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SteveOfu:
Let's be honest and stop letting Nollywood deceive us. A rich guy wants a rich girl and a rich girl wants a rich guy. This is how it has always been, this judgmental thing needs to stop already.

A beautiful girl made a post on how she saw a guy here, she thought he was the perfect one till she found out he doesn't have money and had to move on. It's obvious she is doing well for herself but needs a man who is also financially stable and some people (mostly guys) came to the post to advise her to build with him.

Do you think she has not tried building with guys in the past and they took advantage?

Is being in a relationship/getting married a do or die issue that she has to accept anyone?

She works hard for her money, I don't think she is asking for too much having the same kind of man by her side. She deserves to have a choice!!

Right now I'm working hard to make my money and I had to put marriage aside till I'm financially stable, then one day I decide to be in a relationship that may lead to marriage and one guy will come to me and use the "build with me " slogan. What were you doing while I was slaving my ass to make money? I will use my money and do love with you? Turn mini sugar mummy to you? What happened to spoiling me silly and I do the same? Oh please!! Go take several seats. Fine boy without money leads you no where.

So have you considered if this guy is a gold digger? Or is that term only used on women? Everyone wants the best in life, everyone has a class and status where they want to belong/remain in. Let's respect other's choices and stick to where we belong.

. You have seen nothing. You want to marry rich man? Have you considered your joy,happiness,peace of mind,respect and value,treatment, don't you know that there are things money can't buy?, you are scared of hunger, lack and want, the rich that divorce what is the course, is it money? If you are rich and your man is poor build with him but be sure he is not a gold digger.

Paulimation:
Guys beware!! While this worked for the op, it will not work for you and i sincerely advice anyone not to try this.

It happened to him by mistake, it wasn't planned. So, don't plan your life along this path. Don't say...i have 50k...what is stopping me? Every sense and fiber in your body should stop you. Work and be comfortable enough to take care of a family and not put them under poverty.

. True talk oh

Yugoteey2k:
A woman who visited her boyfriend's house unannounced to surprise him on his birthday has been left with a shocker.

A heartbroken woman has narrated the shock she got after trying to surprise her boyfriend on his birthday by visiting his house unannounced.

Read the post shared by relationship expert, Cynthia Valerian Raphaels:

Good afternoon ma. How is work and family? I need advise ma. Please hide my id .Something happened in my relationship last month like Saturday of last month. This is a man that knows my family and we are planning to marry by Easter next year. My boyfriends birthday was last Saturday of August. I decided to surprise him, packed my bags to go visit him to sleep over. I didn't tell him I was coming.

I left on Friday When I got to the house because I have my own keys, I got there around 2:30pm, I even stopped by the market to buy soup and stew items, got to the house, opened the entrance with my keys and first went to the kitchen to drop the food stuffs I bought . Meanwhile I have been discussing with him about his birthday will be, so he told me on that day, he will come and take me out.

That was our agreement . So I didn't tell him I was planning something else. When I dropped the stuff at the kitchen, I took my bags to the room, met a lady lying down, sleeping with just bra and short in his bedroom. The sound of my shoes woke her up and she asked me who am I, how did I get in?

I introduced myself and she laughed and told me that I should stop joking. She quickly went to where she was charging her phone to call him. That a girl came and was telling her they are dating. The phone was on speak out. He told her that the girl must be mad,that he has no other woman except her. That he is busy at work and will call her later. He dropped the call and I had to dial his number, he picked and I asked him what he just said some seconds ago, he started asking if I am the one, that why didn't I call him. I cut off.

I left with my bag, I didn't go with the food stuff again. He kept calling but I blocked off his lines and blocked him on WhatsApp and on Facebook. He started calling with another number, but got tired to call and stopped. Three years of my relationship him. Even that evening, he drove down to my house but I left to my friends place to cool off.

On Sunday he came again to my friends house but she asked him out . He has visited my work place like three times but I don't want to see him. He said the girl is his ex that doesn't want him to be. That she came to his house so late at night on Thursday and he allowed her to stay, that she came from east. He even said the girl left his house that day.

