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Newlymarried:
Just 11 weeks and he looks like this,what if he had stayed 1 month,that's obituary!

The oppressors humbled him.

some people need to learn mathematics all over again

achimendy:
Marriage is not by force my dear, it takes two matured, understanding and God-fearing couples to get married and do the needful for the betterment of their family. So if you think being single will give you peace of mind then go ahead and remain single. But stop discouraging women that are ready to build a home with their husband and children.

As for me, I'll never get angry if a woman say no to me, it's normal, every woman can not like me. But if one says no 20 more is out there ready to tell me yes.

It's just life.

We can finally agree on something.

I am tired of seeing the men complaining and bashing wome. like little children on nairaland. That's all!

achimendy:
Pls shut up. Ya'll bunch of lazy craps, nobody forced ya'll to get married, if you're not ready to do what marriage says then don't get married. Simple.


If you understand what division of labour is in the family you won't be typing this nonsense here.

it is because I understand what division of labor is in a family, that's why I type you.

I think more women need to say F this and choose not to marry for peace of mind.

When that happens, it is still men like you that will come to nairaland.com to be bitchingabout why they have no bitches.

Wilfreymorena:
I have been wondering and curious to know why young beautiful and good looking ladies prefer to date rich guys?. Who will date the broke guys?

Evolution will take care of them. It is better to be with a man with more resources to look after you and your children than to be with a man who will increase your chances of poverty and starvation.

Besides ladies already know that many men are badly behaved. It is better to have a rich man who is badly behaved than a poor man who is badly behaved or disguising his bad behavior because he does not have the means to carry out bad behavior.

achimendy:
When the husband was busy working for 7 to 8 hours to provide for his family where were you, oh you didn't think of that? Now the man comes back from work tired and decided to relax by taking a chilled drink and also watch football, then the selfish woman that you're start getting angry. You women are just too self-centerd.

Everyone in the family has his or her own role to play, the wife does her own which is to keep the home, while the husband does his own too by providing and protecting his family. The early you understand this the better for you. Stop using the word slave, nobody forced you to get married, if you're not ready to do what marriage says then don't get married.


Shalom

Do the work she does for a day first

You sound like someone who has never kept a house clean or looked after children before, that's why you are running your mouth

hartson:
hmmm,they encouraged their daughters to pursue education and money.After acquiring all of that,are they better off?Are they still not complaining and nagging up and down?

They have peace of mind, they can pursue their interests, their bodies are healthier because they have less stress due to the toll marriage takes on women. They will not suffer from depression because one son of Adam is misbehaving when she can just stand up and leave him because she will still end up fine and can take care of herself.

hartson:
Some of them are even threatening their husbands with divorce as if is uhuru out there.
Men,those days and nowadays are not the same.Women of old did far more of what they complain about now.
Great mothers that don't access to smart phones,gadgets,watch zee world,telemundos,nollywood or wore trousers,do all manner of hairrstyles,never nagged of their responsibilities yet they overcame and were successful mothers in their respective homes.
The reserve is the case thisdays that's why they complain even with all mordern life has to offer.

Women of old were stuck and had no options out of the bad situations theu called marriages, why do you think they encouraged their daughters to pursue an education and money? So as not to end up like them.

CodeTemplarr:
Why will he help with kids when he has to work extra hard to dig a borehole, generate electricity and pump water as against you going to the streams to fetch as it is in the books that inspired the provider role of man?

He also provides milled rice + grains and not the raw ones you have to go mill yourself like it was in biblical times.

He probably bought blenders, miicrowave oven, freezer, and washing machine which were never under the role of provision by provider in the bible. He probably pays the electricity bills for all those.

No wonder household level Yahoo is trendy today. There has to be spiritual shortcut or support for the man to meet those numerous emanating needs outside the original purview of the provider. They can agree on any kid or young maid around as victim. Any new innovation falls under the role of the provider.

If a machine that baths and dresses babies is created today, it becomes the man's job to provide and power it. Most likely within the city where the means to rapidly expand productive output in exchange for more money is highly limited. Tell me which brand of phone did Sarah use? What channel of satellite TV provider of their time was her favourite?

Is domestic battle even harder than field battles to start with?

And you wonder why you will grow old and die alone

Baebes:
One of Sharias tenet is to protect young from the outside world. Keep your children in the country. Talent should not be exported. That's why the northerners ain't leaving

What talent?

aisha1314:
There's nothing wrong with it.

it's wrong. It Like lying about being married

iLegendd:
I don't like reading walls of texts that are not properly paragraphed — that's why I couldn't read it the first day. I almost refused to read it, but forced myself to. Next time, paragraph properly if you want me to read.

