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SOZINN:
I see some guys here saying that when they get married the girl will do this or that
You will not tolerate this one
You will not tolerate that one
Bro marry first
Don't get me wrong ooo
I like the "I no go lick woman nyash mentality"
Every thing you have been learning here is about the NATURE of women
We are these is how they are
All women are like this
Somebody is telling me that he wants to go to the ocean and select something that is not a fish
That woman you are looking for
Na you go create am
Even my guy that travelled to the village and married a 17 year old girl
It was only a matter of time
She came to the city
She adapted, made new friends
Came back one day and started acting like a totally different person
When you marry a woman
You marry her with her bullshit
And I hope you can take it cos if you can't then there's a problem
You don't get to wake up one day and say you're tired
Well you know by now that
Stupid reasons like
Having kids
Building a family
Finding true happiness.
Should not make you get married
You will never find a woman that will do you 100% (you know what I mean)
Marriage no be heaven
Peace

hahahaha, are you kidding me?
marrying her with her bullshit, and continue accepting the bullshit?..........
you don't get to wake up one day and said you are tired? but one can wake up one day adorning a nice suit and with all the 20years of experience his employer would handed him a sack letter, only to employed a freshman.

see wether we like to hear it or not, marriage is a contract that can get terminated anytime, any-stage, anywhere even anyhow.

people must first comes out from anything that's killing, causing them pain, sleepless night or depression.(all gender inclusive).
do you know what caused people to commit suicide? It's pent up frustrating which many things can cause including marriage (like the one PETUK highlighted up there)

so please buried that your thought, you may come out with another line, but not of saying a definition of a marriage is do or die, not at all.

SOZINN:
Most of you just be telling that PETUK guy to leave the relationship
Do you think it's that easy
This guy is going through an abusive marriage and it's hard to leave an abusive mare
I've been reading a lot lately
Just pray that you don't find yourself in that kind of situation tomorrow
Stop saying you will do this or that

bros, leaving is the best option for him, oh! when they sacked him from work hope he didn't leave?

Yoruba will say ' to'loun ba ti fota eni han ni, ko le pa ni mon.' (when God have shown you your enemy, he can't kill you again). only when you stop making yourself a target courtesy of your availability.

What is hard there to leave, people leaves London, Canada and America, and come back to this country people named jagajaga. at least he will be eating iyan and ewedu in peace. or he should stay until he got deported?

So nothing or nowhere is hard to leave, this world self one will leave either he likes it or not, and with this new found evidence of her real age (according to the passport), do you think he's save if she finds out? nah, he's save because she doesn't sees him as anything, and she knows he can't leave as she believes he has no options, as you advised he shouldn't because it's not easy.

But if anything happens to him hope it will be easy for you to write , RPI( God forbid). because it's this kind of situation that depression and that sniper drinking competitions thought set in.

SUMMARY: let him leave her home (not his), peace of mind is the first thing he deserve. after that he would re-discover himself, and start afresh. it's never too late. Yoruba will also say 'ka da ewa sile, ka tun sha', (roughly means, we should put beans back in a big bowl and re-pick the shaft and stone, not to be cooking and eating it like that with the bones) to have eaten dirt in the past is ok, but to continue eating it is gross.

peace out.

real4real2021:
Hello
First I'll like to appreciate all those making effort to help fellow men and brothers out of the darkness into light on this thread
Secondly this might be a bit lengthy and that's because I really want get out of this 'simpish lifestyle' so I just want to pour everything out.

I'm posting this with the hope of getting support and guide from my seniors here
Am reading this thread from the beginning hopefully I will turn fully RED before I get to this page.

