₦airaland Forum

fittty: And how is this suposed to be of any benefit to nairalanders??
And mind you its "ABROAD" and not "IN ABROAD"

I'm not suprised. Devil always looking for trouble everywhere, silence is the best answer for?

snowbuster: Post urs first make we see ur face

I'm not in abroad now, am in cotonou

For those of you who have left the nest, relocated to some other part of the country outside Nigeria.

Why do some Nigerians abandon their family members after migrating to the Diaspora?
Regardless of the initial reasons why some Nigerians migrated to the America, Europe etc. (school, work, etc.), some have not turned around to visit their folks.
Maybe it began with "Oh, I'll visit after my studies, then after I get my papers, then when I go home to marry, etc.", but somehow the years have multiplied and the visit has become a faded memory.

I'm sure there are reasons various reasons why this happens and some may think sending their folks money every now and then is sufficient, but for the parents who feel abandoned 'the reasons why' may not be forthcoming or transparent.

Parents who have not seen and sometimes not heard from their offsprings in over 10 or even 20 years may begin to wonder if their children are dead, in jail, lost, have migrated elsewhere, stopped loving or caring for them, etc. Some parents have even aged just from anxiety, is it fair to them? What answer would one have for such parents when they inquire about their long lost offsprings?

Granted not everyone can afford to visit as often as they or their family members might like, but is it simply 'a lack of will, that's impeding a way', or are there other valid reasons? Or is it a case of too many excuses lumped together and grown into a reason?

Family abandonment is not part of our culture, are we simply adapting to the prevailing attitudes in our new countries of residence at the expense of our cultural practices or are there other more valid reasons?

Settling abroad is no reason to abandon your parents/family, but it is a reality that's occurring, no matter how infrequent.

I can understand the point about escaping demands from those who don't understand one's disposition, especially non/non-immediate relatives. Sometimes avoiding such may be justified. I can also understanding a few years of absence, but how does one justify abandoning their own parents/spouses and sometimes children for prolonged periods of time?

You'll be surprised to know some people have never been home in over 10+ or even 20+ years, NOR have they arranged for their parents to visit them, in which case they have NOT seen such family members for a very long stretch.

Except their disposition has not changed since their arrival, and considering laws are just beginning to change one can only wonder. Also, some were abroad during amnesty and other such pardons and 'may' have taken advantage if they lacked proper documentation prior to such opportunities, so such people must have other reasons.

Family members on the other sides of the continents can only wonder why also. I'm sure this is not peculiar to Nigerians, even if it is a minor occurrence, but our cultures differ, and for Nigerians its unusual, but growing.

It seems like some people in their quest to get over their negative experiences, forget that when they chose to abandon their country, they are also abandoning the people close to them.

I think this subject matter is worth exploring, and maybe the reasons revealed may lead to solutions for those presently in such predicaments. Any and all feedback would definitely be appreciated

Thank you.
DotCom

Post The Picture You Snap In Abroad Here..
Some people claim to be in America, Canada, UK, Ireland, Germany, Neitherland, France, Spain, Italy, Belgiuma etc, yet they are in kosovo, srilanka, burma, haiti, etc..

Drop your facebook name, you might be lucky to meet your soul mate

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Don Cipher: @Dotcom check Concordia University Quebec & University of New Brunswick Fredericton. The latter is better because processing fees was C$50 now C$100, no deposit was required, tuition is abt C$3516 per term * 4 terms and when i deferred, no payment was required. Concordia requested for C$200 confirmation fee after admission C$25 to defer, tuition alone for 2yrs is C$24500 & processing fee last year was C$90. I am going to Unb, u need to know that besides whatever the school asks you to pay initially, when & how much for any other payment would be determined by CDHC & not the sponsor..Cheers

@Don Cipher, your enemy will jump inside well tonight
Thanks bro... This is exactly what am looking for.. E be like say Concordia University required compulsory fee make sense as inital deposit.
@ fhemmmy, Thanks for your efforts, God bless you all...

omodapson: Voice of a frustrated ex-star.
If you are the reason, it means someone was your reason too.
Abi music you invent music?

U just nack the wall. Don't mind the mumu amugbo , king of the weeders

Nawa for Eedris Abdulkareem O!
Now someone is about to start a war as Eedris Abdulkareem goes about mentioning names of people that rose to stardom simply by his design of a good platform for the Nigerian music industry.....

Check out his tweets and be the judge


http://africanspotlight.com/2012/09/i-am-the-reason-p-square-dbanj-and-all-are-getting-paid-today-eedris-abdulkareem/

Fhemmmy: Very True, my challenges with such question is what is cheap to me might not be cheap to the other . . . so i try to stay away such question.

