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KashyBaby:
Lol...see how d way u think? U put everything in one box & that's it,end of the story...
Shine ur eyes, not only church needs volunteer boo...there is red cross, environmental team, women's group against domestic violence to name few...

that's true oh, red cross and environmental groups. Thanks hon. Biko is there men's group against domestic violence? cos it's not appropriate I show my woman wrapper character in a female group. U get?

KashyBaby:
Lol...see how d way u think? U put everything in one box & that's it,end of the story...
Shine ur eyes, not only church needs volunteer boo...there is red cross, environmental team, women's group against domestic violence to name few...

that's true oh, red cross and environmental groups. Thanks hon. Biko is there a men's group against domestic violence? cos it's not appropriate I show my woman wrapper character in a female group.

obinnashady:
Take easy bro....form is temporal but class is permanent..it comes naturally,trust me,u still have that touch.when the right babes comes along,it happens like a flash...u still have it bro

nwannem nwoke. Thanks for that. Maybe ur right. My location makes it all worse as I have to solve my situation amongst scare crows. Maybe a little more patience from me. Thanks. Udo

KashyBaby:
Lol...we myt have different ball games but definitely we have same equation...
I still prefer to be single than keeping my time with another person...
What I usually do during my free time, I go for a non formal classes, I volunteer myself to some organisations that need an extra hand, I travel abroad & lastly I love shopping...
I can't afford to see myself giving up my freedom to anybody yet...so I'm cool with my routine.

guess church activities is an equivalent of ur volunteering experience, just that I don't wanna hear anybody call me "brother eddygourdo". Am a man . Shopping? Feels shameful to consider. Thanks dear.

Nice facts. Though I dispute some

This is not true. It can't be true, not surprising if it's true though. Wow

chocolateme:
Ok, so are you In need of relationship with another self?

don't get ur question dear.

I am suffering the effects of being partially old, out of touch and having a weird personality. I have come to terms with the fact that my system is now tired of meaningless sex and pointless relationships. I remember pointing out this sudden dearth of romantic feelings in me towards having any relationship with new females. I always lose interest, plus I have gotten so bad in the game. I remember when one silly karishika I dumped those days after she slept with my roomate cursed me, that one day I will see women and desire them not plus they will hate me. Well nneka the terrible. It has happened. I have tried fighting it by picking up olosho (which you all know how that ended) and pretending to care about some people but I can't sustain the lie anymore and it's getting depressing.

I realised I have never dated myself, or learnt to be truly alone, since I realised early am a womaniser, I always surrounded myself with them. Today I see a woman, and my mind plays out every possible scenario that could ever happen and I lose interest. I wish now I wasn't as rotten as I was in my early days, I wish there were sexual things I hadn't done a thousand times, so my desire for them will push me towards having more sustained interest.

I have admitted defeat, i have abandoned it all, but I now have alot of spare time on my hands, periods I utilised in chasing skirt and telling lies to them now lies idle, and that idleness is killing me. Am bored. My job na ajebo work and doesn't cover this time. How can I date myself and be content. Since I have accepted defeat, that I have finally lost, my old days are long gone, how can I fill up my spare time. If not for the premier league, I would have died every weekend. I wanna buy a PS maybe that will help, but I need more suggestions from people who have dated or are currently dating themselves. Thanks

I will say something meaningful after you have re-edited your "my husband" written everywhere to its proper designation "our husband"

misspicy:
so what type of women do you find sexually attractive,lemme try my luck

she should not be skinny. Plus many others, my dear I get plenty wahala o, u will dump me before an anniversary

misspicy:
since you are neither gay nor evolving gay then you need to purge your mind from this thoughts

the bible say a man shal leave his parents and cleave his wife(woman) not man



If you allow this gay or male cohabitation people mess up your mind,my dear you will.definately turn homo or bi....

trust me

ok ma. But I can never be a homo, it's impossible. I don't find most women sexually attractive not to talk of a fellow man. Not possible

misspicy:
when you start giving an excuse to change the law of nature then your sexuality should be questioned...

