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Allureoftheseas:
witches in his village missed him the first time got him the second time, too bad

jaelz:
hello nlanders am Michael and am married to the most beautiful and loving wife in the whole world, but my problem is that since after the birth of our child my wife doesnt allow me to smooch her again before pre-intimacy dont know what her reasons her cause i don ask tire.
when we want to make love she just tells me lie like and rides me like a cowgirl till we are done. i love her so much and we've been married for two years just that am getting frustrated. need your advice pls

Beverlyjean:
Good day nairalanders , am new on this forum and I actually registered here so that I can get a credible and mature solution to my lingering emotional and relationship problem.

It goes like this; I have a bf that I have been dating for a year now and he is a very wonderful Person, he is my first love and I really love him so much because he gives me a different kind of feeling that I have never felt before , but my dilemma is that I met another guy a month after I accepted to date my bf , we were normal friends for the first one month though I never told him I had a bf until he surprisingly made his intentions known to me . This other guy has been an angel in my life and we started hanging out frequently due to my bf not being around because he traveled out of the country , this other guy has been the most loving and caring guy that I have ever met, he is always there for me and showers me with so much care love and time . He then introduced me to my introduced me to his family ( his mum and dad inclusive) and they loved me at an instant and started welcoming me and calling me their daughter . Now this other guy is 30 while I turned 21 in December and my guy is 23 . This other guy has a great job and ready to settle but his not rushing me saying that he will wait till I am ready . The problem is that I don't have the type of love he wants me to have for him , the thing is that I love my bf so much and I am not ready to let him go . My bf missed my graduation , my birthday and Val's because he had some pressing issues though he sent me my gifts through mail but the other guy was there for me , came for my grad at gwagwalada, took me to a lovely restaurant on my bday and surprised me with a lovely gift and also spent time with me on Val's day and it was so lovely. My bf is around but I see him only 3 times a month and I don't complain but this other guy sees me like 4 times a week .

I have been in a romantic relationship with the new guy although we have done something's apart from direct sex because I am a virgin . This other guy has sacrificed a lot for me but I wanna let him go because he really want me to leave my bf and stay permanently with him , but I love my bf so much and my feeling for him is not strong . He said the reason why I don't love him is because my heart is somewhere else and the moment I leave my bf , I will start loving him as long as I concentrate solely with him.

He also said that even if I leave him and my bf should later find out what I did with him , that my bf will dump me , if not now but later and I will loose the opportunity of everlasting happiness with him ( the other guy)

I care a lot about the other guy and I have feelings for him but I love my bf a lot , even though he loves me more that my bf does.

The other guy also said my bf is still young and might disappoint me in the future . I believe my bf will not because I can guarantee that he is not cheating on me and will not .

The following are the questions that keep on giving me sleepless nights :

1. Will my bf dump me if he eventually finds out bout what I did with the other guy.
2 . Will my bf or me fall out of love as we grow due to the age
3. Am I sure that he is not cheating on me or later leave me for someone else
4. Should I loose my virginity to him to prove my love
5. Will I find another lovin guy like the other guy later in life if my guy leaves me
6 . Will I leave to regret leaving the other guy
7 . Should I follow my heart or head because my heart says my bf but my head says the other guy
8. Will I fall inlove with the other guy if I stop seeing my bf?

Please help me with very mature answers because this will play a vital role in my life in the future .

Ladies that have experienced this come forth and guys that understand the way guys reason should help out pleaseeeee , because am still a novice when it comes to relationship issues. Thank you

johnbimbo12:
Hello house,

I'm in a fix and I need your advice.

I did my IT (Industrial Training) two years ago in an oil company in Port Harcourt, spent 8 months there. Now I'm a B.Tech graduate, going to serve with 2015 batch A of NYSC.

This evening I read a message from my supervisor (back then at the company) that there's an opening in the office that she's about discussing with the division manager to fill me in. She's aware I'm a graduate now, but she doesn't know of my NYSC status (yet).

The opening is actually by July 2015, of which NYSC camp starts on May 5.

The reason she prefers me is because of my experience with the company, even as an IT student back then. A friend of mine that we did internship together in the company is already working there now, and the pay is well into the six figures arena.

The company, from what I've discovered when I was with them, actually prefers employing people that have worked with them in one capacity or the other before, that's why my friend could easily fill in (with just ND, he's even yet to do his HND). And that's also the reason my supervisor wants me there.

I'd initially decided I won't influence my posting, but even if I do, what are the chances that my PPA will be that company? (I'm quite aware Rivers state corps members are majorly deployed to schools though).

I'm yet to discuss this issue with my supervisor, cos I don't have a perfect explanation yet.

