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cococandy:
If I hear say a woman with money buys herself first class tickets and economy for the husband.

Like all of you won’t be up in arms about how she’s emasculating him and how women with money are rude bla bla bla. Oh please 🙄

How many women get that kind money self?
Extremely very few

And those that have treat there men like King

I have been in a function with Folrunsho Alakija
The richest Nigeria woman
A billionaire in dollars

She was advising young women to respect, worship and adore there husband's
That she worships her husband
Still cooks his food despite her wealth
Still does his manicure




Same was said of Late Prof Dora Akunyili
She cooked her husband personal food
Despite being nafdac DG and later minister
She never allowed anyone cook for her husband food but her



Same for Mummy Ngozi Okonjo iweala
With her level of connection and global exposure
She doesn't play with her husband
And taking care of her Man
Being a responsible Wife


Na all these chewing gum girls
Wey never achieve anything in life
Will be looking down on Men

Isn't it surprising that
Responsible high powered women
Don't play with the men over them

Na all these chewing gum girls
Wey never achieve anything meaningful in there Life
Will be making noise

Tingotoe:
Jackie Chan is worth over $400 million and yet anytime he flys with his son, he travels first class while the boy sits in economy. His reason being that the young boy hasn't started making any money of his own and so should not be entitled

That's how it's supposed to be
Not raising entitled spoilt children

AntiWailer:
Lol

Ladies need to look before opening legs for this riff raffs


See them supporting nonsense and typing like some one with mental issues.


So u will sit in first class and allow ur wife and child fly economy in the same flight. Lmao

But it's his money

He can do whatever he likes

Air travel na same
Whether first class or economy

Sir Richard Branson of virgin airlines flies first class while his children flies economy
Despite he being the owner of the airline

He grounded and raised them well
His children are reputed to be very well behaved among UK rich men children

His first daughter is a well known renowned Medical Doctor

cococandy:
Keep same energy if wife does the same that’s all

Na if she get the money first

If woman had money
She can fly first class
No be on Oga money

More of entitlement

Beelisam:
Source: https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2023/05/20/hilda-baci-defends-her-dress-sense-hints-on-next-steps/

Nna nwa bu peppermint

The way politicians and top ogas will rush this girl eh

Money won't be a problem

But she must be very very careful
Let her not end in perdition and destruction

Nothing destroys women like popularity
They don't know how to manage it

I was checking on Whitney Houston recently
I noticed she is the first and only female to have been on billboard number one for the highest number of weeks with bodyguard soundtrack album

Whitney was number one in almost all the Western countries even Asian during her success

Whitney amassed so much fortune
But stardom finished Whitney
It completely destroyed her
With her horrible drug use

It pained me how a so much talented Whitney Houston died almost in penury

Up till today
I don't think I admire any other celebrity the way I admired this woman
Her voice was out of this world

Preachers wife soundtrack is still my best music when it comes to quality out of this world music

Especially the one she did with Georgia mass Choir

But she was destroyed to perdition by stardom she couldn't control


This lady must watch it

Or else she will be totally wrecked

Righteousness2:
That is not ordinary! That his not ordinary!

If you don't contend the principalities and powers in your domain, they will war against you.
She needs to contend with powers and forces against her marriage in the place of prayer . Yokes need to be broken.

Advice her to visit the Lord's Chosen

Story

Ntori olorun


Pastor Kumuyi said even on wedding day, if you have cold feet run for your life.

You don't know what the pastor have seen

Better late than never

Anfield247:
Recently, let me say two to three weeks ago, my mom came back from church, discussing about an upcoming traditional marriage and wedding ceremony of the daughter of one of her church members with my dad. They were busy, I mean my mom and dad were busy talking about how the groom is a wealthy man and how the marriage will be glorious

I didn't even pick interest because I got better things to think about.
The bride-to-be is a graduate from akwa ibom, while the groom-to-be, on the other hand, is a pastor of one popular church in Nigeria, I won't mention the name of the church because not all their pastors are the same.

When they started the relationship, the pastor was rushing everything, he was like he can't wait to marry this pretty damsel.

According to the story, the parents of the both families have met each other, and some part of the traditional marriage has been done.
Everything was going according to plans, they even brought out a pre-wedding photo, which I myself saw on her Facebook. Here is how the marriage took a new twist,

Now, three days to the traditional marriage, the groom-to-be came out and said he's not getting married to the Bride anymore, that is no longer interested in the marriage.

When they asking why, he said it was because of the bride price list they gave to him.

Now, his church said there's no problem about that, that they will sponsor everything, the pastor still vehemently insisted that he is no longer interested in the marriage...

