Susily: Men these days wouldn't care less. It's already showing, given the reluctance of a lot of men to get married.
There's just not too many incentives to indulge in it anymore.
Here's the thing, getting an ATM that may pay most bills and behave badly while she cook, clean, have sex even when she don't feel like it, risk her life 1+x times to bear children, be subservient to a probably bad boss who has a higher chance to harm her physically, thinks it is acceptable to cheat and renegade on the vows he made, is not a good deal for a lot of women(This is marriage in a nutshell for women). This is why society and media has to keep priming women to want marriage or face consequences if they don't.
Even biology has to scam women with hormones after going through the most painful experience of their lives to make them forget the pain as a consolation. A lot of women are miserable in their marriages too.
The day nigerian women wake up to realise that they are no longer interested in the scraps and potential headaches that men are dangling in the name of marriage, and the juice is most likely not worth is squeeze is coming, and nigerian men will be the one to cry more than the bereaved just like in western cultures.
Don't mind him. When he was healthy and rich, black girls weren't good enough for him,and that that he's sick and run down he needs a black woman?!
Black woman shouldn't be accepting white women's used dicks, nor black men who suddenly start dating white ladies once they hit it big. That what that Ghanaian footballer did and married a Ghanaian woman after his white ex wife divorced him and bled him dry when his present wife wouldn't have been his spec in his prime.
Unicorn009: Menhhhh that Joy of Mother is Bae After 15yr I read it Gotta look for the soft copy to read it over again!!! Very interesting Book
her endings are so realistic. Read it in SS1 then, Joy's of motherhood because it was recommended and i was earning money to help literature students to summarise books or do homework even though i wasn't offering the course, then i read 2nd class citizen in my school library when i skipped classes or during free period.Her books were the first to show me that reality is not happily ever after like most novels have us believe. Maybe because her stories were based on Nigerians like you and I that it was so shocking. Jolted my mind a little back then
sotomayor: When the devil cannot reach you, he sends a man.
Onyebuchi was born to Jeremy and Alice on 1944, July 21st. In Yaba, Lagos.
At that time, giving birth to a girl, was as close to as owning a goat.
Onyebuchi grew up surrounded by her parents love but once in a while, she saw the flicker of disappointment in her dad’s eye. (A reflection of the social stigma attached to having a girl child). That didn’t stop him from catering to her needs and ensuring they always had food to eat.
Jeremy Nwabudinke — Buchi’s dad.
Another striking thing about her father was how highly he spoke of the United kingdom. It was the United Kingdom of God, a place so revered that one would have to sell everything he owned to gain access. Only a few got the pass and oh. How lucky were they? One of the lucky few was a lawyer who had gone there to study and was expected to return in the coming days, sparking celebrations in every home.
Onyebuchi longed for her father to take pride in her and vowed to go to the United Kingdom of God to prove to him that she was worth just as much as a male child.
Unfortunately, her dad died by the time she turned 9, before she had the chance to prove her worth. His death left her mother a widow, who according to tradition, was to marry the next of kin; his brother.
During the mourning period, Buchi and her mother had to go back to their fathers home town; Igbuzor; Delta state. Here she was grateful for; the coconut trees, children to play with and tales by moonlight told by her big mummies. However, all these couldn’t distract her from the hunger pangs she felt digging into her soul at every moment it got.
Buchi’s uncle became her new dad at age 9 and if she thought her late dad didn’t give her enough reverence, this new one despised her. She didn’t let that get to her, instead she decided to hold on to the little beam of light in form of a dream.
Thankfully, her strong wise mother managed to persuade her new dad to let her get a bit of an education as that will elevate her status in marrying an elite.
At 12years old. She was back home, in wait to be married off to the most worthy suitor but Buchi had other plans, plans which still involved going to the United Kingdom of God. She took a scholarship exam to study in a missionary school and passed.
Buchi @ missionary school
She packed her things and left, living her mum who despised her for being stubborn. But how could she explain to her mum that she saw beyond the grey skies of their home? That she envisioned to be in a far away land with pretty blue skies, color and life.
