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Lollz 7am... u aren't even awake for breakfast?

I smell massive laziness. That detail shouldn't make social media. Prepare something at night, that can be microwaved, with warm water in a flask.

This is very contradictory ...... "If I wasn't in my mid 30's and if I hadn't done fibroid operation and so, eager to take in, I won't have made this terrible mistake. We also work in the same place so everything seemed perfect."

As for the man, I cannot judge him until I hear his part of the story. I have seen many women like this, and they are parmenently unhappy. Filled with excuses, complaints and lack of self responsibility. NOBODY IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS.

Leave that marriage immediately. Since you have more than enough reasons to do so.

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Elesta:
Hello family, I have a long post about my terrible marriage. Please bear with me, I just have to pour everything out because it's killing me slowly.
I am in my mid 30's ,got married to this man in his mid 40's who has never been married before.We attend the same church although different branches, so the pastor of his branch and the pastor of my branch brought us together. We started dating and he seemed head over heels and started talking about marriage immediately. At first, the way he was talking and his reaction to things I wasn't interested and I even told him, but he begged me and the pastor begged me so I overlooked and continued especially considering my age. If I wasn't in my mid 30's and if I hadn't done fibroid operation and so, eager to take in, I won't have made this terrible mistake. We also work in the same place so everything seemed perfect.

Now we started making wedding plans just after one month of dating and we got married 4months after because of church process. It seemed blissful but I stumbled on his messages with a lady he was saying before me and eventually at the same time with me. I discovered he kept begging n begging her even while me n him were dating .he kept telling her to agree to attend his church or dey can be going to their separate churches but the girl kept insisting that they should attend the same church. I. e. he should leave his church and she will leave hers. Don't get me wrong, if this had happened before we started dating, I wouldn't have gotten angry. but all these happened while we were serious and even after he came to see my father, I discovered he was still pleading with her as per church matter. Who does that?? So what if she had agreed for the church matter, he would have dumped me n embarrassed my dad??

I brought it to his notice and he kept saying he never meant it, he was just using it as an excuse not to marry her.

Now in the marriage, emotional abuse never ends. Just fewonths into the marriage, he started behaving somehow bcoz I hadn't taken in. all kinds of insults oh. one day, he said if he knew I couldn't have children he won't have married me. this was just 4months into d marriage. any little thing he complains. on weekends, he expects me to get up by 7am m start preparing his breakfast oh. weekend which is supposed to b for resting since we work Monday to Friday. Every little thing, he keeps saying if he knew he won't have married me.
I still remember how he slapped me several times, he insulted me n i insulted him back, that was what caused d slap. even when he saw me crying he wasn't moved. I have complained to family members and friends ,they have spoken to him, he will change for a while and later go back to his terrible ways.
I have never seen this kind of acrimony between couple. I am not a bad looking person, I have dated people in d past, they didn't treat me half as badly as this one. I was just too unserious. I want to leave this torture. but we work in the same place and I am trying to avoid wagging tongues. I just tired. I have seen and experienced mutual love and it's not like this. I long to share love with someone that loves me just the way I am. I don't deserve to be with this animal. When it comes to food, he eats so angry if his food isn't ready on time.

Please I need advice. he went for test n it was discovered he has low sperm count. that made him humble for some fine but recently he started saying again that if he had married a younger lady, d lady would have been pregnant by now. just imagine this kind of torture. God knows I have absorbed so much from this man

jolak5:
But they should have informed them before they took that action, it is a total disrespect to Nigerians. Can they do that to a Canadian or an English?

Of course not! Why will you bring up Canadian and English people in the same conversation with Nigerians. Are they at par? Or what?

Charity begins at home. If your government can afford to treat you like pieces of rags! Why on earth will u pass the buck to another people/government to treat you better?

As a rule, Nigerians treat most foreigners with more courtesy than fellow Nigerians. Until we respect ourselves, by ourselves, it will be foolish to expect anything different from others.

This is simple!

Anyone that is caught doing abortion. Both woman, doctor and accomplices should be sentenced to die by hanging.

That is the law for murder in Nigeria.

