kunletech:

My wife has no respect for me and outsider, We have move into three deference houses because of her behavior to people, My family are telling me to let her go, because she insulted my MUM on my son's naming day, Yet she never change. I am the one taking care of all family bills, 
I am dieing slowling because of her character, I have case in the court  because of her.
But she is hardworking and caring.
I am thinking of divorcing her, we only have one son.
Please advice me on what to do.

This is for the mature thinkable people please.

pendo89:

That is what Marriage reality is about, After the wedding,the honeymoon and all the sweet sweets,you find yourself with somebody you just cant understand because their true character and habits start showing.

People fight over pressing colgate the correct way,spreading beds ,the toilet seat, the garbage very silly things which if left unattended grow up into mountains.
Its very difficult and emotionally draining trying to change a grown up.He is fully grown, and stuck with his habits,not like a child that you can easily mould,therefore we need adjust and bear with each other's weakneses unless they are life threatening.

But there's still a way you can talk him into helping you at least.You do not even have kids so I hate to imagine how worse it could get!
Talk positively and remember,men can be like kids at times.When he does one nice thing show him lots of appreciation.That may encourage him to help you out again.
One thing I urge you to never ever do is talk about other men and how they treat their wives to your husband. Ouch that hurts his ego to the core.

Even if its true be wise and remember you picked him out of them all because he was the best.

Besides never judge a book by its cover.Not 2 marriages are the same.They also have their challenges which may even be worse than yours.The grass is not always green on the other side.Its only year one.Lots of adjustments take place within the first 3 yrs.
Cheers.

Miss_Ife:

This post made me smile cos the poster husband reminds me so much of my own 

I can testify that I carefully dated him and noticed that he was hardworking, knew how to cook, clean, take care of kids and stuff. He is always eager to help others, the first year of our marriage he was sometimes doing more than me in the house! But few years down the road, though he does some things at home, his share of the housechores has considerably reduced, while mine increased due to children. I used to get so mad at it, but later found it was useless. My solution was simple : first, remind myself that, if he wasn't there, I would still do most of these housechores for me and my kids. Then, I followed ronkebp's advice : no need to clean the house from top to bottom at once, a little bit everyday is a much easier way to handle it. Finally, I started involving him in the housechores "without him noticing" : i put the baby+bottle in his arms while he's watching TV, I ask him to hang the clothes while I finish cooking ("otherwise the meal will be late", little things like that, I always add up nice words and tell him thank you. Sometimes I even tease him and tell him he can't clean/cook as well as me, he takes the joke seriously and does all he can to prove me wrong,  when it's done I just sit there and tell him "since your egusi soup is soooo sweet, pls cook it again, I really want to eat some tomorrow!" 

jennykadry:

lol poster calm down, this is a very easy case but first off let me welcome you to married life. Sit down and enjoy the ride.

Your husband is not the only person that litters his clothes everywhere mine does, infact mine loves one blue socks of his and if he doesn't find it, he will scatter the whole place looking for it instead of taking another one. this is the same man that was so organized during courtship that even i thought i wouldn't be good enuff for him. Truth is men are babies and when they see a woman in the house, their baby nature comes out in full.

My brother was once a bachelor, this dude cooks better than me. My mum thought all her boys how to cook, his egusi and stew is to die for but guess what whenever I visited him then on school break, this dude will stop doing the housechores.

ferderick:

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, THE REPUBLIC OF BIAFRA.
I luv the Yorubas,they are the most tribe in ths useless union,while the northerens are foolish n useless expect my VP

yfirstson:

Tinubu actually started this madness

Da Doctor:

Is this justifiable?? To me more time is needed
PDP demands Fashola resignation

July 14, 2011 12:46AM
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The Lagos state chapter of the People's Democratic Party (PDP) has demanded for the "immediate resignation" of the governor of Lagos State, Babatunde Fashola over the flooding of most parts of the state on Sunday.

