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ogmask:
Day never break yet for where wike dey. He think say Na everybody he fit bully. E go do dis gragra reach where dem go change am for am Na that time he go know say khaki nor be leather.
Strike or industrial action is a fundamental part of employee and employer relationships all over the world. To do otherwise is called suppression and coercion. A good leader negotiates while a bad leader instills fear through threats and in some cases, witchhunts union leaders.

Wike na very stubborn Man

Ask Rotimi Amechi

He fight Amechi with all his federal might, fought Buharis regime and up till today still standing


The guy na very stubborn Man
What he told the doctors he definitely will do

Kingsnairaland:
Jesus said the good people or children of God people must live side by side with bad people aka unbelievers... Till he comes back ... You are not wiser than Jesus.

Chei I shake my head to your reasoning

Why do you think there is government and rule of law on Earth today?

If you are evil and commit evil or crime against somebody Good

You will go for it
Either Life imprisonment or capital punishment of hanging etc

That Live side by side with good doesn't mean the good won't be protected from the evil in case of any problem

Princewill1:
The only option left for the Evil Zionists are AIRSTRIKES

Why are they no longer talking about the ground invasion of Gaza?

What a lot of people don't know is that most Western military establishments are now WOKE. Most Western powers we fear and revered can't compete militarily today after allowing 'wokeness' and lgtv to enter their arm forces. A good example is how America abandoned the war in Afghanistan and ran way. Had it been French troops in Niger attempted to fight during the coup, you all would've seen how the bodies of French soldiers will drag on the streets of Niamey. They are weak and can't compete effectively in ground battle. What the only have now is technology. Israel today is technically an European country nothing Hebrew about them and they're following on the footsteps of their Western brothers.

Any Israeli ground engagement on Hamas/Hesbollah dominated area will be catastrophic for them. The only edge they have now is air power which can't achieve much. Ground battle is necessary in gaining control.

I'm not a Muslim but I hate the hypocrisy of the West and injustices meted to the Palestinian people. The white Zionists from Europe who are in Israel today are not even the original ancient Israelites. Why are we allowing them to grab lands that is not theirs?

Were you aware that Russia fought Afghanistan for years in the 1980s but couldn't defeat them?

War is Air, Land and Sea
Why Israel hasn't gone in on ground was that America and the West are begging them not to go

Because the catastrophe on ordinary people will be terrible

But all the Hamas leaders are now top Target

GanagiBitrus:
Without Bride Price or Court Wedding, there was never a marriage in the first place. So the man can't legally lay claims to any kids.

The kids will only decide their allegiance when they come of age.

You really got the drift 👍

Bulldozer90:
This is how people waste their years in life.
You don't want to marry but you want to have children.

I said it in the first story on this case that what gives the court right was if there former union was legalized under the marriage act

But lo and behold there union had no legal backing
And the Man didn't pay bride price to secure it traditionally

In the end he has no case anywhere

When people do things
Follow the custom

If he had paid the bride price
Nobody can deny him his children anywhere

PhillipPHD:
Just dey play. Wake up call my foot! You don’t understand men one bit.

You move out and he’s happy that the nagging and burden is lifted. He gets a good job, accuse you of abandonment and start carrying other women. Who lose? Just dey play.

You are talking crap

A babe I knew in our university days divorced the husband
The guy was Dead beat
He was seeing some money but wasn't taking care of the two kids 15 and 13 years

She is a nurse in the UK

Living her life and properly taking care of her kids well

When I talked with her
I saw many of our men are making big mistakes


This lady op can move on with her life
She is already hard working
A lazy man won't change

Most of these women you go guys insult are doing good jobs and can actually survive without disoriented Men

aameyah:
That is life (and men) for you.
When you saw that he was exhibiting these behaviours, first action would have been to halt childbearing (so that your load will be lighter). As it is now, don't make that mistake of a 4th child (because I know such a man will be running around with erect missile, because there is no other work to do than to be offloading surplus akamu).

Then again, stop covering up for him. Stop it at once. Again, do not cover up for him. Do what you can for yourself and children, but he is not your responsibility. Let him keep looking for multinational.

