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Really too numerous to state all. Well, let me state the following:

- It will be easier for a wealthy person - one whose life pace is driving by ambition and powered by grit - to make heaven than for any mentally weak and financially poor person to make heaven. In fact, it'll be easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for the latters to make heaven. This is so because corruption, covetousness/greed, prejudice, hatred etc are more prevalent among these sets of people than the wealthy.

CaptainGo:
is this offer still open?

No. However, you can still try your luck by following the directives as stated.

Any day I find a lady of realistic moral and altruistic ethical leanings, I will immediately end my search for a life partner. And of course, she must also be witty and physically attracted to me (beauty still remain in the eye of the beholder, by the way).

A job position that in the end (say within a year) can refined you into a professional and by extension guarantee you work holder opportunity anywhere is far better than a job position that will earn you an instant fat pay but leaves you with no impart even after working for a century.

It all depends on a person's perspectives and aspirations in life. For someone that think and live for today, the fat pay will do. However, for anyone that think for today and live for tomorrow, a job that guarantee's an impactful knowledge that leads to professionalism will be better.

@OP

It's really hard relating/associating with anyone with sense of entitlement complex. Well, in situations like this, all you need do is to remain kind as you are while at same time create some emotional and physical distance from her. These are very important to avoid steady altercations which usually result when an altruist is pushed to the wall.

The funny thing is that, most outsiders who has never walked your path would be quick to crucify you, should your squabbles with her becomes an open secret. Don't live your life to please anyone, yet never stop giving your best of support to anyone in need, especially your family.

@OP

Your taken position has just validated the saying "the masses will always have their say while the politicians have their way."

Well, without taking anything away from you, you made some salient points. However, the idea of propagating a sentimental-favour towards the youths in the scheme of things no gel at all.

For one, power is never given rather its fought for. So I don't buy into the idea of sentimental-favour or conscription of anyone - youths - into a position on a platter of gold.

I'm a youth myself, but the difference is that I don't share in the ideology of the larger segment of my contemporaries appearing desolate and needing kid glove treatment. I'm for who will lead better. . . Class is irrelevant to me.

Princedapace:
Close mouth man... Ur hatred for police will never allow u see anything good in their job. I'm not policeman.... Even in USA, Mexico , South Africa there are dark spots where criminals stay..and their police often raid those places and get boys...if u don't know anything about security, u read and pass... Innocent people shouldn't b at dark spots... And police men aren't magicians to know who is innocent or not but thru interrogation and investigation..it is done all over the world..

Thunder fire your wretched and stupid parents. Slowpoke, in real world, your wretched and stupid father in particular, in his right frame of mind, would not pick on me, least of you never-do-well of a son. Vamoose from my mention and look for your mates elsewhere.

Some of you that has never crossed the shores of the country are always quick to allude any nonsense happening in it with the Western/other saner countries, even when they are just fallacies.

I don't join issues with anyone least of you and your ilks, so vamoose from my mention I say. I don't need your whack quantification to substantiate my pronouncement.

Some police formations and their stupidities. I wager, these paraded victims are law abiding citizens, citing the following excerpts from the news " The gang which came on a Toyota Camry drove away" and "The team immediately raided black sports in the city were men of the under world were picked out and taken to the state headquarters for investigation."

ColonelDrake:
Is my ex boss on Nairaland? lol
This is exactly the same advice my ex boss gave me (as a Trainee) when he joined the organization. He knew from the outset that he wasn't going to stay for long. Advised me to shun office politics and ass-licking, and admonished me to know my onions. That I should let people respect me for my skills and expertise. Although, he said people who follow this path are not seen as 'company man' and don't climb up the corporate ladder faster.
But who cares? All I care about is developing my technical skills as my boss advised. If I will become a manager or not, it is up to fate.
No time for ass licking and playing office politics for favouritism intent.

Your referenced ex-boss must sure be an altruist. . . . Kudos to him. There's a potent saying "manipulators lose credibility diplomats gain it." This saying is very potent I say. Here let me liken an altruist to powerful person and compared to a popular person; the crowd will always admire a popular person but in the end they would follow a powerful person. No wonder popular candidates in elections hardly emerges victorious against their powerful/influential opponents.

The fact remains that no sane and sound boss would intentionally retrench a personnel who's an asset to his organization. So, in the long run an altruist will always win and lead against an opportunist.