No, my point is ''Any University or College for MBA graduate course that will not require tuition deposit or not more than $500 to $1000 as Tuidion deposit, excluding registration fees, and full tuition will be paid after arrive in Canada.. This is the deal the sponsor want.
Its for my brother, and he's already working in insurance company for 7 years till date. So he's going to canada for Graduate course in either Insurance or Risk management or Bus Admin or MBA. So, the worry is the DEPOSIT. Just need the one for low deposit between $500 to $1000 as Tuidion deposit, excluding registration fees. Thats all.
God bless.

earthgreeners: all d best, which uni are u heading to

Yes thanks, pls i need a Canadian University or College with low Tuition for Graduate Course like ''Risk Management , Insurance, Bus Admin, and MBA''
Preferably University or college that accepts No Tuition Deposit from International student except the Registration Fee.
Currently working in Insurrance company and has worked for 7 years as an insurance broker. Any idea pls?
I would not mind Winipeg 'Minetoba'
Thanks

Fhemmmy: That will be to your advantage. . . Good luck

Fhemmmy, pls I need a Canadian University or College with low Tuition for Graduate Course like ''Risk Management , Insurance, Bus Admin, and MBA''
Preferably University or college that accepts No Tuition Deposit from International student except the Registration Fee.
I would not mind Winipeg 'Minetoba'
Thanks

I need a Canadian University or College with low Tuition for Graduate Course like ''Risk Management , Insurance, Bus Admin, and MBA''
Preferably University or college that accepts No Tuition Deposit from International student except the Registration Fee.
I would not mind Winipeg 'Minetoba'
Thanks.

naijababe: E be like say Arsenal fans curses don begin worry RVP

“First, the Federal Government has to accept that they were the cause of her death. The official statement that they are still giving us is that she was murdered by 1, 000 unknown soldiers who stormed the Kalakuta Republic.”

Popular Afrobeat singer, Seun Kuti has asked the Federal Government to apologise to his family for the death of his grandmother, Funmilayo Kuti before considering immortalising her by putting her picture on the proposed N5000 note.



Responding to questions from fans and friends on the gesture by the Central Bank of Nigeria, CBN, Seun Kuti insisted that his grandmother was murdered by the Federal Government.

“She was murdered by the Federal Government, her house was burnt down on that same day, two of her children were brutalised, almost killed on that same day and the family have not receive any apology or compensation, most especially justice for such atrocity,” he said.

He said that the decision to put his grandmother’s picture on the proposed N5000 note after 50 years of her death is “ludicrous to say the least.”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rn-3hPQZLGk

iykak47: Stop crying enemy of progress, if you don't like this victory, mix otapiapia with cement, take 7 teaspoonful in the morning and in the night.

I'm eating pepersoup i beg, laugh won kill me.... UP Gunnersssssssss

damola1: Specific leaving and returning dates. I will give you the options now.

Sep 15 to return Sep 29

Calm down now, wetin...

If I hear say u no thank God enh!
243 days out of 365 na beans?
Boko Haram reach ur side? U dey
4 Dana Crash? God give u good
health,God no allow all dose

witches and wizards 4 ur village
get power over u, Naija no good
Naija no good u dey use BB, BB
wit subscription 4 dat matter if at
all u neva get money buy
Blackberry Porsche, abi u don see
where person wey dey coma dey
ping? Abi na blind man wan
change DP? u beta prepare dey go
church dis morning go do thanks
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Happy Sunday To All NAIRALANDERS, Love you all ..

damola1: depends on when you are travelling.

Traveling this month for 2 weeks.
I heard KLM is cheaper?
Whats is the cheapest airline range of 130k to 150k Return LAGOS-LONDON-LAGOS ?

Anybody with the latest cheapest Flight from LAGOS To LONDON ?
Or any airline doing promo for now?
Cheapest pls...
Need to give a friend..

Secondly, my friend is spending just 2 weeks in London
and he wish to pay for 2 days hotel reservation and then pay the remaining 12 days on arrival.
Is that possible? YEs he has enough cash to prove he will pay the remaining 12 days hotel on arrival.
but, can he pay fully for just 2 days as commitment?

Thanks.

Kobojunkie: Unfortunately, you opened the door and so you have to live with it. If you were oyinbo, I would have said you could put your foot down and say she should leave. But since you are Nigerian and knowing how fragile many Nigerian marriages really are with things of this nature, I say you just put up with it for as long as you need to.

It really is sad that when it comes to issues such as this, we do not allow ourselves room to change our minds. I mean I can almost see how it is likely to go. You push for her to leave and your husband decides to side with his mother over his wife and the next thing you know, your wonderful marriage goes to hell right in front of your eyes. And you are left wondering what the f* happened.

She is Oyinbo already. Dont u see her name up there?

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