I was like you (good girl and a virgin). But I discovered people like us become preys in the hands of the ones who know how to choose their naiive victims. I was in the midst of money but I was deprived. Looking older, with tears as food and insulted and oppressed by inlaws.

My life turned around when I detached emotionally. I started taking decisions that would favour my life, rather than constraining my life to a guy who doesnt love, or cherish or protect me.

It would do you good to be logical and selfish with that gender that betrays. How many of these men truly love and respect us? They only want women for the social relevance that comes with being married, free labour like clean house, cooked food, washed cloths and free nurse for their parents, free sex and free womb to perpetuate their lineages. The day you women tell yourselves the truth is the day you are set free.

These nigs don't give a fvc and why should you?

Wow I am a guy but I like your reply

Good women most times fall for losers type of Men

But it requires being sensible and smart

Irrespective of whatever you have gone through
There are still many good Men out there
Just that one have to intelligently vet everything

Nice one

Reminderz:
he might have been facing a lot of pressure of getting cash, you know how the economy is now... he might be frustrated, this is why he resorted to gambling, but unfortunately, it's like going from frying pan to fire... gambling will crush him totally, he should take up available work for now while aiming bigger, not just sitting idle doing nothing hoping for a bigger contract, he must get working... but trust, no man will ever feel happy not being able to provide for his family, you might never know what he's going through or planning secretly... life is not even easy for the singles let alone the married ones, so please cut him some slack... talk to him, and you guys can discuss how money can be made, and I hope he really listens.. but one quick question, was there any red flags you noticed when you were dating?

and secondly, life is not a bed of roses, you have to get off the fantasy of happily ever after, there's nothing like that... there will be challenges you'll face in life... you just have to fight through it... yes, you might love him, but love is not what hold marriages, it's commitment... even the couples you admire online, have their own worst stages which they will never talk about but since they keep feeding you guys with fantasies, y'll believe that's what marriage is all about... if you base your marriage only on love, it will fail..

thirdly, why re you comparing your situation with others? do you know the kind of environment and connections they have? do you know if they had help? do you know what they did to get to where they are? why are you putting unnecessary pressure unto yourself because you wanna impress? see ehn, there's so much pains and struggles people hide from the world, we only share the good part of it on media, this is why social media is a place of lies, where hypocrites relate with each other... face your own struggles, be your own competition...

you married as a virgin as you should, but life doesn't end there... someone can be good but still experience some bad things, that's life for you... there are some circumstances that will be beyond your control, and you just have to live through it, this is a phase everyone will pass through whether you're good or bad... the only thing is that, your experiences shouldn't make you stumble but makes you stronger...

I love all your Comments
I think you made the most sense

But let me talk more on the bolded

life is not a bed of roses, you have to get off the fantasy of happily ever after, there's nothing like that... there will be challenges you'll face



Many people make the mistake to think that life is a bed of roses

John Maxwell in one of his books said that "Life is hard!! That Who even told people that Life is meant to be easy"

Many people make that mistake


Life is hard, Life is difficult filled with numerous challenges

But our becoming a success requires our standing up and facing those challenges then we can begin to see success emerge


Op should change her mindset and find ways to mitigate her problems

If she can't cope with the husband she should move to her father's house and start from there
If the problems continue with her man and he doesn't want to change and become useful with his life she can then divorce and move on with her life

Rahkman:
But seriously this arab league na league of bìtches see as all of them keep quiet , OIC another group of bitches, them no wan lose american investments and oil deals countries like Qatar uae Saudi them dey drink oil money the thing too sweet, them no wan offend America.....omo Palestine nothing for una just accept death as e dey come or just find out all hamas militants and kill them and make peace with isreal ,If you cannot beat them join them,better align with west and enjoy life like ur arab brothers, nobody will save you

Arabs understand themselves

Egypt closed there border with Palestine not allowing any refuge to entre

While isreal allowed Palestinians to cross border and come to work in Israel

Saudi, UAE, Qatar, Kuwait all didn't allow the Palestinians

They know they are agent of chaos

Saudi has been fighting the Hutu rebels across there borders


The successful ones don't want Nations like Palestine etc to come to them
Because they carry too much chaos and trouble