One who doesn't believe in something will always fall for anything. The world is made up of 99 percent opportunists and only 1 percent of altruists.

Altruists live on principle, while opportunists live on expediency.

Opportunists are of two classes:

- Leechlike opportunist

- Predaceous oopportunist

The unfortunate thing is that the leechlike opportunist (employee) will always lose to a predaceous opportunist (employer/boss).

A good product - when aggressively and effectively marketed - will always sell itself. You the employee, let your boss respect and love you based on your efficiency/expertise on the service you provide. Stop showing and needing unnecessary familiarity with favouritism intent. Don't make yourself a servile to your boss/organization instead make yourself a loyal, dedicated and faithful staff and every other thing good will come your way. Greed and conceitedness will always fail you in the end.

Enough of employees victimization cries. Many a time, they are the main architects of their own misfortunes.

The axiom remains as potent as the ecstasy of hard drugs remains. On the other hand, the word ALL still remain different from the word SOME. So, for some of you that claims to be master's in more than one thing, that doesn't nullify the potency of the axiom. . . . at best of you a master of some trade.

A typical example of a jack of all trade master of none is a conceited person who thinks that he's smart. As you may know, a conceited person is always quick to initiate battle of wits, but in the end he will always lose to a true smart person.

Information isn't knowledge, just as conceitedness isn't smartness.

Another example, look at that your sibling/ friend/ acquaintance that has no job, cannot pay his bills or assume responsibility of his life, but he is very good in chastising every other persons that are more successful than him in all ramifications. In his illusory intelligence he knows all the road that can leads to success; he knows how every rich person made his money, he mocks the hard and honest working people that are not fortunate to accumulate big riches.

Bring up discussion about any profession or thing he will take a lead in such discussion - he's so good with information that he forgot to acquire knowledge in anything. People of this infamous non portfolio job always make good critiques. The sad thing though is that no one has ever earned a living by been a critique.

Information remains useless to one who has it until it's turned to knowledge. Because people aren't paid for what they claim to know, instead they are paid for what they do with that they claim to know.

@OP

I can relate to your personality. It's obvious that you're a highly sensitive person not necessary an introvert. However, out of prejudice, petty people will always mistake you for a miserable, evil, rude and gutless person, whereas in reality you're a direct opposite of all such negativities they held against you - anyone who have had the rare privilege to earn your close association will testify your goodness. You abhor hypocrisy, right?

Well, I hold a patent antidote that will help make you a better person in all ramifications. Holla me for more info.

seizethaBae:
I think i prefer when you write those fine-fine-big-big grammer than you writing in pidgin.

Can we start this all over again?
This time in posh english.

One thing is certain, I'm going to learn from you. . . . I hope you won't charge me for plagiarism.

Moi sista, as you come tell that lady for the oda thread say make she no come consider my suggestions, now I don begin de fear. Don't tell me say you go turn down my own marriage proposal too, because I don conclude tete say very soon I go carry all my village people come meet with your own people.

Make em no be say you go do me as that lady de do the guy way de reason her matta.

Happy Sunday.

sisisioge:
Chai! I remember you dude...you were the guy with plenty English! Biko, she already doesn't find anything attractive about him...she can't stand him...he annoys her. Biko, wetin remain? Your assignment should be carried out on others not this one, IMO. But then, it is my opinion.

Hahaha! See me way de find means to learn some big english from you, here you come de yab me indirectly.

On a more serious note, and on the contrary to your contribution nay counter to some of my opinions here, the OP didn't state why she doesn't find the available guy attractive. So there's no point to conclude yet. Yes, the eyes must first eat and get satisfied before any other thing follows, when one want to establish a honest and purposeful relationship with an opposite sex. But I don't think that the OP dislike his physical structure, else they wouldn't have been friends since 5 past years as she claimed (I may be wrong). If my guess is correct, then what's it that the OP doesn't find attractive about him? This necessitated my questions and counsel's to her in that first post here.

For instance, she not liking her voice on the least could be as a result of built-up prejudice. And she loving the other men that didn't love her could be because of a mundane thing like those men arrogant exhibitions instead of a good thing like their civility.

Happy Sunday.

@OP

You amuse me. Citing your submissions, it's obvious that you're more concerned about what people will think about you, thereby denying yourself and family the rightful thing to do under the circumstance which is to show him the way out. Dear, all the real people I know don't live on other people's opinion, instead they strive to do what the think and know is the best solution to any need at a given time.