Buchi met Sylvester and fell in love with his dreams. A handsome local boy who also thought he could make it to the United kingdom of God.
At 15years, the pressure from home for her to be married off became extreme and this led her to marrying Sylvester. At least she was getting married to the love of her life.
Buchi graduated school and found a job as a publicity officer in the American embassy. Where she worked and saved her earnings for their dreams. At this point she was pregnant with their second child.
The plan was to gather enough money to send Sylvester out and then follow in due time. This worked and in no time, Sylvester had arrived the kingdom of God. They exchanged letters and everything seemed to be as perfect as she had imagined.
At 18years with 2 children. Her dream became fruitious. She was on the deck of the Orion heading to England.
13days later, the children’s nurse on the ship came to her room, shouting excitedly
Have you seen it?!
Have you seen Liverpool?!
She ran out to the deck and her beautiful dreams plummeted a quater. Buchi thought, «if she had been Jesus. She would have passed England by».
She finally arrived where to stay and she felt even worse. There before her, was a single room her husband had rented for them and the kids. He explained that getting accommodation was very difficult and more as a black person. This was the reality of the United Kingdom of God.
This threw her into a state of depression. She had left her beautiful flat with servants in Lagos. For a single room and a status of a second class citizen. Worse, as a woman. And to call it all, her loving husband wasn’t being considerate to her feelings.
She had even given him so much money to afford a better apartment, prior to her coming. But he spent a bulk of it on getting a new suit. Apparently, her priorities wasn’t his anymore.
All these didn’t deter Buchi, as she strived to get a job at a Library, where she contributed significantly to the household finances — shouldering most of the burden. Meanwhile, it remained unclear what the love of her life was doing to support the family, apart from impregnating her year after year. By 1965, they had five children
Months passed and things seemed jolly for their family. The job Buchi had secured seemed to be doing very well and things were beginning to look brighter. However, their happiness was short lived, as their Nigerian landlord sent them packing the next second. Apparently;
Nobody wants you to succeed because it will shatter their reality that one could break out of mediocrity. For masses this is a tough pill to swallow. ~Jimmy King
During the search of a place to live, Buchi watched helplessly as what little pride her husband had left, evaporated.
As much as she could hang on, he couldn’t. Eventually, a new home was found but her husband was gone. He became violent towards Buchi and their children.
He blamed her for their loss and made mockery of her hard work. During this trying time, Buchi had to stop working and focus on the children but it only got worse. Sylvester got more violent and berating.
Looking for a form of reprieve, Buchi started writing and it happened effortlessly, this was no surprise because she had always longed to be a storyteller. The news of her writing and finding content in herself displeased Sylvester. Who went as far as burning her first manuscript.
This was the turning point for Buchi, she had enough. Although Sylvester tried to beg for her forgiveness, regain her trust and started going to a Jehovah’s Witness church.
Buchi was done.
She packed up with her children and left, but this was the most trying time for Buchi. She had descended to her nadir . As a single black woman with five children, all below 6. The United Kingdom of God was unkind to her.
Her best offer was one of the worst imaginable flats in London. She had to accept this because she needed a place to find the lost confidence in herself and build up again. Fortunately, Onyebuchi knew;
Nobody is greater than God
She went back to school to pursue a degree in sociology and in her 2nd year, she started writing for magazines and newspapers to make earnings and give her children a nearly normal life.
Her job enabled her to publish her first novel in 1972, which was a series of articles in the magazine. The New Statesman and with her second book; “SECOND CLASS CITIZEN” her writing career became established.
These are the literary works of Buchi Emecheta.
In the Ditch (1972), Second-Class Citizen (1974), Gwendolen (1989) and Kehinde (1994) The Bride Price (1976), The Slave Girl (1977), The Joys of Motherhood (1979), Destination Biafra (1982), and Double Yoke (1982) et al.
Jerkbaba: When I first got that question I asked my self even more questions.
