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Ocutegan: Why would you think of such a thing in the first place,this is the height of joblessness when others are confused which kinda gift they should get their girlfriend you empty cranium busy wondering what if she dies in your place. Please go consult oracle you'll get answer to your stupid questions.

lol.....

Beync: BREAKING NEws! She ur ex just confirm that you too stubborn.

Headline News! My ex mean say na she stubborn becos of all the guyz she don date, she never meet anyone like me and I doubt if she go still meet anyone like me again... So, she mean say she too stubborn. Besides, your boyfriend need to see this make him confirm say na you be the real stubborn person

rapmike: abeg may una no kill me ooooo......
but seriously,such things annony me, some gal just comes up and says that good men dont exist..WTF? i am a good guy(evolving to man) and u come to say such.
i see all sorts at skul( am in the university) and i see such dumb gals who form 'BIG GALS' going to parties and the likes, talking down on poor but intelligent guys who have a future and who will love them for who they are and not their bodies, all in the name of dating one big guy
then when they are 36 upwards and hormones is telling them that they are old, they start to look for 'good men'.
wonda if it is fair on such average or poor guys who can be good men to marry a lady that has wasted herself.
not stopping any dumb gal for 'enjoying life' but dont bring ur cargo to me, expecting salvation, cos am not jesus and jesus has died to save humanity.
as i like saying salvation is free, but once u are saved forget going back to the world(those who understand will understand).
for any future gal looking for good men, correct ur character now and develop the real u, not the masquerade u call ur body

Guy! Abeg I take dog name beg you... LOl. You need to take another Amarula. You dey really speak my mind here bruv...

ogugua88: It goes both ways

Thats right

Beync: I won confirn from ur girl first

Lol... Newsflash! I no get gurlfriend...

Beync: I agree.
but most are like that

Yeah Sure!

ogugua88: 1. I have seen many rotund Nigerian men. In fact, too many.
2. Do realize that women have slower metabolisms and higher capability of fat storage. That's one of the key biological differences between men and women. We're to bear children, remember?

It's harder for women to lose weight in comparison to men. Recent studies have even shown that its harder for women of African decent to lose weight in comparison to their Caucasian counterparts. Sounds strange to me, but that's what was released some months back.

Encourage women, rather than call them out for not having an ideal physique lol. People do better when they have encouragement.

Yeah you are right about that. In as much as they need encouragement, they also need to do the needful and help themselves at least to some extent.... You know..

Beync: u sure so ?

I am damn too sure.... You wanna try? Lol

phineboy1pimple: Maybe we(Nigerians) ve this aspersion for this kinda union cuz of our conservatism....


Dnt U tink?... We r culture conscious....

Mmm.... The society doesn't always determine everything. I think being ethical and having good moral standards plays alot of role in going about things. And you will agree with me that the society doesnt always determine the standards of morality. In that case, it comes down to individuals, how they see it and stuff...

fluid26: I have come to realize that the use of the word intelligence on here (esp. the romance section) has caused it to lose substance. Many airheads and dickheads with imbalanced semi-circular canals are referred to as intelligent. Smh.

It's bizarre and startling to me too. Wondering...

I wonder oooo. And these same gurls no dey use eye see guyz wey get 6packs and all that ooo. Them think say 6packs dey fall from heaven ni? Them no know say guyz dey go through hell to get or maintain am? Why them no fit work on themselves too? Do work out, watch the kinda food dem dey chop and everything tips to hep them stay fit. At the end of the end wetin dey kill most of these gurlz na longa throat. Them no get no when it comes to taking them to places wey dem dey chop. Its really bad and thats why I like independent gurlz, dem no dey too send anyhow outing when dem know say dem fit afford as much for themselves... I just hope Naija gurlz would learn to watch their physique and not just about make ups alone....

I don't even want to imagine what the aftermath would be. Personally, I would be in sixes and sevens. I would be totally devastated. I don't really know how to relate this issue cos I find it difficult putting myself in such a gruesome situation.

Beync: these men are too stubborn

I'm not. lol

Guy! Chic na chic, hot or cold. I don't think there is any special process that needs to be taken to approach a hot chic. It might surprise you that she might be quite cheaper than the less than receptive chics. If you know how to woo a regular chic, follow the same way and try to take cognizance of whats going on, that is if there is something you are not doing right or not. In most cases, you don't have to worry about what to do or say, as you converse with her the ideas will keep flowing from the way and manner you are getting acquainted with her...

