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If the judiciary was working. The bolt driver can easily take the case to court and this man will pay for damages. Nigerians need to be disciplined and face the consequences of every action that negatively impacts others

A typical simp always want to catch a falling knife. You are operating in a place of fear. Fear of not finding someone new. Change your mindset and focus on the hustle. She has lost respect for you because you are focusing on her instead of your hustle.

Ladies don't bend for guys they don't respect. When you place her above you and be the nice guy always wanting the relationship to work. She will lose respect for you.

My advise is to go no contact on her. Don't watch her stories, don't call her, don't stalk her, mute or block her if possible. Go ghost on her and watch her run back begging on her knees. This always work 99% of the time. However, you shouldn't even accept a woman who disrespect you to that level. MOVE ON. its painful but a real man endures pain.

adebenson155:
Good day guys.

I got denied canada study visa in January.

I have just gotten back my 10,000 CAD tuition deposit and I don't wish to re apply until after one year

Will you advice I change the CAD to naira due to this fluctuation of naira and dollar, or I leave in CAD.

I am scared if I leave it in dollars in my account it might depreciate badly before the time I want to re apply.

I also need advice from people .
I am an Auditor. Which country outside Africa can I migrate to with 10,000 USD.

I will advise you convert to naira. $ may drop to #800 in a months time.

Hi guys, I just got admitted into Northeastern University, Toronto campus. I just figured it's not an eligible university for Ontario Immigration Nomination Program - International student stream but eligible for PGWP. I applied to Carleton University also, which is my first choice but still waiting for a decision. What are the chances of getting into CU, and anyone studied at NU?

After the first 3 paragraph, I stopped reading the story. From your story it's obvious the girl isn't what you want and she doesn't really love. I see distrust in your relationship and wanting to change your girl. The relationship will not work. She's probably still going through trauma bond with her ex. That isn't easy to break. It'll become toxic. Please let her be.

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

Hello everyone, I am to enter Amsterdam as the visa issuing country. Can i make Amsterdam my point of entry(POE) and Paris my point of departure from the Schengen area or vice versa?.

It's been 50 days now since biometrics, no feedback from the Belgian Embassy on visa status. My passport is still with me - I had borrowed the passport for an exams. TLS guy said i should either keep the passport or contact the embassy. Called the embassy and i am being told they will reply my email on next step.

Any hope of getting the visa considering the processing time or use my passport to re-apply to the French embassy?

This is easy bro. Never ask her for sex again but express what your needs in the marriage in an open and honest way. DO NOT DEMAND FOR SEX! DO NOT ASK! DO NOT COMPLAIN!. Women hate that. It kills attraction. Take control of the situation, find a way to set the mood, romantic date nights at home or outside, rose petals when coming back from work. Remind her how much you love her, gentle kisses and then do it on the kitchen counter, living room, just anywhere outside the bedroom where the baby is. She has some resentments and has lost attraction maybe because you are not loving her the right way.

It also seems you are not in control because she's not in her feminine frame and you are not in your masculine frame. She can easily give sex to such a man out there without her even knowing how and when it happened. Be a man and initiate sex without asking to have sex or setting a date for sex. If she declines, i repeat, DO NOT COMPLAIN. Just get busy with your goals and purpose and help with taking care of the baby and find other ways to cool off the steam. Give her some space and be patient with her. Some women get overwhelm with being a mother and become scared of sex after going through child birth.

I don't always like this particular advise, getting a side chick helps with attraction. Your wife will sense that you are not disturbing her anymore for sex and will be worried and expectant. The day you initiate, she go rush you. You can create this space by getting a side chick or just focusing on your passion. We all know the safe option. If all still feel fuzzy between you two. Then i am sorry, you married the wrong person (an emotionally unavailable partner, an unintentional woman, a self-centered woman etc.).

Africankel:
They replied my email the next day, and I picked up almost immediately.

