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clinician2x:
I pray every day that the parents and family members of people like you should be caught om calamity like this all over the country.

This is my everyday prayer.

Nemere2020:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/600941-i-have-made-nigeria-better-buhari-insists-despite-evidence-to-the-contrary.html

JagabanBorgu:
Ortom is owing salaries as we speak, he hasn't paid benue workers for months, he is not saying any truth.
Same way posterity and history judged Obi in the last eIectîón, it wiII also judge Ortom.

saysugar:
Mumu governor what he do as governor? Yardua tenure better Jonathan ,likewise obasanjo tenure still better,we are shouting worst tenure during Jonathan too compare to yardua and obj tenure! So forget

Espelbengz:
Worst governor ever in the history of the world ranting! If Fada Alia does not prosecute and get you imprisoned then I will know nothing in this life is ever serious!!!

JagabanBorgu:
Ortom is not in anyway different from Obi.
Bàd Ieadérs who prèteñd to be good by giving Iamè speech everytime.
Ortom who is owing salaries in every sector even when he is among the governors receiving steady money from FG.
I doñ't bIame u tho.
I blame ur people.

Erastuslove:
Bros let me answer you straight without mincing words.... When you love your wife, the erection will come natural to have sex, but a time will come when your beautiful wife start to resist your attempt for sex with her by giving excuses, that will force you to work on your libido mentally to calm down waiting for when she will be ready and that time you wont be ready again... your mind is already off...... As this continues, your body and mind build up resistance for her and that will result to KILLING YOUR LIBIDO for her...... try it with a stranger and you will be A HORSE but for her ZEROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO..... she has to start loving you again AND INVITING YOU FOR SEX IF NOT THATS BYE BYE....

ITS A MENTAL RESISTANCE WORK CAUSED BY NAGGING WIVES..

negga4al:
Your inability to achieve erection or sustained one is purely psycological - well according to your story. This means you have to get to the root cause of this which I think is that you expect too much of your wife. Let me establish something here:

1. Marriage is not made up of perfect people. It is a combination of two guys with their imperfections, frailties, weaknesses, differences both in ideas, opinions, cultural background (maybe), family upbringing, likes, dislikes.
2. You are not to try to change your wife (one who's been formed that way many years before your met her) to be like you, you are only going meet frustration and bitterness (trust me I know).
3. Since trying to change your wife is an herculean task, what you do is help her, lift her up, cover her weakness, she is your wife!
4. Communication is key. You need to discuss how you feel with your wife, of course say it without make it her fault or that you are better than her. Lose the ego with your wife because your ego will only lead you to loathe her for something she is innocent of, which in turn will lead to a boring, dry and breakable marriage. Now, how the hell do you expect your wife to know what you are thinking if you don't share, she be winch?
5. Cheating on her will never fix your problem with her, it is just a stop gap gratification. You go out there with other women, make your dangler happy and come back to a home of disappointment, loathing and hate. Now you will repeat this cycle until your wife becomes your sister or roommate. Then you rationalise your cheating escapade, and make your wife the problem.
6. Thank God you can perform in bed. If you have discussed this with your wife (Go to no 4 above) you can have her excercise (join her to encourage her), take natural herbs, fruits and aphrodaisic foods and lead healthy life (do this with her) which in turn would increase her sexual performance. I didn't mention drugs because it only solves her problem short time.
7. Man, respect your wife by using protection - if you choose to continue your escapades.

Marriage can be beautiful if we swallow our pride, communicate, share our problems and make a conscientous effort to make it work.

Suspect33:
No matter how you trash talk it or try to run it down, marriage is a good thing, because no man wants to marry you, you've now made it a personal assignment to trash talk marriage any chance you get.

It's a defense mechanism to convince yourself that you don't want what you can't have , or that having that thing is morally evil.

You're always here trying to run down marriage and to propagate divorces. lol

JaskanFactor:
sexual aspect is important, but finding a partner with whom you can work as team to raise family and survive in this very harsh world is also important. And its not easy to find both of this in same woman.

That is why, if sex is the only issue, and you a getting older, maybe best to agree to work together as team to raise family, whilst both of you find other ways to satisfy your sexual needs in respectful manner to your relationship.

One of the things about growing up in this world is that things dont always work out like text book says, so you have to get creative.

There are many couples out there that work well as team to manage a family home and raise children , but for sexual relief, that is mostly done outside the home.

And another thing that will help rekindle sex life with your partner is not to share the same room, and if possible separate apartments but close. They say some distance helps to rekindle the mystery that leads to sexual attraction.

2 people living ontop of each other and hoping for increase in sexual desire are asking too much of human nature.

Trust me, there are women out there that will take your sexual life to heaven, but as life survival team partner, they will ruin your finances home etc. Its most important to find someone who can be your co pilot, then you might have to get creative about recreational sex.