What do you think I can do? Should I just say no? If I do, I stand the chance of entering their 'black book'. This company doesn't enjoy people turning down their offers (From experience), hence, they might not accept you in the future even if you apply for a job telling them you've worked with them before.

Mature and practicable advice please. Thanks in anticipation.

worriedmom:
Hello Everyone,

Please this post is strictly for mothers. I need your kind advice and counsel. I am a mother of two. I have this very disturbing condition. My breasts have become fully sagged and frail looking after I had my second baby. It worries me a lot. My Husband does not bother touching or sucking my breasts when making love to me these days, not to talk of sucking them. And this is what he used to love and enjoy doing before I started having and nursing kids.

Please I'd like to know if any lady in the house has experienced such drastic sagging and if there are ways to revive the fallen breasts. Are there moms out there that their husbands have stopped caressing their bosoms because they have fallen due to constant nursing of babies? does it make you feel bad like me? Have you ever raised such issue with your husband?

Also, my husband used to go down low, but after he witnessed the delivery process in the labour room when I had my second child, he has stopped going down low. I'm just soo worried my people. Please any advice from moms and maybe dads will really be helpful to me. Thank you


I created a new profile to hide my identity cos I'm one of the regular contributors to the forum.

Napoleone:
I came back from school and the first thing I did was to land in my mummy's shop. I saw this pretty and charming girl attending to customers and I greeted her . She responded and I later introduced myself . Some minutes later, I just discovered that she was staring at me and anytime I look at her side, she looked away. She later told me she wants to invite me to her birthday and I told her we shall see.
The following day, she told me she wanted to tell me something and I asked her to proceed. She then told me about the way her boyfriend who lives in another state asked her to come and meet him so they could have sex or it would be over between them. She asked me what I think she should do because she's confused. I just told her she's in the best position to make up her mind, but something I know is that no matter how much a guy loves a lady, once pre-marital sex comes into play it deteriorates and I don't do girlfriends because hardly can people in relationships do without sex. That same day, she collected my number innocently.
Mehn! I just noticed that she was calling me morning, afternoon and night . Chei! I don enter am . I began to get suspicious. It got to a stage she told me someone told her she loves me and she wants me to be close to the person. O boy, me told her everybody is my friend chap chap. Before I knew what was happening, she added me on facebook and asked if I won't get angry if she told me something and I said no. She said, on her way home that day, a guy stopped her but she didn't answer and the guy actually followed her home( In my mind, I asked myself "how does that prevent GEJ from returning to Otuoke?" )
OMG! I just discovered that she started dressing provocatively . She told me to close my eyes because she has a surprise for me...Haaa! me no answer o!! She has been staring at me since then. Omo na to stay off mummy's shop o. The question that has been ringing in my mind is this; is this the new way some girls now give greenlight?

zick19:
I was surfing through the web when i came accross these 2 pictures and i can't help laughing after seeing the both...... please, which of the arrests looks more matured between the 2......

ej77:
Buhari can not win

onoikenna:
Nigerian soldiers are using all possible means to get rid of Boko Haram insurgents.

They use several means to communicate in Sambisa forest.

Checkout this photo(above) of a Nigerian soldier fighting Boko Haram in Sambisa forest by communicating with other soldiers via make and receive call method.

I wish them all the best.Our prayers are for them to win the insurgents and come back safely.

Source: http:///afXy

Harbdulrasaq:
Father of Morireluwa, the beautiful girl who won the 2015 PZ Cusson baby moment which was held in Lagos on February 1st, Oluyinka Davids, has revealed that his wife, Funmi Davids, took another to represent him at the competition’s grande finale.

In an interview with Encomium magazine, he said he got his daughter registered for the competition but that as the little girl was advancing in the competition, she shut him out simply because they were no longer living together.

“Yes I started it all, got my daughter registered, got her a professional photographer, personally worked and also employed a PR person who worked tirelessly for her on the contest. I knew she would win. I often told her so. I sometimes even rehearsed how she would be announced the winner and yes she did win, all the glory to God. Myself and my wife had a serious misunderstanding which led to temporary separation but I never ignored or denied the fact that the baby she’s carrying is my daughter. I am still responsible for her upkeep even till now. She called me and said “Your daughter Morireoluwa Davids needed a two minute video for the next stage of the competition”. That was when I knew she made it to the third stage. And I was like so because she needs a video and her father is a cinematographer, that is why I am getting to know my baby had gone this far in a competition I registered her.