Hello @afrikankel, I had borrowed the passport and was advised to pickup at TLS. The TLS guy advised that I should return it directly to the embassy. Kindly guide the effective way of doing ghis. Do I just take it to the embassy without an appointment? I have asked them to guide me through email but yet to receive a response.

The embassy is even yet to reply to my request to borrow my passport for 1 day. It's 35 days now since I did biometrics and what I need the passport for is in 3 days. I'm confused why Belgian embassy takes this long. They should reject the visa rather than keep someone passport for so long. You're lucky yours came out

Purpleivy:
Testimony time: I’m so excited, got my visa within 6days 💃 even though the issue I had made me lose hope in it but it turned out in my Favor. I had requested for withdrawal of my passport because I needed it urgently and I was informed that my application will be terminated completely which I agreed to in the mail I sent to them. I went to TLS yesterday to pick up my passport and I saw the visa in it.
Thank you everyone and Africankel for the mail info

Africankel:
I've sha told you to write to the embassy directly. I do it all the time, as I almost always have need for my passport. I did with the Belgian embassy most recently in July.

This is duly noted. Please based on your experiences, how long does it take for them to temporarily release your passport upon request?

I appreciate. Thanks for the information. Checked the TLS site and found this.

"Passports are kept at the Embassy for the duration of the processing of the visa application. Should you have an urgent need for your passport, please contact the TLS centre via email to request a temporary withdrawal of your passport."

I'd give additional 10 days and if no word, I'd write to them. This means I'd have to return the passport immediately once retrieved.

Africankel:
Email them for temporary withdrawal of passport. You'll receive a reply to pick up your passport at the embassy.

Hi guys, I am wondering if the Belgian embassy is about to show me shege instead of Schegen visa. Traveling to Netherlands in Dec 6.. Biometrics done Sept 11th 2023. No word yet from them after 22 days. I need my passport urgently to enable me write an exam in Oct. 19th.

How long do they take to process application averagely here? I see France takes 10 - 15 days.

Passionet:
What's your rate please

I'd buy $50 for 720

Passionet:
How can I withdraw from Payoneer at Black market rate please? Any latest working method?

Hi, I'm willing to buy some. Let's deal if it's still available

I need Payoneer funds in USD. Please let me know if available and your rate in naira.

I need $53 Payoneer funds. Please let me know if available let's deal.

Good evening all, I am meant to be in dubai next weekend for business, my agent just informed me my visa is getting rejected because I am underage (34yrs). Does this still apply and how best can i go around this? I don confuse lai this.

Contrary to popular opinion. US Dollar is not an asset. I won't advise anyone to buy a fiat currency for long term as an asset. If I were you I will look into these asset classes and double my money:

1. Real Estate - Buy a landed property and keep for long term or provide liquidity through a trusted crowfunding real estate broker- Low risk
2. Bonds - Buy FGN savings bonds, FGN Bonds and other government bonds. No risk.
3. Gold low risk


High risk assets classes - high returns
1. Cryptocurrency
2. Company shares/stocks
3. Entrepreneurship

Kindly note its okay to invest in high risk assets if its for a long term. Only invest when there's a recession or extreme fear in these markets. Ask Warren Buffet

It all depends on your risk appetite

WiszyFraud:
You should count yourself a lucky guy jorh..


Why waste your precious time trying to toast a woman?
That bullshit really marvels me..

1. You stop her
2. You try to know her name
3. You start begging for her contact, which you might not even get because she’ll tell you she doesn’t give out her number, moreover she has so many male contacts saved to her phone ..
4. She then gives you the number after so much beggings and convincing... You then start calling her with your own airtime
5. She sometimes act funny on phone, but then you try your best to beg her to accept you into her life
6. After much beggings and persuasions, she then agrees to hang out with you. You then become very excited
7. When you two finally meets, all the expenses na for your head, plus her transport fare
8. Then you’re now happy you finally got your fellow human being who will practically add nothing meaningful to your life.. Only thing she brings in return for your time and money is just spread legs, and share some diseases/infections with you..

