₦airaland Forum

JESHAL007:
Sir you are one in a million, most women would disrespect their husbands if they share the bills

Then disrespect her back and send her packing.
It is cheaper for you to stay alone in such condition and more expensive for her.

Okortor:
I DONT SHARE BILLS WITH MY WIFE AND WILL NEVER DO SO EVEN THOUGH SHE WORKS WITH A MULTINATIONAL COMPANY AND EARNS QUITE A GOOD SALARY WITH A SUPER MARKET OWNER........ I PAY 100% BILL IN MY HOUSE. THAT ALONE COMMANDS RESPECT AND KEEPS YOU THE LEAD AS A MAN.

MEN PROVIDE FOR YOUR FAMILY AND STOP EXPECTING YOUR WIFE TO SUPPORT, SHE IS ONLY ANN HELP MATE NOT BILL PAYER.

Then she should stop working and remain the help mate abi what is the point of working without contributing? if you no dey work and earn make we know rather than this kind yeye set-up.
Moreover, if a woman is working and no impact in the family, then is it not better everyone work and stay apart, my cost of living will drop drastically.

temi4fash:
You see this bolded part eh...

May it never happen to us ..

It can make the best of us look very stupid and the learned very foolish..

God would show us mercy in Jesus name

Amen bro.
I say amen to your prayer.
If life goes against you, against your hustles, dreams and aspirations...... Hmmmmmm
People will categorize you as lazy, someone who didn't plan well and you will be virtually invisible in the dating/relationship/marriage world.
I don't even pray for my enemy to be in such position

JESHAL007:
this is one of the core truths that turned many men red pill,, while a man hustles in his early years to put his life together, women are having their fun. And when these women are tired they then decide to settle, just in time as hustling guys are getting successful. So now women are ready to settle and men are ready to commit, which is not bad in itself but for the fact that women are serving men secondhand left over coochie but want men's freshly minted coins. That's what men are rebelling against. Its robbery.

Well, there is no need to rebel.
The system always have a loophole to take advantage of.
While the man who has hustled is left with a semi-damaged woman, he has the option and power to explore as far as his financials can take him aside his wife.
It is not a crime. Don't let anyone gaslight you or demonize you for having a side chick outside marriage.
Don't let them tell you, you have a wife and stick to her. Why did you marry when you know you won't be faithful to one woman blah blah blah.
Bro, enjoy your life. So many pussies to conquer out there if you want and like

JESHAL007:
women always have options. no matter how horrible they are. that's something no one can take away from them,since they are the most desired sex

And Options means Power. Ability to negotiate for a better condition and service.
Something the average man does not have.
It is the Bedrock of Simping.
If life and nature is against you and you have no option, naturally you will drop your ego, demands, price and be more humble.

JESHAL007:
100% of Women want to flex their peak SMV to the core, they always want to settle down when they hit the wall and their SMV starts declining.
Sadly, 80% of men want to marry immediately they are about to peak on the SMV, That's why married men tend to cheat a lot... Because they just entered their season of abundance but they've already tied themselves down.

This is true but then, the life of a man and woman work inversely proportional.
As men grow older, the tendency to become stable and valuable becomes higher while the woman's own lower.
So if you do things right, you should start getting on track by 30 all the way to 40 of which you will be married by then.
Nature made it so, if not many men won't marry.

chukzyfcbb:
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Yes they do keep wealth in these places but it doesn't consistutes majority of their wealth. Bulk of their wealth lies in equity.

It's their middle class who has bulk of their total assets consisting of land and properties.

Exactly. The middle class and lower class have bulk of their investments in Solid cash - land especially instead of diversifying a bit to liquid cash - stock, bonds, TB etc.
Reason why you will see a man with land worth 30m yet begging friends and family to borrow money or start borrowing during little emergency like medical because it takes time to convert solid investments back to cash unlike liquid investments

Samchi4christ:
I don't know how my life would have turned to financially, if not the life saver: Stanbicibtcmutual funds . Feel my signature everywhere 💪

Not only you bro, even me too

JESHAL007:
With Feminism cheering them on; with dating apps Tinder, Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp, 2go etc delivering an endless stream of men direct to their phones; with multiple contraception methods on hand and with the best medications for various STIs, women are overdosing themselves on sex and accumulating pussy-numbing Dick counts.

Marriage, with its 1 Dick, is increasingly becoming a prison no woman wants to enter and every woman is eager to exit (as shown by the sky-high divorce rate and the fact that 80% of all divorces are initiated by women)

tgmservice:
Am dating a food seller
I can never go hungry


Dating a food seller is better than dating a graduate

EvilMerodack:
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You obviously dont know how Stocks, Crypto and Forex move

Guy, just stick to your Romance section advise

dermmy:
This woman is so desperate to rule Venezuela. You can see manipulation.