So growing up I was a typical 'nice guy' trying hard to appear just 'right', pleasing people and avoiding disagreement like plague.
Extremely shy at some point Infact small things like bargaining for a price is a problem even when I know am being cheated on. (Damn)

My social anxiety is such that I can't even ask question in class, can't ask for money i lend  someone(my own money oo lol),
step on my foot and I might thank you and apologies for putting my leg there LMAO

And that has in turn, limit my progress in almost everything I do, missing opportunities like damn

And when it comes to girls and relationship stuff,
Yeah you are right, it sucks too.
Never had a real girlfriend, not even close female friends like that. I mean how could I with my stupid mindset
I still couldn't maintain serious conversation and relationship with them ladies...

honestly my social life just sucks am tired.

I've tried several times to build my confidence an get out there an do my thing
Have recently gone through books. Like. The Superior man, No more Mr nice guy(still reading) etc
And yes that give me a better understanding
But I haven't seen much improvement in action

So I know some of you might have being there too,
I will be glad to get tips, advice, guide on how to get out of this am just tired.
A mentor I can relate with will be cool too.
You can ask me more about me if that will help.
Just anything to improve my f*cked up lifestyle


I am 20, in my 3rd year in the uni(at home now sha)

Please help me tag, those OGs here dem ubunja harddon etc

I really understand your plight, I can't/which I don't talk much. all you need is a model/mentor like you said because it's what you have been missing since the beginning. reading of books are good, but watching movies of strong men would be better, you will see their posture, attitude, reactions to issues, the way they think.

I always have this three films in my laptop I watched here and there, they teach me about myself in a kind of way(because I'm also shy):

1. TYRANT: learn BASSAM's meekness, thoughtfullness and his brother JAMAL's courage, witty-ness, crudeness, knowledge and how he will pause for some seconds before answering questions or giving a verdict.

2. TRANSPORTER

3. BURN NOTICE.
they are all season films.

bonus: check out for Charlie in TWO AND HALF MEN, anywhere they show Alan his younger brother just fast forward the place he's the definition of new age men.

And for the relationship stuff, that's not a big issue, with time when your attitude towards people became more firm. you will pass through that hurdle.

just remember whenever you started exploring don't be a 'SIMP'.

also get a friend that has those qualities you need, and be imitating him.

House, please I have a question? what can you say about the word 'me and my husband' (a word popularised by religion). Is it not a first step to simping?

why do the mans parent and siblings not allowed around thier son home anymore. If we don't think about their impacts during the marriage ceremony, what of been the one who born and raised him, before a lady would come and claim love and marry him?

SPLENDID25:
@Meedon LOL....i have decided not to be telling him anything aside "IT'S OK". Reason Is, Any Advice I give Him, he Tells Her!

That's one of the real reason, when a man get married the wife will do all she has in her to dissociate him from his friends. so he can be her own and only simp for life. with no rescue around because there is no one to talk Sense into his head again.

2dice01:
Let him keep it up

He can also go borrow money for his glamorous wedding

Poverty mentality is main reason bride prize is so high in the country

seriously, after doing them help, by taking away their liability.

CamusMidas:
True told I can even repair her phone for her, but to buy is out of it.

E dey look like engagement ring for my eyes, if you know what I mean.

Sai her previous guys dey guy for her, told her maybe it would be thoughtful if she consider dating other guys because I can't in good conscience buy a phone for her. One come dey tell me sai she see how important she is in my life.

seriously, I don't get you. but I know where you are heading to. Just be careful, don't bend for any sort of manipulation.
stay blessed

CamusMidas:
A girl I am seeing ask me to get her a phone and I told her that I don't buy phone for girlfriend's and she got angry and left this morning saying that I broke her heart.

lol, even if I'm a simp and choose to invest in a lady, I can't buy any phone.
because, if you checked this lady's dm, you will cursed the pusssy worshippers out there.

It's like oyinbo (foreigners) buying an iPhone for a Yahoo boy. you know the Yahoo boy won't hesitate to used the said phone to swindle the Foreigner. That's what is it like buying phone for a lady.
she should buy her tool herself. though you can be occasionally servicing the tool, albeit, recharging for data.

Junnior:
Guys, I want to ask. What do you think about Ned? His lifestyle of MARRYING many beautiful YOUNG Girls. He even claimed some were VIRGINS.

