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Timbuktou:
1. Nna, no such thing exists.

2. Womanology.

3. This is all women, not some, all.

Remember that little talk we had on women and logic? Let that guide your interaction with them.

this guys are

crackhaus:
Women!

When you tell them they don't like hearing the truth, they think you're just talking - if your husband is working hard for you, at what point does your 'independent, powerful and modern black woman' chant come into play?

Not saying a woman shouldn't expect to be treated to the good things, but getting angry because a husband says he doesn't work for you is just hilarious.

I'm not surprised anyway, there are women who believe in:
My husband's money is our money, while my money is my money - selfish entitled fvcks

SirShymex:
Who else should a guy work for apart from himself and his children (born and unborn)? - err, if he's one who cares about his community/race, you can add that to the equation.

If you decide to work hard for women, you'll go bankrupt and/or end up broken cos you can never please them. Get ya own shiit.

SniperD:
its ur kid so what's wrong with it? Abi is the woman working empty handed?

I can carry my kid while walking with my wife but I wouldn't strap him with a cloth to my back simple.
I didn't say I can't carry him at all.

EfemenaXY:
Well then, in that case, you need to take a step back and look deep within yourself. What sort of vibes are you sending out? How do you come across to the ladies when you meet them?

First impressions do last long. That aside, if you're sending out the wrong message, then you're bound to attract the wrong sort of girl.

is not like I always end up with bad girls but I don't think I was ever in love with them.
(well most
are not really good as most of them mostly care about marriage and sex)
so am starting to think maybe they have their hidden intention for even coming close in the first.
maybe the solution would be for me to try locate a girl I feel attraction for.
so I think I will keep the first impression in mind.
so I don't come across as too cold or too desperate just as carefree advised

the truth is i think most of those sexy and responsible ladies see
me a player but I don't why, not like I flaunt girls around. although I have a lot of female friends
thanks anyway

maryhaam:
am in such situation,mine is a bit different,was into him @first den he was messing up,ndatin all,so now he has loved up,n mine has wear out,dunno he took me for granted as first

you see?
now with this it shows that love is supposed to be mutual from the very beginning.
I think if it is one sided then it must be infatuation or lust

that's why don't get excited when I see someone who am attracted to and she pretends like she's blind when am around ( later they will say the guy was not showing interest)

I might just steal a chance since we are on same page or are you one of those who suddenly turn an angel meant for God at the slightest complement?
just joking
you look good though

EfemenaXY:
You need to ask yourself what it is that you want.

Are you looking to get married now, and are therefore seeking a long term relationship that would lead to that? I think not.

I don't know how to say this without sounding condenscending, but you are very young. Too young if your profile pic is anything to go by, and you should therefore be concentrating on your studies. You aren't even in your mid-twenties yet, are you?

Have girls as friends. Very good friends if you must, but I don't think now's the time for you to be looking for anything deeper.

too young? lol
am almost ....
and that pics? I was like 27 then some years back.
I know am cute ,I would have shown a pics of my face but you know how it is on here.
my studies? you know the answer by now.

marriage? not sure if am ready, but I know it wount be too long from now.
you see I like cash and I want to make a lot while am still single but that doesn't mean I cant keep a girl while doing that, infact I feel any lady who is ready to stand by me while am building life is a girl worth spending forever with.

carefreewannabe:
Try and find the happy medium. Don't chase but don't be so cold. It looks like you are not interested when you behave the way you do. It has to flow. Give and take, take and give. The good girls have pride too.

well then why do they start forming when a brother start showing those warm feelings?
for example I really don't like my present girl but she was just too nice when we first met so I gave it a try and she was worth loving but after sometime she just start making it seem like I should be the only one to make the relationship work.

I told her to go her way two days ago.

am starting to feel like maybe cause I was never really
attracted to most of them in the first place that's why.

I don't know is a guy the only one to meant to put into a relationship?

or maybe I need to find a lady that catches my attention from the very beginning.

cause am starting to believe love don't grow with time.

( note am really a happy face and friendly guy, I just don't let me get ride over)

I lost the ability to approach a lady for reasons that concern relationship
I don't want to push a girl before she falls in love ( that was how I got here)

I get lots of "green light" attention ( like admiring looks, comments , sometimes some girls ask personal questions, they want to be around), but once I make a move (she might be a friend or a colleague or someone that often cross my part eg a Church member) , I just drop the chase the next moment probably because I cant stand a girls shakara (wanting me to keep chasing for love).
now it has become chronic that even after a warm chat with a lady and she says " i don't give out my number easily, why don't you meet me at this address tomorrow so we can get to know each other well before I can trust you with information about me"
I will simply go and never again bother about her ( in some cases some actually tried to locate me to be sure what went wrong)

I get along with girls a lot though ( they say you are very funny)
so i have been in many relationship with ladies who I would say were in love with me, without me doing almost nothing to be in the relationship but just by being a friend or the normal cool guy she sees around ( may be work place,church , friend of a friend)
before I know things just fall in place ( there are some cases when someone close to me had to pass the message from the girl to me indirectly like " ada says she really love your company and she thinks you are cute"

the problem is that most of the ones I really felt something for always slip away , probably because I said nothing that suggested I wish to get more committed
( one deleted my contact, when I asked why, she said she was expecting a relationship proposal from me but It never came, instead it came from my friend and she accepted thinking I would get angry but I didn't so she had to let me go)

this days I don't even say hi to someone I don't know but I find attractive unless am in a very happy mood

am i suffering from what I detest the most (pride) ?

I don't want to push someone before she falls in love with me ( that was what got me to this stage)

the man doesn't want anymore o
he is fed up, Please let him be before he gets frustrated to the extent of beheading his wife and kids.

carefreewannabe:
Ridiculous reasons?

