deathcomestoall:
Most of his posts are very flawed and he makes it appear as if he's struggling with his own relationship life, reason why he gives so much advice everytime. As the saying goes, those with so much advice have the most issues.

I feel the need to wish you good luck and prosperity on this new year.

sweetilicious:
Yeah. So true

It's my pleasure to wish you good luck and prosperity on this new year.

zaragal:


Same to you

I feel like it will be a taboo on my side should I fail to wish you good luck and prosperity on this new year.

seizethaBae:
Happy new year people!!!

I couldn't find a reason not to wish you good luck and prosperity on this new year.

sisisioge:
Wowzerful!


This sounds like an excerpt from a sci-fi! Biko, do not try to unravel the mystery that the God Almighty is...He created us all. He knows you have your doubts about His existence, yet, he's lenient enough to give you all you need to really see. Billy, don't wait until your old age while on your death bed to finally see!

It is well.

I can't afford not to wish you good luck and prosperity on this new year.

0neal:


Sire
Are you a psychologist?

Hmmm! Formally, no.

ikp120:



Lolzzz

This think you need a taste of what witchcraft oppression is like if at all it is real, don't you?

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Some of us on the altruistic and innovative leaning are really indestructible by mere mortals.

ikp120:

Lolzzz

Bro just relax, your file will be open soon, then you will know what it is like. From the look of things, it appears you already have a pending case.

My brother na we-we. On this new year I wish you and everyone around you - including your uncle - good luck and prosperity.

ikp120:

You're using some fucking terms like that for a liberal versatile guy in Lagos? He knew those shiits before you fucking knew them. His feets are deep in the stuff.

Bro use your fvcking head mehn . This has been going on for years. It wasn't happening like this before.

Note that this only happens after a particular shiit happens to him at night (which I ain't typing here), the next morning, "puff!", the deal is called lost. There are some other deep part of the story that I can't just type here.

Use your fucking head and see some fucking pattern here... Or are you so bad at analyzing stuffs and seeing patterns?

Intellectual poverty is the worst form of poverty. Enjoy your miserable and wretched life with your delusional uncle. Obviously, maga no pay your uncle again. Lol.

ikp120:


Surely I understand the importance of mastery and being informed, but how do you explain situations where deals are overnight cancelled for no reasons? Or does that one mean that you're dumb or "innovation is behind you"? Lolzzz

Guy so many inexplicable shiits happen when these village people are at work o.

You amuse me. Unexpected cancellation of a deal isn't a sign of any supernatural force against him. The other party that got such a deal only did what your uncle failed to do - G-ETSWA. It's obvious that he still practices ETSWA if he's a legit contractor. It all boils down to innovation.

ikp120:


Bro he knew all this shiit you just typed. Losing wealth is not even the case here. This guy still sees deals in millions, but before he seals the shiit, one particular thing will happen and "puff", the shiit will be gone... That particular thing is a sign that your matter dey for coven. I am not and never gonna mention that particular thing in public for security reasons.

If I listen to your story and tell you that your case is in a witchcraft coven, please don't joke with it because I have real life experience there

Don't get me wrong o; one can succeed in life even if their case is still being actively handled by a witch, but it will take real some goddamn effort and extreme determination on their part, even if one not prayerful.

Kindly do have it in mind that conceit is God's gift to petty people. It's not profitable to be a Mr big shot.

If your uncle do come across deals that worth millions but he/his corporate entity fails to see to its fruition, it simply means that he wasn't doing something right (innovation is behind him). . . You may not understand the importance of mastery of an art and the need to be informed.

Experience can fail but being informed won't.

ikp120:
I have an uncle who was once like this... He bought nice cars for everyone around him and lived big... He was literally one of the Lagos big boys... His biggest mistake was throwing a big party in his village just for show off, all the way from Lagos... As I am typing this now, he is barely surviving; all the doors are literally shut... He depends on relatives these days.

