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As I always say, there's nothing wrong with either sexes being ambitious and powered by grit. However, there's everything wrong with anyone that is either covetous or greedy because they're always powered by non contentment, therefore will go to any length and can do anything to satisfy their inordinate longing.

One who doesn't believe in something will surely fall for anything. OP, obviously your wife has a wrong ethical personality. You need to take charge (I didn't say control) of her/your family. Up your game. Good attributes are everything for me. . . . It's unfortunate that attribute is innate, so get her earn a good contentment attitude since attitude can be learned or faked.

If it's on a faceless forum like this, her good attitudes first, however in the long run, only her good persona (physical appearance) and attributes in particular will sustain it.

Meanwhile, if it's offline, her good persona first then quickly followed by her good attitudes, yet only her good attributes will sustain it in the long run.

Keneking:
Which US?

Our okro can not grow in this fashion in the US. These shots are probably from Enugu or Owerri or Awka if not any of the Southern Nigeria.

The man must be high on burukutu...nonsense

Obviously you're being sarcastic. But if no, then you need a serious thought process reset. . . . don't be like an average American who doesn't believe that other countries and people exists outside the shores of US.

Okra doesn't grow in the south east of Nigeria, only. The best species of okra are found in the US. In fact, in Africa as a continent, Senegal has the best breeds of okra. Thanks.

Holla me when list of 10 most influential governors in Nigeria 2016, is out. Popularity is a junior brother to influential. Thanks.

Servitude isn't loyalty. Culture or no culture, people who usually exhibits the kind of attitude you exhibited are always hypocritical. . . . Me self I do fear them.

Let your ingenuity through your expertise earned you respect, special affection and familiarity you sought from him. You weren't employed as his PA, so I see no cogent reason for your action if not for a hidden intention to establish unnecessary familiarity with him and expectations of favouritism.

Had he be a novice to ethical philosophy and allowed you, you would have taking it as a routine and continue with the same despicable act and that would have allowed emotional relationship - every sound businessman knows how not to allow anyone to subject him to emotional entanglement.

skywalker240:
why are behaving as if you no know politicians when dey wan to curry favour


That guy give no fvck abt anybody urself included

I wonder who the hell that told you that everyone on this forum is a no body like you and your ilks. Petty people and conceitedness is inseparable. Go look for your mates elsewhere.

mikolo80:
better, I thought you're one of those dreamers who think it will fall from heaven. So what's the actual actions that will be taken to decentralise. This one that our southern leaders will sell their mothers for billions

I have what I termed "my formula for power grab," for now it remains my exclusive preserve. Besides, this is an open forum.

It's conventional wisdom that in every true democratic settings, the majority will always carry the vote. However, what's not true is that one must be of the majority clan to have a majority. . . . This is where politics nullifies the mathematics of 1 plus 1 equals to 2 answer.

On the flip side, our (southerners) conceit, orthodox and leechlike attitudes are the main banes of our servile disposition towards the Northerners in the project Nigeria. We need a fundamental and philosophical changes.

Always avoid following or associating a/with leader/personality who's not altruistic, contented and conscientious, if you believe in a honourable cause and pursuing one.

mikolo80:
how do you decentralise. You think they will be looking at you?

Power is never given to instead its fought for.

It's only myopic blacks who doesn't know that the westerners are the biggest perpetrators of scam. They live for it everyday. The only difference between theirs and that of an average black person is that while they appears in a predaceous form, an average black person always appears in leechlike form.

Castigate him all you want, yet as far as I am concerned, he is one among the few elite that understand what democracy is all about. And by extension, he always has good intentions towards the country in particular and its populace in general.

I am a strong proponent of decentralization of power.

So long as we indepthly continues to practice "tribercracy" instead of democracy, the North will always remains the grand deciders of the fate of other constituencies of the country. Absence of equality will always result to master/slave relationship in any sphere of human endeavours.