Welcome to the Christian Republic of Nigeria.
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Monkeys! You guys didn't even learn from Jesus. This very type of "holier than thow" "i too know" law quoting is why he hated the Pharisees!!!

He who doesn't have a sin should cast the first stone. Plz shut your mouth and face important issues in your own life!

alBHAGDADI:
Many wonder if abortion is murder and wrong in the sight of God. Some say it isn't because the baby in the womb is not yet a living thing because it hasn't drawn its first breathe. However, this is wrong as seen in the below Bible passage.

Luke 6:23
Rejoice ye in that day, and leap for joy: for, behold, your reward is great in heaven: for in the like manner did their fathers unto the prophets.

In the verse above, we see Jesus telling people to leap for joy. This means that leaping for joy is something done by living things. Let's see if a baby in a womb can leap for joy.

Luke 1:41-44 (KJV)
41 And it came to pass, that, when Elisabeth heard the salutation of Mary, the babe leaped in her womb; and Elisabeth was filled with the Holy Ghost:
42 And she spake out with a loud voice, and said, Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb.
43 And whence is this to me, that the mother of my Lord should come to me?
44 For, lo, as soon as the voice of thy salutation sounded in mine ears, the babe leaped in my womb for joy.


If a baby still in pregnancy is not a living thing yet, how come John the Baptist leaped for joy in his mother's womb when Mary arrived with Jesus in her womb? Is leaping for joy not a thing done by living things? Have you ever seen a stone or dead body leap for joy?

Abortion is simply murder of a living thing. Stop it now.

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No matter how you want to suger coat our stupid attachment to the supernatural.

The mobile phone you are using to type that nonsense, the internet that made nairaland possible, electricity, etc... Where developed by rugged thinkers that study hard facts, experiment and recreate... refused to surrender their reasoning to the supernatural.

Dark arts, tricks and magic exist! They are used to entertain children and gullible minds. Beyond that, they solve no real problems in life! Take it or leave it!
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Qsscruz:
This isnt about Africa or Africans. This about what is obtainable regardless of your choice of conviction. Dark arts exists. These things happen. There is a gulf in gap between knowing something exist and believing in them. Even if whites uses science to explain some phenomenon, some things still transcend simple logic. The difference is that ours is used for negativities. Things happen. You may term it whatever, but it doesnt change it. Like i said earlier, you only know what you seek for. What you are not into, it above you. Simple.

Beautiful! ... "I also laughed at your comparison because it was totally Hilarious and Wack."


Nobody says spiritual matters are non existent. My wonderful examples show they are SIMPLY NOT SO POWERFUL! ... Not even remotely powerful enough to give you a dime!

Spiritual money promises deceive and hoodwink fools! Babalawo must chop!

You that is so spiritually awake... I look forward to your name on Forbes list. Kikkikikikikikikikiki

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Xavier5:
Yea, just like a patriotic US soldier will never use his guns against unarmed civilians except in very extreme critical situations. The soldier has the power to do it. He or she has the bullet loaded guns, so what will stop him or her from shooting at unarmed civilians and disappearing into thin air but no, he or she choose not to do it not be he or she can't do it but because he or she doesn't wanna do it or may have limited power to do it.
Does that mean the soldier does not exist or is powerless simply because he decided not to use his or her military strength or prowess against unarmed Civilians?

The government of Nigeria has the power to make Nigeria a better nation but no they choose not to do it, not because they don't have the power to do it but because they choosed not to do it.
So will you say the government of Nigeria does not exist simply because it decided not to use it's power to develop Nigeria and make it a better country.

Of course the answer to the above bolded questions is NO

Same way a patriotic US soldier chooses not to use his or her gun or military prowess or weapons against unarmed civilians and also as the government of Nigeria chooses not to use it's power to develop Nigeria and make it a better nation so Likewise the Spiritist choose not to use their powers in the manner, way and scenario you want them to not because they don't have the powers but because they choosed not to use it for such purpose or maybe because they don't have the exact or particular power that allows them to do the stuffs in the examples you gave.