Is he a simp for marrying a lot? Or is he an alpha for marrying beautiful young and some virgin babes?

He's a real alpha, for doing what he likes, marrying and enjoying the beautiful pussycats the way he want. even letting them know more to come.

First thing to alpha is not letting anybody dictate how you are going to live your life for you, fucck what the society says. when you first captured your subject (women), in a way that dictates you are the real and only deal. not because he's rich.

Even if he's an illiterate Hunter living in a village, he will still be the king of his house. I have work with some rich men, that after giving them quotations and agreed, they will called me back and snitched, mummy said it's too costly, I will be like, 'tani mummy sir'? (who is mummy sir). After explaining who the mummy was, lol. I will now lectured him, with due respect, mummy is not an expertise in the said field.
I have a friend who always explore the mummy's side to exploit the husband. because he knows daddy is always vulnerable, to the mummy's effect.

softguy1:
Lolzz
Which one is agbo

herbal medicine, maybe for strong diick.

Nezzjnr:
I know of those accounts also

But majority of the tweets i see from Nigeria Twitter... Especially from guys

yes, because Nigeria is 80% simping. No thanks to religious wrong teachings (where a man will be calling his wife mummy). And the guys themselves want to be/feel accepted by the female folk or doing it for the joy of the pvssy.

Mynd44:
What Nigerian men don't understand is that if you promise to marry a woman and you don't, the woman can sue you to court.

In Nigeria, a promise to marry is a legally binding contract and contrary to what you think, she can institute a civil suit against you, win and be awarded monetary damages.

But how it became a criminal case here is somehow maybe due to the financial investment involved

boss, with due respect. you are just being emotional like the said lady. where is the evidence, where is the receipt of love? (if love ever had one). The guy did wrong morally, who knows maybe the guy just Dodge a bullet. Dubai and Sheraton hotel marriages got squashed, and nobody jailed for it. I would have said the guy scammed her, but who am I to when I haven't heard from the said guy. maybe he have the greatest investment in the futile relationship, who knows.
I'm not siding with the man, just seems love goes wrong. if it's the same guy that claim to be in this dilemma, I know you will just advised him to be a man and move on. but because, it's a woman heaven must fall.

luminouz:
I'm like your first paragraph. Very brutally frank and upfront. Funny thing is,majority of women like me just like that.

Your second paragraph has been discussed multiple times here. No need it overflogging it. Just check some back pages and take what you can/will.

good it have been discussed, I will surely reach where it is then, just reaching the eleventh page.

Abalado:
My local government chairman is the most useless chairperson I ever see, Ado EKITI Local government area of EKITI state capital south west Nigeria west Africa,,she didn't do anything so far ,and she's an opportunist o,tho am not surprised when the governor didn't do anything how could the chairman do,,even the president failed NIGERIANS too,, useless party call APC

yes I'm just remembering now that Late conel Adekunle Fajuyi ex, yes she's indeed an opportunistic, but I don't know about her been useless, because I didn't expect anything from her.

Thanks for the good job Fam. But I have a few questions (if I'm permitted)?

Firstly, what am I? because I do tell my girls, I can divorce.(I ought to use 'FIRE' ) any one I married second day of the wedding, (I don't like drama, and I don't give a f about what societies do say, like you have married her she's now your cross, I gat no cross to carry ( ain't Jesus) is it good to be telling them such, even when I told my friends, they do look me like I ain't sane.

secondly, what does masturbating gat to do with being a red-piller? (no apology to the moralist and religious freak) because like Lil-wayne said, and I quote "when I cum I come to my senses" I won't say more than that. but I guess it helps in decision making and help one wave away a ........?


luminouz, CaveAdullam, oyolohi, ichidodo.

thanks.

party suspected to be sex party. Nigeria police matter tired me seriously.

Segun oni is our man. The man for the job.

finally, they made him a martyr!

AIIAssociates:
Thanks.

Done.