In fact, let me dissect your hidden thought and fear. What exists between you and your so called friend now is a frenemy relationship, because the boundary that hold the possible friendship both of you had in the past broke the very day you allowed an overfamiliarity to creep in.

So far, he's more of a predator to you, and you allowed this to persist because of your potential leechlike attitude. Yes, I say you have a leechlike like attitude because you're allowing his assuming future breakthrough in the music world to keep you entangled to his predaceous disposition.

Bleep what outsiders will say and learn to build your hope and happiness around your ambition. . . . Doing this will help you live a conscientious lifestyle which is equal to a happy lifestyle.

@OP

Treat the fundamental issues first to avoid making a costlier future life mistake.

Firstly, could you pinpoint the actual reason(s) the men you loved dumped you (broke your heart)? There's a real need for you to better yourself first. If you have a bad attribute that had caused the men you loved to break your heart, then learn the good version of such attribute and have it as an attitude.

What's your definition of a romantic love? As ambiguous as its, yet one's ability to define what truly constitute love for oneself, is the first step towards finding a matching partner. Definiteness of purpose is very important when wishing to establish anything meaningful with long durability.

Do you know of at least 10 good attributes an opposite sex can possess that would make you stick with him in good and bad situations? This is about self-realization. . . . Only a self-realized person should talk about committing to a marriage which is a lifetime union - under sane and sincere arrangement.

The above assignment when done with honesty would enable you to know if the present guy that loves you - one whom you dislike - would make or not a good husband for you in the long run.

When one love another based on the good attributes s/he possesses which you cherish, your love for such a person tends to increase on minute basis. Peace, happiness and prosperity are assured and guaranteed in the long run.

However, when one love another based on his/her superficiality (if the nice persona aren't products of attributes), the connection tends to wane on minute basis, because it's always more like infatuation. . . . Peace, prosperity and happiness are not assured or guaranteed in the long run.

Opportunism knows no race, gender or class. As much as I acknowledged the fact that some of our female compatriots could be opportunistic, yet pray never to fall into the hands of a bitchy female Western opportunist.

But come to think of it, the first manifestion of an opportunistic person is an exhibition of a too clever by half attitude, which is always noticeable (by a discerning, sensitive and analytical mind) between the very first 2 meetings by both parties. So, anyone who permanently falls for an opportunist is either an opportunist too or a slowpoke.

Many a time, the personality and political clout of the person that occupy the VP position do determine how powerful or not he's. I remember vividly Atiku Abubakar as a VP compared to some of the SP's of that era.

Well, in this present dispensation, I'll say Saraki is more powerful than Osibanjo and the reason isn't farfetched, Saraki has a bigger political clout and intimidating personality (superficially).

One thing both feminist proponents and practitioners and non egalitarian men has in common is that both personalities are control freaks, oppressors and opportunists. They are both of the manipulative personality division.

I, for one, I'm an egalitarian and I propagate a primus inter pares in a marriage union between a man and woman. No sane human being should deprive another the greatest gift the source of all gave to mankind, which is free will.

Sealeddeal:
how can the signature of 2.4million people reverse the decision of more than 55million people?

Permit me to quote you. Actually, some of you don't know how the US presidential election work. Popular votes don't make a candidate a winner (Hillary Clinton as a case study). So also as electoral majority voters winner (Trump in this instance, for now he's only a president elect) don't automatically become a substantive president until the electoral college electors confirmed it. This simply means that the electoral college electors are the main deciders of who will become the president - so far Trump stand a better chance, yet it's not over for Mrs. Clinton until after Dec 19.

Well, as rare and herculean as it seem so far, Trump may not likely become a substantive US president come Dec 19. . . . But personally I pray and hope he scales through. He worked for it and deserves it, despite his shortcomings. By the way, who as a human being doesn't have personal shortcomings?

Only an insane person would expect GEJ to empathize with them. They betrayed him by self-serving themselves. Greedy folks. If they had expended the monies entrusted to them to serve the masses, the slush funds wouldn't have still be in their possessions as it's the case with all the revelations so far.

One who does not believe in something will always fall for anything. It is unfortunate that her naivete and possible convetousness/greed has brought her a huge shame.

The first rule any person whose life pace is ambition driving and grit powered always observer in any pursuit is knowing oneself ability and setting a boundary on what is morally good to offer in reciprocation of a favour outside one's limit.