Because a patriotic US soldier choosing not to use his or her guns or military prowess or weapons against unarmed civilians even if/ when he or she has the power to do so doesn't stop him or her from existing or the Nigerian government choosing not to develop Nigeria into a developed and a better nation even when they have the power of do so doesn't stop them from existing is the same way Spiritist exist even if they choose not to use or can't use their powers for the scenarios or examples you have given.
It doesn't stop the spiritist from existing or from being powerful just like it can't stop a patriotic US soldier or the Nigerian government from existing or from being powerful

I laughed at your comparison because it was totally Hilarious and Wack.

Whether you choose to believe it or not, Spiritism and The Supernatural exist. Okay.

#Xavier.

See who is talking. I don't even need to know you to be sure that you never waka half of my movement in the occult and spiritual, within and outside Nigeria.
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Where you done go where u done enter?
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Na yeye movies you dey use reset your brain?
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awelekiti:
Whetin small pikin like you sabi. Watch texas blood money ( an old movie) and you'd reason differently .

Great stories! The point you miss is that deception is real and possible.

Magic can be used to deceive you, but you must trust your senses.

That story of the banker losing money is a cheap lie! Banking will not be possible in a land of powerful spirits like you described. Tomorrow when you own a bank, like Tony Elumelu, allow your staff to be telling you of human spirits stealing your money. Ode!

bet9ja, merrybet, nairabet, would have all folded and ran out of Nigeria if we really had powerful juju priests that can see the future.
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awelekiti:
Hello, let me tell you a true life story. While growing up in ibadan, I had the opportunity of meeting a furniture maker from ondo state who was my neighbour . He was close to freedom as an apprentice that time. His master, a devout Christian and a member of the apostolic faith church, in oke ado ibadan had a customer who's an alhaji. The alhaji was so popular in oke ado that time. He made a bed for him and asked that the ondo guy, alongside his junior ones goes to deliver the bed to alhaji's house since the man had not come to pick up his bed through his driver as he used to. On getting to alhaji house at felele area of ibadan, the man wasn't home but they met his wife. After waiting a while and the man didn't surface, the wife asked the boys to take the bed frame into her husband's bedroom and assemble it. There was nothing like a gsm phone that time maybe the wife would have called him to come over. The boys innocently entered the room and assembled the bed. As one of them leaned on the wall to behold the beauty and direction of the bed after assembling, the wall slid in one direction all of a sudden. They were afraid . The alhaji obviously made a ply wood and used it to cover a portion, now painted it with the wall paint colour amd it rhymed with the wall.One of them standing by the bed side exclaimed, on seeing a small boy carrying a calabash on his head, with money littering all over where he was in a small room covered by the ply wood that slid sideways. The calabash spilled over , with mint( new notes). They all had cold suddenly after seeing it. The ondo guy in his wisdom, asked the boys to slide the plywood back to its position and it covered the portion as they met it. They left immediately and bidded the wife goodbye. On their way, they warned one another not to tell anybody what they saw and in case the man comes to workshop later, they should pretend as if nothing happened. Barely 1 hour after they returned to workshop, this alhaji came , panting. The boys faced their work, pretending as if they didn't see him. The man stood afar and was observing things, still the boys were focusing on their work. Later, he walked closer and said boys...weldone. He now gave them 20 naira each( a big sum at that time). This is somebody who would t drop a farthing in the past. He left thereafter and 2 hours later he came back again, looking at them sternly. The ondo guy asked sir, hope no problem? Do you need to see our master? Can I go to his house and inform him you're here? This man didn't say a word. Later, he left but never came back again. The boys later told their master what happened, while they went to drop the shop key with him. He exclaimed ! He asked hope they didn't tell anyone else and they said no. He said the man he learnt he's wicked but since all he owes him is a good job, and he pays him his money, he's fine. This alhaji never came back till I left ibadan for my nysc. When the ondo guy was narrating the story the folliwing day to us, his voice was shaling out of fears.That's ritual money also, I once had a bank manager as friend, who always complained that money was always missing in the vault. He usually goes home with the key . He's a trusted fellow so I can vouch for him to a great extent. There was a time he paid as much as 500k to balance the amount that got missing from the vault. Before he closes, everything would be complete after counting but by the time he resumes the following Monday, the money must have been reduced. Human spirits, I learnt goes to banks in the night to pilfer money and bring to the ritualists using them. This guy later resigned from the bank, when the gbese was so much.