Anyway, here I come.

Upon carefully reviewing your write-up, I initially responded point-by-point. However, upon reflection, I recognized that your argument was, in essence, a collection of incoherent musings reminiscent of the emotional appeals often associated with certain ideological groups. I chose to disregard the specifics and provide a concise summary.

Nonsense!

Your entire argument can be distilled to a singular point: the expectation of perpetual male responsibility and the demand for endless empathy and sympathy. And this Na still part of the "men na our slave."

It essentially reduces men to caretakers, tasked with managing your emotional whims and needs because, in your view, we are your perpetual protectors, which we have already accepted as your slave.

The underlying plea is nothing more than a cry for help, cloaked in the familiar refrain: “Men, save me! I am overwhelmed! Na die I dey.”

Here's my thought: Why not abstain from relationships entirely? Seal yourself off from male attention, penetration and companionship.

And when the inevitable loneliness sets in around middle age, perhaps you’ll come to realize that this void far surpasses any burdens and pains you claim to bear during pregnancy.

A man will feel a similar void, but the depression is worse in a woman. Men are doing you people favors and at the same time serving you or doing everything they do in life to make it just for the female gender to enjoy.

You people do everything you do not for the male gender to enjoy, but for you and your offspring to enjoy. So selfish of your gender.

When a woman finds herself undesired by men, she often becomes resentful. Yet, paradoxically, even when she engages in relationships and bears children, she remains discontented if the man fails to meet her every demand or refuses to place her on a pedestal.

For many, bitterness is inevitable, regardless of the circumstances. And when this bitterness arises, they seek validation through emotional manipulation, demanding empathy and sympathy.

Failing to receive this, they resort to guilt-tripping men (just as you did in your defence), attempting to secure compliance through emotional coercion.

In the end, it appears that many men are reduced to mere instruments of female desires, bound by societal expectations to serve (be her slave). PERIOD!

In summary, Una just want enjoy orgasm through a man's penis, bill the man to death, make him worship you and still cheat on him or hurt him whenever you want.

I won't engage you again because your not that bright.

For you to claim that my work is not paragraphed means that you either read without glasses or have the attention span of a toddler. Go for eye checkup please. My write-up was not long at all

One can also deduce that you didn't read, or you read and failed to understand, or you understood and simply cannot counter it. hence you vomited that word salad of a write-up, typing a lot without saying anything like a politician with the intention to undermine the salient points i replied to the points you raised, still proving that men are truly not necessarily the more rational gender. GASLIGHTING and Deflecting is what you have resorted to. Why am I not surprised?

It is sad that iLegendd has now been reduced to a bitter incel. Your entire write-up failed to make sense. Your lapdogs can continue to sing your accolades and shower you with insincere praise, it is your thread afterall. Knowing that you get your bread and butter by preying on the vulnerabilities of young weak men who are lost with no masculine/paternal influence,we know you have your image to maintain. You do you I guess.

In a relationship, both parties are to put each other on a pedestal, act in their significant other's best interest without harm to themselves, being companions to one another, protecting , loving and providing for their children and arming them with tools necessary to be productive in society. Many people are not ready to put in the work needed to achieve that.

absingle:
Elegbon

old cargo

iLegendd:
She won't. Even if she dares, these are the 5 things she'll say.

1. I bleed every month or two. Do you men think it's easy to go through those pains? My reply: What concerns a man with your bleeding birthright? If you don't bleed, you'll still complain that you missed it. If someone hits my scrotum, the pains I'll go through is not a woman's business, so your monthly cramps isn't a man's business.

2. I carried your baby for 9 months and went through hell. My reply: The same baby that'll give 95% of love and attention to you and act as if I don't exist? The same me that worked under the rain to generate money for his/her upkeep? If the child goes outside and someone insults me, the dad, he/she won't be too moved, but the moment someone insults you, the mom, they swing into fight to protect their mom, so that 9 months of pains benefit you 95% of the time and also, every woman wants a child before 40, else they'll feel like failures. The man that gave you the sperm helped to wipe your shame and depression, so you should be thankful to him and all he has spent so far.

3. I go to the market and cook for you everyday or wash for you. My reply: I'm the one that gave you the money and the transport. Even with that, you that'll buy meat of 5k and say it's 10k. Before you come back from the market, you've made 100k profit by bloating prices and even collected phone number from one muscular or handsome guy you met at the market that you'll soon cheat on me with. While you're cooking the food, you'll eat 2-5% of everything before the it's ready. In the end, you'll still eat the food more than me, the husband. So, who benefited more from the market or cooking? Can't you see how you've benefited so much from just going to the market and cooking? Even my clothes you washed with the washing machine I bought, you still wear my polo and boxers with me on a regular basis. Do I wear your gown and clothes? No.