I don't know what to believe anymore. I love this guy ma'am, I really love him, he loves me but I am confused. He has called my mother to apologize to her, my mum has called me to forgive him, even his sisters are calling me. I am 32 years, he is 35 years

okay lets agree that he loves you. Why is his ex in the bedroom, do like him having a sex mate, don't you know that once a soldier is still a soldier?. You want to end up in polygamy? Remember he told the ex on phone that he has no other girl but she, still you are there.

saggitarius01:
Good evening dear Nairalanders. I'm sorry I had to create a new account to post this. I am getting really worried about how my life may turn out. I'd be straight and brief as possible so please read and give me any advice you can. Thanks.

A brief rundown about myself.

I am going to be 25 in no time, growing up I felt there is only two paths a young lady should tow...either to forget being a fashonista and all trying to be neck deep in her outlook or calm down, first things first, work hard and make money (if possible be a millionaire before 25). I choose the later and as God will have it, my dream turned a reality.

Now, while I was in this journey of not turning out to be a lady who will never be able to foot her own bills, I forgot everything about being girlie. I never what it means to have female friends or hang out with any, I don't care so much about knowing the latest party and posh places or even taking all the posh pictures like the ladies in my age bracket would. I was focused to a fault. I saved to a fault.

I might not have everything I desire but I am indeed comfortable for a young lady who made it out of the ghetto life of Igbogbo.

Now my pain..

I do most of my jobs from home and therefore I am mostly within the confines of my apartment.
No boyfriend, no fiance talk more of a husband.
I don't have any friend and I don't know to make any friend for as a result of I trying to find my feet in life, I have had, experienced, seen and heard nasty behaviours of human. I keep people at arms length. I am afraid of an average human for I believe anybody can do anything even things you don't expect of them.

I already observed that slaying and all the girlie ish is obviously not a part of me as i prefer to brainstorm and think of how to expand my business which I know an average lady my age, that is the least of her worries.

I know I need a man in my life. I don't know if it's a stereotype but I think ages 24-26 is the right age (as i have made to believe) a woman should at be at least settled Maritally. How do I go about getting a man to date and marry? Where are the places I should go to? Remember I said I have NO friends so no wedding invitations.

Am I stressing myself? But I am almost 25 and no man and truly in my hearts of hearts I know I want to be a wife someday and have a good family so need to lie about anything. Where do ladies meet their boyfriends? Not the playboys or those with pulled down shorts.

Please what do I do? What are the places to go? I tried hanging out to places for drink but you know how it feels and looks for a young lady to sit out on her own.

P.S. Yes I am not desperate but I am concerned.

Did i make a mistake by holding my life first instead of being all what the social media ladies are?

I just opened an Instagram account yesterday and still don't know how to use the app or what to do there. You can imagine the kind of lady I have become. Yes I can dress neat and combine my wears. Forget ugly, I ain't. I could do a nice make up on my face when ever I have 2 hours to spare. Never a boring fella. I just don't know how to find someone I could share all the happiness, joy and street wise advise with.
Please help me. I am so lonely. I only come on nairaland whenever I am bored. Enough said.

I am open to questions. Any at all.

. I am also looking for a serious date that would lead to marriage, let's give a try.

[quote author=trevormide post=82416513]I am a new serving corper posted to Uyo. Before I was posted, I mistakenly won N3.6m from sport betting. I said mistakenly because I was betting randomly on other people's games. If you show me ticket, I will just play it. I have played many games like this and lost over N150,000. The ticket that won, the owner played it with N100. I played it with N2,000. And I won N3.6m.

For something like this to repeat itself is almost impossible. That is why I want to start a good business while I am serving. I am serving in Uyo. Uyo is peaceful. I intend to be based here. No need returning to Ibadan.

Please everyone that knows Uyo, which business can I start with N3m in Uyo. I need your solid advice urgently. Thank you. [/qu. Let me give you an idea, then we both will share the profit it would yield?

Heloct:
Now, that won't be a perfect title but then, it's just an insight to what I'm putting down here.

In this scenario. I'm not referring to marriage. Neither am I referring to flings. I'm talking about a serious relationship that may or may not lead to marriage.

