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Walk:
What then happens to the ladies you deflowered? Another man should bear the burnt right? But you can't bear the burnt of another man.

My dear, what goes around, comes around.

I'm gonna mirror you by answering this question.

Nobody forced her to open her legs

ehmmy11:
10-15 is even considered okay these days .my friend dated my lodge mate back in school this girl said she slept with 23 guys as at then each of them more than once do the maths.. This same girl performed an abortion in her room when the pains and stomach aches got unbearable we had to rush her to the health center where we were made to know she did an abortion at a late stage she was so traumatized by the incident anytime she remembers. She be like she still sees the face of her son as she flushes him down the toilet... If you see this girl ehn fair skin and so beautiful.. Wat a pity

Why do we men like to lower our standards. Are we so scared of being alone that 10 now sounds like a good number. It's a pity.

With a body count of 3 these women have likely lost the ability to pair-bond. Some have lost the ability to love truly.

We need to realise that we are the prize and stop condoning sluts and bringing them into our homes and leave them for the streets to practice


Big ups to the self-respecting ladies out there.

This is why I always advise guys to have friends (I do not use this term lightly) that are strong willed, have self respect, trustworthy, smart and opinionated. You guys can openly discuss business and relationship issue openly.

No 'good friend' will advise you to take relationship with this type of lady seriously. Ladies like thess are good for sexual exploration or what I like to call pumping and dumping. They are not even good to have as business partners (unless you're a love-vendor of course)

Enjoy your time with her and dump her when you're bored or better still just leave her alone.


That being said I'm looking for 'good friends' to hang out with. I'm in rivers State.

jelraj:
If you've never disvirgined any girl. You deserve a virgin whether a non virgin or not. Men wise up, stop saving these hoes. Don't fall for that "DON'T JUDGE ME BY MY PAST" nonsense all na scam

Don't be someones retirement plan.

Please give this nigga a bottle of redwine

Humanoid01:
That is why many of you are devalued by men. When you get treated like trash, you go on social media and start wailing about how some guy used and dumped you. What exactly would it cost you if you decided to make that wealth by yourself?

Why are you still talking to her. She's the poster girl for the hoes we should men should.

Samuelxxx:
A good girl body count is like 10 you see 12 you no thank god �just dey pray say na 12 sef

10 is good? Well, different strokes

NockMedia:
C'mon man, it doesn't work that way. We both know that ladies are the weaker sex. You're not only at a risk of severely hurting her but you also stand the chance of getting locked up. Regardless of whoever started the drama.

Dude women are not as weak as you think they are. They give birth so clearly they can handle pain. Infact I've read a scientific article that suggests that women have a higher threshold for pain

efeteb:
If you can see this, you really missed the point of her altitude then. She really liked you but immaturity on your part made you to miss the pointers.

1. She expected you to be bold to tell her what you want in verbatim but you where busy jumping around her, her only response is frustration which is shown in different form, she choosed rudeness to you which is a normal.

2. She brought you to her group out of naivety, to sample their opinion. Bashing you was done to save her face, if you are not accepted by the group.

3. Bringing you to her group was also to let your sister know she is on your matter. Since a girl can be toasted by many boys, but she only discuss the one she is interested in extensively.

4. I can see genuine love from her. Since after the sex, she has been showing you so much love. This is because you finally behaved as a man by meeting her expectations.

5. Treating her with hatred still goes to show that immaturity is still in you that made her despise you earlier. When you fight for something, WINNING your WARS, should compensate for the battle you lost. Her former behavior were you battles on this war.

6. You can be older in age than her, but that is different from maturity. A smart 16yrs old girl, has the maturity of a 24yrs old boy. Women always respect maturity.

7. I can tell from your story so far that you still liked her. Marrying her is not a mistake since you are the problem here. Holistically look at my points and see. These are some of the story you will share in your marriage later. There are still more that can be deduce from your story but let me stop here.

8. Finally, judging people with their past when the present is better is wickedness. If your employer choose to pay you with your primary or secondary school certificate when you have a BSc is that not witchcraft. That is what you are doing.

Show Maturity before you go into marriage. In marriage there will always be conflict of interest but maturity is what makes your conclusions okay for everyone.

She didn't do anything to you. Be matured

It all sounds like victim-blaming

In point 2 you called her naive but somehow on point 1 she knew what she wanted. She's naive but according to you she knew to look for 'maturity' in point 5

Point 4 suggest that her love for him is based on him meeting her expectations. That's a dynamic no man should be comfortable with

For point number 8. The past is all he really has to judge her. The problem is not her misdeeds but the personality of the person that committed it. The example you gave is moot because a certificate is proof of the existence of something but op is clearly not convinced of the existence of her sudden change.

