₦airaland Forum

Zetty177x:
After Kabaka, captain hosa, 'Resigners', Oba of Benin, Oshiomole, make him nor do fanfare? If it was the other way round nko?

That is why I am glad obaseki won. The way kakaba rounded up ogbe boys as if Edo belongs to him,then you have hosa and co making unguarded statement as if they did "talk and obey " for Edo people,let's not even talk about the "go and die " ex governor.

Very impressive. .

It's was hilarious when people who didn't even have to capacity to vote were here on nairaland deciding the outcome of Edo elections. .

Ayt27:
I don't completely agree with you even though I get perspective. Forgiveness is nullified if you don't grant the same access pre-offence. The forgiving action is the act that builds a broken bridge.

But men! I completely get where you are coming from.

for every action there is a consequence, even bible says the wages of sin is death.


The consequence for their actions will be to loose their right over their son,in all aspects. Mind you there has to be a bridge for it to be broken,the op's parents didn't build any form of relationship which would have been the bridge in the first place.

Lets not also forget that his parents didn't ask for forgiveness ,they just automatically brought their entitled self out of the blues and think being his biological parents will earn them whatever right they think they have to him and his finances. From what the op said ,his parents are not remorseful,they just want him to carry their financial burden as their child,talk about being entitled users.

Let me say this,there is something people don't know about forgiveness, that you forgive someone doesn't mean things have to go back to normal. You can forgive them ,but you are not obligated to be a son to them cos they long lost that right ,you grew up like an orphan, I am sure if you live the rest of your life like an orphan you will be just fine.


You do not owe any of them anything ,not emotionally , financially or even spiritually.

very funny thread,lol

I used to be so scared after watching willie willie

On behalf of the op ,his girlfriend and workers,thank you barrister Gorge of nairaland for your help,it's good to know there are still humane people left in Nigeria.

Kriss216:
Do enjoy the rest of your evening, poco.

Always remember, it's more noble to marry a 50 year old foreign woman than to marry a young virgin Nigerian girl.

Says a Nigerian man, the only ones shameless enough in west africa to make such a statement. like someone said ,if they dig up white ancestors ,you Nigerian men will gladly marry their mummified bodies.

pocohantas:
True. Young Nigerian men are embracing white women these days. Most of these women might only cheat on them with menopause or the grave. Way better than an erect penîs.

hahahahahhahahahajahahahahah

pocohantas:
And he is a NIGERIAN man.

And not a Nigerian woman

which alpha males go come out come protest for this fuel hike and electricity tarriff increase,cos it seems Nigeria is filled with many alpha males oooo

Martinez39s:
I am not deciding for anybody, that's how I see things, and that isn't the point; are those characteristics in a man toxic or not, yes or no?

oh ,so your way is now the high way to now be rambling all this while and countering the other lady as if you were left incharge on earth or something. You see it that way because you choose to see it from your myopic spectrum. And mind you that you see it that way doesn't make it the truth ,you are but one person ,stop acting like God left you in charge of mankind.


Here on one hand you are saying men are being hushed not to speak up as rape victims and "man up" on the other hand you are saying men should "man up" and repress their emotions and feelings ,isn't this the same "man up " that led to the hushing? seems you like speaking from both sides of your mouth,huh?

Repressing humane behaviors is toxic !!! ,EOD.

Martinez39s:
As I said, emotions are not bad, instead emotional incontinence should be discouraged among men. I don't see how that is toxic. Overly emotional men are not masculine to me. Good day.

And who left you in charge of men on earth to decide who is masculine enough and not masculine enough? who left you in charge on earth to decide when men are overly emotional ,who gave you the parameters to determine when a man is overly emotional?

Martinez39s:
Don't mind me, I am less busy today, and I am bored.

I admitted that those sayings are in existence, but they are in no way toxic masculinity. Be like say your brain no day grab things wella.

I rest my case with you and t00dugged.

