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Tajbol4splend:
I have seen people who claimed to be in love with themselves before marriage but you see them having a lot of disputes after getting married, I ask myself why this should be, I ask if it is still the same two people who used to do things together, who used to show love in different ways, all of a sudden at the time when the love is supposed to be at climax, they start having problems they never used to have before marriage, things then change, they then change.

Well what I think that causes this is that most people in relationships don't pay attention to necessary details about their partners.

Nairaland veterans and geniuses over to you, what do you think brings this bitterness into marriage between two people who have claimed to be lovers before their marriage

BC love is nt enough, compatible n substance is more impt than love dt is bound to Change with the weather.
Finally u need money, money and more money to run a sweet home

Marriage can be very boring BC both parties are usually laid back n makes no effort at romance again

Monotony

Louisojibe:
Tiwa savage, Teebillz and their son jamil at House Of Rock Church today.
Source: www.crowd24ng.com/2017/03/cute-tiwa-savage-teebillz-and-their-son.html

When is he giving her another belle time dey go ooo

Jamil needs a bro or sis to play arnd d house with abeg

Lol but seriously speaking it's jst a show of respect for her.

Afterall she may direct u to thank God

SIL :Mum thank ma

MIL : Thank God my son

Infact anytime u finish eating at home look for MIL and say thank ma

Patented:
it will take weeks, if not months for the fall in the price of dollar to affect the price of commodities. Most commodities in the market now and that will arrive in the market in the coming weeks were bought when the rates were still higher. Goods bough at the current rates will not start arriving until after a few weeks and then the importers will still wanna cash and still sell high until they start undercutting each other.

Is dt sooo

But when they buy at low dollar price and the next week dollar shoots up they upwardly review prices immediately greedy ppl everywhere

It's obviously Catholic

So mmm still dey pay

Anuoluwapo23:
Wearing of trousers by Nigerian ladies has generated a lot of controversies. People have continued to argue if the practice is sinful or not.
Ladies on trouser?

While some churches welcome and promote it, others preach against it. Those who are against it base their stand on Deuteronomy 22: 5, which says: “The woman shall not wear that which pertains to a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.”

Churches, which do not condemn wearing of trousers by women, believe that grace has put an end to such law.

Some people, especially young females, decide the church they will attend based on whether wearing of trousers is allowed or not.

It's inappropriate esp if d trouser is tight n d sister has big ass. It will distract men u kw

This one is recession complaint with 4 plugs, I will need sth like this soonest. Op happy sales

120000 miles is nt bad too

Carina e is a rugged car infact a workhorse go for it is comparable to Camry n corolla fuel efficient, rugged n very pocket friendly in its maintenance.

Make sure u get 4afe engine with automatic gear n thank me later

you have to be sharp like razor or men go chop you.

The moment you pay for any house make sure u take possession n never pay for a house dt is not 100% vacant.

Never pay cash, pay through bank transfer so u have evidence of payment immediately in case casala burst

All those he will pack out next week pay today na scam, dnt be desperate.

U dnt need d landlord in most cases BC there are caretakers,lawyers etc jst ascertain the position of d person u r dealing with. Secretly interview old tenants to kw who is who.

Transfer money to the person you dealt with directly

Hope this helps

Lol asking for phone number is quite old sch jst get her WhatsApp number, chat her, book an appointment, lay her n move on

realmey:
Hello NL

I visited my father-in-law sometime in January this year
We had certain conversation that included him asking me to visit him either on a weekly or monthly basis

Hmmmm,it didn't go down well with me,though i said nothing so it does not look as if i'm disrespectful.

I made up my mind it was not going to be possible as ordinarily i felt he was trying to control me;i didn't bother visiting in February as i already decided to visit at my convenience.

I really don't know if i am wrong,pls ur sincere advice

Y are you soo harsh, there is nothing to suggest he wants to control you. May be d old dude likes ur company dts all, looks like he has no son or has a useless one n looking at making u a son.

chiomababy22:
I had a child 8 years ago. Ever since then, having a long lasting relationship is a big problem because they leave me with the excuse of my child been an issue. My last relationship has left me shattered and the last thing i want to do is deny my baby. Am confused pls friends what do you advise i do? Am not getting any younger. Thanks as i await you comments.

A woman with a child na second hand be dt nw

I had to drop one nt long ago BC @ her 30 I was shocked when she told me dt D 11yrs old girl with her mum is her child painful but dt was d end.

