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Ok we have heard.

psalms37:
Madam, nobody is perfect and I don't think a divorce is the answer as every relationship has its own challenge. Having said that I have a few observations from your write up and maybe some suggestions too.
1. I don't think your husband is heartless, rather I believe you've been using emotional blackmail (crying, silent treatment etc) in the past and he has decided to become numb to it. See ehn, men can be funny at times, they can decide to teach their partner a lesson and do things to hurt that person even sometimes hurting themselves or doing what they aren't proud of in the process. This COULD be the situation in your case and h just wants you to let off his case a bit.
2. Have you considered thinking about things from his own stand? He may have his reasons for not agreeing to your mum of his coming over. I think you should stop talking about it completely and make arrangements suitable for your baby, you could hire mature nanny who'd come to the house to care for baby while you're at work. That way baby gets her full sleep and since he doesn't mind paying then I think it's perfect.
3. You need to have a talk with yourself and decide to be the woman he fell in love with. Decide to love him and love him even when he gives you attitude, seduce him is he not your husband. I believe he'll come around
4. You have to let him know physical abuse is unacceptable and you would not hesitate to involve the police if he lays a finger on you, love and being married doesn't turn one stupid, thankfully, you live in a sane clime so if he ever touches you again in violence, sistership, call the police and let him cool his anger in the cell. You also get angry at times and don't hit him so why should he feel free to do that to you. Take a stand on it and ensure you do the needful if he doesn't live up to his word.
5. Finally about the native doctor, there may be nothing you can do about this o except to keep praying for him and working on yourself. You could think about some of the suggestions above, pick up a few of them and act on it wait for awhile to observe his behavior to your new self then have a heeart-heart conversation with him to talk about your marriage and your concern s about his penchant for native things.
Being married for 6years in the abroad is no joke and you are a survivor but we are all works in progress and can certainly do with external help from time to time.

Nne you deserve a cool chilled Moet. You sound like a well drilled Christian woman with experience and a level head. Kudos!

Vevejoy:
We've been having alot of sex. �

Na im una still dey quarrel? Lol. Ok this time, you guys should change position, if you were doing doggy, change to missionary, any position to make both you be looking each other in the eyes, then do a lot of kissing.

Move from a lot of sex to more love making. Lol....you never can tell...It does magic.

By the way, you can also speak in tongues when the conjugal position is assumed and there is interlocking of the genital tools of pleasure generation. Lol.

I think you guys are just going through a phase in marriage which is perfectly normal and most marriages do experience such upheavals too, nothing too serious and I encourage you to not make an industry out of it. You know men can be like little kids sometimes. We lose attention too fast and somehow develop what I may term 'buyer's remorse'. But remain steadfast and conquer him with love, he will come round. For the fact you guys are still having great sex, then chill, na shakara season. You guys will be fine. I am speaking from over 16 years experience by the way.

And his use of Native doctors? please don't judge him and stop reporting him to his mum on that. Look at it this way, it could have been him depending on his Pastor for spiritual guidance. Find a way to play along with him to even understand the dynamics of his belief in the thing, if he finds you to be that genuinely interested and non judgmental, then he will begin to trust you more and only then can you have a reasonable chance of gradually talking him out if. I wish you all the best. It's not that bad and like a lot of people have advised, learn to have a calm disposition and reduce your own internal stress level, all will be well. Life is not that serious and I think your man is still 100% in love with you and committed to you, the issues notwithstanding. He is tactfully sending you a message which if printed should read something like "You can no longer always have your way with nagging, tantrums, begging, crying, shouting or other forms of emotional abuse/manipulation". Stop and reassess your engagement style. Learn to let him have his way as the head of the home and after a while he will get tired of it and trust me, you will still ultimately be in charge.

The woman is designed to be the weaker vessel, but do you know that her strength is actually manifested in the same weakness. You are wise. Keep your home together. It's in your hands and I believe that's what you are driving at, the reason you made this post. You will succeed.

Papa will indeed rest in peace. He died a legend, doing same thing for 4 score years. He died doing what he loves most and wishes to be remembered for. At 80 what else is there for him to live for?

