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@ poster
why not worry about your own race instead of concerning yourself with competition.

Should a woman who sleeps with her husband once in two weeks be hurt if and when her husband sleeps with someone else?

If you leave the first guy and the second guy and third guy and so on , because they cheated, at what point do you accept it? or do you keep moving from guy to guy. It is not right but the reality is that most guys cheat but some are more considerate than others. The older women probably understand what I am trying to say but the younger and less inexperienced ladies keep saying 'leave him', 'dump him', 'kick him to the kerb' etc.

you want to pick a wife based on how satisfying she is in bed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@ Arielle and Dudu-bob

I agree somewhat with Dudu-bob without knowing the full details as to why mamaput is now single.
You see, marriage is a union of two people ordained by God. A man must love his wife as himself and a woman must submit to her husband. There is nothing wrong with a woman being strong but you shouldn't be strong to bruise a man's ego. If a woman does everything herself, sooner or later, a man will feel like he is not needed. It is possible to know how to do a lot of things yourself but it is also possible to let a man feel like he is needed. If you go into marriage with a backup plan, then you are admitting that the marriage will fail at some point. But if you put your full effort into the marriage, then it just may succeed. Marriage is not a career or business that requires extra-contingency; marriage should be once and should be for life. Some may say 'what if the man dies?'. are you praying or hoping for your husband to die? My father did everything in the house and when he died, my mother had to learn how to do everything. she made mistakes but in the end she succeeded. she sent 4 kids to university and also took over running his business. She didn't die while learning to do things on her own, instead she became stronger and it drew her closer to her kids.

We have to look to the Bible for guidance in everything we do (I am not a pastor or anything like that). The answers are there. If you want your marriage to succeed, you must be submissive to your hubby and the man must love his wife. If a woman wants to be single because she is strong and independent, that is also fine but do not encourage other women to be like you. Some women want to be strong but they also want the joys, pains, and lasting memories of marriage.

@ sly
I love your answer.

@ poster
You need to man up. You sound weak right about now.
If you want to slam the chick, slam the chick. If you don't want to, then tell her to piss off.
You don't need anybody's advice for that.

I agree with you but it could be one of those catch 22 situations. If you pull back; you don't love her. If you keep trying; then you are a mugu because you don't get the message.

@ topic
it has to be a combination of powerful thighs and protruding ass.  

@ topic
it is better to drop subtle hints than to toast. Some guys are matured enough to handle a lady toasting them but some guys are not.

You can try dating both men and women for a period of time and then be in a better position to judge yourself.

@ poster
I just saw your advertisement; rather crass.

@ Banni
Thanks for the link

We have all made wrong choices in life. Sometimes, we are fortunate enough that the mistake is temporary and sometimes, the mistake is permanent. There is no need for the harsh admonishments being thrown this chaps way. The point is that he had two women; whether they were American or Chinese is immaterial. The women might as well have been Nigerian. There are guys who have been through more than one Nigerian lady. Do not base your judgement on the fact that the women were American.

He came here for a solution; instead of suggestions; he is being lamblasted from every corner. I don't think that it is right to have this holier than-thou attitude when someone else is in an unfortunate situation. No one knows tomorrow.

@ Poster.
I think your main priority should be your children. You have to find a considerate lady who will treat them like her own. Forget about your own preferences such as Nationality, beauty, career etc. Also I do not believe in long distance relationships or 'importation' of partners. You can not spend sufficient time in Nigeria to be able to study a potential partner. As it has being mentioned already in previous replies, it rarely works. We have all made mistakes, so pray to God fervently to send to you a woman who will take care of you and your kids. Whatever you do, do not rush into another relationship. Most especially a sexual one without adequate protection. If you develop AIDS, who will care for your kids when you are gone?

Putting a guy's name on a list of players will only give him more props. Some women are attracted to bad boys and players.
Besides, this is a bit childish.