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Blessedmercy8:
Not that I'm looking for someone into shady deals. I just want to be sure that amount can sustain us a married couple plus he might not be willing to wait for sometime for us to start making babies due to his age..

Now, with that amount, he's living in ikoyi. I wonder how he gets the money to pay such rent. He was staying in VI. Then moved to ikoyi. Who knows why?

I don't want a situation whereby all our money will be going into rent cos ikoyi is expensive. I was born and brought up there before. Worked and lived the most part of my adult life there before my dad retired and we moved. I know how expensive houses are in ikoyi.

I'm just fed up. I like him. He's everything I want in a man but hmm... I see what other people who didn't prepare well before going marriage are passing through now and sometimes I silently thank my stars I've not brought any child into this world in this harsh economy because I hate to see children suffering. I dread it!

You are just confusing yourself, re-read what you wrote up there, the man young is even living well, my wife is still a student with two beautiful children, what is salary? Side hustle is what make up the family, give that young man a chance , go and plan with him, don’t take everyone, now you are looking for 100k , that young can still assist you to achieve your goal than borrowing or taking loan . Life is how you plan it, someone might even receiving 300k a month but without planning they can’t achieve anything in life. How much is naija used Corolla or Camry few months used in Lagos there , 1.9m to 2.1M for Corolla, Camry 1.8/1.7M let him give it out for higher purchases 35k a week , he should collect loan from his cooperative where he work to invest in it , normal deduction from his salary should be 25k every month, 35*4=140k from the bolt business, you don’t even know if he has another business going that enable him to be living at Ikoyi, at the end of the month your man can be getting close to 200 and something K every month…..

Your own side hustle because you will side down as a full time house wife , you must be doing something also to support the family, before you know he has pay off the loan , still purchase another car to add to the former one ☝️…… As a worker with state government or fg you can use your salary account to collect a good loan to invest in a business, thanks �

Blessedmercy8:
That can only be possible if he's a man that would listen and not see you as trying to control or manage his finances for him.

Let the will of God be done. I've already lost interest.

If you stay around my state where I reside I could have say you come to my church so that I loan you the money, I use Church because I will not like to someone at fast foods or any location. I pray you find a helper, but I will not advise you to take that loan the interest is to much

Blessedmercy8:
That can only be possible if he's a man that would listen and not see you as trying to control or manage his finances for him.

Let the will of God be done. I've already lost interest.

You can’t jump into marriage without knowing your husband to be, you guys need to sit down and talk , iron things out between yourself, as I am typing now we are planning to Japa out , it doesn’t matter the salary is just a starting point in life , give that young man a chance I don’t know him or you, but you guys can build on a solid ground with understanding.

I don’t see my wife controlling me, I give her listen ear to hear her out , if her plans are nice for the family we both go with it, I add my own also to build her out together.

Please, don’t just give up on him, What about seeing a man and he lie to you how much he is earning but he doesn’t earn what you are expecting and he deceive into marrying him , then you late learn he lied to you?

Plan with that young man isn’t easy seeing someone earning such in this current govt, also you are looking for someone that is into shady deals…..

tamcamp253:
I read through the story, the comments and all, With your borrowing attitude as a single lady even a 100k earner won’t want to come near you, because you will put him in debts

I have read through your write up but I will like to reply and also advise you, you can go through my profile if you wish…
I work with fg institutions with a salary of 85k for a start, do my side hustle also, that year I got employed I went to my salary bank, I locked my account for good 7 months to enable me meet up with my marriage plans.

During that period no girl is in my life for marriage but I just want to save up when I meet one , during that period i met my wife and we got married without owing anyone all through the wedding period, we enter our house with debt free, I was driving my own car, living a good apart , my wife don’t need to buy any households stuff because everything has be set for her, like I said I am doing my side hustle..

From there my salary increased but my side hustle/business pay me times ten of my salary.

We are living okay , with two children , and mt kids attend of one the best school where we reside, my wife drive her own car ,

Now, it doesn’t matter how much he/she received has salary because is pensionable, but you can introduce your man a business that will bring more money to the table, also your own support as a wife will also help him a lot, during this period of no work no pay , we are feeding well, living very comfortable, because the Side hustle is keeping us going.

Please, don’t give up on him there is also promotion that will increase his salary over time , you can encourage him to take loan for you start to up something, if where he work they have cooperative, he should join also, he can also buy Corolla for bolt business, neither he give it out for higher purchases or he drive it himself, do you know how much he will be making every week , he can also be paying himself salary from there after working hours, please don’t give up on that young man ,

Angela35:
please don't mind that man that saying am not real he is the reason why all my account in this app is banned. If I post my plight he will report it and they will banned me. He even accuse me of being some one that I don't know

If you are genuine use your real account name , stop opening account, God forbid I needed help here , Nairalanders will gladly assist me, because I will genuinely use my account to ask for Favour , which I know God will not let such to happen, because I prayed to God to make me a giver than a receiver….

samuelpeters:
Not only ASUU.