Actually, even in the event that the country is restructured - regional-wise, the current democratic dominance of the North against the other ethnic components will still persist. Tribalism is an incurable disease.

To this end, the only potent solution will be to decentralize power. Confederation is our best bet, if truly we are sincere with our intentions to continue to coexist together as a country and ensure peace, happiness and prosperity for all.

Yes, one can find a decent partner. This is so because attitude (persona or superfication) is not always direct reflection of attribute. The former can be learned or faked but the latter is innate.

So, one who is able to differentiate attitude from attribute can sure find a decent partner. Using standard-base of 100 percent, any partner that possesses from 70 percent upwards of the attributes one desires in a partner can lay claim of having a decent partner.

However, tell me that one cannot find a perfect partner and I will agree with you 100 percent.

The very fact that Ankara fabric is commonly termed "African print" doesn't really mean that its of African origin. So there's nothing Nigeria about her dress. Misinformation is a bad thing.

gregyboy:
dont support nigerians at all the gat that gragra in dem more than other african countries in the world it was also fellow nigerians that killed the great reggae artiste lucky dube

Misinformation and misconception are two big diseases that requires urgent eradication from my compatriots. It wasn't Nigerians that killed Lucky Dube. . . . That fact has long been established by the actual culprits who happens to be SA nationals. They mistook his vehicle for that of a Nigerian drug Lord (whom they had scores to settle with) and killed him. It was after they killed him that they realized their mistakes.

Why do most of you like disparaging and soiling the name of our country? Since when did every black person or crime committed by a black person(s) anywhere in the world automatically becomes a Nigerian?

OlajumokeBread:
He's 30 years old

Worth over 90 million naira

Have a nice house

Have 4 endorsements worth over 80 million naira

Makes good music

Have 8 cars


Still going strong

While you who is 33 years old, have no job, still live with your parents, still drag food with your siblings, don't have up to 50 thousand naira in your bank account is jealous and bitter

This is the reason why you will never be successful in life

Succinctly put. Kudos. Sincerely, I don't know why petty people like disparaging others who are by miles better off than them in all ramifications.

Some are even mocking him for signing with marvin instead of remaining with his old record label or establishing a wholly owned new one, as if they have walked his path before. Why must he necessarily follow the footsteps of others? And who says that expansion alway equates to profit?

Many a time, it's better to own a 1 percent share in a well structured and flourishing establishment, than to own a 100 percent stake in a never doing well establishment.

Any relationship that doesn't bring in peace to one should be discarded with alacrity. Absence of peace is not only witnessed in time of war. When someone genuinely love you, the first bliss you will experience is peace - so long as you aren't selfish and opportunistic yourself.

Young man, stop deceiving yourself. Citing your submissions so far, it's obvious that you don't even know anything about the lady vise versa. I wonder how you boldly said that you have falling in love with someone you don't know her attributes. As ambiguous as love is, yet it's conventional wisdom that good attributes from both parties involved in a relationship are what will always sustain it in the long run - when realities sets in.

So far, you just lust over her, nothing more. Nice persona/superficiality does not sustain meaningful relationship. And her hard to get disposition shouldn't cause you to lose guard.

Both of you (not just you) should take time to know each other. To you you're convinced of your personality, but you shouldn't conclude that she would like your attributes and vise versa. This doesn't mean that both of you cannot fall for each other in the end, no.

Make her to realize that she's dispensable - get her to bare her mind to you, so that you can know your fate and stick to it. Meanwhile, up your game and stop being desperate. Good luck.

When two opportunists (predator and leech) of different tactics meet, the end result is always like this.

@OP

It's obvious that you're not a good student of business. Artistes are self employees while the other guys you mentioned are entrepreneurs, so any good student of business ought to know that comparing them particularly on their financial successes isn't ideal at all.

sisisioge:
Hmmm, come closer dude...whatcha color? Show me the cards

Nwaanyi ebeanyi! Never underestimate the importance of having two mirrors.

sisisioge:
Wow! He's a guy.