Xavier5:
Dear, Money Ritual Is Real, Spiritism Is Real, The Supernatural Is More Than Real. Even The Whites Or The Westerners That You Are Making Reference To, Believe In Spiritism And The Supernatural. They Don't Only Believe It, They Also Practice It How Much More Africa, That Spiritism Is Part Of Us.

When It Comes To Spiritism And The Supernatural, I Have Seen Things, I Have Heard Things And I Pray Not To Experience Things.

I Just Wish You Don't Experience The Negative Power Of Spiritism Or Be A Victim Of It, Because That's When You Will Revoke All What You Just Said Now.

#Xavier.

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Infant talk! Why have the spiritual seers, juju priests and destiny gurus not crippled the betting companies.

A man that can see the future can easily walk into a nairabet shop this weekend, make perfect predictions and win 50million per week until nairabet bans him from playing!

But no, they keep giving excuses why that type of magic will not work.

Why can they not disappear into a bank vault and steal hard cash But no they prefer to use their disappearance powers to do what exactly?

Rubbish talk! How can a business like bet9ja be possible in a country with powerful juju and babalawos?... They and their boys would be winning 100million per week until the betting companies run out of this country. But no, they prefer to take chicken, goat and clueless destinys.
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awelekiti:
Ritual money exists wella. But those who indulge in it end up dying mysteriously and untimely

Venerable612:
Those who did - what have they done?

Showing these problems is enough reason to question why we are not trying new hands.

I wish the youths can really stop and rethink the recycling of old leaders who made a shipwreck of our country: with all their shambles working policy which still leave Nigerians deprived of basic life amenities.

Nigeria is really messed up and tbh no one should have any reason not to ACTIVELY CAMPAIGN AND VOTE FOR these new guys: Even if they don’t end up winning - we would know we at least made efforts to provide a better life for our children.

I so dislike the whole Atiku/Buhari stance - they all don’t care about the common man on the streets.

Having good intentions is absolutely insufficient. Knowing what to do and knowing how to communicate same is key.

I have closely followed this crop of Presidential candidates and all of them are lost bare non.


Atiku, Moghalu, Ezekwesili seem to have some bearing.

Sowore is an addicted activist who is clearly trivialising our problems.

Dorotye is just spewing ideas, theories and wishful thinking.

Buhari has done his worst and is too arrogant to try anything new.

Most of us like the blame game. These political wanabeees keep lamenting about youths, as if their should be some collective annointing to give power charitably.

Power is tough and treacherous anywhere in the world. It is the duty of a politicians to galvanise the so called youths, build national political structures, market their craft with business seriousness and simply win!

This is why he will never win.

We are tired of being told our problems.

Tell us workable solutions!

davodyguy:
Adeshina is not a bigwig in the SW

True

Just like osinbajo in 2015...

Winning ticket ...

Buhari and hiding 5 & 6

Winning ticket...

Winning ticket

Think of it!

Would it have been a bad idea if properly defeating Boko Haram was the only achievement of the PMB government.
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Is that too much to ask?

Kk

Osinbajo must be commended for taking action!... Wether the action will work is a different story.
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I don't know why PMB, chooses to keep glorifying inaction. Herdsmen killing, IGP/DSS rascality, soldiers protesting, kaduna/abuja road robberies, endsars, etc... The president believes in say nothing, do nothing... after a while just look for some people to blame. Finish!

Anytime he travels, Osinbajo uses the opportunity to shine!

Kk

You are beneath me intellectually. I have nothing to say to you. Keep looking for excuses for your underdevelopment. Idiot!

Truthcat:
Stop shifting the post and make clear points here. I stand by my previous comment about what makes China better, they control internal migration with permit to live in other region of the country. Good you agree the entire Japan has something in common.