When did this happen? What caused it? Why will a man act more feminine? Does toxic masculinity effect this? And much more questions. I started doing research on the topic, and after a couple of days of work I concluded why and what caused it.
Here are the main 4 reasons why men are becoming more feminine.
Women won the gender war
Women won the gender war, with the increasing idea of equality, and women becoming as valuable as men.
it’s no surprise when men start to acting more feminine to make up for the lack of use that men used to do.
In other words, men are more useless than ever before, woman are getting paid the same salary as men with lower work hours, and less suffering, women don’t need men anymore, of course this will cause men to become more feminine.
Men are useless
As I said men are more useless than ever, causing them to hate themselves, and become more feminine.
The idea that every man is toxic
The term toxic masculinity becoming the same as masculinity, men started hating their gender causing an insane amount of men becoming more feminine.
This could also cause gender transformation, or a man becoming a women.
How can we stop this?
Men are hating themselves because women don’t need them anymore , or because men is now interchangeable with the phrase toxic masculinity.
This all happened since we want men to stop killing, hurting, or even raping other people, so the idea was to make men more feminine by showing that women don’t need men.
Which isn’t true, any woman knows the need for a strong independent man.
To protect, provide, and support them.
Men need to start becoming men, not in the sense that their toxic, but also not in the sense that their weak.
Look up the mouse utopia experiment. Our present civilization may be on a decline
codedgalaxy: (please this topic is strictly for enlightenment only)
Deep within the male universe, this a question lingers and hid itself in almost every heart. Some have tried to find answers, to this question but have all failed woefully,. Reason for failure not been that the answer they seek is unreachable but, due to the fact that ,for a problem to be solved, is must first be recognized as a problem, then as a threat. So this question continues to linger simply relying on it's greatest ally , the ''male ego''. .
Which begs the question ? Was creation rigged?
is this a homosexual thread? Which one is bottom power again?
E reach to beat the girl. The boy is worwor and the tattoo artist drew it like a primary 3 student. They should also flog the boy and the tattoo artist.
Undilutedme: Focus on the question I asked, you know nothing about me or my relationship with her. We’ve been dating for over a year, so I should just leave her because I share a room? So my girlfriend can’t come to visit me in my shared room? Answer what I asked or move on. It’s a simple thing. Thank you 🙏
You are correct actually. Cleaning the room is you and your roommate's responsibility, not your girlfriend. She is not a housemaid. That your roommate was not raised properly.
Let him get his own girlfriend and tell her to sweep the room. It's your girlfriend I blame sef. She sweep am.
floss: Why not just have a baby mama, she gives birth takes care of the child, you go and be visiting them until the child comes of age, this saves you the drama of your wife cheating on you, so no point marrying her….
let her give birth and dump the child with you. It is not another person's daughter's life you will ruin with smelly prick
Women are making it seem like theres more to it than just politics
Most of them are suddenly depressed since he won
Is there something they arent telling us? Is there a covert gender war going on somewhere?
simple, to be a woman, capable of bearing a child in America is now very dangerous under Trump. If a woman gets pregnant and something bad happens for example, a miscarriage or an advanced pregnancy dies in the womb, she will not be treated at the hospital because doctors are afraid of losing their license (as abortion law can take both her and the doctor to jail). Someone can just choose to take both her and the doctor to court. Most doctors will not be able to do anything because of that law until the woman is dying to evacuate the fetus by then it will be too late and the damage has been done.
If doesn't even matter if it is not an actual pregnancy, if it an ectopic pregnancy(where the fetus decides to stay outside the womb) or hydratidiform mole( She became pregnant with a cancer instead of a baby) or any special growth at all in the uterus that is not a pregnancy but needs to be evacuated (all are emergencies by the way), she can still be taken to court and sent to jail. Women can no longer get abortions for cases like this
This is the kind of person her husband voted into power. This means that the husband doesn't value her life, and is not worth have children for, so she has decided to live.