The parents of the girl said the marriage list is always open for negotiation, that it is not compulsory to pay everything at once, or even everything no the list to be paid,The young man still said no.

Now the marriage has been called off and the girl is heart-broken.

My Mom follow the mother of the bride-to-be to do the shopping.
They even invited so many people to the marriage ceremony but it unfortunately ended in the most unbelievable way...

What could possibly be the reason behind his decision?
Can a man go as far as performing some traditional marriage rite just to sleep with a girl?
Could it be because of the list?
Or can infantuation drive a man to do the unthinkable?
Could it be spiritual manipulation or just the matter of choice?

Maybe the pastor don get cold feet or deep warning

There are many divorced men today wishing they had the kind of chance this Pastor have

See marriage is very very complicated especially the times we are in now

Anyone that develops a cold feet should abort immediately

One guy was lamenting to me some months ago that towards the eve of his wedding,he developed cold feet. But he pushed it aside and still got married to the lady.


Today he is in complete regret and children are now involved. The guy was just lamenting.


See any guy that develops cold feet towards his wedding should run. Even if everything has been set.

Don't because of what people will say enter into lifetime regrets


Like Pastor William F Kumuyi was teaching that even if you arrive at the altar on the wedding day and get warning signs, of the best thing you will do for yourself is flee. Don't marry


So make una free the pastor, he is doing the right thing. If people want talk make they talk.

It's better now than later regrets

descarado:
I talk about reality where I live and interact and yes, older women enjoy life more than older men both sexually and otherwise.
Men get erectile dysfunction as they age. Digest that. Unlike women. In Nigeria, culture and religion hold widows back. And the chain is breaking. She is not afraid of pregnancy or otherwise, just enjoying life.
Yep, life favours women as they age more than men. For those men who can still get it up in their 60s, kudos to them. The worst is this generation of concoction drinkers and smokers living aggressive lifestyle.
I think I've flogged this topic enough.

Oh yeah you have really flogged it

To each his own

descarado:
And you believe the 70 yrs old granny will not start early to take care of herself?
A 70 yrs old man isn't granny too?
Drs will advice a 60 something years old man to slow down if he is fortunate enough to be still pumping. Young girls that marry them know what they are after. Yet to hear an old woman die on top lovemaking. It's the other way round.

Simple answer, tired of this debate. Check out pictures of nollywood female and male actors from age 60 upwards.
Women most of the time suffer from pregnancy to childbirth complications that may affect them which is not their fault. Aside that, these ladies are balling. Both in and out of bed. Eg, look at Chris jenner and her young African American dude. I also read a lot about ita giwa.
It's still Nigerian boys that go abroad and marry these so called ancestors or don't they cuddle and make love?
Never compare. When you go forciuples seminars, you will hear what uou won't hear in public or stay near older women.

We are talking of reality here and you are bringing Hollywood celebrities like Kris Jenner who God knows have done plenty cosmetic surgeries. Even celebrity preacher like Joyce Meyer has done plenty plastic surgery

So those ones are just exception, they are wealthy, worth millions of dollars.

I am talking of 65 years old around me that I have observed, not celebrity or Hollywood celebrities who are just one in a million

As for all those old Mama's coming for our young men
It's boredom and loneliness that is disturbing them.
Most of them there relatives like children are all minding there business. So they go for young boys here who use them as transactional ticket to get papers and migrate.

I know how lonely abroad life can be, even my sister that relocated with her family to Canada via PR couldn't stay after some months the first time she went there
She came back with her kids couldn't bear the boredom and loneliness then went back after staying back here for a year to prepare herself. Later went back, now have gotten her citizenship and passport.

She complained the kind terrible loneliness that was over there when she came back first time.

So all those Grannies that come looking for our boys do so to curb loneliness.

descarado:
Men don't look at a 65 yrs old woman because of the cultural tag attached to older woman and an old man is attracted by a younger girl solely because of financial protection and power.
An older woman don't care about marriage again, an older man may want marriage
An older woman has biological clock against her as regards giving birth which a makes a younger man look stupid courting her if he desires kids.

An average older woman don't really care in Nigeria, except enjoy life but I tell you, they fair better. And because they don't care, that's why you don't see them dressing up to kill. What am i saying, go to parties and see them balling. I will use where I live as an example, a 60yrs old single woman just want to be single. Yep, she is still courted and treated like a lady. You will hear statements like my mum's new boyfriend, etc and these ladies are old.