I learnt from that. Till date, I don't post about myself on Facebook because witches don dey Facebook too o... These days, I use my money to help people rather than try to show people how rich I am.

Abeg, no matter what that dude dey do, let him stay away from his village o, except he already has contract with his village people ... Infact, make he no dey show off because those idiots no like good things o.

Some problems can be avoided.

What a myopic way of reasoning. Dear, to make money isn't easy and to retain it (when you made it) is more difficult.

Your uncle lost in the game of innovation and possibly loyalty to his associates too. To maintain and sustain money one must master the act of innovation, loyalty, diversification and divesting (where and when necessary).

Kindly ponder why about 80 percent of businesses hardly survive for more than 5 years of their kick-off. Then tell me if financiers of those that couldn't survive wouldn't automatically become wretch.

Meanwhile, philanthropy is a good moral act especially when done altruistically and not for a superficial reason - ego boosting. And, frivolous spending (of any kind) before consolidation is an easy recipe for failure.

Meaningful due diligence cannot take place without courtship. However, long duration of courtship cannot guarantee effective due diligence. But achieving self-illumination before venturing into courtship will make one's due diligence an easy task. This is the importance of one knowing his/her ethical leanings first, before seeking for courtship. . . . Man know thyself!

In summary, the following should be the rightful steps:

- Self-illumination
- Courtship
- Due diligence

"Attitude is not always a manifestation of an attribute." This is so because while the former can be learned or faked the latter is innate.

Homo sapiens we are but God (source of all) we aren't. Presence of subconscious mind makes us all spiritual beings - we are all imperfect manifestation of the perfect one - source of all. Our imperfection state nullifies anyone's claim of hearing 100 percent from the source of all and this also invalidate claim of sacrosanct of any revealable, dogmatic and creedal religion and by extension any of the so called holy books (this however doesn't mean that they are completely useless, no, they are great works of some of the great minds of the yore).

All it take an extrapolative mind to start doubting existence of source of all is to pick up a contradictory book like the bible. No wonder the non illuminated among the extrapolative minds do take the route of atheism.

- One who need religion to do good simply lack good morality.

- Religion; Revealable, dogmatic and creedal religions are simply a systems of subjugations. A system that enables predators to devour leeches - talk about opportunists of different shades.

- In our default state we are all spiritual but not religious.

- Free will and brain remains the best gifts God gave to human being. The more informed, altruistic and self-willed one is the better.

- Satan/Devil isn't a supernatural or perfect being. Its only a manifestation of human beings choice of bad over good at any given time; For God has no rival.

- For God so much love us that He made available for us, all we need to exist well independent of his minutes intervention in our affairs. This explained the reason sicknesses responds to proper medicine (either orthodox or unorthodox). Traders sell their wares and make profits. Architects designs beautiful structures and structural/civil engineers sees to its manifestations. . . . This is all about humanism.

- God neither need our praises nor expect our prayers. To do good toward other human beings is to reverence Him just as doing bad toward other human beings is to express our ungrateful nature. Personally, if I do good I feel energetic and if I do bad I feel depressed, so I have a better option of doing good to the best of my ability, all for my own good of feeling energetic. . . . This is all about being conscientious.

Recycled old fiction.

randomperson:

U don't get it... The point is Christians of any race, but most visible in whites, are more likely to see themselves as superior to people of another race...

Perhaps you will need to re-read my previous submissions, because herein you've slightly corroborated them - especially my foremost one.

However, what you don't seem to understand or agree with me (citing your usage of it) yet, is that racism is different from discrimination.

randomperson:

Religion teaches you to see yourself better than others and that by virtue of your belief, you're worthy of eternal utopia and any one who doesn't share your beliefs is worthy of eternal damnation....
Racism teaches u that by virtue of your skin or race, you have better attributes and are entitled to some privileges....
The mindsets are different but not completely unrelated

I'm not sure you're discussing the topic which its subject is "Christians are more likely to be RACISTS than others."