Meanwhile shortly before this, during my daughter’s first birthday, I ordered a big customized cake, clothes and toys for her. She turned the person I sent to deliver the stuff. I was embarrassed and deeply hurt. She was so rude and mannerless. She said so many things to me. I still have her message saved. So I told her to go and get the video done elsewhere
for our baby because she only had to tell me because some of my staff she asked without my permission turned her down” he said.

Oluyinka, who was not comfortable with the idea of his wife bringing another man to represent him in the competition as he sees it as impersonation which is punishable under the Nigerian law, but blamed the organizers for allowing such act to take place without challenging her actions.

http://www..net/2015/02/wife-brings-fake-father-to-represent.html

Ibiyomee:
There was a beautiful girl who was admired by four men. A singer, A hunter, A doctor, and A fisherman. One day she went to wash her clothe by the river. Coincidentally the four men were there. All of a sudden a crocodile bit her and dragged her into the water. The singer immediately composed a beautiful song, the crocodile raised his head above the water to listen... The hunter shot dead the crocodile and the girl floated on the water. The fisherman dived in and brought her to the shore, then the doctor treated her and she was well again. Now who deserved to marry the girl among the four?

Pweetyradiance:
Just feel like sharing this story with you,please if you were in my shoes what would have been your reaction?

Two days ago I went to the bursary department in my school to have my course forms signed, when I got there the bursar was busy attending to other students so he asked me to sit which I did, while he kept on attending to them. He was done attending to everyone I met inside the office and was about attending to me when someone else came in, he left me to attend to that person with an excuse that she is the Secretary to one of the HOD's in the school, I kept waiting patiently little did I know he was up to something. when he was done attending to the young lady and she left I gave him my course forms to sign, he took them, looked at them for a while then stared back at me and called my name. I answered, he asked if I will like to be his friend( deep down in my heart I was like, see this old cargo oh wetin him want sef) then I gave him an abrupt answer "yes" I felt he would do the needful and let me go but the next thing I heard was " can I have your nums" (for my mind I shout say Kai! e don set for me oh) God so bless I wasn't with my phone, this was what I had tried hard to avoid for the past 3yrs I had been in skul. I almost lied that I don't have a phone but had a second thought,so I gave him a wrong nums,that wasn't okay for the mugu oh he signed the course forms thereafter he stretched his hands to touch my breast* shy* I had no option than to slap his hand so hard. I stood up and left his office, he kept shouting "we will talk on phone"

the problem now is :should I keep it to myself or let the school authority know about it? I will sincerely appreciate your opinions.

LarrySun:
So, some people still consider Nigeria a country with better opportunities than theirs? This is good news, as sad as it is.

God bless Nigeria.
God bless Nigerians.

sylviasilifah:
Unedited photos of Queen B on the set of a beauty ad shoot in 2013 for L’Oréal Paris have surfaced online. Everyone's is talking about it as well as reposting the photos online. What can we say? She's human.

more revealing photos here; http://www.360nobs.com/2015/02/shes-human-beyonces-unedited-photos-destroy-the-internet/

oluwadanie1:
Miss Dolapo Ibiyemi,
A 300Level Student of Plant Biology,
UNIVERSITY OF ILORIN,

Hear her: “When I was in 100level, I paid for hostel accommodation but didn’t
print out the receipt and other forms. So I didn’t get the hostel slot because I
didn’t have the receipt and form to backup my allocation. And the school
authority said they would refund the money and they refunded it twice”

She added “I just felt it’s not my money and I won’t have peace of mind if I
spent it”. And so, she returned the money to the University purse!

How many of us can do this ??
I think she needs to be awarded.

HOW IT HAPPENED…

In the spirit of the high moral standards being
inculcated in the University of Ilorin students, a 300-
level student of the Department of Plant Biology, Miss
Dolapo Ibiyemi, has returned N28, 000, which was
mistakenly credited into her bank account by the
University.

In a chat with Unilorin Bulletin, Miss Ibiyemi said that
the University mistakenly credited her account twice
when she could not secure a hostel accommodation she
had applied for due to her failure to print the required
forms online.

Narrating how it all happened, the student, a native of
Erin-Ile in Oyun Local Government Area of Kwara State,
said, ”When I was in 100Level, I paid for hostel
accommodation but didn’t print out the receipt and
other forms. So, I didn’t get the Hostel slot because I
didn’t have the receipt and form to back up my
allocation. And the school authority said they would
refund the money and they refunded it twice”.

She added, ”I just felt it’s not my money and I won’t
have peace of mind if I spent it”.

When asked if anybody influenced her decision to return
the money, she said, “My parents told me to return it. I
am returning it because I want to have peace of mind”.
In his remarks, the Dean of Student Affairs, Prof.