Look at France that allowed the poor Arab Nations citizens, see the kind of chaos and trouble they are going through

Metrix147:
Source: https://abntv.com.ng/news/relief-as-gov-otti-flags-off-port-harcourt-aba-road-reconstruction-says-its-a-jinx-broken-photos-video/

Ah Dee Sam Mbakwe continue to rest in peace 🙏

The best governor to have emerged from the Eastern Nigeria from the second republic till now

Alex oti will tow his footsteps


Very big shame on okezie ikpeazu, Theodore orji and orji uzor kalu
These Men really messed up big time
Tueh....

Guyman01:
Otti has been in the news for good things, I recall travelling by train from Umuahia to Port Harcourt years back, it was a wonderful experience.
nlfpmod please spread this message and not Simon Ekpa featuring his soldier with coloured beards

I traveled from Enugu to Port Harcourt in 2000 via railway
It was fun

Raf4:
Siddon there. Alex Otti of Abia state will sooner than later return to his real party - APC.
He only used LP to harvest you people's emotional and sentimental votes.

Alex oti can't go to APC for now
He is LP true and true

And his good works will speak for him
He is the best governor in the East now

CSTRR:
Having senators is no big deal.

Orji kalu was a senator and yet he couldn't deliver even his polling unit for apc in 2023.

Majority governors, yet where did 90% of the Presidential votes went to?

Bro APC is gaining huge ground in the East

They are fighting to get more politicians before the next presidential election


Na very big battle ahead

seunmsg:
Senator Ubah is a sensible person. He’s one of the few south east politician who did not win election by joining the hate filled Obidient movement. Other sensible south east leaders should follow his lead. Kudos!

Na here we go find you

So because they supported Obi, they are senseless

Anyway Ifeanyi Uba is smart

Let's see whether he will win the battle for next governorship Election in Anambra

But it's going to be a very tough battle btw APGA LP and now APC

All with very strong personalities
APGA: incumbent governor Soludo
LP: Peter Obi factor
APC: Ifeanyi Uba/central government

It will be a huge battle ahead

May the best emerge for my dear State

omooba969:
Very good!

My argument is that the Igbo customs, culture, and tradition CANNOT be greater than the humans involved in this case. Therefore, the humans (as in this case) take precedence over the Igbo customs, culture, and tradition.

For example, the created cannot be greater than the creator.

The law court has demonstrated this.

What even gave the court right is because they married under court Law's

But if it's just someone that goes and impregnate a woman without doing culture norms and no court legal binding

That pikin don go
Nothing the guy can do

I have such a case in my extended family
A distant relative had a child when she was ninteen
She had a boy

The father took custody of that boy
Today that boy will write his waec next June
And get into university
He is very smart

The impregnator can't even near the child whatsoever
After the family have raised the boy up as there own

Another big man an oil executive from Delta Igbo
One of his daughters had a child as a teen
The Man later accepted that boy after forgiving his daughter

That boy went to the best of schools
Doing university in the US

Then one efulefu will come to claim the boy

Arrant nonsense


See in Igbo culture
We don't play with children
Even though my Dad married my mum properly

Still my mother's people still own part of me

My kid Sister's did traditional wedding some weekends ago

Even my mother's people had a share in the bride price and things the in laws brought from the marriage list


That's how deep Igbo custom is
We don't do things anyhow

And that's why we prefer marrying ourselves

Like amongst my family even extended
We married ourselves igbos

My parents had 5 girls 4 are married
2 are doctors
But they are all married to Igbo Men
One from IMO
Another one from Abia
The other two from our Anambra State

So that's why we rearly marry outside
We marry those that value our culture

And all my married sisters are treasures to there husband's

Neddyogu:
Same thing Igbos ppl suffer when they marry or interact outside their tribe. I had a relative that married an urhobo lady from Delta, unfortunately, this lady died and her people insisted that it was their custom to bury their daughter in her father's house wether married or not! God forbid! As Igbos, this was strange to us as only single ladies are buried in their father's homes. But custom is custom! So u see, everybody's a victim of the other fellow's customs and traditions. It's not an Igbo thing per se.