You are just all over the place with no direction, even those you might respect as the zombie you are, already concluded that, and intelligent people know that when a two or more captains are commanding a ship, there will be a problem. It's a shame that you want to sound smart but so far dumbness is what you are emitting.

Nigeria will never work because no one is patriotic to Nigeria, we all care about our tribes. We have different values, culture and interests and it's clear for all to see, only that the parasites are afraid of leaving their host.

If you have travelled an inch close to south east Asia - China, Malaysia, save for Japan (fairly culturally homogeneous) ... You will stop peddling another stupid excuse of multiculturalism as your reason for continental failure.

I don't need to read your comment history to call out crap when I see one. You can keep your 1% high ranking smarts to your brilliant self. I'm not interested.

Truthcat:
You are trying to sound smart but no, you are not, if you are, you won't put everyone in the same box, there's always that 1% which anyone that has been in nairaland even for a few months would know I belong in.

First of all I'm the only one I know who treat both rich and poor the same. We are all human beings first, maybe if I go into hospitality business in future, I will start treating each guest according to what they pay for, other than that no status treatments in my world.

You are wrong again. This is not about reward , it's about not rubbing your failure on me, keep your failure and let me keep mine. While spewing hate is bad, those countries you mentioned speak their languages and we have no way of knowing what they really say. Those countries are also not like Nigeria with too many nations in one country, the root cause of the problem we have in Nigeria, or will Igbos like to get permit before they can come to the SW as it is done in China?

If you have ever seen my comment here, you will know that "you don't beg for respect, you command it" part of your comment is not meant for me. I'm not your average Yoruba, Nigerian or African. I don't even want to be around ordinary people for no reason, I'm either helping you to grow or you have no place close to me.

Truthcat:
Egypt is now Africa over negative news, if they had succeeded in fooling the world now, you won't hear Africa in it. You will never hear pyramids being African but disgraceful news like this one has to be spread on Africa. This is the kind of racism we should be fighting not running after every train with a white man on it.

Any racism shit going on is well justified! You that is speaking, do you treat your rich relatives the way you treat your poor relatives?... This is basic human nature.

Nature does not reward failures! Africa is a failed continent blaming every other person for her failures. You never see the Chinese, Japanese, spewing this racism rubbish! They just focus on what they have to do, and get it done!

You don't beg for respect you "command" it... The day Africa puts her act together, without help, aid or sympathy from anyone, that same day, she will be accorded respect in full!

Deal with that!

seunmsg:
The police and DSS should have their reason i supposed. I and you don't have access to the security reports at their disposal. We should allow them to carry out their duties without politicizing it.

I sympathize with you for your honorable sense of duty to make sense of every situation your beloved PMB government finds itself.

Know this... the road to hell is paved with good intentions. The arrant disregard for public institutions displayed by OBJ, GEJ backed up by supporters like you has shamelessly continued under PMB

The beauty of all this is that democratic power is fleeting. Very soon the hunter will become the hunted... and it just keeps going round.

iammo:
Desperate goverment, Jonathan also locked up the NASS complex, influenced governors forum election, blocked and harrassed ameachi, at the end his tenure ended and although he isn't paying for his sins directly his wife and family are. I really pity Buhari and his family cos after his tenure his enemy would come for his family and him, it's gon be worse than what he faced in the hand of babangida

On point bro! .... We still have an unfortunate attitude to power.

overall90:
When is the military going to take over and hang all this politicians.

Our honorable, good and saintly military, wey we never see before.

Weldon!

If u like, no go find white man land for refuge.

Ejimagift:
Thank God Muric and we Muslims have been vindicated once more. This is coming from the farmers themselves who knows cattle herders from inception are only armed with kettle and stick to guide their herds. I wont be surprised if these killings were sponsored by some Christian groups just to paint this administration in bad light. Every time crocodile tears from Christians just to demonize Fulanis and Muslims. It's unfair how low we have descended as a nation. Christians were said to be training 300 mercenaries in Israel. If those ones start killings, Muslims will be blamed. Let's give cattle herders land in all states to avoid clashes, Christians will say no. What do these people really want

Yes, I totally agree with you! This must be some type of retaliation for how faceless groups sponsored Boko Haram to paint the GEJ administration in bad light. And the incompetent buffoon GEJ could not even stop them or hold their sponsors accountable.