The law of nature says a man and a woman should marry not a man and a man not even if its just for cohabitation alone like your post insinuted



so Mr i am questioning your sexuality and am not gonna condemn you for wanting what you want

Are you gay or evolving gay?

am neither dear, just another opinion, I will explain better on another thread shortly.

MzPecs:
Nwanne but you should accept the fact that your topic is misleading nah..

Why would you wanna think of marrying a man when you're not gay?

the topic is the assertion of the guy in question, not of mine. Nne Di uto

MzPecs:
Hian! Read my post again and this time around, try to comprehend what you read so you don't get me wrong on what I typed!
Note: I'm not a guy!

Cheers!

hahahahahaha nne, it's you who didn't comprehend either the post or my response. After reading my post you inquired if I was gay or relaying a gay experience and in my shock on exactly how u came to such conclusion from a clearly written post which detailed a second person narrative, I responded to you by calling you a guy despite the F attached to your monicker. That response was similar to yours. I questioned your sex even when it's obvious u not a dude, just as you questioned my sexuality when it's obviously a second person narrative.

MzPecs:
OP, are you narrating your gay experience on bbm or you wanna become a gay cos your topic and the content are two different things.
F
If it's the later then you need the Holy Spirit!

hmmmmm, you are a funny guy, calling me a gay is synonymous with calling you a guy, do you see the folly in me and ur statements, by the way if you have ever read any posts of mine you will realise that if am gay, I will say it out loud. And proudly too. Cheers hon

You see I make it a point of duty to warn men who add me on BBM that any mention of homoish things gets one deleted, apparently I have made cool friends from such adds but the one of last night baffled me. Curiosity made me listen and my desire to share his perspective on marriage.

Our discussions went thus, listen bros I am not gay and can never be gay, but I want to marry a fellow man, check out my marriage model.

(1) i live with a male best friend I married and we both go pick up women as each other's wing buddy.

(2) as men we likely to be high income earners therefore we would be better off financially than If we married low earning women.

(3) we hire a maid to take care of the domestic duties and children if either of us have any.

(4) we have better things to talk about eg politics, soccer, women, sex and most especially having the boys come around as needed.

(5) the absence of emotional immaturity which women bring to the table most times will be absent in our marriage, thus a more peaceful and understanding environment as is observed amongst males generally.

(6) we get to have sexual freedom as we make it a priority to not be tied down by faithfulness, as we are both expected to sleep with and chase as many women as possible. ETC

I listened attentively, I ensured I made myself clear that I already have a woman who am OK with her limitations and clearly not available for his madness, but clearly his madness had a little sanity, same sex friendships are more stable and long lasting, most times it is our relation with the opposite sex that destroys our friendships with our buddies, most men have childhood friends dating back 30years and still running strong but you cant show me an opposite sex friendships which runs that long with distance and time not destroying it. This same model works for same sex women too who aren't lesbians but wanna experience a long lasting friendship that comes with freedom to explore and express. Hmmmmm. This sounds like a roommate agreement, this sounds weird, this erodes the foundations of marriage and family. But if he feels it could work for him and whoever he could convince. Then WHO AM I TO JUDGE.

cocoduck:
IBeto cement that your brother OBJ renderd useless or what? I need things like River port in that very Onicha, or good federal roads there, don't tell me Innsosn because the founder is a Biafran, where is Dangote the so called black richest man, he owns many things all over tyhe planet but cannot boast of a mud hut in the east, we because he understands wetin dey, that is what the useless igbo zooans do not.

you have mentioned the solution to the igbo problem and also highlighted why violence should be far from igbo minds, we have everything to lose and they have little to lose in event if a war. Or break down of peace and order.

vladimiros:
The police is killing armless Youths, you are here speaking nonsense

when those youths now carry arms you will start shouting

because in this day an age, violent protests are not a solution to anything, protests can bring a change to an event, but never will it create a new country. Referendums and peaceful discussions at international level creates a country. My Piece