Imagine the decision to save your life is taken away from you because the government said that the unborn child has rights, but the unborn child dead or alive is a danger to your life and will literally kill you. That is what the husband supports by voting Trump. Let me not even get started on immigrants.
Gistmedia10: In a viral video, a young mother of twins is seen breaking down in tears, visibly overwhelmed by the pressures of motherhood. With her face tear-streaked, she expressed her frustration, saying, “They are still crying!” Her distress intensified as she explained that her partner was not at home, and her own mother, who had helped her initially, had left after staying for weeks. Now left alone to care for her newborn twins and an older child, the young mother admitted, “I’m too young for this.”
The background of the video echoed with the cries of her children, further reflecting her emotional and physical exhaustion. Many netizens shared their thoughts on her situation. One netizen asked, “She’s too young to be a mother? So, when is she going to be ripe to be a mother? See her mouth like Lasisi’s own!” Others, however, showed empathy, with one user writing, “Sorry, sis. The Lord is your strength.” Another added, “Tell your man no worry us abeg, problems of Nigeria alone the hold all of us for neck.”
The video has sparked discussions on the challenges young mothers face, with many sending messages of support and encouragement, hoping she finds the strength to persevere.
And this is why I did not allow anybody to knock me up who wasn't ready to be a parent.
The woman should give the children to her husband and dissappear for a few hours. She is clearly overwhelmed and overstimulated. This is how post-partum depression starts and marriages fall apart.
Jayhome24: Despite the fact I'm not in support of assaulting the doctor but we need to know what did the doctor did that lead to such attack because the commissioner will not walked in and started attacking her without the doctor did wrong or put up a disgusting attitude of some doctors I have seen.
Pls where are these NMA motherfuckers when a twin babies were detained for 6 months in Hospital in Imo state?
Pls where are these NMA bastards when a girl was detained in hospital for over 7 months in Edo state simply she could not pay her hospital bill?
dinachi: As usual, most men here displaying their lack of ability to reason deeply missed the most important point.
Who hosted the podcast? AY the Comedian!
Who did Yul warn to leave his then wife May alone? AY the Comedian.
Who is the 'God' behind all these packaging of May, sponsoring trips and using his vast media platforms to promote May? AY the Comedian.
When you connect all the dots, then you can now understand why it seems May is a superstar. The unseen hand behind the scenes is AY the Comedian. He has been the one fucking this woman mercilessly and promoting her. I pity the idiots who praise her as something special.
May Aligwe is a woman who wanted the divorce as fast as possible so that she can keep fucking both men and women.
But her adultery partner AY the Comedian has to put her up to say she loves marriage because a lot of men eyes are finally opening.
They now understand the message May is passing. She is literarily a motivation for other women to leave their husbands. So, if you are married and you are busy promoting May as a man, your wife is just looking you with one eye. One day she will have the courage to do it because if May can do it so can she!
There's nothing special about May but their is something sinister and evil about a man, sponsoring, encouraging and undermining his fellow man to Bleep his wife. AY whether in this life or the next, you will get your Karma from God and it won't be pretty! Peace!
God2man2again: Luke 18:16-17 But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God. Verily I say unto you, Whosoever shall not receive the kingdom of God as a little child shall in no wise enter therein.
In my own opinion and in consent with the above scriptural verses, children or infants should be allowed to know Christ at any age.
What do you think?
They cannot.
Wait until they fully understand the concept of free will, consequences and responsibilities for their actions before accepting christ. Any other thing is coercion and indoctrination and renders Christianity in the same category as cults.
Fashdeejay: Lovely, I am glad you said it. Please let us make it a point of duty to speak up for men too. It's not just women getting raped out there. As a matter of fact there are so many boys underaged and teenagers who get abused on a daily but all we hear about is the women, let's normalize speaking for men and women together. Majority of the men you know will not tell you this but most of us are victims of sexual abuse at extremely young ages but we are too ashamed to speak about it because we are laughed at..
Politics › Re: Our Reforms Are Working - Tinubu by DrFunmisticGlow: 12:10pm On Dec 12, 2024