Adieu Baba! Papa was indeed a rolling stone. Keep firing in the yonder if them kpekus be presented. Nothing do you. African Legend.

Just shut up and stop saying nonsense.

FalseProphet1:
I see a second wave of this virus but it won't be very deadly. But the government will try to make it look deadly like the first wave so that they can cash out from it. This I have seen.

I am just here to follow the story. I wish you happy conflict resolution though. Don't worry, be patient and follow him up but please don't give him the impression that you are desperate.

Lucky man. Got two for the price of one.

I think you should have a very frank discussion with him. Tell him you are not available for the love triangle. He should make a decision what he wants and when he's done, he should communicate that to you.

But in the meantime, you should stay away from him both physically and virtually. Stop chatting with him until he takes a definite stand on what he wants to do and who he wants to be with.

You are too young and innocent for these complexities.

Deathissweet:
Please I want to know what exactly motivate this people to start bringing up innocent children to come and suffer. I think this is what the government should regulate (giving birth ) not social media.

They are simply irresponsible and then they have people like you, who they can emotionally blackmail and get you to be funding their idiotic habits. Say no to such nonsense. Stop giving money to such laggards and be financially responsible yourself, plan for your own future and the future of your own family. The idiot sees you and he thinks he has hit a gold mine. You have all these good life and yet you are single so he is helping you put your money to use in financing his habits.

Be careful with such people, he could get desperate for your money and arrange for your assassination or kidnap, just to get a bigger share of it. Stop allowing him into your house or your car and don't ever bring him close enough to know about your financial dealings. A word is enough for the wise.

It is godly and good to be kind and benevolent but not to be unwise and naïve. Stop indulging him today, he is already getting entitled to your funds.

AlexReports:
NSCDC Intensify Protection Of Farmers And Farmlands, As Nigerians Seek More Funding For Security Agency


In line with the killings and recent Massacre of over 40 rice farmers in Garin Kwashebe, Jere Local Government Area in Borno State on Saturday, by suspected Boko Haram terrorists, one would be forced to wonder what the Nigeria Military is doing to protect lives and properties, especially with the huge funds consistently provided to fight insurgency and insecurity in the Country.

The Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps-NSCDC, has therefore made a huge step in managing the problems by supporting the protection of Farmers and their farmlands in Communities in Borno state. The Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps-NSCDC commenced the operation of protection Farmers and Farmlands about two years ago in a bid to stymie the incessant killings and attacks on Farmers and Farmlands in Borno state, though might be limited as the fight against insurgency may require several sensitive approaches.

In a remark by one of the Farmers in Jere LGA, name withheld, he stated that the new operations by NSCDC to provide security for farmers in their farmlands was indeed commendable. He however called on Federal Government to support the operations through funding and other relevant necessities, so as to encourage the Initiative.

Another angered Farmer who also spoke with our Reporter, however used the medium to call on the Nigeria Army and other military agencies to emulate such innovative security friendly Initiatives and approach developed by NSCDC. He however called on more funding for NSCDC, under the leadership of Commandant General Abdullahi Muhammed Gana, as it appears that they are underfunded, though working proactively to improve the security of lives and properties in Nigeria.

The current Commandant General of NSCDC, Abdullahi Gana Mohammadu however charged his men to give their all for their country and assuring them that history will not forget their selfless service they gave to their mother land.

https://www.statepress.ng/2020/11/nscdc-intensify-protection-of-farmers.html?m=1

This is depressing. This was how operations cost in the oil industry ballooned when operations were only possible with a contingent of soldiers in gun boats. To think that even normal farming is no longer possible without gun wielding security men on ground is really a scary proposition. The cost of the farming output will be so expensive that importation may be a cheaper option. This is not looking good.

Firstandonly:
My girlfriend is very good in sawing and she has always wanted to have a shop of her own where she can expand. She is still in school and supports her studies from the little sawing she does at home, the truth is she's very hard-working.

Should i take a risk and open a shop for her. I work and i earn 40k a month i can easily save up to 60k from now till January but am scared, I don't want to take a risk i will later regret in life.

Pls has any body faced this kind of situation before or heard of it and how was the outcome?