Good luck to your friend bruv.

What a pity? Its lame. Well, personally if I have someone like that and I love her very much, I will not want the world to know she doesn't know how to cook. In as much as she is humble and ready to learn, I will send her to my mum to learn how to cook rather than have have my mum or any other person cook for the family cos its certain that sometime later, those people will not be there to cover up for her nymore, she will have to face her fate. That's the more reason I will send her to be with my mum for sometime or rather have my mum teach her in my house just for the sake of covering up her shortcoming, not letting the world know of her deficiency...

That's me for you...

Beync: u see why girls doesn't give a damn abt broke poor assses

Not all broke guyz out there care about your penny. Personally, I don't care if you have the world, infact! taking something from a gurl is way out of my custom. It depends on the individual.

saintvc: The way people fall in love and break up and cry that their heart is broken only to search for another love and get hurt again.

So i wonder, is love worth d risk,? The pain?

Its worth the risk my bruv but the problem is that people fail to learn from the experience they have had or rather from others. People love and forget about the realities of life. Sometimes I blame it on too much romantic movies and the media in general. Cos sometimes what the media spreads to them is pure fantacy and they tend to take it hook, line and sinker.

[quote author=ekt_bear]Bros, I didn't really notice a "gym" culture in Nigeria the times I've been there.

So, how easy and convenient is it for the women to work out?

Also, naija food is pretty fattening.

Pounded yam, amala, the stews and soups, etc.[/quote]But these are the kinda food we (guyz) eat and a good number of us have flat tummies, not mentioning 6pack abs. I think they don't realy care about their physique, but what they will eat, the kinda make-up they will wear and all that crap...

Ohh sweetheart its very simple. Make this known to him and stop further deceiving or whatever you have been doing. You will do him and yourself a favour if you act and act fast as regards letting him know how you really feel about him. Besides, you don't force yourself to fall in love. If after all the time you guyz have spent together the feeling is not forthcoming as you said, just let him know. The earlier, the better.

Good luck

Plain and simple. Walk away. For her to go by the words of someone from her church after all the while you guyz have been dating shows she is immature. Does she not know that you were a protestant? It shows how immature she is. I am a catholic myself and there was a time I wanted to date a gurl that goes to Christ-Embassy, but she told me that before we can be able to share in each others' lives, I will have to become a member of her church and that was how I showed myself the exit door. If she decides to allow everything you guyz have shared go down the drain just like that because of what someone told her, then it means she never really invested much into the relationship in the first place. And probably, she doesn't really love you as much as she might have claimed...

Anywayz, read the inscription on the wall and act accordingly.

Good luck.

phineboy1pimple: [color=#000099][/color]Apparently, open relationships allow people to spice things up and keep life interesting. Wouldn't it just be easier to stay single?

Everyone has its own way of doing things. Personally, keeping an open-relationship is crappy and not mature at all. Like you asked, its better of if they just remain single than to go on with such adventure. I just don't see it to be a matured act.

yusful4all: I met a lady on social net work, for 3 month we chat, talk on phone, gist etc.i got to c her 3 month after i kwn her, she is liping i.e 1 of her leg is nt balance.she stay on my neck and dont kwn wat to do plsss advice me

I don't encourage dating someone cos of pity how much more getting married to someone because you felt sorry or pity due to one thing or the other. The thing is so simple, do you love her or not? It's not a case of she does limp or not, it should be a case of if you love or or not. If you truly love her, then go for her. But if you just have feelings for her out of pity, then i will tell you to re-trace your footsteps back to where you began the movement.

Good luck bruv....

You love her right? Do you care if you loves you as much as you do to her? I guess you are a matured guy and for one like you, you shouldnt be in this kinda scenario and yet be asking what to do because you love her... Guy! Love ain't blind, it sees but just doesn't mind. In this case, I think your love should mind the fact that there is no way you can keep this going and be hoping that she will eventually let go of her ex in no distant time. If you have dated her for seven months and the ex ain't gone in her world, when then do you think her ex would be gone? If you like wait from now till tomorrow, the situation is likely to remain the same. Please! Please!! Please!!! Act accordingly before its too late for you. You have evidence to prove this, why wait for tomorrow? You wanna make matters worse for yourself? From what you said, it seems you love her very much, but at the same time you shouldn't keep a blind eye on this as you are just another guy on her list. For me, I think its better to be single than being in this kinda situation. I am single, and the last person I dated was guilty of this same thing but being the kinda person that I am, I don't take trash from anybody, infact! I am too precious to condone such gross ineptitude. I had to call everything off because I wasn't ready to play games. So, if you know what is good for you, act accordingly. I won't tell you to leave her or not, the ball is virtually in your court. But the fact remains that, you have lost her and the earlier you realize that, the better for you...