Do you think it is right to flaunt your man or woman on social media platforms when you still don't know if they would be the one?

Many people must have showed off more than the relationship could let on. If you ask me, I'll just say it's not my thing. I'm not even sure if I would post my own wedding pictures. Moods though.

Don't flaunt anybody,even marriages breaks talk of friendship, deep inside of you,you alone knows if you value and respect him or her. Flaunting is not sign of fidelity, and can not stop unfaithfulness .

bilms:
Kwara State Governor and his 26 years old commissioner

By Abdulrazaq Hamzat

At the age of 22, Shamma Al-Mazrui was appointed as a Minister at the United Arabs Emirate (UAE) in Feb. 2016, making her the youngest member of the UAE Cabinet.

At the time of her appointment 3 years ago, she's 4years younger than Joana Kolo, a 26 years old commissioner nominee by the Kwara State Governor, Abdulrahman Abdulrazaq.

Today, Shama is 25years old and one of the most active ministers in the UAE.

In Australia however, the youngest minister is Wyatt Roy, who was only 25years old, when he was appointed.

Unlike Shama, who is currently serving in a youth focused ministry as minister of youth in UAE, Roy on the other hand is heading one of the most powerful ministries in Australia, as the minister of innovation.

These are examples of young people without experience, doing greatly when given leadership responsibility.

Few days ago, the progressive Governor of Kwara State, Abdulrahman Abdulrazaq also nominated a 26years lady, Joana Kolo as a commissioner in the state, throwing young people across Kwara into wild jubilation.

Many are excited and are celebrating, because for the first time in a long time, Kwara State now have a governor who not only value young people genuinely, but will also fulfil all promises made to them during the electioneering campaign.

By nominating Joana to serve as a commissioner in Kwara State, Governor Abdulrahman is simply fulfilling his promise of making his administration youth driven.

It should be recalled that during the electioneering, Governor Abdulrahman repeatedly promised the young people of Kwara State that his government would give priority to youths and even after assuming office as governor on may 29, he repeatedly re-echoed the promise, signifying his determination to fulfil it.

Like a man, whose words can be taken to the bank for cash, Governor Abdulrahman has fulfilled another of his promises by nominating a youth, in the real sense of it as a commissioner.

However, there are people not happy with this development.

It has been observed that some political players in the state are raising concerns about the nomination of this young lady as a commissioner. Their argument is that, she is too young and too inexperienced to bring any value to the government.

While their concerns is worthy of note, i think it is not appropriate to conclude on a person, before knowing the person.

The real question we should be asking is that, what is wrong with nominating a 26years old commissioner? Is there really anything wrong with that? Does she not meet the required academic qualification? Is there any law that has been violated as a result of her nomination? So, what exactly is wrong with her nomination?

I am of the view that, those who have already marked Joana's script, even before she enters the exam hall are doing so for their own reasons, not necessarily out of concerns for the state.

Their opinion about her is of no value because the governor who nominated her knows the value she is bringing to his government.

Whether or not, she can perform, will only be tested after she has been given a chance, which the governor has rightly given her.

It is also important to note that, the will of a man, will always make a way for him.

The determination to succeed supersedes all ages and experiences and Joana's young age, and perceived inexperience are not a minus, if she's prepared to succeed.

So, let me conclude that, if Jean Claude Duvalier can become the president of Haiti at the age of 19 and succeed, if Valentine Strasser can become the president of Sierra Leone at the age of 25 and succeed, if Michel Micombero can lead Burundi successfully at the age of 25, certainly, Joana Kolo can aswell succeed as a commissioner in Kwara, if given the required support.