Just buy her a hacksaw then, she is very good in sawing (sowing). Don't mind me I'm just kidding.

Back to the matter, if you are already having doubts about it, and it will pain you so much if after the "investment'', she ends up with another man, then please preserve your sanity, her life and yours by not doing it. But if you are willing to let go if it turns out to be a total loss for you, then go ahead. But most times investments made based on emotions and sentimental considerations only don't end well.

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TecM0:
An Ibo man's contribution so far...

Name calling

Am suddenly no more Yakubu Muhammad from Kano

Lol

Nnamdi Kanu must be so proud of you guys his minions

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You can actually make your point without the tribal slur. I share your sentiments and Mr Akeredolu's views on the subject under discuss and yet I am a Nigerian who happens to be Igbo by ethnicity. Not all Igbo people share the views of a few people called IPOB so please be the good example you want others to emulate.

Not all Igbos are like that. Some of us have been warning them about this IPOB and Nnamdi Kanu Menace but emotions and unguarded and tactless behavior will not let them reason well.

omenka:
I sympathize with the innocent ones caught in the imbroglio between the military's and Ipob.

That said, it is interesting seeing the quietude in the South East in the face of what is happening. So much so that one Gidgiddi who prides himself as an Igbo leader on the forum waved it aside saying FORGET WIKE.

It is now obvious Igbos react to the death of Igbos depending on who is responsiblefor the killing.

We saw it with Peter Obi when he killed tens of Igbos in Akwuzu, and now Wike.

They even seemed more concerned about the incident at Lekki than this in Rivers, with nearly all Lekki threads running into no less than 8 pages!!

We live in very interesting times.

Racoon:
The Lekki tollplaza needs to be pull down & converted to a memorial for the many victims of the #EndSARS protest who were still assaulted by the security agencies beside justice against all the culprible victims.

So that we will all be living in a cage like you do?

She had been buried and her friends held a candle light session to mourn the great loss. She was an important person and a president of Clever Girls Foundation.

What a paradox! President of clever girls foundation did such an unclever thing, especially when it mattered most? Oh what a world full of contradictions?

Sounds like early signs of stroke caused by ischemia. Please check in with your physician asap. Don't delay any further.

If you want to live the rest of your peacefully, never succumb to any form of emotional blackmail to bring those people into your life.

You can forgive, but never forget. You don't deserve those kind of people as family. You have always been by yourself and managed to survive by so much blood and sweat and now they come to your for what exactly? To kill and end it all?

Be wise and use your head. You don't need them, they were never there when you did so what difference will their presence make now?

Mind your business, block their numbers or in fact change your number and mind your business. Find a loving woman and marry, settle down and build your own family with love and peace. Never bring any of those people into your life for your own safety and good.

Why are you guys publishing unverified news? To achieve what exactly, heat up the polity?

For the nitwits who can't read and understand a simple sentence but are quick to put a tribalistic/ethnic slur to everything, this is what the story says

"Upon interrogation, Moses a 27-year-old native of Auchi, said his friend’s ghost had been hunting him since the day he killed him."

MT:
This is the way some of our so-called big men roll. They use their companies to take a loan and spend the money on other thing. Sadly, he can't even forfeit his personal cars, houses etc. It's a limited liability company (LTD) and the liability only applies to anything bought in the company's name. He won't care if AMCON takes over as he is already richer than that company, albeit in fraudulent way.

Not correct. The judgment empowers AMCON to forcefully take over any assets located anywhere ( I guess where the jurisdiction of the Federal High Court reaches) as a means of recouping the said loan amount. So if they take over all the company assets they find and the value is not up to the loan, they will go after any property or asset they can prove belongs to him anywhere within the Federal Republic of Nigeria irrespective of the asset type or class. People should learn to say no to unfettered greed, financial recklessness, corruption and lack of self control. Above all honesty will save you from numerous troubles and while gaming the system may give you wins for a while, the day you lose, you will lose so miserably. I rest my case.

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This is no longer looting. It racism against BENZ. Why are they destroying livelihood of people who have no hand in the crime being protested?

2011 Toyota Sienna

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