Of course, he's - a conscientious and unorthodox one at that. LOL.

sisisioge:
Wow! It is well o.

I feel for this woman but her stupidity during her travails is numerous uno. She forgot the golden rule...

His money is ours, mine is mine. No matter how much I contribute to ours, I should still have a substantial mine. E dey for bible.

I was trying to find a good husband for you, but your opinion in your last paragraph may cause me to change my mind. The first step towards creating a faulty foundation for marriage is abhorring altruism. As painful as it's to live on the offensive side of life instead of the popular defensive side, yet in the end it always worth it . . . As the saying goes "manipulators lose credibility Diplomats gain it."

On the subject under discussion, the tale as narrated is a bit one sided. Until one hears from the two parties involved on a common ground together, one may crucify an innocent man unjustly. For now, OP, it behove on you and your mother to extend any possible kind support to her, to enable her find her feet. What she need now is a human practical support not empty pity.

A man who's in charge of his family (I didn't say control though), will never find himself in the position of begging his wife for sex. @OP how did you lose your guard?

@OP I SMH for you. Inferiority complex is a disease. Education doesn't make women or anyone at all arrogant. You and your ilks should stop mixing up conceitedness with smartness. A woman that is innately morally good will always make a good wife to a man who's innately morally good, too - it's all about reciprocation. However, a gutless/petty (domineering, predacious, selfish, hypocritical and conceited) man will not find peace around such a woman, so in such instance separation will be imminent.

Until someone is technically able to differentiate attributes from attitudes, such a person shouldn't arrogate self-realization to oneself. It takes a self-realized person to co-exist peacefully with others on equal bases.

A marriage built on the principles of altruism and fidelity will never collapse. It's only when I see that happen I will stop to propagate them as best basic virtues for marriage foundation.

Take the following:

- Attribute is innate, while attitude is artificial (it can be learned or faked). So knowing the attributes of someone you intend having intimate relationship with, will help you to make an informed decision that won't lead to regret in the end.

- A wife isn't a slave but an equal; even though a man is expected to assume a primus inter pares. So learn to differentiate loyalty from servitude.

sweetylicious:
Did any of his relations die while he was in Malaysia?

Come on, you come across sane enough - citing your DP - to live on prejudice.

ucheokpara100:
u spoke like a learned man, can i ask u one question please

Bro, it seem like we violated one of the forum's terms, because they have deleted both your questionnaire and my answer.

ucheokpara100:
u spoke like a learned man, can i ask u one question please

Welcome bro. Kindly feel free to ask your question.

As much as you made some salient points, yet you flawed somehow. Aside those legal and illegal things you listed as means people makes their money in Malaysia, believe you me that there are some others that are involved in pure legitimate endeavours (whether they are making it big or small doesn't matter here) albeit with a legal stay in the country. Some set of people don't need mega thousands of dollars and high-end government spelled out business setup procedures to run things in a foreign country.

The most important thing is, anyone who intend traveling to Malaysia or any other country should try to do so legally. Or, in the event one enters any foreign country illegally either intentionally or unintentionally, such a person should strategize and legalize his stay as quick as possible. There's always an alternative legal means to official standard and procedure of doing things in every country.

For one, breaking a law of a country or an organization is always a crime, but bending same law to achieve an end result is never a crime. There's a tiny line between good and bad.

Before any lowlife pick on me for airing my unbiased opinion, kindly take note that I'm not a Malaysian based. But I've almost seen it all. . . A story for another time.

STAY AWAY FROM CRIME. AT WORST LEARN HOW TO BEND A LAW INSTEAD OF BREAKING IT.

Obviously you're a troller.

Only petty people sees money as an end itself (that it answers all things), instead of a means to an end it is. Well, a conscientious, unorthodox, ambitiously but not greedy, skilled in high value important profession and altruistic person would not betray his ordinary friends talk more of a girlfriend for any amount of money.

I'd rather betray myself than to intentionally betray or deceive a girlfriend.