Anyway u can still see a widower, divorcee, single father or 55 plus bachelor if u r gainfully employed.

otitokoroleti:
BEWARE OF THESE NAIRALANDERS rejuvenation aka sats, divinelove, superman7,
they are in the habit of spreading false information that everything was right with GHW whereas the said ponzi scheme has crashed! The aforementioned user are in the habit of attacking anybody that tries to expose their lies & reveal the truth that GHW is scam! You are free to call me names but trust me, I will never reply your mention!
STAY AWAY FROM FROM GHW

Lol I will nt dignify a goat like u with a reply

Elegantdiva:
how do I migrate ..it keep saying "Authentication failed for the old account" pls help out

type in ur migration code dnt copy and paste it

see hustling

it is only a complete idiot that will expect to GH in a new platform like GHWX without PHing even if it is an old GH. I was really excited to see GHWX latest update ofcos i have always expected PHing b4 GHing. they were even kind to allow members to PH as from the lowest ie 5000naira. mind you i have nearly half a million of outstanding GH to get so, y am i excited?

simple the major impending problem of GHWX has been solved which has bothered me for sometime ie what i term "hit and run participants". yes nearly haif of the existing participants were waiting to GH their outstanding and run but with the new arrangement we can only take it small small for the next 5 to 10months dts d way to go people HIT AND RUN PPL NTOOOOOOR

i have PHed since monday and adviced my followers to do the same in my old thread which was deleted by mod.

i have been on GHWX forum all along, jst thought i shld enlighten ppl on the new update. GHWX admins are bunch of super brains, sometimes i wonder if they are human bc their wisdom is exceptional.

you can never lose money on GHWX

good day people.

NB: this thread bc it says the truth will be deleted soonest by NL and yours sincerely handed another ban may be they shld ban me forever this time. taking a ride to my new abode GHWX forum see ya all later

mctowel01:
Student who wont see much need to search for job cos "salary" is already coming. OP, like we said, I just pray that job you are using to sustain status quo spendings doesn't hit a rock. When you begin to tell her that things will be tough, will she understand?

Dnt even go there if op working place owes him three months salary and the family experiences little suffering dts when he will kws d woman he married.

A woman dt is immature and greedy is a disaster in marriage even some working class ladies are worst.

D wife may nt be cheating nw but I assure you she has toasters she is turning down esp if she is beautiful with big ass n boobs n still dresses like single girls.

Being a std anything can happen if d highest bidder shows esp if op is nt providing again but op shld nt let dt disturb him as going dt route will make him send her packing.

LeView1:
Just the idea of being given an allowance makes me feel so uneasy. Could be the fact that I'm of a certain age now and that I've enjoyed financial independence for so long but I just can't imagine being given pocketmoney. She is an equal in this relationship, and she should have a say on how the money is spent.

Not when she is still immature with a child brain, her attitude as described by op says it all

zaynie:
Never a mistake.
Always a lesson.
Move on from it, not like she is never going to graduate or get a job. Just hold the forte till she is able to help/support you.

She can support nw by nt stealing from him, they need to have some savings too

skypeme:
I think I made a mistake getting married to someone who is still schooling, I should have married a working class lady

D major problem is nt dt she is a student, she is probably immature and greedy. Upon all the load u are carrying for her she will still think of hw to steal frm u. She is nt even thinking weather u ppl have savings or not, even if u give her 100k monthly she will collect n squander. Immaturity n greed dts d problem.

Marrying a student is liability raise to d power of 100. Money u go use buy land u use to pay sch fees

kimbra:
Why are some of the guys on this thread making a mountain out of a molehill?.

Most men whose wives are stay at home mothers get monthly stipends which is for their upkeep. Some women inflate prices of things to their husbands as a means to add more money to their wallets, for some men they find out and don't care cos they understand the rationale behind it. As for her rude attitude it's bad and is what should bother you most. Not her inflation of hospital bills. Would you let N11,200 cost you your marriage?.

What nonsense are you talking, such dishonesty shld nt be tolerated not when she is paid over 30k Monthly dt is pure stealing.

skypeme:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it

I pay the bills, buy food stuff every month and take care of our little baby girl

My baby girl does not take any local food, she takes only fresogold, tea and pap, the cost of fresogold is very high and she can consume 4tins in a month

My wife isn't not working yet she is still schooling and I pay all her fees,

I've never complaint of my duty as the head of the family yet she still feels unsatisfied with the 17.2% I give to her

Her primary duty in the house is to take care of our baby and prepare my dinner every week days and both break fast and dinner during the weekend

Recently I told her to take our baby to the hospital for treatment, our total bill was 11,500 naira but my wife suprisinly told me that the hospital bill is 22,700 naira which I immediately wired to her account

So I called the hospital to make inquiries about the exorbitant bill then I got to know that my wife inflated the hospital bill to 22,700 naira

I confronted her and she spoke to me very rudly I was not happy about this, I kept quite and didn't say anything about it again

I am thinking I should penalize her for her rude behaviour and the dishonesty she has melted on me

Will it be advisable not to pay her her monthly salary for two months ?

Will this correct her brain to default and what would possibly be the implication of doing this ?

She has not apologised and she has not seen anything wrong so far in what she has done

Yawns

for her nt to show remorse over her behavior is quite disturbing but u have to put ur foot down and demand an apology from her or suspend her monthly allowance indefinitely.

What kind of an ingrate is dt nonsense

She gets over 30k from u as pocket money and will still do this?

talk2cj08:
Some people can't just mind their business. Shebi na u follow me go buy the car 4yrs ago? Anuofia

u think say we be fools for here abi dt 2001 second hand highlander is not worth more than 1.2million ie when we ascertain than the engine and transmission is in top shape n nt a repainted scrap. Abeg no vex Wetin be dt black thing ontop of d bonnet na follow come be dt . This one u can't show us engine pic self, we sure say e get engine?