Mordecai:
Ignore that kobojunkie. She probably works for an NGO whose objectives are to increase divorce rates whatever the method used, whether it's in the interest of the woman or not.
Take time out and read all her posts. All she wants is that no woman should stay married to a man.

Given that she's always on this forum without a break, it means she has no other source of livelihood and this is her paid job. To induce divorce.

So listen to her at your own peril.

vickydevoka:
You might be right. But there is more to marriage than sex especially this abroad we dey. Most people for hear don marry two times, bcus first wife na papers, or cos or rush rush or referrer. Abroad really get disadvantage especially if you de rush to marry. Currently I'm put under pressure to marry, even babe I de follow now for 9ja, though I like her but I de fear to wife woman way get weight. Na my first time I de follow big woman. Though I never go intimate with her but she de really coner mark me. In reality you don't marry out of pity , you marry based on fact. E.g. you be first boy out of 9 children and your earn 300k , you fell in love with a lady that is Ada ( first daughter) , she also has 8 siblings. No matter how you love her , you are supposed to end the relationship not to talk of marrying her. Marriage is a burden , do not be deceived, you have a lot of responsibility especially if you're from poor or average home , worst still you happen to be the first boy or girl ( omo na die o).

In this life just use your sense and pray. I love you, I love you no de pay school fees.

mariahAngel:
The problem is not in your brain, it is in your heart.
You're trying to have sex with your wife, instead of making love to her.
Learn to love your wife, and make love to her wholesomely.
She's not some random girl, she's your wife.

One problem with the black man is that they don't know how to love. 🙄

vickydevoka:
Ya. It's natural. I remember one slim babe that year. Omo I empty my account for the babe. Her current na 100 percent. Small nyash o. Body soft like today bread. I hardly get sexually aroused with short girls. Not all but most.

vickydevoka:
Pretty and fair doesn’t make some one sexually attracted. I used to think like this until I me an ugly black lady with a tight pxy and soft body. If you don’t have as a lady you don’t have it. Some ladies only look them go look you , you go arouse

Spiritualsdeeps:
Are you new on this Forum? I think if you have been on this forum for a while, you wouldn't have wasted your time reading kobojunkie comment at all, you even went to the extent of replying his or her Comments..

Next time, Just Ignore immediately you see it.

GistFullGround:


She is from the marine world; her "husband" won't allow you enjoy her. She needs deliverance!

Angelfrost:
Sexual compatibility, you say??! Lol!

It's never that cut and dried!

A lot of couples were highly sexually compatible and attractive to one another prior to marriage... As soon as they got into the union, the attraction for sex went down!

My grandfather used to describe such situation as the "Over-familiarity crisis"! Meaning, what you get so easily and daily becomes quite regular and average for a lot of men!

My advice is that there be more than just sexuality in every marriage, and both partners learn to make out time to spice up the union!

The worst hit are usually the men! A lot of them get more aroused by women outside their marriages and seemingly beyond their reach than their wives...! Some guys will argue against this point; some will even pretend that they don't experience this in their marriages! Lol!

Las las, marriage will uncover and expose all bullshits!...

LLSAINT:
I think OPs, you are the problem.
First of all, welcome to the institution called marriage.
S$x starts with the mind. If you lose it, you lost it.
If other girls call and your dickkie comes alive, it simply means you have already engaged them in your mind before the very act.
Work on your mind and communicate more with your wife.
Cuddle her on bed still you sleep off.
Let the thoughts of other girls leave your mindset for you to get focused.
Her 'doughnut' is not different from the ones you fantasize.
Wetin dey sweet man for outside, easy to kill am o!

paulek4eva:
https://news.sky.com/story/tina-turner-dies-aged-83-12888593

CuriousMind2022:
Pocohantas, you're a very popular moniker here, so I know you very well. And I will take my time to respond to you. This is also my alternate moniker, which I created last year while my marriage was on the verge of collapsing.

You read my thread and I don't blame you for making the assumptions that you made.

March 22, 2022, is a day I will never forget in my life. On that fateful day, my wife and I had a fight and she pulled five kitchen knives on me, that she will kill me, kill herself and then call our parents to come take our baby. Unknowingly, to me, my wife whom I married had become filled with so much resentment for me. She literarily saw me as a filthy person, because of my bad habits then. I was consumed in lust and masturbation, I wake up in the mornings then and the first thing I do is to start surfing Instagram admiring all manner of women with big butts. Slowly, I became obsessed with soft porn (At the time I told myself I wasn't doing pornography because I don't watch pornstars have sex).
Thankfully, after I shared my ordeal here last year, I got to know that I was actually doing soft porn.

After the fight last year, I left my house to go live with my elder brother. I actually stayed there for about 3 weeks, before the issue was resolved and I returned back home. It took interventions from 2 of our pastors and my elder brother and his wife to resolve the issue. My wife is a sensitive person, and I didn't know she had hacked my phone and was seeing everything I was doing on the internet. She literarily knew the names of the handles, I loved visiting. This caused her to hate me so much! She didn't see the other good things I was doing. Well, I didn't really blame her for that.