I blame every previous and present government of Nigeria for creating idleness in our youths, I blame the youths of this generation for taking up idleness in comfort, I blame mobile and smart phones with cheap data for making idleness seem attractive, I blame the Nigerian government for not using better techniques to shut down an illegal radio with hate messages and finally I blame the devil for using igbo minds as his workshop as well as a short, shallow memory. That has forgotten the past
The rise in violence at ipob rallies as evidenced on some threads has finally proven that the end is nigh for this ill timed struggle. I personally have seen violence, seen death, death in thousands of imaginative ways, experienced that feeling of a war torn people, went hungry for weeks while the dead littered, and as soon I my legs could carry me, I ran from violence. Chinua achebe of blessed memory used his book there was a country, to re-highlight on the social ills facing the country as well as the constant marginalisation and I'll treatment of the Igbos which occurred pre- civil war, during the war and post civil war. Shame the world never learned from it nor gave it it's true interpretation as a catalyst for change in this nation. Yet they ignored the interpretations of nnamdi kanu and his ipob group.
I say the end has come for ipob because when the shit hits the fan, their blood will fill up our roads and pics of their starving children will fill up the Internet with tears and pleas of genocide, yet the Igbos do not realise that today we are stirring the hornets nest, we aren't violent people, we love to travel and establish is far away cities in hope for business opportunities, idleness thanks to the current economic downturns, lost jobs, dis enfranchisement from the current political scheme of things have all helped to fuel an agenda the Igbos abandoned as a plausible solution for more that 35 years.

I believed and hoped that it will never come to this point, that point that Highlighted the flaw observed in the coup of 1966, where a noble cause was implemented with a fatal omission, thus creating an ethnic divide in its consequences which resulted in the pogroms and the war is currently being missed again by the ipob. NOBODY HAS THE MONOPOLY TO VIOLENCE OF ACTION OR REACTION. And most importantly HE WHO LIVE IN GLASS HOUSES NEVER THROWS STONES. The aftermath of the coup brought not just igbo deaths, yorubas and other minorities were killed as well in great numbers, the second pogrom targeted mainly the Igbos and later all other tribes joined hands to either fight the war or sabotage Biafran war efforts. I think the current forgetfulness of my people on the effects and sufferings of that war was the NO VICTOR NO VANQUISHED declaration which makes us forget we actually lost the war and begged the world for an end to it.

Every region has rights to desire a seccesion at any period PEACEFULLY, look at the Scottish case, no war or violence or protest has done the trick, look at the catalan case and same is observed. To assume and threaten the nation of violence in the ojukwu style (there was actually no bullet, yet he declared we had arms to defeat africa) is an outdated approach and I doubt other regions or Nigeria will fold their hands and Watch any hair drop from their people, properties or force unit.

The Igbos who have thousands of properties, people and businesses scattered around the nation can have the idiocy of setting a mosque on fire or trucks belonging to aturu awusa dangote, but they forget there is next to nothing investment by other tribes in igbo land and the population of other tribes in igbo land is infinitesimal. Yet we assume that if violence became the order of the day, that we will have the upper hand. Yet you all have no bullets in ur homes in preparation for war, nor do you have any grain in your barn. I really feel dissapointed

This thread is meant to hopefully desensitise the igbo youth that violence will never be a solution to our agitation, that we Igbos are a resourceful people and thus should use our brains and stop acting like the follow follow aturu awusa people we mock and call ndi iberibe, stop the protests so you don't incurr the might of the FEDERAL GOVERNMENT OF NIGERIA, that might will include

Long jail term for nnamdi kanu
State of emergency in affected states
Federal troops deplored with long curfews
Shoot at sight order on unruly elements
Rape and molestation of our people by soldiers
Shame of submission after all bravado and bradadiscio

And after every every humiliation has been meted out, we still live in the zoo with greater marginalisation and political irrelevance cos of another failed attempt. A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE.