Thread is here: https://www.nairaland.com/6343525/fact-check-did-kasupda-nigeria#97678722

I will need to download it and find enough time to read and digest.
thanks for always been there.

AIIAssociates:
This is the position of the law - Part 1

Sir, you should have created a separate thread for this.

cococandy:
This is the result of moral policing. It starts from somewhere.

When you don’t have a problem marginalizing certain groups of people because their lifestyle doesn’t suit your moral code, you’re agreeing to a social contract where this kind of high handedness is allowed.

*Soldiers beat up a lady for not “dressing decently”. You support because you don’t like the lady’s morality.
*People get sent to jail for being in same sex relationships, you support because it’s against your religion.
*police assault a young man for having tattoos and dread locks? You support because the guy must be irresponsible for dressing that way.
*Someone’s hotel gets torn to the ground because they had a sex party in it? Why is anyone complaining?

It’s the society you all condone. A society where you can’t mind your business and let people live their lives.

you are very correct, Nigeria and our way of judgment tire me seriously.
Some weeks ago I'm walking along with a friend, and we saw a guy on tinted dread lock. can't believe my friend started casting aspersion, claiming that is why SARS kept shooting them, telling how he doesn't dress well. when he finished his wailing, I told him how hypocritical he was, I remind him maybe he forgot he just finished smoking weed. I lecture him that the guy committed no offense according to the law of the land, but can we said same of you weed smoker. I have cut ties with him I can't stand such hypocrisy.

Another one, I budge a bus from Aramoko Ekiti, heading to Ado. and all the already sitted passengers are all chorusing in one voice, abusing, causing a guy. not long I came to understand they are happy because some useless Soliders Barb the guy head in front of his girl friend because he kept an afro. I would have enlighten them on how they are selling their freedom on the altar of what they believe is moral(though their illegal enforcers are the one commiting a crime), but they are lost.

early last year my mama called me , saying please that your hair go and Barb it. the governor have said they should be arresting anybody that wear dread. I laughed and ask her wish power does the governor has to dictate how one hair should be, did I dictate his, or her children own.
I told her you parents are part of what's wrong in this country, why must you be planting useless fear into me. I told her maa, whenever you heard police or anybody arrested me because of my hair, just question them what else did I do? if nothing, ask them which constitution part did I abuse, tell them you want to know the case file and they should take me to court within 24 hours, I told her if you can question them with such boldness, after some minutes I will be the one to call you I'm on my way home.

moral of the story, constitution should be our guide, be it moral or anything we like to call it. anything different to that is a call for anarchy.

Yes, no way they want am wey I no go collect am. if naa to sniff like stuff, licking like lollipop or chew like a chew gum. A beggar gat no choice.
Sebi, our government have been planning to order that groundnut oil from Madagascar claiming covid 19 herbal cure. so what options do i have.
sebi, all our scientist are all on the sewing machine, learning agbada design, after the real scientist produce the vaccine, we will roll our scientist made agbada up to take it. at least they will see we don't like to be unclad like them. we are very decent.

whytediamond:
I need to start my building project

Bros, let us handle the project for you. we are such a reputable building construction company.

seunmsg:
I like Yele Sowore for his journalistic work and activism but I’m totally against his revolution now plan. Any movement that will lead to insurrection is not in the interest of the country. Those who want power should get it through the ballot and no other way. I urge the police to release his asap.

you are contradicting yourself Sir.

BigDick70inch:
400/kg..Ado Ekiti

seriously, you are right. I bought it 1900/5kg at TND GAS Housing. but I guess it would be #450, from road side sellers.

staga:
Can you explicitly tell us how "tackling these three problems" => Nigeria being the best in the world?

I am confused. How do we start from point A to get to Point B?

Abeg, he's right. those are the three veil that's covering the prosperity of this great nation. Just let those things be taking care of and see Nigeria in the next three years.
Why can't we be no 1, we have the oil, we have the gold and many unharnessed mineral resources, and the land for farming, we have the population, our weather is good. so what else? the nature have blessed us with the best it could offer. all is now left to us.