Abayomi Omotesho, noted that the student’s behaviour
has attested to the fact that University of Ilorin is better
by far, not just in learning but also in character.

Prof. Omotesho, who was represented by the Sub–
Dean, Student Affairs, Dr Yusuf AbdulRaheem, said,
“Most times, we have always advertised students who
have been involved in criminal activities but we feel that
somebody whose behaviour is in line with the vision and
mission of this university should also be celebrated”.

”We are encouraging other students to emulate this
kind of behaviour because at the end of the day,
honesty pays and dishonesty has its own reward”, he
added.

The Dean noted that ”if our leaders can emulate this
kind of behaviour, Nigeria would be better for it”.

He commended Miss Ibiyemi’s resolve to pursue the
honest path “despite going through the stress of
wanting to refund the money, you are still saying what
you are giving me is not my own, that’s commendable.
Her attitude has only shown that Unilorin is not just
better by far but best by standard”.

: http://acadablog.com/see-how-a-unilorin-student-returned-money-to-the-university-purse/

Mrevildoer:
Hey Nairalanders if u were in my shoes how would you reach, what would you do...
My GF had sex with a guy in my street...you know how girls do na She confess to me lying that he forced her to do it which was a lie
They had been dating for quiet some time but she lied to me that they were just friends that the guy was a muslim brother.
I played along with her cuz i hve my own intentions too... Not knowing this girl normaly sneaks into my friend's room at night whenever I travel for work.
To cut the Bleep.ing story short I gave my Android phone to her installed a call recorder on it., though she wasn't aware cuz the call recorder Icon was hidden
The weeknd I came back from work I took bck my phone from her, opened the call recorder on my phone I checked d last call she made only to hear the Bleep.ng idiot I call friend laying emphasis on how sweet she was on bed

Now she doesn't even know am aware of all her flaw, I know anything can happen if I should act towards my moniker...i need to hear from u guys.

OliverQuinny:
Dear Nairalanders, I am in a relationship with someone that hurt me when I needed her most. We met a while ago while I was still hustling on the streets of PortHarcourt. I was working in a small firm then, but I was doing all I could to make her happy. The job wasn't well paying, so I had to quit to pursue my Masters Degree and professional qualifications. The money stopped rolling in and we both started having issues. She became very difficult and eventually she left me sha, for no concrete reason. But I strongly believe its cos I quit the job.

I still loved her, and wished she wud change her mind. Some years later, I got a job in one of the multinationals and was sent abroad on an official assignment. I met her again at the airport in London and we became friends. We started chatting and she visited me on a saturday. One thing led to another, and we were intimate. The feelings started rekindling, but I just couldn't forget the way she treated me when I needed her most and I am afraid that shez back cos of my wealth.

Recently, she told me shez one month pregnant and am contemplating marrying her, but the way she hurt me when we were in Nigeria keeps taunting me. I keep having these flashbacks. Am actually scared that she will repeat the same behaviour in d nearest future even though it seems she has changed.

Please ur advice is needed here. Mature minds only.

littleduck:
here we go, my camera is not that great but I was so proud that I took a picture.
I have watched all possible youtube video on egusi preparation, and there is an African shop that sells Nigerian food in my city, thus, I got all ingredients.
I wrote I am a scientist, I cannot lie, sorry, it is a professional influence.

dossypretty:
It took me so much courage before I could come out here to share my problem. It all started in 2012 When I met my ex in lagos and we kicked it off in a relationship but little did I know that he was still keeping a girl he claimed to have left, along the line we started having issues about the same girl to the point of him beating me . This guy in question was once married but lost his wife after childbirth and so with this my parents refused me marrying him because he was talking about marriage. So after like 10 months he was still treating me bad I decided to quite the relationship but he begged dat he will never do it again. Months later he travelled abroad and I also got a job in another city and left. We still kept intouch but I met another man in the new city and decided to give him a chance, though this new guy has no child but his problem is that he gets angry too much and wants to control everything about me but he is very generous . He doesn't even care if am sick or not unlike my former guy who is more caring and always want to pet me.
Now am at a cross road because the one here has gone to see my parents and has set a date for d wedding and preparations are on top gear while the one abroad has come back to marry me like he promised. Am really not happy with the one here because of his attitude and am contemplating on running away with the one from abroad because he understands me better. Pls is love enough in marriage! Help me as your sister

PrettyEmy:
There is this guy have been dating for two month now.. Have never seen him in the afternoon before, we keep meeting only at night, even when he invites me to his house, it must be at night..
Each time I complain, he says its his work.. M begining to suspect that there is something wrong..
Please what should I do? M really confused right now