Exactly custom is custom

If one doesn't want to abide by the custom
He doesn't need to go for it

Every tribe has there custom

emmatuegbe:
No parent would take joy of a man eloping with their daughter in the name of forming a new family.
Traditions were established to bring orderliness in the society. Would you raise a daughter for 22 years or more, then one stranger would just hold her back to form a new family without the consent of her parent or family members. It is a mixed issue. No responsible man would embark on such steps or encourage such

You dey mind them

If you no pay bride price
The family doesn't even recognize you
Even for church marriages now
The priest will find out whether the customs were fulfilled before going on with the wedding

They can't even run away from the fact
We don't allow irresponsible men and miscreants to reap where they didn't sow

ForestHill:
Logically, could this be the reason Igbo women stays married more than 90% of all the tribes combined?

The main issue is that because of the premium attached to bride price

The Man in question behaves himself well because he didn't go to just pick a woman anyhow

He paid a price for the woman he is marrying therefore he behaves well

On the part of the woman
She is trained from young to respect her husband who paid her bride price
Be submissive and take care of there home


That's why Igbo women despite there high place and achievement in society respects there husband's very well
Majority of them though we have the exception
Example: Ngozi okonjo iweala, late Dora Akunyili, Oby Ezekwesili are all well submitted to there husband's

Late Dora Akunyili was said that even as a minister and nafdac DG Personally prepared the soup her husband eats not leaving it to cooks and steward's

They even help build there Men up

Give it to Igbo custom


Although wise women respect there husband
Not just Igbo culture

I have been in a forum live where Mrs alakija personally said that despite her wealth she is submitted to her husband.
Cooks his food etc

Na women wey never reach anywhere or achieved anything in Life that disrespect there husband's


That's why I am raising my daughter's to attain great height but must submit to there husband's and do the normal work a woman is meant to do like cooking good food for your home and running your home perfectly

That's our duty as fathers to raise responsible daughter's that will be good wife to there husband's

Goodlady:
Is sending money not part of responsibility in our present World?
In the past, letter writing, val gifts, using masculine power to assist us in chores are signs of love. But now, you v to back it up with money. If you can spend money to maintain a car, you should be able to maintain a woman.

Story story

Na this una talk makes many Men do stupid things

Maintaining a woman indeed

Like the woman is jobless?

Even women married to Rich men ain't maintained like that

The only thing the big man can do is set her up with something or secure good job for her

Bliss52:




If you like call him simp... He told you fact that most mothers won't tell their Son about their Dad

No go hustle my niggar, dey listen to Nairaland boys and Shola for Twitter forming Alpha male

*Try put it to practice this Tinubu subsidy regime

*Ask the finest girl In your area you like and would want to go on a date with her

1: when you reach the venue don't pay for transport Uber or Okada, tell her you don't have

2: Don't buy any food..

3: when she ask for Data tell her you don't have money

4: when she visit you, don't order food or cook noodles

.

Story story

Simply no difference between this your analogy and olosho or hookup chick

All na same same

Olumaeme:
Nobody asked to be born.
If two people decide to come together and knack, knowing the consequence is a child, is the child supposed to take the blame?

I have kids and I know they deserve the support and care not because I want them to honor or take care of me but because I ask them to come and I have to be accountable for their well-being whether they honor me or not.

I called them, did I give them an agreement to them to sign about how we are going to live the contract, telling them what is expected them before I can do my own part, so at least they decide if they want to come or not?

Whether you agree or not

The Holy books have stated that

Go and ask around
People that there parents cursed
How there Life has been

Whether they planned a childs coming or not
Children are obliged to there parents

parent take care of there children from a day old till they grow to fend for themselves

So irrespective of whatever
Children are obliged to there parents

Nothing can erase that fact
And that's why many in this generation are dieing young
Because they disregard this law nature have put in place
By feeling it doesn't matter
And pay for it heavily in the end

Neckpresser101:
"Ile ife " means to look at something in ìgbo language

Two of you are right

Ile ife: Ile; tongue, Ife ; light
Meaning tongue of light

Ile ife: Ile; look, Ife; something
Meaning look at something

It all depends on pronouncing it
The vowel and dipthongs sound

Gajagojo:
That claim is false historically
There is nothing like
The Land of Israel.
You can kindly tell us what term means.
What are the boundaries. Who gave them C of O
Who is is that gave ownership to THE JEWS
Who are " The Jews" ?
What is their connection to the Europeans that returned in 1947?