Leave naija stereotype. We demonised women to only live for their husbands and kids only thats why we think they have no life outside that setting and find it hard to believe an older woman will still be toasted like the younger ones. Black women are catching up now cos they no longer live for their kids. Check out youtube and see older men versus older women in action.
Even older male celebrities shine less than their female colleagues.

I have close family relatives that are in this age range you are saying.

A 65 years old woman is already a Granny
Where she get time for Love? Where?
They don't even have time for sex again

But a 75 years old man healthy can still be very Hot and still attract even younger women

I am not even talking of 65 years old men here

The secret for every man is to begin early to take proper care of his health and body

Latest from 30s they should start eating Clean
Excercise regularly
Do regular medical check up

Anyone that does this will still be balling in his 70s

I learnt this from my Dad
He will be 80 in 2 years time
But has been sound physically
Not on any medication
You can take him for a 65 years old
Because of good choices he made from early years
Never seen him taking alcohol
Very choosy in eating

Even so much stronger than my mum who is early 70s
Infact my Dad is the one that takes care of her
Because all of us have left home
Except the Nanny that comes within the week to clean and Cook for them

ajakuai:
This your story seems familiar.

Uniport?

Something like that

festacman:
Nigeria is dire need of a leadership that will make the economy more productive. President Bola Tinubu after inauguration will have four years to show a clear vision as well as good policies and programmes.

One thing I know is that President Bola Tinubu won't get 2nd term if his 1st term failed to be impressive. No amount of political realignments will save him. Recruiting Kwakwanso and sacrificing loyal allies won't save him. What will save is good performance in office. He won't be as lucky as Buhari because Nigerians especially the electorally majority youth are becoming politically aware and highly intolerant of bad leadership.

You hit it spot on

M4A1carbine:
Treacherous
Conniving
Despicable
Untrustworthy and untruthful
Trust them at your own peril.

Ganduje was dropped because it's obvious kwankwaso has a better foothold politically in Kano ..

Ganduje has fallen to sophisticated politics Even Bashir Ahmad go cry Blood

Una dey trust Agbadorian RATs...e choke ohh!!

Now them go see real betrayal

Shey he don win

The kind betrayal wey go dey this Tinubu presidency will be worse than Gej era own

Karma doesn't sleep

And whatever they all sowed in 2015
Everyone of them will reap it bountifully

None will escape karma

God is alife and law of sowing and reaping is in operation in this our world

The moral lesson for everyone of us is;

Always do good no matter what.
Never be treacherous or stab someone in the back.

You will never get away from the repercussions

milky3:
He quit acting to please his family and he couldn't get the perfect family he desire. It is well with us all

He should have had balance

Balance is the key to surviving Life

Not putting all your eggs in one basket

maasoap:
Only men dey grow old and become dependents in marriage, women don't! Lol

You dey mind am

Even men in there 50s and 60s do still move on

One Prof I know moved on in his 60s when he couldn't tolerate the nonsense from his Doctor wife and remarried a younger woman

It all just depends on individual

Mayeldah:
It was obvious Saint Obi was a SIMP

How can in-laws come to your house and beat you and your wife was supporting them?

If na me na that day the marriage go end make everyone go em way. secondly don't be too attached emotionally to a woman

Love your wife and your kids but if the woman wan show say she be LORD over you, omo e better make marriage end

There are women out there that would want have Saint Obi for the rest of their live, how come he couldn't move on with his life and find love again?

Being emotionally attached to a woman can backfire

A man must be in control of his emotions walahi

NtoAkwaIbom:
In essence divorce led to his quick death because he was a family man...
Elon musk n Bill gate n Bezoz Dem wey divorce nkor.

Moral lesson.

Don't be a family man, so you can always move on with life.

Oga those ones are backed by billions of dollars in there account

They can easily adjust

Moreover oyibo already have divorce at the back of there mind

Here many men never contemplated divorce. And it's becoming more common nowadays. That's why men must brace up, anything can happen.
Your so called sweet heart can turn into something else
Anything can happen

Guyman01:
Those "wicked" RedPillers have turned me around to a point that the other gender can no longer put me in a stage of depression, I go on the offensive before they declare war.
I suffered that year as a SIMPle man

Lol trouble!!!

Honestly redpill has helped a lot of men to adjust to these issues

AImiron:
Let me type something sensible for the last time tonight, before I turn on my beast mode.

Y'all disrespect City alot, most especially y'all England fantoys. I only blame pep for this, due to his overthinking. If City were ruthless like Bayern Munich in the Bundesliga, una go don stfu.