U took an over used highlander for proper car wash and all of a sudden na almost tokunbo , make una dey try fear God small naa

ramdris:
Don't always be too quick to pass judgement. Just because she died does not mean she was innocent. Imagine driving at 120km/h and someone decides to cross your path on a narrow road as this?

May the soul of the dead RIP while wishing the injured a speedy recovery.

U are right but in Nigeria once you kill SB while driving you are wrong infact passerby will give u jungle justice even if d dead person jumped in on u for suicide sake

Scented:
I asked for the ladies in the house to help me out with advice because I feel they would know better in such a situation. Men who may have ideas can also contribute.

I will try and be short as possible. My sis turns 28 this year. She has been down emotionally for some time now and she is very close to me and it has made me down too.

My sis has been dating this guy for about two years now, the guy is 28/29 years I think. She got pregnant for this guy about a year ago, the guy was not ready for marriage and they decided to abort it. Along the line she wanted to keep the baby though, but a medical condition stopped her from keeping the baby. The doctor said the baby was growing outside the womb with complications and an operation to abort the pregnancy was needed even if she didn't want an abortion in the first place. Two other hospitals confirmed this through scan.

Also, another shocking revelation was discovered, the doctor said she has a medical issue which would make it kind of difficult for her to conceive easily, that she needs a man with a very very high sperm count for her to take in and the chances are slim because just about 1% of men have such rare high sperm count. This meant the guy she is dating has the rare high sperm count and she attested to this because she said of the previous 2 guys she has dated before him, they at some time engaged in sex without protection and she never had taken in before, but as for this guy in question the very first time they had unprotected sex she took in for him. She didn't reveal what the doctor told her to her guy though. Just her and myself know about her medical condition. The doctor even suggested she sticks to her guy because there is slim possibility of finding another man with such high sperm count. The doctor even asked that guy enrol for sperm donation in fertility clinics as his type of sperm count is in high demand and rare. The guy doesn't stay in the same city with her so he couldn't be around during the abortion process and the doctor couldn't tell him any of these revelations.


After the abortion she and the guy have still been dating, although they don't stay in the same city. She said they guy loves her but he is not directly clear about wanting to marry her anytime soon. This dude is the tall and very handsome type and I sometime see him as a playboy because he gets a lot of attention from ladies but my sister says she has never seen any red flag to suspect he has ever cheated on her and he respects and cares for her like a responsible man. I presume the guy still being young for a man(28/29 years) and very handsome doesn't feel its right time to get married but its not the case for my sister as she is turning 28 years soon. For what I know between her and the guy, they love each other deeply but the dude is just not ready yet to get married, both of them are working but the dude isn't too comfortable yet, but at least comfortable enough to get married if he is serious. The dude isn't just saying anything about settling down at all!

Now here are the questions I need to ask the ladies in the house to help me;

1-Should my sister tell the dude everything? Would this make him more emotional towards her and consider marrying her soon or he would feel he is doing my sister a favour in marrying her?

2-Should my sister consider breaking off with him and giving a chance to other serious suitors? She is very beautiful and has a job and men keep asking her hand in marriage everyday. Remember the doctor said her medical condition makes it hard for her to conceive and needs a man with very high sperm count, can she find a man with that rare high sperm count in the other men asking her hand in marriage? The doctor said just about 1% of men have such and if you do the maths the possibility of finding another man with such is very low in probability.

3- Should she try to make the guy get her pregnant again and based on the fact she has had an abortion before for him he would not have the guts to request she aborts it again and would be forced to make marriage plans? Ever since she had the abortion about a year ago the guy and her have become very strict towards unprotected sex, she says they don't even make the mistake to try it again. But we know as a lady she can have her way with him if she really wants to get pregnant. Mind you she may get pregnant but it would not be that easy from my family side because my dad has said he would not give his blessings to any of his daughters who gets pregnant before wedlock.

4-Married ladies, is there a way a woman can smartly make a man consider marrying her faster? Are they any tricks to making a man more eager to marrying you or are there proven ways to push a man who has cold feet towards getting married? Please has any lady been in such a situation before and know what to act accordingly? Please help a sister out.

Thank you all!

Yawns

Number one ur sister and her man are of d same age 28 n 28 d chances of marriage happening b/w then is less than 1%.

Number y have u concluded dt the next man won't ve high sperm count dby putting all ur hopes in this man.

Three discuss marriage with him tell him u want to settle down dt if he is nt interested dt u want to move on with other suitors.

Naija used 2.5m ? U never hear say dollar don fall when u bought it toks did u pay up to 1.8m and after using it for over 4 yrs u wanna sell it 2.5m onye oshi

So what? >:

sarrki:
He's a disgrace to the Senate

It shows how decay our moral system his

For the likes of Dino to be representing a constituents in the senate

Shut up what of ur president dt forged waec result

Dino is my man even if he presents agege bread label as his certificate