For them these reasons are OBVIOUSLY very serious.

But unlike adults, they often forget their "problems" quickly.






[size=3pt]Sometimes I wonder if God is also smiling at what we consider a "problem".[/size]

sometimes you sound reasonable

I mean this got me thinking .

EnlightenedSoul:
Change is hardly constant.

I think you need understanding. I never agreed with that comparison, but then again that wasn't what I addressed now was it? It appears you forgot to include yourself in your prayer.

o well prayer for intercession didn't work
it seems god also thinks once an enlightenfool always an enlightenfool

i will just stick to the advice " silence is the best answer to fool"

i meant no insult

EnlightenedSoul:
What is it with the "if your daughter/son...blah"?

If 'my' daughter cheats, she's a damn cheat. Exactly what difference is there between what 'she' did, and what 'you' did? In fact, it's worse. It's not like I raised 'you'.

you actually wrote almost nothing,
except for this line " if ' my ' daughter cheats, she's a damn cheat"
I think you need understanding
she was wrong to compare muder to cheat
and change is constant....
I pray you understand this summary

zeb04:
Once a cheat always a cheat.

I don't understand why people take cheating patners back,
cheating is choice,walking away is another choice.but you stay and pretend everything is alright why you doing backyard business is not acceptable

Cheating is same offense as murder to me on moral grounds.

let's assume you have a daughter.

I cheated on your daughter because she cheated on me, I think that could be easily taken as payback

I killed your daughter because she cheated on me
i guess you will let it be just a pay back in the same measure, no?

I cheated on your daughter for no reason, you would probably advice her to leave and forget the case

I killed your daughter for no reason, please what would you do?

will you be happy if your daughter is not shown enough care, she cheats this one time and her husband sends her home? tell me if you will not think she can change and deserves a chance? would you see her as a cheat forever even if she puts much sincere effort to regain her dignity?
I see sentiments in your post.
I see unreasonable comparison also ( murder vs cheat)

please design the ass so big and sexy, I will gladly sponsor

there will never come a time when I will do this such thing
I can carry my baby while I walk with my wife ( when I get married)
someone will say ego of a black man
where do you see a white doing this?

it means he means what he said.


but seriously if he was mean when he said it , then I think you need to check your actions if there's anything you do that he doesn't like but if you can't see or find any, then you need to discuss with him on the issue

continue dey kill una self because of men money .
who loose now?

what a pity

body is the deal for me

and when its time to share wealth they will suddenly become one

when its time to pay bills the husband consent would not be needed

more so to this injustice, the husband is the only one who can commit rape ( even by coercion)
very funny
very pitiful

SirShymex:
Doing laundry is just part of being a good woman - just throw that into the food mix.

The jobless ones who depend on their wives are fools, not men. So, he wasn't alluding to them.

hmm... no wonder......





I totally believe and accept.
even if it was a lie, I would still believe,
but I believe its true.

if you don't like my believe, you have the right to believe yours.

can I marry the sister to my brothers wife?

if yes, then its the same thing as twins marrying another twins.

I throway salute

I really do love these guys

compare the misbehavior to parents, the killing of parents by teenage kids who feel offended, the rudeness to parents..........many more
and tell us which is better.

you deserve purnishment in one way or the other if you Bleep up (else there will be no need to purnish criminals).

anyone idiot who I am in any way dependent upon that does not let me know my wrongs and does not purnish me in one way or another, I promise him/her a good deal of trouble when things go wrong for me.

(be it corporal or otherwise, it is good a thing as far it is not overdone)

this is my opinion
please don't quote me

zeb04:
Op don't listen to any of the advice here esp from the women.

Divorce/Seperation because the woman was banging on his door?
Didn't Op say he has settled with his wife and she promised not to repeat that again.
You all giving such advice are sick in the brain.

Since when did marriage become childplay.
Nansense.

would you advice other women who are victims of physical abuse not to take the advice of women who feel the marriage isn't safe?
be sincere to yourself.
if so, then I have nothing to say.


for me, I will proove to any of such woman, that what is good for the goose is good for the gander
at least that is what women (ncluding you) are advocating for

this is the 15th time am watching that video, I downloaded it (the anger and rage in me is overflowing), as heartless as I am I felt like a woman whose baby has been beheaded in front of her.
the only time I can be as heartless as that maid, is when am given the opportunity to relate with her in a room for a day.
I will cut her hands and legs, then blind her(punch her eyeballs with needles) , cut off her tongue, punch her ear drums with nail and make sure she doesn't die quickly.

as for one lord and mutter on this thread, if I meet people like these, talking trash when my innocent daughter is been brutalize.
I will burst ur balls with pliers, cut ur diick with a saw, feed u with it.
if ur a woman, I will fill u up with cement through ur puusy and sew it up (in the nigerian shoe maker way) and I will give u water to drink.
idiots

Kanwulia ! ,why did it disappear na?
I have not had a look, or don't you want me to see the food you're offering before I eat?, this is quite unfair.
please regroup and re-upload

I wanted to keep quiet over the first list ...
but if you add the second list to it ...... I think your counsin is now being use for community service

you feel like looking for a man that will take care of your needs?
I don't think that line of thought is healthy at all.
the man may be more abusive than your mum you know?
after all he will be in charge "same position" just like mum.
don't you get it?
you will be dependent on him, you will need to please his decisions and you may possibly get insulted or abused in one way or another if you do something that pissed him off.
therefore in the end that will or might only compound your emotional break down.
(although you might still meet a good man who would respect you even in your situation) but my best advice is get yourself a job.

imo
I think you shouldn't take decisions under the control of your emotions.
have some patience, relax and strategically plan and build your status (especially financially), then you can comfortably move out of their house but main while try to avoid quarrels with any of your relations living in that house, so you wouldn't get more emotionally broken down.