Universities are on total lockdown.

ASUU,NASU,NAAT,SSANU are all on strike.

If it was only ASUU, some activities would have been going on. Especially to process transcript et al.

Do ASUU process offices documents?
If ASUU isn’t strike nothing will still happen inside the school, because all other bodies are on strike, SSANU, NAAT, NASU, you can only attend lectures, hostels are locked, nobody to clean the lecture rooms, bursary is locked, transcripts unit is locked, library is locked, power house is locked, so tell me how will the school function with just only ASUU?

Who will sign receipt for you after payment?

samuelpeters:
Not only ASUU.

Universities are on total lockdown.

ASUU,NASU,NAAT,SSANU are all on strike.

If it was only ASUU, some activities would have been going on. Especially to process transcript et al.

Did you attend uni?
Do ASUU process transcripts for graduates and undergraduates ?

Do ASUU process offices documents?
If ASUU isn’t strike nothing will still happen inside the school, because all other bodies are on strike, SSANU, NAAT, NASU, you can only attend lectures, hostels are locked, nobody to clean the lecture rooms, bursary is locked, transcripts unit is locked, library is locked, power house is locked, so tell me how will the school function with just only ASUU?

Who will sign receipt for you after payment?

Give me this car 5.3M

Your phone number let negotiate I will buy it tomorrow morning

Call me 08039114062

I might not see your message, just chat me up or call me

I will advise you to run, don’t let love blind your eyes that she will change , when you marry her it will be worst, you can’t travel for a relatives or friends occasion, you can’t go out , speak with neighbors, she will always accuse you that you are a cheat, there will be no peace in your home, everyone will avoid you, please the sign is there now, it’s not love……

Just imagine how this northerns are stealing our money, if not that Buhari that position them in every of our agencies , many urchins here will say doesn’t matter if he appoint all the northerns into govt agency, since they competed, we have see their competed were it has place our economy and security today…

He go reach everyone

Don’t forget to carry your sister along with you

She will testify as a nurse if they are really coded ash……

But many are choosing someone that his hands is shaking

See a future before us

Who pass you done pass accept am

They have hide him in delta state, he isn’t in the right camp in delta state

We know how this federal government agency work, wike the wicked ☝️ one ,

They are just fooling themselves not to be in the bad book of Buhari, they know Buhari has failed us , failed is community, his local government, his state and Nigerians
Between Buhari and Gej who is now a better failure??

If aviation fuel was under subsidy that means airline was also subsiding their prices for us also, from Calabar to Lagos 1:30mins 51,000
Who do us this thing…..


When this govt took over flight tickets was very cheap 18k, 16k

You did a nIce job

Complete your story

Tell Buhari to do the needful, it’s better than never. You guys know what to do but turn a blind eye away, ASUU isn’t labour that you guys have chicken.

Hi

Don’t believe your pastor coming to the alter that him and his wife have never had misunderstandings, neither papa or any of them, you don’t stay with them, I am also a believer(winner’s Chapel) let me not go there focus on your marriage , they will never tell you the truth about what goes on in their home.

They will only preach to us what will want to hear , build your home, your husband is every woman’s dream man.

Even me with not come out and be telling the congregations my wife and I done have issues in our marriage , it will a bad omen to myself as a pastor.

So you believed papa and mama had never quarrel for all the years they have married?

With the money and people coming around them?

Even mama and Bishop Abioye’s wife don’t tag along let me tell you this……

I will stop here……..

I am happy for you

You can check my profile I married in winners Chapel

Anthonyoz:
Don't worry we still remember this

They did not kill them , unlike your security agent that won't have had second thoughts about life .

Stu.pid you still supporting the activities of Ipob we all need to speak out now against them, it might your family members or any relatives you are not staying in the East, don’t support them..

Thanks for the update

omenkaLives:
No one can tell me those vandals aren't affiliated directly or indirectly to PDP.

This, and terrorism, are the weapons they hope would force the hand of Nigerians into doing away with APC. But I've got news for them; come rain come shine, PDP is going NOWHERE close to Aso Rock in 2023, period!!

You just opened Apc ass, so you are saying Apc did the same to sabotage PDP also when they were in power 2015?
Apc sabotaged security also ? To help Apc gain the mind of Nigerians by voting them into power? Make una continue be PDP and APC God will punish you guys for the suffering upon the poor masses

Goal……………
More goals will come in now……..
ATM they will come out now to attack