*Abdulrazaq Hamzat is the Convener of Kwara Must Change.*

I love it, young ones should take over offices, exactly what i expected ihedioha Emeka to do, he went and appointed old forks,nonsense.

alexhl:
See the different curses hailed on Instagram celeb simply Tacha for refusing to shake humbled 2baba who visited the big brother house today.

https://www.acurees.com/news/2baba-and-tacha-she-just-refused-to-shake-him-we-dont-know-why-though/


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRmRV3KWcIo

wetin him 2baba go to do there? Him wan go show himself. Him leave him deh to another person deh, if him dey him deh tacha go come snub him?

alexhl:
See the different curses hailed on Instagram celeb simply Tacha for refusing to shake humbled 2baba who visited the big brother house today.

https://www.acurees.com/news/2baba-and-tacha-she-just-refused-to-shake-him-we-dont-know-why-though/


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRmRV3KWcIo

wetin him 2baba go to do there? Him wan go show himself. Him leave him deh to another person deh, if dey him dey tacha go come snub him?

post=82394029:
Okay Emily.
We have 'shot' our mouth o.
Go on with your criminal lifestyle.
We will be here to see your pinshure on FP before Xmas.

is correction center not fp,

Your rulers that do it you talk them to stop looking, or is looting not crime?, c t dey fear you,fear fear no dey make money o.

post=82393883:
Pls, do no go into crime.
You or anyone around you.
CRIME DOES NOT PAY.
Find something doing, no matter how small.
Have a Nice Day.

if you can't do crime shot your mouth,leave that can.

id4sho:
IPOB will starting masturbating on Hausa their rulers thread.

hhhmm is it the phd,come see phd holders, you sure no be buy them buy am?

[quote author=MhannyEra post=82365199]Multi talented artist Rema has taken up to social media to talk about his love life being so difficult, he composed as a song, he said, “Since I got this fame, it’s been so hard to love again”.


https://www.instagram.com/p/B2lYT75HvPl/


Source: https://www.newsbroadcast.com.ng/2019/09/since-i-got-this-fame-its-been-so-hard.html

[/quot who love you and respect you back then? all girls dey find guy with money to love. Though is because you know them that they would claim love when you are rich,but fake.lost fame and money see if any one would call you again. But that one wey dey try stay that time wey rabba no dey carry am along.unless you wan plus conne and your money you go 4 a made lady too.

Yahman1:

I'll take him serious if he can conjure just 200k from any bank's vault.

na the type of magic i want,atleast 5k everyday.

adewest1999:

how much e go dey pay ,nah weekly or monthly or the years agreed? And wetin badoo wan sing again? Pawon sef wey don come out since no dey even trend.

Ilamina:
I don't think I have lived a good life

I wish I can change some things

What do you think

call me lets get it straight,08066212559

jaymoni:
There is this girl that use to be my friend. I accommodated her for 3weeks in my house last year for her to run arnd to clear herself from school. After helping her she then travelled. After one month she blocked me on Facebook and on WhatsApp. Last week she called dat she wants to visit me so dat she can rest and also to watch bbnaija. First day passed she was forming wife material via to cook for me. D problem is she does want me to come close to her talkless of touching her. Like yesterday cold wan kill me she carry my dueve only for her self. She behaves moody. Have asked her severally whats the problem but her response is just awkward. Should I send her away or should I leave her and stay on my own till she leaves

she dey eat your food? Wetin be your gain? If she needs accommodation leave her but let her know that she has to feed herself, you are only giving her accommodation any other thing is not your responsibility.

stupidity:
I and my fiancé started going to this church program that helps people with speaking in tongues disability. It’s an every weekend (Saturday’s and Sunday’s) program in one church like that. Which held for 2 months.


The “heaven must fall” prayers for that two month is very tiring mehn!!!

After praying we start saying things that are not. Particularly me. I have been saying plenty gibberish and still saying more to try call down the Holy Spirit to take over me and make me a speaking in tongue machine. I still can’t feel the Holy Spirit


I don tire. I want to open up to my fiancé about it. No more pretense. Anytime I deh do am, e deh do me like say I deh fool myself.

I don’t know what her reaction would be

Make I light weed first.

you still like your current lifestyle, id not you would change.

hisexcellency34:
Rubbish talk. Are you Cameroonians?

you said you are not ibo, and ibos are not Nigerians. Hah e pain you say i say we no be Nigerians?

Alitair:
In life, everything happens for a reason but this one I am still looking for the reason.

