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JasonScoolari:
Trump just nailed down another term, thanks to these circus. .

IamD18:
Wetin person no go see for this Naija.

Oloshi forming hardworking lady.

Even Buhari will come out one day to say he's smarter than Abraham Lincoln and Nelson Mandela

For your mind now you don make sense. Mumu ewu

I888:
so please give yours.

ajeleomo:
Invest the 10M in treasure bill and invest the interest paid in MMF, My candid opinion as this is what i will do

GonFreecss1:
Lol. You just said it yourself, for the past 3 months. What then happens when Stanbic becomes higher again? You change back? Lol.

Look at their historic rates. Compare it. I am not saying you should change to one Investment bank or the other.

zboyd:
When you hear "marriage is hard work" - believe it!

But when you add the challenge of marriage to interfering in-laws, such interference can shake the very foundation of a new marriage. If you ask a young married couple to identify one of the biggest challenges in their marriage, many will say "family interference". Marriage counselors and therapists found around ten percent of couples seeking counseling (only to divorce later) blamed family interference as one of the major reasons for the breakdown of their marriage, particularly if in-laws live in the home of the new couple, for extended periods of time.

Some in-laws find it difficult to accept the changing roles of parent-child to the husband-wife relationship. Feeling abandoned, ignored or threatened, they may even use coercion and manipulation as a way of regaining their position - their role. Other in-laws may be offended, if their "good advice" is rejected. Some interpret it as a sign of disrespect and are quick to remind the young couple that "children" obey their parents. The couple, however, resents the "meddling" and present a united front in the face of interfering relatives. But sometimes one spouse will side with his or her parent/s, thereby weakening the marital bond or eventually breaking it.

In-laws and extended family provide the new couple with stability and support. However, boundaries must be clearly understood, if the couple desires a peaceful co-existence with their mutual in-laws and their extended families. Communication is key.

Remember:

1. You are entitled to a peaceful life. Your in-laws deserve respect, but if their behavior is ugly or totally inappropriate, they aren't entitled to any sort of special privilege but you're certainly entitled to protect yourself and your marriage, and keep strong boundaries.

2. Some in-laws are very wicked. They will say and do whatever they want, if you allow them to do so but, never stoop down to their level.

3. Try having a heart-to-heart talk with your in-laws. Pick your moment carefully. Get your spouse's support beforehand. If in-laws are making your life miserable, what do you have to lose?

4. You can't change others, only your reaction to what they say to you or how they treat you. Call them on their ugly behavior. Stop making excuses for your in-laws' actions. Establish clear and concise boundaries, along with appropriate consequences, if those boundaries are broken, so there won't be any misunderstandings and, follow through. This is not the time to be wishy-washy.

5. Support and protect your spouse. Your in-laws are vital support systems but specific boundaries must be established, with your spouse, if joy and peace are to reign in your marital home.

6. If it's possible, be kind and pleasant to in-laws who over-do or over-advise (interfere). They may be truly clueless about how their negative behavior is impacting your marriage. Sit them down and communicate your concerns sans dramatics.

If you've been the target of interfering in-laws, how did you survive - emotionally and physically intact?

Or...are you still down in the trenches - battling it out?

If no more fight is in you, have you just accepted your fate, determined to make the best of it and resigned yourself to a life of unhappiness?

For those with wonderful in-laws - consider yourself blessed a thousand times over.

GonFreecss1:
I used to use First bank too, for a while noticed theirs was higher than stanbic, but there was a time stanbic was higher. The problem is most of you are looking at the now, compare pre-historic rates of all of them, you would see jumping from one to another is not needed. Just stick to one you are sure know what they are doing and have a high chance of getting your money back (cannot be closed down easily). Then you are set.

phranklyn92:
Ah!
Arsenal don ja!

ajeleomo:
abeg forget Stanbic mmf joor, with all the reinvestment being done yet the interest still not good, where Axa mansard is doing 12.3% stanbic cannot even achieve 11.1%. I am taking my fund out of there joor

4601CE:
You go wait tire

Goldenboy007:
The false information is from here sir

https://amp.businessinsider.com/trump-plans-to-end-birthright-citizenship-with-an-executive-order-2018-10

AyakaDunukofia:
My worry is that Mr Buhari may not accept the result of the forthcoming presidential election. I thought he learnt a good deal on the manners of democracy, but it remains to be seen if he will exhibit any of these manners post election.