Besides, if she was right, why did she feel the need to beg him.

Angelinastto:
Only you can take this decision. All the group chat issh is normal stuff among ladies, your sister is also guilty. She was just doing shakara and at a point it got to her head. It's took her awhile to know what she wanted.
Come to think of it, the shame is not only yours. It's a shame she's ending up with a guy she has made fun of and embarrassed in public. Meaning, you're the best available guy after all.
It's a win win situation dear, in between, do not marry for anything but love.
All the best!

Just so you know

"you're the best available guy after all"
Translation: I'm done hoeing around and I've decided to choose you

"It's a win win situation"
Translation: count yourself lucky to be chosen

The group chat issh is common but NOT NORMAL. Even if it were 'normal'. It is unacceptable.

Lucrativress:
Nah
What stops the guy from shining his eyes well and going for a better Lady,instead of succumbing to being just a Baby Daddy
That's himself to blame

Classic Victim blaming

kazyhm:
There is an exception to this school of thought


There are girls that school/career make them marry late........imagine you marrying a practicing doctor, lawyer, pharmacist, engineer at 25 ?

Trust me, there exceptions are only a handful

mdan:
There's sense in what you said.
But I think guys should try searching early enough for a girl before making it eventually, cause you can't say you didn't search and they didn't approach you, makes them a hoe automatically. If you have this mindset that until you're really made till you can find a good girl who's less than 26 or thereabouts you gonna get played big time.

Classic female response.
This is why guys should take words of women lightly. They never understand the struggles of the male folk.
No Offence to you. I'm just tryna make a point

baiaon:
When you first met her,she was in the age bracket of 22 to 23years old.She must have had alot of suitors and options.Hence her nasty attitude towards you because you weren't her spec.Fast forward 3 years and the suitors and options have dried up hence her desire to get married as soon as possible to any available option that's why you see her cooking,sweeping and other bullshit that easily impresses Nigerian men
If you eventually marry her,she will change back to her nasty attitude when you first met her.Classic bait and switch

GBAM!!!

Clearly you don't have real guy friends that you trust and can advise you appropriately.

If I were your friend I'd give you a dirty slap and tell you to snap out of it.

First of all you're considering a serious relationship with someone and you're dating two ladies. You can't even commit to one woman ( I'm not judging. It's just something to think about)

Most importantly, that girl has no respect for you whatsoever. No man should ever commit to a woman dat disrespects him whether she is in a bad mood or not. She didn't even spare your sister's (her friend) feelings when she posted those nasty things online.

Don't even make excuses for her at all. At 23 she is no longer a child.

You can keep enjoying the juicy hole. This could be an opportunity to explore all your sexual fantasies.

But I beg you. I'm on my knees ,DO NOT MARRY HER EVER

The reason lies in the inherent nature of man and their attraction to femininity.

Let me try to paint a picture for you.

Daddy comes home tired from work he is welcomed by the house girl who walks up to him, greets him and maybe takes his suitcase while his wife sits in the sitting room and says "honey welcome" while still watching tele-mundo

Then daddy joins mummy in the sitting room they discuss briefly

Then the house girl walks up to him and says "come and have a bath the water is ready" then he walks behind her with a view of that ass till she turns into the kitchen while he continues to the shower.

Then he gets out of the shower gets into something more comfy and then joins mummy in the sitting room again where they discuss briefly.

Then the house girl comes again and says "sir, the food ready" then he walks behind her again till she turns towards the kitchen to finish up whatever she is doing.

When he is done eating, the house girl walks to the table bends over to clear up the dishes while daddy gets a glimpse of those young tits. She turns around and walks away.

He then says "ekaete! bring me a bottle of beer from the fridge" and she says "yes sir"

***********
If you read through you'll notice that

he has more effective contact with the house girl than his wife

He has a more screen time with the maids body than his wife's within that period

He feels more love and affection from the maid.

He feels more respect from the maid than he does his wife in that short time.

These make daddy attracted to Ekaete and Despite the fact that Ekaete is a village girl and probably doesn't smell so good, daddy will at some point start having raging boners anytime he's with her.

The rest is history.

Danielfx:
What i observe from this thread is amusing...

OP you are broke and frustrated, that's the reason you consider a lady asking you for 1k as a broke girl....