Okoro2015:

I remember GEJ giving clarification on this during his electioneering campaign. The intent of this is to reduce the cost incurred by the country to run elections within a short period of time. Don't forget that this will also give the govt a time to formulate and carry out policy plans - one of the reasons GEJ sent the old ministers to their former posts. Not few of us shall agree that four years is short to initiate and complete some projects (In Africa ) Aslo note that the bill should not necessarily favor GEJ as the date of take off should be left to the discretion of the house. I remember GEJ say that he don't hope to go beyond four years. The bill should be a matter of national direction for subsequent administrations, hopefully the next Igbo President

allanohize:

In fact on the contrary, ladies from broken homes have a better tendency to make better wives especially in Nigeria. Just like children from poor homes have a better tendency to be good financial managers.

They have suffered the pains of not being with both their parents. They have seen their friends from stable homes. They lived their lives wishing to have stable homes. They learnt the hard way what stable homes can provide to the psyche of children. They swore that they would do everything possible not to repeat the mistakes of their parents.

Children from stable homes are more likely to take too many things for granted. They are more likely to grow up not understanding the amount of sacrifice needed to keep a home together. Most people commenting so far are only doing so because in Nigeria, we have been conditioned to believe in the superstitions of ancient times. In Europe, America and other developed countries where divorce is very common, ask this same question and you will see a different class of opinions from respondents.

At the end of the day, it boils down to the individual and not the background of the individual per se! Too many things will come to play.

Arsenal is better than Man U!

Does this argument hold any sense? Depending on what your bias is, you can always make a case either for or against the above statement.

Eba is sweeter than amala! Depending on what you prefer, you can argue for or against.

Children whose parents did not beat them can never make good fathers! What nonsense! My parents never, ever, beat me, I am 34 presently with 4 kids, and I can boast of being one of the best Nigerian dads ever to pass through this world.

Some of my uncles and aunts once told me that Edo girls are all LovePeddlers and never make good wives! I married from Edo state, and she is from a double broken home, she did not even know her father until she was 21 years old, yet she remains a blessing and an angel to me. I am from not from Edo state.

I read some posts above and people were saying, "the girl is likely to follow her mother's footsteps and break her own home". For your information, men cause 85% of broken homes, either directly or indirectly. The girl's mother might have been an angel which her father never appreciated due to, say, drunkenness, womanising, gambling and all what not. Does it mean that her mother, having divorced the father for such irresponsible behaviours after enduring it for many years, will not be able to bring her children up properly to be good, godly and fit for marriage? No!

Guys, read my earlier post on this issue, there are things you look out for in a lady you intend to marry, and her coming from a broken home or not is certainly not one of them.

Yoruba girls are dirty, so don't marry them.
Ibo girls will finish your money, so don't marry them.
Calabar and Edo girls are promiscous, so don't marry them.
Ebira and igala girls will use juju on you so don't marry them.
Hausa girls will train their children to be bokoharamists so don't marry them.
Port harcourt girls will kill you to inherit your property, so don't marry them.
etc etc etc!!

Absolute nonsense, all these statements. Whatever characteristics you see in any lady from one tribe, you will get thousands from another tribe with such habits as well.

For as many girls who come from broken homes that make bad wives, you will see just as many from stable homes who are bad too!

End of discussion!

sweet9ja:

GEJ is right; no pain no gain. I would do same if I were in his shoes.
Reforming and restructuring is nothing new, govts all over the world use them to meet their economic plans.
If we really want to survive as a nation and grow to become an economic powerhouse, then, I'm afraid we have no other way out.
I strongly believe that;
1. Fuel subsidy, for exemple, should be gradually faced out.
2. Govt should introduce some form of road tax for all vehicle in Nigeria; fuel tax; or combination of both.
3. Commercial vehicle should be exempted from paying road tax.
4. The proceeds from these taxes should be invested in our road network.