Citing the subject of the topic and what the word "racist" mean, it's obvious that the OP lack meaningful knowledge to make the submissions he made. This is so because both the blacks and whites (people) practices the Christian religion in particular and religion of any kind in general. So, the appropriate word to use should be "discrimination" not racism. Therefore, my former position remain - someone cannot be a racist towards another that share same race with her.

Tell me that creedal, revealable and dogmatic religion, and atheistic proponents are more likely to be more discriminatory against those that don't profess their belief system than others (like me) that are spiritual but not religious or atheist and I'll agree with you.

Racism is different from discrimination in the sense that one cannot be a racist against someone of her race.

There will always be a Mr right/Ms right. But sure there's no Mr perfect/Ms perfect.

@OP; what do you know about ethical philosophy? Teacher kindly don't teach me nonsense (no insult intended towards your person). One who find another that share same ethical philosophy with her already has a Mr right - especially those of the diplomatic ethical leanings.

I only see evil in a Ms bad looking for Mr right - she may never find it unless by accident.

"I love you" vs "I'm in love with you." The former is just a normal thing I say to any human being (anyone that hasn't given me reason to question their loyalty towards me or the large society/humankind), when I say it, I mean it - here I talk about agape/selfless love. And when anyone says same towards me too, I do assume that they used it in same context like me.

However, as for the latter - ero.tic love - I reserved it for any lady that her attributes and attitudes would consume me. Any lady that would be lucky to have me utter those words to her automatically has a maga/slave in me. And if a lady says it to me, a retrospect of her actions and inaction would cause me to determine whether or not I would feel happy and reply her in same manner or kick her out of my life - on the latter in this regard, if I already know that she's a hypocrite.

Foremost, the character you used here to represent the man isn't really that of a "quiet man" instead it's that of a "gutless man." Quietness/ calmness doesn't mean/denote feeble-mindedness.

He should just man-up (become self-willed, and preach and enforce uprightness between he and his wife). This is important so long as he's certain of his own altruistic, effacing and civil attributes - I mean, assuming that reverse in status is the case between them, if he wouldn't have exhibited/exhibit same or even worse ill-attitudes towards his wife (like his wife's doing toward him now) - but if otherwise I'll say that he deserve no mercy. In the event that he does this and the problem persist, it means that the wife has long foreclosed a happy marriage between them. In that case he should either crumble her or separate from her.

Marriage/any relationship shouldn't be endured but enjoyed. The only ill occurrences/attributes/attitudes that should be endured are those that are not deliberately/artificially brought about by any one of the parties involved.

In fact, it baffles me when I observes that most people do go into any form of relationship without having it openly or at the back of their mind to implement reciprocation- I'm a proponent and its practitioner. My kindness, affection and associateship are absolutely free for anyone irrespective of class/relationship but to retain any of them one must maintain them. On the other hand, my respect, care and trust are earned and of course to sustain them one must maintain them too. Hypocrisy, conceit, greed and pretence are evil. . . personally I don't condone any of them. I dislike people that exhibits too clever by half attitude.

Absence of peace isn't only witnessed in time of war, no, being in unhealthy relationship is another avenue.

Old age doesn't confer wisdom. However, with age and knowledge (meaningful knowledge) comes wisdom. Therefore, no, parents can never always be right. But sure a knowledgeable parent(s) can be wiser than his less knowledgeable offspring.

In summary, regardless of age, the most informed will always be more right than the less informed.

I'll always say it; people should endeavour to know their ethical philosophy - achieve self-illumination - and marry someone who share same ethical philosophy like them. Without this many people will always live in agony all in the name of marriage/relationship of any kind.

Situation like yours (OP) is even worst because you don't have any mechanism of authority over him, presently. He's (citing the character you pressented herein) the conceited, domineering and selfish type. While you came across as an effacing and altruistic type.