4. I prayed for him that's why he's successful. My reply: You wish. There are a lot of billionaires who made it without prayer. All you need is focus and determination. Don't let religion deceive you.

5. I take care of the baby and send them to school. My reply: You're the one they always fight for, buy things for and protect the most, so you need to take care of your asset and source of joy. You're not doing him favors, but yourself.

Despite all these usage, when your family members who can't stay one place visit, he's the one feeding them and making sure they're comfortable. Man dey suffer sha.

6. Damn! There is one important one that just skipped my mind.

For point number one. Let's agree to disagree that Menstruation is a woman's business, if you can look on apathetically as someone you claim to love or be in a romantic relationship with or Let's even say share family ties with bleeds every month and go through the pain that is comparable to a heart attack, then you either lack empathy as a human being or are yet to receive a diagnosis as a clinical sociopath. Also if a period is missed, 8 out of 10 reasons is because you as a man, or any son of Adam is the cause.

2. Yes she carried the child for 9 months and did go through hell alone for half parasite fetus that shares half your DNA. Pregnancy and its complications are most likely to kill a woman than if she is not involved with a man. She looks after 50% of your DNA because she has a responsibility to make sure that child makes it to adulthood. You have a responsibility too, but because you have less risk towards that investment you call your off-spring you feel less of a parent bond and can be prone to jealousy when her attention is shifted from you to a helpless infant or child who can't survive on his own without parental guidance. A man can just wake up say that he is no longer interested in the woman or her child(ren) and vanish without consequences,but not the woman. Simple if you want the woman and the child to pay more attention to you then invest more emotional attention to the child and relieve some of the burden of childbearing from her shoulders. That way the child will appreciate both you and the mother.

3. A woman went to the market for you and all you can say is that you gave her money and transport. Oga you can go to the market yourself and see that these food prices are not playing with anybody. 100k cannot feed a family of four for a month anymore. Trust me, most times she is most likely adding her own personal money to finance your deficit. I am not saying that all ladies are saints. But for you to say that she is adding money, is most likely paranoia. I didn't even see anything about a workmanship fee, you think it is easy to walk around haggling and bargainingat the market? If you are not satisfied with her going to the market. You can patronize these instagram vendors that do food runs and see if you won't spend more. On the claim that she will eat half of the food. A good cook tastes what he or she is cooking, but it is usually not half of the entire food she is cooking. I have more self discipline than most when cooking (I will not touch the fried chicken or plantain except an occasional designated small piece to ascertain that it is well cooked ) and most times when I try cooking without tasting the food, the taste would be off like less salt or too much salt or a certain mixing spice.

4. A good woman praying for you will increase the chance of your success. There is not truly wealthy man who doesn't have a good woman somewhere praying for him. Hardworking and determination will only make you comfortable at best. Besides having a good woman who sacrifices her dreams and life to manage the jome-front for almost free while you men pursue you careers and success is a privilege you should never look down at. If you don't like it stay single and employ housemaid and nannies to look after your children and see if you will truly be wealthy. There is a reason why widowers don't stay single for long.

5. A child will regard who invested and showed up for them as the real parent and it is the mums that do that. If all you can boast of as a child is just paying school fess and food on the table, then you are doing the bare-minimum. Afterall the single mums you men on this thread like to shit on are already doing that and are still there for their children through the ups and downs. Many Fathers don't let their children see their vulnerabilities and are hardly there when children need them. They don't make themselves approachable to their children and are only there to discipline. If you are a father can you say that your child will come to you if he/she is in trouble? Do you know the name of your children's friends? Classroom teacher? Health condition? Best subject? Can you drop you work and stay at the hospital overnight for a few days if your child is sick? Can you teach them how to fix things, deal with bullies, or how to choose a career path? Can you tell your child about gossip at work or how you are concerned about rent or school fees in a child friendly way?
It's these little things that matter to a child. These are the secrets so that your children won't abandon you in old age.

6. What you forgot was simple. A relationship with a man for a woman is a risk. She is putting her life in the hands of a man. She could die while carrying his pregnancy, she could be raped or sexually assaulted by him. She could be killed by being involved with him. She will give up her identity and dreams when she marries him and sacrifices her body to bear children for him that he might not be fully invested in. He might cheat on her and divorce her and leave her with nothing for all her troubles. All this for what? some financial gain? To feel among? For protection?I think women are getting the short end of the stick.