However, when a life pace is driving by greed/convetousness and powered by non contentment, then anything goes. . . Good morality will be thrown to the dogs. But unfortunately in the end regret and shame usually become a chant.

Poor fiction. You can do better.

@OP

Don't blame yourself okay. The truth is that the world population is made up of 99 percent opportunists (opportunism is just one of the traits people with manipulative personality exhibits) and 1 percent of altruists (altruism is the major trait all people that possesses diplomatic personality exhibits).

With your personality type (assuming you're true to whom you present yourself here to be), you'll always be at the offensive side of life instead of the defensive side of life, because petty people will always abuse your openness, kindness and frankness. But guess what, in the end you will always be a victor. As the saying goes manipulators lose credibility but diplomats gain it.

Imagine that moment when you look back and sees that all the people that had crossed your path in life finds you worthy to hold their trust and even always struggles to be in your good book once again. But you finds it hard to allow them an inch closer to you again, yet without making an enemy of them (just reduction of 5 fingers greetings to 4 fingers).

Holla me, let me teach you how to use your personality type to achieve a demigod status.

Question to you; are your really good as in being conscientious and altruistic when dealing with others or you're superficial (human pleaser)? If the answer is the former, you can only be betrayed by petty people but cannot be deceived. However, if the answer is the latter, then you have yourself to blame, because in such instance it means that you always allow yourself to be betrayed and deceived at the same time by the same petty people. . . . And that will simply means that you have pride and your actions and inaction are pride induced.

@OP, kudos. In addition to all you have succinctly said, popularity/commonness does not win elections anywhere, but influence does. . . . He was able to influence the conservative whites, in whose domains majority of electoral college electors emerged.

Average Nigerians are only good in playing illusory God mouthpieces. Hypocrites.

@OP

Someone like you is not independent mined (conscientious) and from all indications you're yet to achieve self-realization, this explained the reason why you lacked understanding prior to now that atheists are a group of people who chooses to gloss their ignorance about the source of all (God, Creator of the universe, Allah or whatever name that suits one to call it) with illusory proclamation of its non-existence. But I don't normally blame them much, because Abrahamic religions proponents and their so called holy books are all any discerning but non conscientious and thoroughly informed mind need to interact with or read to automatically reject a sole creator of the universe.

There's a God. Meanwhile, we human beings are imperfect manifestation of a perfect him. He has no rival, so the notion of a possible another supernatural rival force doesn't exist. Evil happenstances which are usually ascribes to satan or devil are products of human beings choices of bad over good, because God gave us human beings the great gifts of free will and brain. And he provided to us, all we need to live and succeed independent of his minute intervention. So he neither need our praises nor expects our prayers. To reverent him by any person is better independently decided. . . As for me, I choose to reverent him by doing good to people within my ability, while always striving to limit bad deeds against others.

If you have a need instead of praying, kindly lookout for a human being that has solution to such a need you have and get help. The only problem you will encounter is when you have nothing to offer as a reciprocation for what you intend to gain from another. The importance for this simply analogy is to tell you that you need to start accepting responsibility of your actions and inaction. Make yourself useful, so that you can become an asset which can be useful to other assets too and vise versa.

Obviously you're a beautiful soul, may you always find peace and fulfilment in all your needs and good wishes.

Kindly don't allow anyone to cajole you into leading a superficial lifestyle. . . . Neither by parents nor anyone else. Live conscientiously by doing whatever you deems right and know is right, irrespective of who get dissatisfied or hurt on the other end. Old age doesn't always equal to wisdom (no insult intended towards your parents).

Why revelling for a matriculation while a convocation should be the rightful occasion to celebrate?

The lady deserves an award. For all I care and know, gutlessness is not the same thing as gentleness/being nice. Just as servitude is not the same thing as loyalty. The guy is a hypocrite.

All sane, sound and honest people loves a conscientious person(s). And by extension anybody that posseses conscientious, effacing and altruistic attributes equals a gentle/nice person.

The character of the guy in this story is that of a low-class manipulator (a leechlike opportunist) - he is a hypocrite I say. His ilks are oppression personified. . . For instance given a control tool like excess money and if the girl happens to be poor, you will know his true colour.

On the other hand, no sane and sound girl loves an arrogant/rude/harsh man. Instead as I stated above, they love men that possess those good attributes I listed especially conscientiousness (in relation to this subject under discussion), and exhibits it as an attitude.