After that terrible incident, I blamed myself for everything that happened. I still remember, how I wept in my elder brother's...I kept on calling my name and telling myself that see how I had allowed lust and pervasion to ruin my home. I was broken, and I cried to God to help me overcome those bad habits and restore my home. Thankfully, God help me. The first thing I had to do was to come out clean! I confessed to my pastors and my elder brother the real problem in my home.

As a Christian, I have come to know that the only way to be free from such secret and destructive sin as pornography and masturbation is by coming out publicly.

Aside from coming out publicly, I took some drastic steps. I deleted all my social media accounts (Instagram, Facebook, and even WhatsApp). I also did away with using and having a smartphone, I used torchlight for a very long time just to avoid stumbling on my triggers on the internet. Just to add, that it was also quite easy for me to overcome those bad habits of mine because I was not really an addict as my wife thought. I started masturbating when I was already a full-grown man, I loved looking at beautiful women and that was actually the part that I struggled with. But thankfully, God helped me and even now I can boldly share my story anywhere I was once trapped in the web of soft pornography, but God helped me to overcome it.

I really didn't owe you this explanation, but I saw the need to clear you on this that what you read in my thread last year, is an old me.

As I stated in my original post in this thread, I still believe my wife's background is what is chiefly affecting her. And she is not the type that listens to advice, if not she probably would have improved. I still remember the battles we had to fight both physically and spiritually before we could get married. Her family practically did not want her to get married.

ChybuzzDD:
Your usual thread-derailing strategy didn't work here, as no one was ready to engage you.

That's great.

One day, we'll be able to find out if you're actually a bot or a virus that infected the platform .

buzweb:
I guess you've not heard about Passport Bros. Give it 20 years from now, women around the world will start advocating for men to befriend/marry them for real more especially in Europe and America. This stupid idea that we don't need Men are trash. Men are at the receiving end of the whole thing if you check it very well. We all a social being and can't do without one another.
Men can be mean likewise women. And if your circle of friends keep having serious problems in their marriage, then I guess you should ask yourself some questions. The way we preach about divorce is just too bad. More than 70% of divorce are initiated by women. If that's the case, why bother yourself agreeing to marry a man and later on start complaining.
Truth is we are the cause of our problems. You hear people say I don't care about his/her past, I don't care about her/his body count. He's changed and all manner of excuses. That means you don't know much about your guy. You don't even know anything about his family. You don't ask questions, you don't care about his business so far he's ready to spend on you. We only care about love and fantasies but forget that marriage is a lot of work.
Same thing apply to guys as well. I wanna have the hottest chick and all that. Being a wife is different from being a girlfriend likewise husband and boyfriend. Don't rush into marriage because you want to escape poverty or impress people or maybe escape from being single. What you see on social media is different from the actual reality.

nlfpmod:
As shared by Vashti Vash Offo:



https://twitter.com/Vash_Offo/status/1660702453648465927?t=iG_-zSFySZJMgg1RI7BOoA&s=08[/quote]This is coming from a very negative person

Like it's only women going through stuffs in marriage?

Aren't men also going through stuffs?

I am sure she is not married

There are many people enjoying there marriages
Good partners to each other

That some are going through stuffs, doesn't negate marriage or start calling for divorce

Marriage is not easy
It requires a lot of work commitment and understanding by the two parties to make it work

But whoever wrote this is a bitter person. Simple

cococandy:
What was your mind that you stated?

That this man did well by his actions. At the same time you praised the women who did the opposite of what he did?

When confronted you said “by the way how many women have that type of money”? In your efforts of course to rubbish women.

Well then I empathized with you for not knowing women who have that type of money. So, you reverted to saying all the women in your family are wealthy and I’m nothing compared to them. Am I missing anything?

Big foot in mouth. Move along pls

bukatyne:
You witnessed ultra rich women take care and honor their husbands.

Yet you do not think that wives of ultra rich men deserve same care and honor.

cococandy:
So you do know women who have money? Because you just said this.



Now all the women in your family are rich?
Which is it? Because y’all just argue and say anything to make a point.

If everyone or at least most people know a few rich women, where are your previous stats from?

Now you’re deflecting. Trying to talk about my location as if it has anything to do with the conversation. Typical

Persephone1:

You even reduced last two paragraphs to two words on a line.


Okay dokey , thanks for the laugh.

Persephone1:
The only thing missing here is to give us "notes"

With the way you type one can easily know where to go high,low and take a pause

PS : I just find your style amusing, no offense intended.

cococandy:
I’m sorry you only know poor women

Persephone1:
Why are you typing in stanzas?

AntiWailer:
Any where u read that a sane person fly first class and his wife on the same flight fly economy, come back.

Nobody is talking about the children