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misspicy:
I like the way you tell your story OP....

thanks hon

halfrica:
Oga m d principal u av ur teachers ready to teach u

I only supervise d teachin

ok ma. #burstmybubbles

halfrica:
Nigga nigga my nigga hope u collect ur change


The babe na scammer as she talke say she get bead for yansh u sef suppose tell her say u b sucide bomber nd monitoring spirit


Come nd meet me for lessons

baby boo abeg teach me. So I stop disgracing mankind. Hope the lectures is theoretical with a hands on approach

Yeah, yeah, it's true. My passport should be in every dictionary's description of a hypocrite so you see what one looks like. I remember opening a thread here "my first and last experience with a dirty olosho" with the intention of that experience being my last, well I did it again yesterday, osun state is very boring plus I was sad and kinda mourning a loss. Anyway a friend had mentioned that some of these women stayed somewhere at oshogbo and for long I pretended not to hear, but once he left my side, I jumped into my jalopy and sped off into the night to just admire o. I swear I didn't wanna pick any oh. I just wanted to do something wild to soothe my pains. I entered one popular joint at station hotel and drank four bottles, which would be enough to make me tipsy but still able to drive. Then I went to the venue, wow, there were plenty of them. I admired and admired, then the devil entered, her one bom was as big as my car boot, the combined bom bom was like my car, I hurried to her before there was any competition and sooner than you know it, we were in the jalopy speeding to my house. This time around I hoped she would not do anything irritating but I observed that as the alcohol was clearing from my eyes, so was the complexion of the girl. It wasn't as yellow all round as I thought. Since the night was still early I decided to turn on the generator, I felt I would need fan in order to handle that booty properly. I told her to UnCloth while I switch on the generator, Note that I also locked my toilet to ensure there will be no repeat of the last episode. On getting back to my room all charged up at full mast, I met a shocker, yes I agree the 'real' ass was big quite alright, but why did her tights/pant come with padded added foam. This girl scammed me with that thing women wear nowadays, the stretch marks on her bleached rainbow coloured body was an eyesore to behold. I looked at her, I remembered my hard earned money I will loose, I decided I must do it even if she likes she can turn to karishika , I just can't fall mugu again. I turned her around in order to catch a glimpse of exactly what I am paying for, when I saw the waist bead. I asked her to pull it and she refused, she said it's for protection, I asked her against whom, all these while my flag was still at full mast, the moment she mentioned that in her cele church she was given that waist bead as protection before she sleeps with anybody, my flag went to ground zero. I watched her drink my cereal, smoke a joint, smoke a cigarette, threaten me that I will see shege if I assume that because I don't want to do again that means i wont pay, listen to how she claimed to have slept with Ramsey nouah etc. I accused her of scamming me with a fake yansh and she asked to see the yansh of my gf. Dat I must be stupid to think a yansh like she showed was real, I didn't sleep till morning as I kept watch over her since she refused to sleep too. Because am not sure if it was only a waist bead her cele church gave her, maybe she was given a knife too or shaving stick. I don't have anything against cele people but a yoruba friend of mine avoids them like a plague. I figured that if a man who understands their language and dumb ways avoids them, why mustn't I do same, well at the second try, I picked up a lady, paid her and did nothing till morning. I am just too cowardly to be this type of man.

I give up

MRBrownJ:
dont let pity cloud your judgment... if she was useless to you before her father died, then she should continue be just that now. trying to be with her again because her father died is a waste of time, because guess what?! she is still the same fukced up person you cant stand.
send your condolences and wish her a quick recovery.

btw does your above reply means that this story is about YOU?! lol

if you have ever come across my threads you will realise that if it's me, I will simply say so. There is no shame in admission. But it's the story of a fella who is very popular here apparently on nairaland. But won't share this via his account

Still getting opinions though, at least from what I have read so far it appears alot of u agree with me on meeting her physically rather than through the phone, though you lot are divided on whether the relationship is still worth fighting for, the men are emphasising he isn't a mind reader and could not have known, while the ladies and some men are regarding him a cheating partner who didn't care to be aa better partner. Will await more opinions as that determines if truly his intention at trying to salvage the relationship is worthwhile. Hearty thanks to the contributors, you are great, lalasticlala need more insight. Thanks

It's most painful that after these nice pictures which took alot of thought to Acheive, one would start wondering what happened to their thought process after a couple of years and you were called in to separate and settle the boxing match between the half unclad man in his towel and the woman on her wrapper. Maybe because am no romantic, I just don't see what the fuss is all about with wedding photos

On my BBM, I get alot of adds by men and women who have issues to talk about and need either a listening ear or good advice, I do this as my way of contributing to people's lives though I face many challenges of my own without anybody to speak to, which I find terrible. Anyway, yesterday was a terrible day for me cos a person died, and distance can't make me reach out to the person I care about for comfort, nevertheless I still will do my duty as a big ear and confidant. The issue now is that am not really myself today and can't really think properly, so instead of giving wrong advise, I preferred to bring it here and hopefully get other opinions.