AIIAssociates:
OP says he was detained for 6 hours. Is that sufficient for an award of damages/compensation by the courts?

Here is the position of Nigerian courts on that issue

In ESENALU V JOYCE AMADI [2001] CLR 458 AT 459, three hours of detention was held as an infraction of the Applicant’s right to personal liberty.

In CHAIRMAN EFCC V LITTLECHILD [2016] 3 NWLR (PT. 1498) 72 AT PAGE 94 PARA. G per Osji, J.C.A, it was held that:
It must however be noted that the totality of the finding of the lower court was that the arrest and detention of the 1st respondent was illegal and unconstitutional ab initio given that there was no basis for same.
The guy who was wronged got N5,000,000.00 in damages.

In ISENALUMHE V JOYCE AMADIN [2001] CHR 458 it was decided that irrespective of the fact the period of detention was counted in minutes , it will be adjudged that rights infringement and false imprisonment has occurred if the arrest and detention was not backed by law and that the period of detention was only relevant to accessing how much damages to award.

In GUSAU V UMEZURIKE & ANOR [2013] LPELR-8000 PAGE 36 Paras. C- E, it was held that the period of detention even if short will be adjudged as a rights infringement if the arrest or detention was extra-legal, unlawful, without legal foundation basis or authority in the first place.

Just in case anyone faces the same situation and decides unlike the OP to pursue his or her rights.

Your lawyer is your friend!

The police as we have just seen is not always your friend.

Big thanks for this, I'm a fan. Sir I will need to know more about the law, especially more about freedom or liberty to free speech.
I wanted to start a program on a private radio next year, and I believe I will surely run against the law with this government who want to caged everybody from expressing thier constitutional right.
I will follow you Sir, incase I need any help pertaining the law. thanks.

nurey:
You are one of the problems of this country because they will still try it and succeed with other innocent people.

Spare the rod and spoil the child

seriously, I'm highly disappointed. he even said he have forgiven them. so what's the essence of bringing it up here. They will now gave him back his money and use the other hand to rub his head sorry. oh Nigeria my country indeed.

Ikpumbe1:
The issue has been resolved. My money has been refunded. I have forgiven the officers

All I can say is poor, not just you but this country as a whole, tueh.

ttobizz:
It doesn't matter what you think or believe, what matters is what the law says

abi, don't mind some people, who will be asking foolish question, like is something normal to you?
If we are to govern or be govern or judge by what is normal to us, what's is the Constitution writing for?
Western education is not normal to sekeau, see Boko Haram today.
digging any hole is normal to some, see pedophile today.
ladies who will transform from black to white overnight, being black is not normal to them, see bleaching today. and so on.
people should live and let all live under the confer of the Constitution not what normal for individual.
people who said is that normal to you are usually extremist, they can kill extra-judicial. just to prove thier level as a 'normalist', who thought thier way of life is the only best.
some people always think they have a say on how people should live thier life, though theirs isn't any better, but they have the false believe they are only normal. like Buhari and his followers believe he is the only 'normal' thing in Nigeria.

generalwo:
.... How I wish I know how to create a thread I would have done that a long time ago.... I only know how to comment and quote. I don't know much about using naira land other than reading and comments

click on nairaland/General, the stroll down to where you will see create new topic.
pls do you need to be heard.

BlackFlamefromP:
You may not win the case o. You know Nigerians of nowadays are too lazy to read. If there is a clause in their Terms and Conditions that empowers them to go to that extent to recover their money and you blindly agree without reading the terms and conditions you would be wasting your time going to court.

The best thing is to avoid all these loan apps. If you must collect their loan be sure you are more than capable of paying back at due date.

don't discourage him, he have a good case. there are better ways to go about it, they are business partner. This is not different from ladys that will claim rape, when d-ick and p-ussy deal went wrong. do you read a comment about someone who said he lost his job to this blackmailing strategy. how is he going to pay now being jobless?