loved ones and your property, if you where the one that did that, these ladies would be praying for your girl to learn kung fu for reason so she can beat you to death.

Rose2014:
Like I acknowledges earlier,A woman shouldn't go physical with a man

So you don't want God's grace to multiply in the life of the guy because he could control his temper abi?

Do u want to know the truth? I'll tell you
Even your sisters n your mom will behave in a way that will make you want to beat them and justify it. Except you beat them also, you can't justify beating your woman.

ALL women have times they drive a man(being a bro, father, uncle, boyfriend, pastor etc)
So if you chose to be a woman beater, u go beat tire

are you saying that women can't control themselves?
if that's what you mean,you are indirectly saying women are lesser being, after all it is the brain that controls your body so if a woman's brain can't keep up with her emotions it means she needs brain upgrade.
my mom never went physical on my dad,
my dad never went physical on my mom
my mom only rarely went verbal but that was early in their marriage and same did my dad.
because of some sane ladies here I will only tag "a lesser being" any girl that feels her brain can not restrict her misbehavior but a mans brain must restrict his anger in all situation and against all odds
YES that kind of lady is a lesser being.

if you give me a dirty slap I will give you a dirtier slap, period.
I wish men will understand that some idiots just want to hide behind being a woman to misbehave all they want

I refuse to be a victim of any form of abuse
and I won't wait for you to slap me only to return to apologise, for me to be sure you love me,
what of if she doesn't love me?, so it means I have giving one fool the opportunity to just give me a dirty slap and get away happily and proudly.
THAT WILL NEVER HAPPEN!
I don't beat women even over verbal abuse, but you raise your hand against me, I gladly return the favour.