A young man on this forum mailed me on an issue he is currently going through and confused about. Apparently he has been dating his fiance for awhile but recently she had to give up her Job to tend to her ailing father. Since she moved back home, the relationship has strained a bit, with quarrels and disagreements occurring more frequently, thus he said they quarrelled on Tuesday last week and didn't call one another all through till on Thursday evening when she called repetitedly where upon realising he wasn't picking up she decided to text him, informing him to come to Abuja immediately to see her cos something was wrong (she didn't specify Wat exactly) . the young man confided in me that he could have gone but apparently he had another lady over at home (his fiance ex-colleague), they been sleeping together as it were for awhile. Since he didn't respond to the text nor return the call, she sent him a message telling him they should take a break from the relationship, he responded in kind telling her how fed up he was with her sometimes overbearing attitude and being a control freak. He felt he had to respond like that being that it was unfair for her to order he came to Abuja without first inquiring about his availability, this he felt, tilll he got a text from her younger sister thanking him for waiting for their father to die and then breaking up with her sister on the same day. He was shocked at that news as she never mentioned that. He never realised her abrupt call to him was a reach out for emotional comfort because her father just gave up the ghost, he has tried calling her all to no avail, her mum has told him to stay away from her daughter since he could be so wicked and callous to end the relationship the same day her father died. He has tried to explain but nobody seems to listen, he needs advice on how to go about getting her back, cos her sorrow has reminded him how much he loved her.

I told him to travel physically as things are more difficult to handle over the phone, I believe that situation might be unsalvageable, but hey am not thinking straight. So Wat do u think I should tell him.

chaseTE:
Empty promises like the one we are witnessing now. You indirectly took a swipe at the President and it seems you made this thread to mock PMB. Be careful.

read in between the lines and you will understand better the intention of this thread

ndcide:
Are you from Lagos state? Or do you stay in Lagos state.

Also you are oblivious of what shapes voting in elections. Sorry to say, you may never be able to effect any other changes.

I am from anambra state, but stay in lagos why do u ask.
Maybe it's possible the other changes promises might be difficult to come by, the economic situation of the country is dire, our overdependence on oil revenue as a major forex has destroyed us and clearly the solution to that problem transcends us all. These are lean times for the government and thus it might be difficult to achieve other changes promised, that is why I said in my post that at least the change spirit has been awoken in us and thus we would demand that from any other government, we are more active now in politics at federal level since apc became a national party thus increases competition. We shall get there

francizy:
OP even if Buhari contested against the whole boko haram crew, I'd not vote Buhari.. I'd rather not vote at all because I don't see any difference between both candidates (after all, he said that a fight against boko haram was injustice to the north)..

I have no special love for any Nigerian leader because I am on the same page with you with respect to them being the same, but even amongst draw soup, okra and ogbono taste different. I support the change that created competition in Nigerian politics, if it continues this way without giving room for monopoly ever again by any party, we may one say have a democracy similar to the American democracy where ideas and strategies wins elections not stomach infrastructure and empty promises

TrueSenator:
Did anyone try to take that away from you? Learn to engage your brain before you open your mouth especially in writing. This is not Premier league where you can say Gunners for life.........this is shaping the Nigerian Future for your children. If you obviously think PMB is the man then it will be your total number of votes versus the opposition votes..... this is the beauty of democracy.

As for me.. ..........I need to get a PDP registration form fast before it runs out of stock PDP please forgive US


TrueSenator has SPOKEN

if I assume you are a youth and I also ever hear again that the future belongs to the youth, then logically and categorically I can say the future is bleak and has gone to the dogs if it's dependent on youths such as you.