When some of us talk about broke girls, we don't actually mean girls that ask for 1k or 5k or ask for money once in a while. We actually refer to ladies that are financially irresponsible, like asking for money at all times and for most times on elements which are inconsiderate. More like, asking for 100k to fix hair when she has no money or even asking for money all the time.... A lady that ask you for money and once in a while is a good lady, learn to appreciate women. If you can't foot her bills, then opt for ashawo, they are cheaper.. Do you think she gets sanitary pads for free ?, Do you think she steals pants or work in mtn office ?...

You have to stop acting up. My friend that just executed a project changed his girlfriend phone for over 70k ( even though he had 200k then in his account), changed the old one he bought her three months back. He took her shopping along side with i and my girlfriend. That is common sense and maturity. I even blame the ladies that agree to go into relationship with a mentally retarded guys...


2) You are a thief..... You are looking for someone to respect and love you and you're not ready to earn it. Treat your woman right so that you can present her to homies around. You see a good looking well dressed lady outside and you admire her and wish you have her, a girl that another man is branding. Go and make your lady everyman's desire kind of person. There is a way you act, a lady will find it hard to leave you even if she catches you cheating.... Maturity is needed in a relationship. I will create a thread and use your thread as a reference.

Are you paying attention at all.

ITS NOT ABOUT THE MONEY.

Please read beyond the words.

luminouz:
All the men? Where y'all get this generalisation baffles me!!!

The best part of your post is 'its good to be nice but don't overdo it'. The rest sounds like something a naija female is known for. Women from other African countries can't be this bad biko

The part that made me laugh was where she wrote ''make him pay'' as if most men don't pay
the bills most of the time.

rockstarB:
Firstly, you dont have to be insultive to drive home your point If a woman isnt doing a broke guy a favour by marrying or dating him then what is your problem with a woman wanting to be with a rich man? Since she isnt doing a rich man a favour too there is liberty to be with whoever you choose to be with, it is not a criminal offence to want to be with a rich man.
I didnt read the original post BTW, there are gold digging women as much as gold digging men. There are good women and men as well, good things are not easy to come by.

Ok o

vestyne:
Greetings to all,

Please where can one get affordable and reliable foreign used laptop/s in Portharcourt and Akwa Ibom?

Hello,
I'm also in need of this. Any leads?

Sammarshall:


Are you sure you’re normal sir?

I’m just asking for my neighbors gateman!

Still not making any sense

Lucrativress:
few abi
Be sincere with yourself
where did you find them to?
Instagram or Twitter or trendy fashion.com
There are numerous Wife materialistic ladies out there, keep deceiving yourself they're very few, you'll keep coming across your type.
If you hoe around you'll surely come across your type, if you found otherwise, dude you were just lucky
Maybe when you decide to be a better person you'll restrategize in the way you're searching and see the many good ladies out there
Then guys Biko keep going ahead sleeping around, plunging the Lady deep into what you already call them, Oga you've just been a part of the deed, you won't find better
Your old age would be one of loneliness and just friendship, nothing like a soul mate, when you die an hour might pass before your lonely body is noticed cause you have no companion to notice the exact time frame your weak sorry lonely heart stopped beeping
In your old age, you'll miss having someone to nag you and chatter with all the time, then you'll wish to have your kids or Grandkids around you but guess what!
They have their lives to live
You'll wish you allowed a woman to join in the pleasure of being with just you for the rest of her life

Haunty relax.
Do you think men don't know the difference between a decent girl and a hoe. Do you think men don't know what to look for in a woman.

If you're paying attention you'd realise that these guys are just retaliating to issues like immorality, manipulation, entitlement, loss of the femininity, hypergamy, gold digging, etc. that has plagued women in today's world. If any of these guys meet a woman that is GENUINELY worth their while, a woman that is supportive and isn't selfish and love whole heartedly without looking for some profit, open and doesn't play mind games I bet at least 70 percent wouldn't mind marrying her. A lot of ladies have lost that feminine energy that make them desirable.

For instance, look at your write up. There is no feminine energy in it at all. I remember growing up as a kid. My dad could get so angry (even when he was clearly wrong)and the whole house would turn cold. It always amazed me how my mum would just step in and make it all better without even raising her voice (sometimes all it took was just a loving touch)

But ladies today..... Hmmmm

This is a thread where guys can openly express themselves to fellow men who'd understand. A wise woman would observe, take notes and maybe try not to take their words at face value and understand the subtle nature of their pain


NOTE
I do not mean any harm neither am I here to argue. Please don't take offense by anything I have said.
If all I wrote made no sense to you please feel free to not reply
Thank you ma'am

Lucrativress:
Just say you're scared of shouldering responsibilities and let us hear word
You'll go about finding slay Mama's and leave the morally upright ladies then come and start shouting and complaining online that ladies are bla bla
Old age would look good on you
Continue like this
Scared men.
Moral ladies =boring to most of you
Our parent's are presently breeding chickened specie of guys now
Ladies are now taking more responsibilities

Classic feminine manipulation

NeeKlaus:
Smh.
And so? How many guys are you ignoring on your Whatsapp currently? Go and reply all of them first before we can talk about that "guy".

