₦airaland Forum

kemoade:
Having a child is not a barrier in a relationship, but the love and understanding for the guy. if he have all the qualities then l will go ahead and treat the child as mine.

kemoade:
personally, l don't get angry when l am being rejected by someone l liked but move ahead with life.

weyi:
:Dhang in there girl,dnt jump into any conclusions and don't do anything harsh even if it si true, i thot my husband my husband was havg an affair,the hthot almost drove me mad.i donno we are all human but if he relly loves u,when u ask him nicely he will deny it but probably end it too,afterall he chose u to be his for better for worse



what r u sain?

Roadblock:
Trini girl, if you are to go by your understanding then No form of sexual intercourse out side marriage is wrong as long as it is not with the prostitutes. Let us assume you are still very young, say about 20 years of age, and like most people you end up having about 5- 10 relationships before finally getting the man of your dream. Are you saying sleeping with those ten people is not wrong? Even though at that time you had thought they were going to lead to marriage. Trini let us face the fact, It is not the name given it that determines whether it is wrong or not. Even without bringing religion into this, it used to be the custom of some parts of the world to excommunicate anyone that indulged in sexual acts before marriage. I will leave you with one last question. What is the purpose of sex? Why did God create it? 1. If it was for just for the fun of it , then it wont be wrong to have it with anybody. (2) if it is for procreation, then you have only have it with your husband for the purpose of creating babies. (3) Lastly, if it is to bring closeness and cordiality between two parties then you can chose to have it with anyone you intend to have a close relationship with which will make it ok with anybody even the so called prostitutes. You will agree with me the kind of closeness that can be developed through sex is meant for the married. Husband and wife. Have you ever wondered why some people find it difficult to leave relationships where they get beaten blue-black every time? It is simply because their soul is tied to that relationship. That is what sex does. I am sure you will not like to tie your soul to a wrong person.
Final word- Premarital sex lands people where they don't like. It rids a relationship of trust. If I can sleep with you before marriage just because I am your friend and i believe I love you, then anybody can sleep with you as long as they give you the kind of attention that I gave you. A better looking guy, more comfortable, and more caring guy will do the magic. Also fore the guy, he can sleep with any girl that he feels comfortable with and all these continue after wedding.

adeboo:
I agree with Seun, nobody wants to be rejected- especially if the lady has been one to get so much advances from men and when she gets rejected by one, i don't think she will get physical but it would dent her ego for a long while.

hot chic:
I don't think i can cope with that though,

nosilla:
This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to "find" love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we.


"But the LORD said to Samuel, ', The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.'"
I Samuel 16:7b (NIV)

nosillA xx

Ademi007:
It so sad to find out that our females are mostly the ones who lose out in a broken relationship.

In most Nigeria Higher Institution we find out that most couples live together, in which the male in most cases turn his so called girlfriend into a house help. And i still wonder why in this modern age why some girls would allow themselves to be used, this is something that has been on my mind for a very long time.

Studies has shown that some do it for the advantages there will get academically while some is due to pressure from family and friend and see it as a way out. What these girls don't understand is that apart from selling them selves cheaply, most of them will end up with a nervous break down.

Spending the night at your man's house is ok, not 3 months or more because you will lose that potency (value). and besides from all these i have mentioned I think females do have fragile hearts and that has been causing serious problems for them, because its their weakness.

Love is a good thing but don't be foolish bout it. Everything should not always be about him.

dremoney:
do u mess her so so hard?
if not,then some other guy is fucking her hole .
if yes,she's relieving u of d stress n engaging someone.

abeg free d girl bo!!!

iice:
What works for one doesnt necessarily work for another. Generalization can be tricky sometimes. Some people can live together without losing their relationship (i know people like that) and others don't even need to move into another's place to break up. For a woman to allow herself to be treated less than who she is (and that has different levels or interpretations) is a product of many things. Somethings are not black and white.

acidrop:
where, definately not in Nigeria

Waxxy:
Girls that are experienced in the game will give u their number the very minute you ask, that don't mean ull get nothing. So i don't think you start seeing yourself as a local champion

I met this BIG girl once, enjoyed a good night with her and got her 2 numbers, she hasn't picked up my calls since then

Fumi:
Hello,

im very sorry for your situation. But one thing i need to ask is: ARE YOU REALLY SURE HE IS CHEATING ON YOU? Maybe he bought the underwear for you? Some guys are not good in checking the right size at all! My ex-boyfriend never bought the right size of clothes for me, or maybe just once in 5 years LOL - he always missed it,

If you are 100 % sure, he is cheating on you, confront him! But make sure, that you have a place to go to, if the situation is getting out of hand. My ex was trying to beat me, because if found out, he was cheating on me for a long time. BUT try to keep the kids out of this.
Seeing, how parents quarrel or fight, could be horrible for them.
And if you fill for divorce, you need 1.) a good lawyer and 2.) support of your family and friends. Without support it will be hard for you.

I don't want to recommend divorce for you, but if you have the feeling, that you can't bear it anymore - leave him!
I think its better for kids to have a happy mother than parents who quarrel all the time.

Take care

fumi

busygirl:
Darling, Six years is a long time. . .Dump the boy this week!.
Reason: For wasting six good years of your life

IBDat:
No guys don't need to have sex before falling love!

Fact is both statements are false.

A guy/girl can fall in love with anyone as long as they're compatible, appealed and attracted to eachother physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally and sexually - NON by itself guarantees love!
- There are people that fall in love with eachother but decide to wait till after marriage before sex!
- There are women that have sexual drives that needs satisfying and hence can meet a guy and have sex (wham-bam goodbye buddy).

From my perspective i can fall in love with someone for any of the reasons above - one thing i do require from my relationships and definitely before marriage is sexual activities and satisfaction - If this is a no-no, for me it would be an issue that needs addressing and can result in the break-up of said relationship.
- This is one of the points that compromise comes in regarding relationships - The guy can agree to wait for the woman (hence still in the relationship and commited to it) or the woman can agree to have (regular) sex with the guy in order to please, retain and grow their relationship.

I personally will not break up with someone im in love because they are rubbish in bed as i blf this can alwayz be thought and developed to both party's comfort and stimulation levels. But i will break-up with someone i love because she is not prepared to include sex in our relationship until after marriage.

Hope this is clear.

mubowa:
@MR CRAZYKID AND MR DREMONEY, SINCE YOU DON'T LIKE EDUCATED BABES, I GUESS YOU SHOULDN'T BE TALKING TO ME or ASKING ME dummy question that YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO BE ASKING YOU ILLITERATE Girlfriends. i really don't think that you guys think before talking, because if you do, why will your dumb ass think educated female are proud? i wouldn't blame them if they are because if you know what it takes to be a bachelor's degree holder, you wouldn't open your mouth in the air and started talking blah blah blah. you two should tell me you pray to be the president of Nigeria tomorrow and you wish your wife the first lady  is an illiterate. then i will know you did not inherit the stupidity, i will know you are born and bath with it.

Red_Lips:
You're not a confident man, crazykid so don't worry that comment wasnt for you. 



Example of confident man that will never need to worry. It's insecure guys that cry over stuff like this. Educated or not, a confident guy hardly ever gets disrespected. 

Glad you agree, GNature.

efuah:
That's a lie!
A BIG one

most guys even adore ladies that wouldn't give themselves to guys

Love is pure in heart and selfless.
infact we really need to study the theory of love

most of us mistake lust for love

ajayi1:
@desorlah, That's a good advise