That's just my humble advice..

Do the needful ASAP.

[quote author=blaise26.abj]A millenium will not be too long for you to wait for her to "unlove" and get over her ex. I doubt he is her ex sef. You are just an assistant boyfriend. Wake Up. THINK WITH UR HEAD BRO!

<READ *,2> "Carry your load and call Okada"
<REPEAT 2, 10000>

<IF> " State of residence is Lagos"
<THEN> "You are screwed"

seems u know programming, better remove all bugs and use ur compiler again .[/quote]FORTRAN...

[quote author=ekt_bear]People have hit upon most of the key points...diet, exercise, etc.

Being completely fat-free isn't really common, though. Especially for women. And it isn't specific to Nigerian girls.[/quote]But the thing is that alot of them are weary of doing "work outs" to get themselves fit. And they dont take into mind the fact that one has to watch what one eats, but for our gurlz, anything goes...

JakeMars: You all hve said good tangible things abt marriage, and i appreciate dat fact. . . . Take me 4 an example, am 22yrs+, a graduate. . Hv a good well paid job in an international company, financial stable, hv all i want, a gud girlfrnd who's 20yrs, an undergraduate. . We love,respect,undastand nd trust each oda, dating 4a year nw. . . .we'v planned to settle dwn in less than 4yrs time. . . While we grow & get to knw ourselvs more beta. .am matured in all aspect. . . .asin doing things which a responsible person is suppose to do e.t.c. . .and hv bin thinkin abt gettin married @ 25. Cos am always ready to face any challenge and be a Good man. WHAT DO U GUYS THINK?

Go for it! Thats what we are talking about brah... You have the core things needed, the paramount things. Who says you can't handle whatever situation that you tend to face? Sure you can! And thats what makes you a man. The ability to be able to take good decisions and stand by them at all times. You have a good and lucrative job, you are emotionally stable.... Common, the sky is your starting point...

rapmike: PLEASE SPARE ME THE RUBBISH!!1 AM SURE U ARE ONE OF THOSE SO-CALLED HAPPENING GALS THAT CANT SEE A GUD MAN, BUT CAN SEE 'BIG BOYS'....THE REASON WHY U GALS CANT FIND GOOD MEN IS THAT U IGNORE THEM WHILE U ARE CHASING AFTER BIG BOYS AND WHEN THE BIG BOYS ARE THRU WITH U, THE GUD MAN AROUND HAVE MARRIED OR CANT JUST TAKE U..SO GO FIX URSELF 1ST BEFORE U COME TO COMPLAIN

GBAM!!! Guy one bottle of Amarula for you. Plain truth.

gilmaro: .

From all the comment so far. U've really spoken well. I now know what to do, am a new leaf and am moving on as such. Thanks my nairaland folks.

You welcome bruv.. Sorry for the much scolding and reprimanding from some of us. We just wanted you to get to see things right.. Wish you all the best anywayz.

madridsta007: Hahaha! Nopes, not really. Barca and Arsenal here sir. I just fell in love with the city and the people, Madrid when I was there for vacation. I did do a tour of the Bernabeu (forced by a friend) but still I am no fan of Madrid FC.

Oops... My bad. Sowie I thought you were a madridista. Anywayz, I am a fan of FCB.

vivian chinaza: Oh how I love isi-ewu! All I can think of now is isi-ewu!

Ehen...? How you no go like isi-ewu? When you no dey bring the money from your purse.... I know say if I invite you over now come take you go eat isi-ewu that means I don be romantic guy automatically be that... Abi? Lol

madridsta007: Hahah! Which one be your Arch rival?

From your handle I presume you are fan of madrid... Am I right?

Wizee: Which 1 mke i buy 4u? Monkey tail,pkaraga, waste pain,Ori malu, Dagrin'' d drink'',. Men any1 u wnt bcoz u dey on point

No be lie....