I still wonder why a rational human being with a functional brain, go yarn say Madrid go say flog us at home. I'm perplexed and na the confidence for me. Sure, anything can happen in football, anything can happen anywhere, but anything doesn't happen every time. You can't be unlucky all the time and you can be fortunate all the time as well

This same mediocre Madrid team wey Xavi Dey use the likes of Gavi and Pedri to bastardise. I'm a Barcelona fan , so I watch em play wella in the Spanish Laliga. This same Madrid wey one Girona player scored 4 goals against their full squad. Y'all mor0ns play too much here.

I like how City do the talking on the pitch, and for assnal fans, I engaged you ppl alot Una forget say dem no dey lift EPL in February, lastly, Man United fans I wish you mannequin all the best in the FA Cup final.

I hope y'all don learn lesson the hard way tonight, never ever disrespect city or pep. He own y'all in the EPL now he's about to own Europe.

After watching tonight match one weyreh somewhere go still tell you say inter go beat City. I wonder the kind of upbringing most y'all had, cos y'all just allergic to good times. Anyone hating on good things they always end of miserable in life cos good things will always elude.

We are the citizens. This is our city

TREBLE 2/3. It's coming home

Football can be very unpredictable

Who would believe Chelsea will beat City in champion league finals

Irrespective that City are the top favorites
Don't write off Inter
Italian teams get as Dem they play

Don't let over confidence kill una

By the way

Big congratulations to Man City and great Pep Guardiola!!

hopeforcharles:
Pay a visit to her see things yourself, discuss about your marriage if you see that her mind is made up don't force her,
Go back to base try and improve your finances take care of your children.
She might have moved on.

That's the fact

She might have moved on

Men need to start equipping there minds that the Nigerian modern woman is just like there counterparts in the West

Many of them now have divorce at the back of there minds

Most of we men don't even contemplate or think such but many of our women do.

So any little thing they want out
And once a woman contemplates that, I am sorry that marriage is as good as gone

So Nigerian men must start equipping there minds concerning divorce. Because we men are the most affected, the divorce issues always comes as a shocker to many men and if they are not on hold of themselves, they will get ruined for life.

Also men must double there hustles

Anything you are making, leave some substantial part to take good care of yourself

I had an uncle that was all these I love my wife
Was spending everything on wife and children
When things got somehow
Them no send am

He later died after suffering stroke that hit him, with regrets on his dying bed

Hustle, take care of your family
But also leave something very good for yourself to fall on when shi.t hits the fence

Equip your mind that the game has changed
You are dealing with the most ruthless species of modern women that can be very unpredictable, unreliable, to do and undo
So be very guided


This is my advice to every man out there

CallmeTrinity:
Still yours is a classic example of an account over 10 years old yet below 5k comments

Really nawao

Those guys are really jobless

Why won't they be causing nuisance everywhere

I like the advice you gave him

If he will need to it

mmsen:
If marriage isn't working why should any man get married?

Most times because of family pressure especially from there parents many men marry

We have many bachelor's today in there forties

So there are many men not married

And as things are changing

Many more will begin to join the league

As divorce is becoming normal

Why marry in the first place?

CallmeTrinity:
Olodo. When you waste your time all day here commenting why will you know anything?
The number of comments is displayed at the bottom of your profile FYI


Below is yours. Mugu

Olodo 🤣🤣🤣

Lol I just checked my own only 3861

For those guys to have 25000 comments

They are not busy doing anything really

Although my coming online is only when I am less busy

Can stay days without coming to nairaland

Lol

JovialJune:
Oh so you want Nigerian women to keep taking nonsense from men as it use to be in Nigeria abi?

Nigerian men exercise marriage freedom with their cheating and the rest right here in Nigeria, then take same freedom outside, why is it that you all get pained when Nigerian women also exercise same marriage freedom in a country where equality is the watch word? You want women to remain slaves instead of being free right?

The Nigerian system allows the men chase their wives out with nothing after divorce after building a household for years, nobody bats an eyelid, all of you see it as normal and not being evil right?, western world recognise that as far as the marriage is legal and binding, whatever is attained in the marriage belongs to the husband and wife, and will be shared equally or unequally as the case may be, but in your head the right thing is to leave the wife high and dry abi? that to you is being fair, just and sane? You think it's only men that get to part ways with half or more of their money? No woman has being in this situation before and ongoing?

The way you guys regurgitate same bile as if enlightened makes one see you all as below par, sincerely.