So that's how I met this beauty in my Finals. She is one of this beautiful girls that don't actually know they are beautiful.
Things moved a little fast and she dictated the rules if I wanted to taste the honey pot. Rules included Abstaining from some crude things I used to do of which I am proud I stopped. In fact the girl really changed my life...

To cut Long story short, I got what I wanted but got stuck, I have never been willing to change for anyone even my Mother and I changed for this girl.

OK. Issue now is the girl was always telling me "Love na scam, don't get emotional and stuff like that and she would prefer just being friends. I agreed with my church mind even though I know she already had a soft spot in my heart... Las las I dey see to chop na so I killed emotions except sexual emotions.

However for some time now, some kind things have changed, she confronts me over any girl I get too friendly with, steady checking up on me to make sure I am not with another girl, embarrassed me because I hugged a girl with very mad assets and even threatened to deal with the girl. It has escalated to the point where she can't let me stand alone with another female for just 5minutes whether its business or courtesy. If I ask her, all I get is that I should be content with what I have.

OK kwa. Now I was going through her phone last week and I saw my Brother's number, my sister's own and my mum's own was saved as mum in law.
I don't know how I got entangled in this but I know I want to leave. The girl has told me many times that she will never let me go no matter how hard I try and believe me I have tried. Even stopped giving her attention and time but she is even more determined. She has gradually turned down all her serious male friends even her supposed Fiancé....

I'm feeling like I don't own myself anymore and its really depressing. I am yet to stand and someone is already clinging on me by fire by force.

The one that is blowing my mind now: she thinks we should pay for an apartment together so we can live together. I didn't reoly yet but that would be a modern version of living in bondage.

I am in need of advice on how to make this girl an Ex of a non existent relationship...

Matured minds only

Thank you

this na indirect marriage oh, if rent house with her nah close marking. Unless you are ready to settle with her.

adebuk47:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/ipob-cant-attack-me-outside-nigeria-says-ngige/amp/

fu.k that,you protected them when you were in office is that all?, what did you do to contribute in the actualization of biafra, if ipob is not the way to achieve biafra what way did you employ to achieve it?moda f....ka

goodnessme1:
We yorubas don't care about how Osibanjo is being treat.




What we are sure and care for is presidency is come back to south west.
And Tinubu is the man for the job.



We are not Ibos that dont know how to play politics.

we are not Nigerians, and are not interested in the politics of this down casted, indiscipline,lawless uncivilized country.

King204:
so if girl carry big nyash give u, u no go chop

she go first cook am nah, if e don, then we go chop.

generationz:
Even after they said she is a married woman , this one is still dropping number feeling like Edris Elba

this is exactly what i wanted.reactions

Gulher:
O D E

that concern you.

livebyday:
Did you read the comments or Google search the image and realize she is a married officer?

This blogger made a fake story and you went dropping your number ?

who will you blame?

IssaGist:
See more photos here > https://gistmore.com/efcc-arrests-fidelity-bank-employee-for-allegedly-stealing-n137m

why they no go catch you?,since you no get sense, you dey collect all this money still dey naija.

MiVida:
Ma'am, with all due respect, there's so much that a man wants than a wide hips, big ass, tight pussy and large boobs... Those are cheap to get these days, we need women like in the olden

true yan, they think say na big boobs and nyash we go chop?.

DanielOwen2050:
A young Nigerian lady cries out that she loves sex and she can equally cook delicious meal. She is need of a husband that can make her life complete and fulfilled.

Click this link to contact her if interested: https://latesttip.com/nigerian-lady-searching-for-partner-said-that-she-loves-sex-and-can-cook-also-drops-contact/

okay,sex,good cook, what about character , manners and qualifications ,and do you work? No sex we go chop, call me lets start if you want marriage truly.08066212559

tendingNews:
https://www.instagram.com/p/B2aKomzJor1/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Source: http://www..com/2019/09/video-lady-slaps-her-friend-for.html?m=1

you dey slap your fellow woman over a guy wey never marry you,hhhmm, you no get sense.

Onyi22:
I so much love this guy, please is he married?

you want to be a baby mama?