So if repressing humane behaviors is not toxic ,then what is it?

t00dugged:
my sister ,the matter tire me ,he just ran full 360 degree and ended up saying the same thing as I did. I don rest sef .

lol, the guy own dey e body ,lol

Martinez39s:
I don't hate women. Anti-feminists seek to curb feminism (it's shenanigans, misandry, and double standards). If you have a son that steals, do you necessarily hate him if you are "anti-stealing"?

so feminism is now placed on the same level as criminal activities like stealing ,oh wow! ,you are doing well , you go arrest all of us with the way you dey go so ,lol.


Mr curber , continue , I hope you have more strength in you ,cos this fight go long o,lol

Martinez39s:
SMH. Who is a simp? You clearly don't know who a simp is.

Boys will be boys the same way a tiger will always be a tiger, what's your problem with that and how is that repressive?

I have heard of "real men don't cry," it follows from "real men are not emotional." It's repressive, but not in a toxic way. It just a discouragement of emotional incontinence in men. There are men who cry when their daughters are getting married, there is nothing wrong in that, but I can't do that and I don't see it as manly. Some men today would cry if they reconnect with their children after many years, but I will approach such situation with just a handshake. Emotions are not the problem, it is emotional incontinence. Personally, when a loved one dies (or something tragic happens), I will fondly remember them but I don't get depressed or sad at their death, or even cry, because death is part of life, anyone can die at any time, crying solves nothing, and I have to move on with my life. I don't even buy into tears of joy as a man, lmao. All these things are not toxic, men have to be tough, calm in heated situation, and calculative. These things start from the rough beginnings of mankind, men needed to be tough to survive.

you talk too much ,chochochocho. You ended up affirming what she said but in a longer rant . na wah for you o.

Martinez39s:
I am anti-feminist, but I am not obsessed with bashing feminists and feminism. I have no problem with women's empowerment and liberation.

Come you this boy ,with all your ramblings and long posts and always talking about feminism ,you don pass obsession phase o. You better check yourself.


Also since you said "all women are feminist to varying degrees ,do we now conclude you are anti-women?

Martinez39s:
No, I don't hate women, I don't like women oppression, and it can't get orgasm from women oppression.

with the way you carry feminism matter for your head ,if to say you dey the time wey dem dey sacrifice virgins ,you for volunteer to be butcher .



As be say women liberation and empowerment dey pepper you for body.

Martinez39s:
Ah!

Mr man , we know say you hate women and women oppression dey give you orgasm .Or I lie?

pocohantas:
Better no allow Martinez give you headache o. Na im work be that. That dude isn’t bitter, trust me, but im head no correct true true.

How are you babe? E done tey I see your comment here.

lol, this kind thread nor reach to draw person come out . Honestly I was so disgusted by the whole crime .


I dey fine o my sister

pocohantas:
Lol. That dude isn’t even bitter to me, just one of those bookworms that think life is Mathematics. So, they keep disturbing people with big English.

lol ,if "barking at the wrong tree " was a person it would be him. I think it's actually some bitter experience on his part Sha. The guy don make am e life commitment to fight feminism with e last drop of blood . lol

pocohantas:
That boy is always typing so much and saying nothing. Very dull something...

He is not dull , he is smart but bitter that women now have a voice , I think he would have loved to be in the era of the time where his ancestors were keeping virgins for sacrifice and killing twins or something .

Martinez39s:
The possible solutions were written in a reply to t00dugged.

focus on improving the rape laws of this country, upgrading our law enforcement agencies with forensic technology and techniques, and electing competent leaders that are devoted to tackling such issues.


I think you could have left out the other of your ramblings . it's exhausting abeg,shuo. All your posts are centered around the same thing , feminism this feminism that ,oga e nor dey tire you,? geez! even on a thread like this you still managed to bring your long sermons ,we have heard ,you hate women , you rest na ,na wah for you o

LedRock:
I meant they should first be mentally checked and become stable before taking actions on them, there is no need arguing with you again, your knowledge is very limited on many things.