At time I think women should stay in their lane and maybe should not be involved with men, but when I see what is happening in the west when women say they will be childfree or the rise of bitter baby daddies like davido who weaponize their children to gain access to baby mama coochies. The rise of unproductive to society incel- men/budding school shooters/domestic terrorists with mental issues who feel like the world owes them something. The rise of feminists who are swearing off men and marriage and calling it the 4B movement. The fact that their population is decreasing. The fact that suicide rate in men is increasing when just over some decades ago, it was the opposite due to the fact that women couldn't divorce.


I think we now know who truly needs who here.

iLegendd:
A woman can never be wrong. Whatever comes out of her mouth is nothing but the truth. You won, so kindly move along let men who can be wrong discuss sensibly.

Stay blessed, dear.

Hopefully you discuss sensibly about where you went wrong and how to make the most out of your lives and those of your loved ones. Productivity has no enemies.

Let me leave the thread for you gentlemen. Have a lovely evening.

OlawaleBammie:
Open ur thread and write the thousands things in ur mind that u said u can use to counter...

Write it here, let discuss on it and stop bn a d!ck

arguing with mule headed men who cannot think critically will not decrease the price of petrol neither will it benefit anyone in anyway.

iLegendd:
A Man Is a Woman's Slave Till Eternity

what kind of incel bullshit is this?

Or is Tinubu's economy turning your brain to ogi?

It is not only men being slaves to women. Women are slaves to men too. Infact almost every bad thing that can to a woman's life can be attributed to a man. I can write an entire book to prove your statement wrong but y'all won't read it.

ExudeLoveToAll:
May be when you read the quote from your fellow member in the struggle you will understand what I meant,

According to Aisha 2314 "I will lie to guys I'm dating about wanting children when I don't. Just string them along just to have someone to date for a (long) while". I guess you can now cure your ignorance as to what I meant

Lying to guys about wanting children? She should date infertile guys now.

That's just all shades of wrong

ExudeLoveToAll:
It's fine to be childless but dey your dey and don't disturb any man with it. Remain single and childless.

Please how does a woman disturb a man by being childless.

There is a difference between being childless and childfree

iwaeda:
And smaller.

I planned to buy 2 crates tomorrow to supplement that difference in size. I am pissed.

Nonexisting1:
You're just an ordinary girlfriend but you're already dragging cooking rights with his mother and had the nerve to walk out on his family. You'll last longer in the marriage market than hardship lasts longer in this country.

he treated her with disrespect. If you were in her shoes would you have stomched it?

That he praises his mom's cooking doesn't mean he should put down hers, especially in front of his family members.

He should truly marry his mom and her cooking. Meanwhile he should finish his home training from her house while he is at it.

iwaeda:
Usual propaganda by LASG. Even most of what they were selling were expensive than average market prices, but the usual apologists were praising the for doing nothing, Nlfpmod.

The eggs were cheaper though

aisha1314:
I know this is an old thread but I can't help but comment on it.
People feel uncomfortable with people who don't want to have children because they're stupid assholes. Simple as that.

thank you

NaijaCelebrity:
A light-skinned Gen Z baddie has taken the internet by storm with her unusual cooking style, preparing yam porridge in her boyfriend's kitchen with a whopping 13 seasoning cubes, honey, and an assortment of spices. The video captures her confidently whipping up this controversial meal while her boyfriend eagerly awaits the final result. Whether this is love or just an overload of flavor, it’s definitely one for the books!

The hilarious moment has viewers questioning whether this "yummy" dish is truly a labor of love or a culinary experiment gone too far. With her boyfriend's priceless reaction, this video is a must-watch for anyone who enjoys a good laugh or wants to see how Gen Z is changing the rules of the kitchen.


Could you handle a porridge like this? Watch the video and decide for yourself!




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dj9ERzzcdE8

Behold, the world's most patient killer.

Karleb:
If she had that pregnancy for a student like her, she would have aborted.

When I see some women suffering, I'm slow to give my pity these days. Some of them are just foolish.

Exactly!
She thought she could bag someone that is going abroad, her greed landed her in her current predicament. Pining over a man who will end up with either an akata or fat, old white lady that he will be a houshusband to, but will still divorce him and take half of his assets.

I actually do not have pity for this lady.

She chose to put herself in her current condition and chose to raise her children in poverty. When a man expresses a lack of interest in raising your pregnancy, you abort it. She chose to be stubborn about it and chose to abort her destiny by keeping the twins and being a single mom.