The sad part is that PMB is fighting these killer herdsmen very hard, he has arrested and prosecuted many of the sponsors & the country is now safe again. Never again will a useless Christian group dare to sponsor evil killings all in the name of politics. Sai Baba!

Ode!

azimibraun:
But we have monuments scattered all over Europe and America and Nigerians travel abroad just to have them take pictures on top, under and besides these monuments. Does that stop other developments from going on? We need monuments and we need social overhead( infrastructures) they all make up a society. Bad leadership and misplaced priorities should not make us condemn just Bout everything. These is a beauty to behold. I don't see nothing wrong with it. We don't have anything compared to other parts of the world in terms of monuments both ancient and new.

You have a good point...

But when the trivial becomes priority and the crucial becomes trivial, then madness is enthroned.

Governor after governor, year after year, nationwide, keep commissioning roads and junctions.... and recently statues.

When unemployment is the #1 problem.
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If they commission massive factories, new cities, housing projects, at the rate they commission these cosmetic trivialities, Nigeria would be a better place.

750 men!

I was convinced that GEJ was clueless. But this PMB, I don't understand. He is actively competing for incompetence with GEJ on every side. Even the one thing he did all his life... Fight as military. He is failing woefully.

To keep insulting our collective intelligence that Boko Haram has been defeated is simple wickedness!
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Boko Haram is a creation of the northern elite. With international support and vicious agenda.

Only a competent serious minded southerner can stop them. I no longer trust the position of the government or the northern elites on this.

emssecca:
I suspect some racist europeans are on this forum poising as Africans. Thereby using this forum to help spread self-hate, misinformation and fake history about Africans. Africans started civilisation but the europeans came and supplanted it, then colonised it. Ancient Africans never saw the world as something to subdue but something to learn from. If Africans are so dumb I challenge all europeans to stop meddling in our affairs through covert or overt means and leave us alone to our devices and see what we come up with. Even when our corrupt presidents, whom are european puppets want to hide stolen money in your european banks please refuse and send it back to the African country. Also if our corrupt leaders want to get treated in your hospitals send these leaders back to be treated back in their home countries. Stop selling them weapons. Stop bribing them through fake 'aid' money, commonwealth(a.k.a british empire), IMF, world bank, white elephant projects etc and let us see who will come out tops! And African men we need to wake up and know our history and current affairs. The other day french president came to Naija and we were dancing and laughing with him while he is reponsible for killing, raping and massacaring southern camerounians as I type this!

My friend, it is people like you that make me write very pungent comments like I did. Keep waiting for Europeans to infiltrate NL and give you sense.

Yes, no body owes your corrupt leaders common sense, no body owes you security, nobody owes you anything! Get it yourself...
Yes! Blacks will continue being raped, massacred and controlled both overtly and covertly until they receive sense!

I have worked with white man's and black man's companies, the difference is clear. We look for everytother person to blame for vile behaviours.

I am fully igbo, proudly as black as it gets. Yes, my people need to up their game! and I will keep rubbing it in your faces....

Nowenuse:
You made salient points above I must confess. But for you to completely underrate, Ignore and rubbish the achievements of past african empires is what I would not accept.
The Mongols once ruled half of the world, how great are they today? They are a small minority in China almost absorbed and have another landlocked insignificant country btw China & Russia.
Arabs once ruled and conquered even parts of Europe. How great are they today?

Will you just throw away the numerous past Kingdoms and Empires of Africa like Mali, Abbysinia, Nubia, Kush, Askum, Songhai, Ghana, Benin, Kanem-bornu, Ancient Egypt etc as Africans always being backward?

The Greeks once ruled the world, today they are the economic embarrassment of Europe.

Assyrians were once a world power, today they are a small almost ethnically cleansed minority in the Arab world.

Empires and kingdoms rise and fall and times change.

Totally agree with you! I'm just sometime irked by the irresponsible reverse racist blame game mentality many Africans prefer to adopt.