Since he doesn't appreciate your five fingers handshakes anymore, consider to reduce it (no more special care and attention) - but while on it, never disrespect him or fail to give him support to the best of your ability. Also neither nag him nor whine about him to any third party - this is to avoid giving out the only power you have now. Just don't enslave yourself to please him; that's my point. This is how to threat insatiable, ungrateful, opportunistic and prideful people. And while on that, try all your best to upgrade your economic and physical conditions.

After you achieved the above feats, believe you me, you would automatically have an attractive power (always remember to remain humble no matter your accomplishments. Conceit is God's gift to little people) that can attract him to come for renegotiation with you. There and then you lay down your principles and demand for a profound change of mentality from him - not a superficial face-lift.

Don't walk out from your marriage for now, work it out. But if the above steps failed in the end (it can only fail if he's insane), then a permanent separation/divorce is an option.


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Except if you once had a stable life and was when you started shouldering your supposed fiance's responsibilities, then your action(s) is justifiable and you deserve a kudos - citing your submission of doing it altruistically. However, if it's in similar condition you're now (citing your submission also) you were when you started it, then you are just a self-deceitful and hypocritical person. It also means that your benevolence towards her is opportunistically induced - in that case don't start crucifying her when she decides to dump you after her graduation. Realistic and honest people never displeased themselves to please others - yet that doesn't stop them from being philanthropic and selfless.

Meanwhile, about your job, you need to understand that one of the important attitudes to adopt when venturing into any line of business is eschewing oversensitivty. You need to embrace it to remain at peace with yourself. People - petty people - must always be disdainful to anyone they superficially assumed to be better off than.

On the other hand, the road to success - meaningful success - is never straight. Always remember that if wishes were horses beggars would ride.

On the flip side, quit self-pity.

I wish you and everyone on this thread a blessed holiday season. May this Christmas bring to you all comfort, joy, peace and happily to last throughout the coming year.

0neal:
Merry Christmas Nairalanders!!!
and to the Persons behind the monikers am following

bxcode
sweettease
skarlett
TheSonOfMark
Mimzyy
Diplomaticbeing

Wish Y'all a Gleeful Christmas and a productive Newyear...

I wish you a blessed holiday season. May the Christmas bring you comfort, joy, peace and happiness to last throughout the coming year.

Both feminist and nonegalitarian men has same things in common; they are both conceited, domineering, opportunistic, rude and full of shenanigans. They are of manipulative ethical leaning - petty people.

Shout-out to all egalitarians and conscientious proponents and practitioners. People of diplomatic ethical leaning rock.

A sane woman would know without being told or cajole to know, that her husband is her leader - just first between equals. While a sane man also wouldn't need to be told before he know that him been a first between his equal - woman - doesn't make the woman his slave.

zaragal:


Ur name fits u well

Since it takes a thief to catch a thief, I've to conclude that you're equally of the diplomatic ethical leaning. Meanwhile, you've a lovely DP.

Compliments of the season.

There's nothing wrong with a lady who's unavoidably financial dependent talking about marriage/going into marriage - so long as her partner is financially able. Inadequacy of money doesn't automatically make a lady (person) visionless or lazy.

In fact, if left with an option to choose between a greedy/covetous lady (who's buoyant and at the zenith of her career) and a visionless/lazy lady I would sure go for the latter.

So far so good, I like a lady who's ambitious but not greedy/covetous/lazy/visionless one. Perspective not immediate financial status is what defines one's exeptionality or lack of it.

Both atheists and practitioners of dogmatic and creed religions has one thing in common; conceit. Truly, conceit is God's gift to petty people.

The source of all is the God I know. We're all imperfect manifestation of the perfect one - source of all. Free will remains a rare gift to mankind.

One who need church to do/become good truly lack good morality. And he who doesn't believe that there's a source of all intentionally live on self-deceit.

The guy lack meaningful knowledge. Let's stop encouraging mediocrity.