Parenting is hard enough for 2 people not to talk of her alone. I hope to show young ladies that this where where 'God will provide' mindset will land you. Begging for money on social media and pursuing a deadbeat yoruba man.

She would have graduated and have been job-hunting or opening her business, now she has to think of 2 extra mouths to feed. She is now a 3 in 1 burden to her parents who are supposed to be enjoying retirement. She should have chosen better. She could have met a better man who would love, marry her and start a family with her.

CHOOSE BETTER LADIES!!

PROTECT YOUR WOMB FROM DESTINY DESTROYER MEN!

YOUR DESTINY IS IN YOUR HANDS!

FIGHT AGAINST REPRODUCTIVE CORERCION!

Lalami3232:

Do you know why there was little or no single mothers in the time of our forefathers? It was because the women then knew how to close legs. They won't open legs because of gifts, neither will they open it because of iPhone or shawarma. But today, the reverse is the case.
People are more pained when they lost their headset than virginity. People have come up with useless quotes of "her past doesn't matter". People have come out with baseless theory of non-virgins will be more faithful because they've seen it all.
Now let's analyze this together.
Do you crave for Japanese or Korean food? I guess NO. Do you know why? It's because you haven't eaten them before. But if you eat those food for 5-10yrs consistently like our non-virgins take gbola consistently, you will have craving for such kinds of food.
Like I will always say, a fairly used product can never be compared to a new one. It's left for you to decipher the meaning from the proverb.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news.

The reason why there were little single mothers was because men knew how to accept responsibility for their actions then. Not like men of today who want to have their cake and eat it.

People were still having premarital sex then. Do not be deceived.

Oakenshield:
Calabar set the Pace for carnival and now every dick and Harry wants to do it.

lagos has been doing it long before calabar carnival became a thing

EreluRoz:
What are you doing in the market as a man? Men that goes to the market are very stingy and aggressive.
I dislike men that would open eyes to everything and won't allow women to be women peacefully.

You should have a woman maybe a market woman that get your things for you.

Why can't a man go to the market? What if he is a bachelor who can cook his own meals? Your statement is very ignorant and misogynistic

tundetech4:
https://www.pulsesports.ng/lifestyle/story/i-have-properties-i-rebuilt-my-life-after-my-wife-took-my-money-and-houses-in-england-emmanuel-eboue-2023101714420765086

Why am I shocked. That's what they get when they marry white women

Namaster:
NOT your boyfriend. NOT your husband.
NOT your brother. Not your father.
He has NO relationship with you.

But you wanted him to SPONSOR your HND just because he asked about your future plans?

I like the fact that the guy is NOT even mincing words:

"If you want me to sponsor your HND, bring your WOMB!"

Her womb is worth more than that HND. The girl should run. It's a stupid deal, it reeks or abuse and narcissism. Men always want to trap women with a bright future and bring them down with pregnancy

LegendHero:
SINGLE MOTHERHOOD BY STATE (HUSBAND IS DEAD)

Percentage of children age 0-17 years living with mother alone where father is dead

2011
Top 10States
1 🟢Enugu — 9.8%
2 🟢Abia — 8.6%
3 🟢Ebonyi — 8.5%
4 🟢Imo — 8.5%
5 🟢Anambra — 7.5%
6 🟤Cross River — 5.2%
7 🟤Akwa ibom — 5%
8 🟠Benue — 4.8%
9 🟤Rivers — 4.7%
10 🟠FCT — 4.6%

2016
1 🟢Ebonyi — 9.4%
2 🟢Enugu — 8.7%
3 🟢Anambra — 8.1%
4 🟤Akwa Ibom — 7.2%
5 🟤Edo — 7.1%
6 🟢Abia — 6.7%
7 🟢Imo — 6.5%
8 🟠Benue — 6.1%
9 ⚫️Borno — 5.8%
10 🟤Rivers — 5.7%

2021
1 🟤Bayelsa — 10.6%
2 🟢Ebonyi — 8.6%
3 🟢Enugu — 8.6%
4 🟢Anambra — 8.3%
5 🟤Rivers — 7.9%
6 🟤Akwa Ibom — 7.7%
7 🟠Benue — 7.3%
8 🟣Ondo — 6.9%
9 🟢Abia — 6.2%
10 🟤Edo — 5.9%

🟠NC 🟤SS 🟢SE ⚫️NE 🟣SW

where is lagos?

Doesn't it make more sense that lagos with a higher population and a cultural melting pot should have a higher single motherhood rate? Something is fishy with this study