They can dish it out but can't take it

MoodyQueen:
Well it isn't a crime to marry for money.
I'm sure your mother, a woman, will agree.

Nincompoop.

That's uncalled-for

HomerTimpson:
YU'LL gonna be repeat your dads mistakes? yu'll should redefine your priorities abt marriage for your children & society sake pls

We're out here tryna make sure our sons don't fall for the same old sh*t our dads did

donbachi:
They can stop,if only the women to cheat with.will start saying NO to them.yes,women should start looking out for their fellow..tell him to go and take care of his wife,for she's a woman like u.

Women can't help it they're naturally attracted to 'shiny-things'. That's why Yahoo boys never run out of pant supply

pocohantas:
And for ladies reading this, if you really desire marriage- BY ALL MEANS GO FOR IT.

I have men who said they are not interested in dating, they want courtship and marriage. 6mth-1yr. No one called it DESPERATION.

Men cannot be DESPERATE,
They only know what they want.

When it is a woman, it becomes DESPERATION.

If you want to marry in record time, leave guys in their 20s. Go straight to 33 and above. Trust me, their “DESPERATION“ would match yours.

I have friends, guys in their 30s with good jobs and one thing is common- THEY ALL WANT TO GET MARRIED.

One would even tell me “I am desperate. If I see a perfect one, I am marrying”. I will tell him I can’t see the desperation, he will tell me to shun.

Some girls are lucky to meet men at this point, so they don’t have to be DESPERATE. You will see that same guy who dated his EX for 6yrs, get married to another lady in 3months.

Once again, if you desire marriage in record time, follow your heart and go for it.

These same guys will call you evening newspaper when you are 30.

There is nothing wrong with being VERY-pro marriage. Let no one blackmail you into running his model all because he is NOT ready. You don’t want to meet a man who is VERY ready, when you are not ready as a woman.

Go for what you want!

Summary
We (women) don't care about the struggles of men to get to the point were marriage becomes a priority.
Just be ready when we are

Welcome to a woman's mind

Sammarshall:
Is very obvious that your reasoning is very myopic, so because you a girl has another guy she’s having sex with, that’s why you think she’s a public dog.

I laugh in Chinese style, that means your sisters and all the women you know or have in your life are public toilets, because is very easy for a girl to have more than one man in their lives just like men do.

But men that sleep around with different women even though they have a girlfriend what are they called?

I don’t like engaging people like you in a chat, please don’t quote me again.

Continue deceiving yourself::::::

For the simps out there who don't believe

Ladies and gentlemen. I present to you a typical Nigerian woman mentality

She's not making sense again. She more focused on being right

May God epp us

This is really cool.

emmaodet:
The way some of you think, it's really a grate concern for the wellbeing of this nation.Someone deceives him with virginity and you are here saying if he is a virgin himself, whatever happens to coming clean and telling the guy from the beginning that am not a virgin.Why do you people like condoning deceits and manipulations.
How will she feel if the same man deceived her into marriage with fake lives like a borrowed car, using uncle's apartment etc as his own while the girl later gets to know.
I am sorry but with this mindset, i guess the future of nigeria is bleak.

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Dear poster,
Your anger and confusion are not misplaced.
It is not uncommon for we ladies to decieve men in this way.

A stunt like this makes a man question the relationship, her loyalty and even her psyche.

The reason this trick works is because they know that most men are not ready to do what it takes to divorce the woman usually because of religious reasons or some "Africa induced' stigma.

The way I see it there are two options

1. Remain in the marriage and HOPE she is the person you THINK she is even if your trust in her is and love for her has dropped significantly or....

2. Annul the marriage, deal with the 'consequences' and move on as a wiser person.

It's up to you.

I hope your story is not real. Because this is not something I'd wish for any responsible guy

uchman:
50% of girls lied to their husband to be about their viginity whenever they observed that the man is serious about the marrying them...

Isn't that deception?
You're saying 50% of girls decieve men into marriage.
So you're saying he should stick with with a representative of 50% of the deceptive population when there is a 50% population of sincere women out there.