5000 years? Really? What is the source of that claim? What are the dates?
What about the 50000 years before those 5000?
Was the land empty? When THE JEWS first arrived

They should go and contest the Land with the Jews now

Even Hitler with all his powers couldn't destroy the Jews
No one ever can do that

They are involved in almost all the modern things controlling our world today
Be it banking, Media, weapons, technology, innovation etc

So those that want the Land should go for it

StOla:
That they once occupied the region as some tribes also did before them, and others after them have done, does not give Jews in Europe any ownership claims to a territory of the Arabs in the modern age.

1500 years ago where the Arabs even the occupier of the Holy Land?

Absolutely no

They are even modern occupiers
The ottoman empire was even the ones that brought the Arabs to that Land

As for Jerusalem
The battle for it will never end
And may lead to Armageddon apocalypse and extinction of mankind

Gajagojo:
That area used to be known as Palestine under the control of the British until 1947

The population was about 1.5 million of which less than 20% were Jews

When World War two ended

The British and Americans decided to compensate Jews in Europe who were victims of Hitler's genocide by relocating them to Palestine,grabbing land and rendering many Palestinians as refugees thereby creating the state of Israel in 1947

The Palestinians have continued to resist that to this day

Imagine if the Nigerian state did that to Benue People and created a Fulani enclave there. Would you expect them to go away and be quiet?

The Land of isreal belong to the Jews for over 5000 years till the Romans destroyed Jerusalem in AD 70

It was after second world war that the Land was relocated back to the Jews

This battle for Jerusalem will never end
And it's what will lead to Armageddon
The battle of all battles
Which may even extinct human kind

In Armageddon
All the nuclear weapons will be unleashed
Mankind may go extinct
Because the number of nuclear weapons
US and Russia alone have will wipe out this whole earyhy

Olumaeme:
African parents overrates themselves.

They give birth to several kids they can't take care of which make them suffer and then they think they can control their lives of their children and toss it around.

You will see them making mouth, I sent you to school, I will curse you, I will destroy you, unless if you didn't suck this my breast 😂🤣

But of a truth
You owe honour to your parents
Even the Bible said it in ten commandments
Honor your father and mother
That your days may be Long on the Earth


Why many people nowadays are dieing young
Is because of lack of honor for parents

My Dad took excellent care of his Mum who died at almost hundred
Today my Dad is past eighty
Strong and in good health

Many are dieing young because of lack of honor
Irrespective of whatever a parent does
They are the ones that brought you into this Life

Cared for you as a baby
Till you grew
So they deserve honor

You should just move on with your life

Shouldn't be poke nosing into his affairs

Face your Life

That's why it's good to be very wealthy

One big man I know
His first son was doing anyhow because he made small money from oil deal

The Man waited till he died
And willed assets worth hundreds of millions to the second son who always listens to Him

The family is in commotion now
The first son no gree
But will is will

Just get better money
Face your Life
Any pikin wey feel he doesn't want you

Your will says what to do

Hemeenworth:
I watched thier last game against real Madrid in the champions league
He didn't take the penalty

But is this not too emotional for him

A man is not supposed to be involving emotions in his doings

Napoli bleeped up by posting such on Tiktok but that is passed now

Osimhen should act like a man and step forward to always take the penalty instead of holding on to that grudge like an emotional woman on her period

Act like a man indeed

That's how many Men entered into problem
Because they wanted to act like Men

You don't know what racist attack is
If you have experienced it first hand
You will understand Victor

By the way
Victor is likely to leave Napoli this January window

Lots of clubs with cash want him
He is tested and tried
His should move on from Napoli
He don try for them