Use your head bros..

If konji holds you too much, there are numerous runs girls out there who will give you the same sex, and then you move on jejely with your life without all the dramas listed above.. And it’s a one time thing.

Always roll with your condoms sha.. ThankYou ✌️

To add @Poster, you do not need to learn how to toast a lady, just build your confidence on what actually matters, life purpose, goals and transforming yourself physically, mentally and financially. If you indeed really want to learn how to socialize with girls.. Take note of this..

When you first approach a lady or meet lady for the first time, talk them like you have met them before and flirt. Look for something great about them and start the conversation from there. You can ask them to tell you more, where, how etc. You get?

dannybrasky:
There you have it, that's uncle SAM having a cordial relationship with water. Get a reliable mechanic or technician who can remove it and get it cleaned,hopefully it gets back up and running.

Thanks everyone for your advise. Issue has been resolved. Symptoms was coming from the back SAM. That is, non-working remote key, rear right/left turnkey, fuel gauge, boot etc. The water did not affect the front SAM. The electrician traced the issue to the CAN bus. Fixed the broken wires to the back SAM and ran diagnostic and all is well.

dannybrasky:
Most times the culprit of a bad SAM is water.
You can't reach a conclusion until car is scanned as advised by one of our oga's above.

SAM Can go as high as 250k to 300k the last time I checked.
I have seen situations where it is being opened and cleaned up properly and it starts working properly after. Don't know if its advisable though,but get car scanned.

Apparently, I visually checked and noticed the drainage vent at my front windscreen was blocked with leaves. Checked the fusebox at the hood and noticed water leak i to fusebox area.

dannybrasky:
I hope uncle SAM is not the one misbehaving?
Let's hear form the ELDERS.

Sounds like a serious issue. Uncle should calm down o.

Philadelphia:
Have you read the books of 1 SAM uel and 2 SAM uel recently?

On a serious note, I also suspect your SAM.
Firstly, take your car to a pro mech and scan first and never let any kazeem finger anything.

Thank you for feedback. Would have that checked out. How much does the SAM control module go for, Any idea?

Hi everyone, please i have a 2010 C300, while driving few days ago, i noticed the radio display unit shuts off and went in, tried bringing it out with no luck so kept on driving. When i got to my destination, central lock did not work, boot did not open, low fuel indicator did not show. It showed when i initially started the car. After few hours, started the car and everything worked fine. I just experience same thing today. Has anyone experienced this before and what did you do to fix it?

TouchstoneNg:
45,000 per Sqm

Thank you. Please check your Gmail. Sent dimensions and details for a kitchen project in Abuja. I'd appreciate a quote ASAP to help me plan financing.

TouchstoneNg:
This Wardrobe design is just Exceptional.

Contact us, you could have this in your bedroom too.

Very affordable.

Location- Games Village, Abuja.

How much is this wardrobe?

Hi everyone, I noticed a vertical crack on the windshield of my C300. I am contemplating replacing it. Can someone assist with market price of the OEM windshield, LED light. The car year is 2010.

giselle237:
Have you pressed submit ?

Yes I have o. I have the letter in handy

Hello house, please I missed out uploading the letter of introduction from my employer but uploaded leave approval letter and appointment letter. How do I fix this? I have the letter with me. Wl it affect my application? I am yet to attend biometrics appointment.

Hello All, I am trying to book an appointment. All available slots next week are all on premium appointment and am not ready to cough out that kind of money. What's the best way to get a regular slot. Is there any possibility of getting a regular appointment within that period?

dustydee:
I have googled and the only reference I could fi. D was travelstart, which is what you posted. I could not find this information on NIS site. The only passport picture of I could find online with "ECOWAS" is the regular e-passport issued by NIS hence my question.
In any case thanks for your time.

This is where I got the information.