Lol ,I think you should hear yourself speak . Make them mentally stable before taking actions on them, wtf! you actually sound slow.No offence .

LedRock:
When did I say they should be set free.

Have the society asked or interviewed the rapist and get to know why the rapist commit such acts instead of just imprisoning and killing them?


what does the above statement imply?

Martinez39s:
What is toxic masculinity? I am sure you can't even define it concisely.

Offpoint. How does this relate or follow from my argument? With or without feminism, women would be going to schools, it's was just a matter of time. Even in America, where the first feminists movement started, women were already going to schools in America and Europe.


We will never know how many cases of females raping males exists. In society, such cases aren't seen as outrageous or "newsworthy" by most men and women. In fact, such cases hardly get reported for various reasons. Most men and women see the rape of females as egregious while most men and women don't see male rape as something that serious, and such cases might be received with great humour.

By the way, why do you disingenuously act as if male rape can only be between a grown man and a grown woman, and only through physical force? You do this because you, like your fellow feminists, want to dismiss male rape and see rape as a male flaw that affects women. What about the tons of cases of underaged boys being molested by their school teachers in the United States and other countries? www.google.com can fish out tons of such cases for you, and you would notice that there is no such outrage as would have occurred if a man was having sex with an underaged female student. Apart from physical force, did you consider drugging, blackmail, and females ganging up on an helpless man? Apart from adult men, did you consider little boys being raped by aunts or female neighbour's? We will never know how many of such cases are unreported. Would you have ever known that certain men were drugged and taken advantage of by Cardi B if she didn't admit to such?

What about Brittany Spears (not such if it's her) that baited and kissed a boy on public TV without his consent? Imagine if genders were reversed. What about women that grab men's diçks in the club from nowhere (there was such a case on nairaland, and people said the guy was taking it too far) Despite this, I don't go about calling all women rapists.

lmao. How foolish! This is why I said male bashing on an issue like this is unproductive. In your twisted mind, do you really think a rapist can change by being talked to? Trying to talk a rapist into changing is like trying to talk a heterosexual man into being gay, goodluck with that.

Another one of your long rabid dog moment posts ,* rolls eyes*, yawns .


so what is now the way forward Mr long post ranter? what should women do?, do we now move in fear of monsters lurking the shadows ? if we say we are scared for ourselves and our daughters will we be tagged paranoid?Do we leave this country for you men then so we can have peace and not be scared for our lives, just tell us the solution already , enough of your ramblings abeg.

LedRock:
It's obvious we are not on the same thinking level, ok it's alright. I have nothing else to say to you.
Goodbye ma'am.

nah I am trying to see just how sick and demented you are to think and excuse given by a rapist is jusifyable to set him free from being punished by the law .

LedRock:
If he said he raped because of konji, he will be asked why he didn't find a girl that will agree to sleep with him instead of raping, it will reveal many things.

And after all the revelation what next?

LedRock:
No it is tackling the problem, the problem with you is you like taking things offensive, I didn't say the rapist shouldn't be dealt with all I am saying is we should try to get the reasons they rape and how to stop young men and women from reasoning same way.

so how will knowing the reason help the victim get justice? that is my question,so if he tells you he raped because of konji what next ?

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LedRock:
Do you believe your father is a rapist? Let us start from there, what is the percentage of women that has been raped?
Do you believe there is make rape by women? The people that condemn rape are they all women and no men?
Have the society asked or interviewed the rapist and get to know why the rapist commit such acts instead of just imprisoning and killing them?

Too many questions with no answers.

Have the society asked or interviewed the rapist and get to know why the rapist commit such acts instead of just imprisoning and killing them?


This sounds more like an empathic plea for rapists . If you want interviews I am sure crime daily on YouTube has alot of such cases or you want Nigerian version ? Alright then afrview with rapists ,and they give us their excuses ,what next?