Simple

Let everyone find there way in Nigeria

Let the two parties go there way as it's done overseas

I recently decided to read up on Michael Jordan

I noticed he divorced in the 2000s
Paid his former wife $168 million
later remarried in 2012 to a Latino woman
And he is living happily with the Latino woman

Now he is a billionaire in dollars

Saw plenty pictures he took with his children 3 from the first wife and 2 from the second wife

Honestly na we dey kill ourselves for Nigeria


Divorce is becoming normal here

If the marriage ain't working
The parties should move on and find ways to manage there children


We are just making things hard for ourselves here

Divorce is really becoming common nowadays in Nigeria so people need to start equipping there minds to that possiblity

And even look whether marriage is even necessary (infact many may begin to see marriage as unnecessary) thereby focus on babymama etc.

I even feel that by the time our parents generation pass away

Marriage may start becoming less interesting because a lot is changing

Everyone's eyes is beginning to open now

eazzzy1:
There are no family members abroad to call for family meetings. Many marriages in Nigeria are been held together by family meetings.

A party decides they’ve had enough and want out, the couple’s family organizes an intervention for them. How will you insist on leaving when your mother in-law kneels with tears in her eyes to apologize on behalf of her child?

Elders intervention on phone doesn’t have the same effect as in person.

This one na very big fact

These interventions aren't really real
More of to patch up an already broken system

For me once all these interventions begin to come

The marriage is as good as gone

Why not everyone find there way here in naija

wink2015:
This is misplaced priority.

Delta state government has not been able to invest in an Independent power system.

She is busy wasting public funds on frivolities.

River Niger flood when it comes with the rain will probably overflood the structures and they will know that it is just a waste of public money.

Warri seaport is not working and the Delta state government is not looking at the possibility of setting up their own working seaport.

They have ports at Burutu, Koko, Sapele and Warri and all these ports are just lying fallow.

Ifeanyi Okowa wants to favor his anioma people the Igbo speaking side

Governors from the warri side will do warri environment
After all ibori and uduaghan did a lot for warri side

itsene:
... the project is to be financed...
You are seeing beautiful drawings, nothing on ground!

As long as it's been thougt out and backed with a master plan
It's already done

That's how the Akwa ibom boy Richard that developed and built lekki gardens estate in Lagos started

The success of the first scheme led to many others

So it's good as done

Zooposki:
They should cite the project in Ndokwa East instead, to spread development all over Delta state. Asaba is already the capital.

The location of Asaba and River Niger waterfront is the best

Modern latest upscale cities in Nigeria are built that way:

1Banana island and Eko Atlantic

So it's not bad at all

Also close to our villages for us from Anambra

Also close to a functioning airport
So it's a well thought out vision

Kudos to His Excellency Gov Ifeanyi Okowa for this!!!

horsepower102:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2Gb-j39wTI



https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/04/delta-govt-approves-devt-of-asaba-waterfront-earmarks-n1-1bn-as-compensation/amp/

Project Site: https://awcnigeria.com/

Nice one

I will surely invest in this City

I really love Asaba
Was there last year for 5 days
It was fun

And it's 15 to 20 minutes drive to my village in idemilli local government of Anambra State

Nice one
A great visionary initiative

qbqetell:
Many go through things they can't speak of.
But rather than discouraging other men, they would rather keep quiet, let other men fall into the same trap, so that they have partners in misery.

Only some who have been married for 15+ years muster up the sincerity to speak up regarding the harsh realities of a married life.

Don't take the words of newly married men too seriously and those who are just about to get married.

Bro it's not like that

Sometimes you may have come across some information but you never took it serious.
The information only begin to make so much sense when you have had first hand experience of it yourself

That's what happens to many men

There eyes open when they are already inside the game

Some then begin to find ways to mitigate the effects of there mistakes

Brokeloser:
The tougher the men around her, the softer she is. The softer the men around her, the tougher she is. The toughest woman is the fatherless woman, for the fatherless woman seeks a surrogate by whoring herself. ~Glycosis

You see this quote na very confirmed fact

Use it for your own purpose to avoid pains and have peace of mind as a man

Robbinhood:
Go listen to the Arabs and hear how they see these girls as nothing cos of their greed. We were in class when a Nigerian lady said she can't date down and immediately our Saudi tutor rebuked her that she was earning twice her husband's salary but still a good wife, that she cannot place money over her marriage cos family is all you have when the chips are down.

Go to the UK and you'll see thousands of single black ladies, nobody wants something serious with them cos of their stinking attitude.

My friend's Aunt is in Canada and she was telling us how there are lots of single Nigerian women there without ordinary steady boyfriend, not that they are ugly or don't have money but the men just fxck them and never consider them for marriage.

It's a stinking attitude

Many guys are already taking notes

Our women are turning into something else

Men should just be very ware

Let not person bring fire into his treasured space