Every country the US wants to invade or bomb and then weaken or split always have their stooges on standby in US.
Maria Machado on stby for Venezuela.
Navalny's wife on stby for Russia in US.
The shah of Iran on stby in US .
They are all waiting for these countries to get destabilized by the west and then use them as stooges to calibrate their economies to align with the west own.

WriteerNg:

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When there's Cuba?

Cuba has been strangled to the extent it is grasping for air/breath.

I doubt Cuba can house any deadly weapon that is capable of attacking US.
That place is smelling and littered with US spies just like the way Taiwan is littered with China spies

WriteerNg:
⚡Russian Defense Minister Belousov:

The US intends to deploy missiles in Europe and the Asia-Pacific region, whose flight time from Germany to Central Russia would be 6–7 minutes.

I guess this is one of the reasons they want to take care of the Venezuela issue to avoid it been a launching pad for russia

Gerrard59:
Yes, corona virus originated from China, but the West actually kicked against sharing the intellectual property behind their vaccines until pressured stepped up and India was capable of producing vaccines. China later shared its vaccines to interested African countries.

In Nigeria, more jobs and investments have been created and made by Chinese owned investors compared to Western owned. States like Kaduna, Kogi, Nasarawa, Ogun, Ondo etc., would have been worse if not for Chinese investments.

I don't know why there is this strong anti-chinese/china among nigerians.
They are far better that the west.

Disenfranchised:
USA gave Nigeria over $500M in grant (free money) and china made an investment of less than $200M and in that investment, china will provide labor, material, etc.

Ronus get sense nah!!

Yet, we see more impacts in the China $200m in train stations etc to the free US $500m grants

Bros.....you too give yourself advice

Raalsalghul:
I can imagine your face while saying this.

JESHAL007:
If you think Oloshos are only on the streets, you are joking and highly ignorant.

Most prostitutes are honest women as they just go straight for the money, Most women (your girlfriends, fiancee and wives) are DISHONEST PROSTITUTES.

The problem with men (that has been highlighted here several times) is that they think those they "express their feelings for" (to use the phrase common with Male Amateurs in the dating game on nairaland) who don't directly sell sex to them are far better than the ones on the street.

There are far more WHO.RES in SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS and MARRIAGES today than those the streets.

Chaii

HacheNoire:
FESTAC needs to be declared as an open air concentration camp.

What’s the difference between FESTAC and Gaza!

kpankpangolo:
Rather than pool money for a paint job, they’ll complain that the government abandoned them. It’s the mindset which kills people, not the reality on ground.

Humans especially blacks hardly work together. So the best option is for the caretaker collecting the house rent to reason that and do it rather than waiting for hundred tenants to agree to save money and do it.
Most western economies we are running to are been designed and managed by the few best brains and hands and not the majority junkies on the streets

one4GOD:
with the way things are now 2027 will just be sachet water and ur vote is bought!

obonujoker:
Let's be frank, Nigeria no fit better.

Make I just get enough money Japa, before Nigeria renders me naked

emmanuelewumi:
Not even easy to have as savings by the owners of dollar

JESHAL007:
just as women are always aiming for Financial Independence, so men must always aim for Sexual Independence. Women are fighting so hard to be financially independent so they don't have to rely on relationships for money , which is a way to live their life free from male control, Men should also fight equally hard to be sexually independent so they don't have to rely on relationships for sex, to be able to live their lives free from women's control. If as a man your access to sex depends on whether or not you're in a relationship you're in trouble.
But it's not going to be easy cause men are moral, and sex outside of relationships is something many men feel guilty about. While lots of men can have sex before marriage, quite a good number have issues with sex before commitment, we all have heard it, "I can't fucc a girl I don't love" "I can't sleep with a woman I'm not in love with".

This is so true.
So true and correct Jeshal

adamx23:
I think you guys live in a bubble or something. 200m naira is a huge amount of money. Majority of the world population have never had anything close to that.

My brother, it is only when I come online I see people talking down on some money.
You will someone who is not earning 500k talking down on a pilot earning 2m per month saying it is a peanut.
Many have never floated a business and pay workers just common 100k per month yet will come online and rubbish someone earning 300k.
200m is roughly 130k us dollars.
You can buy a nice bungalow in any state capital, lesser outside the state capital aside Lagos and Abuja for 35m.
A friend showed me a building he wants to buy in PH for 35m and it was beautiful.
So 35m on house, 10m on car and you are left with about 150m.
Divide it into 2, 75m gives you 11m interest on TB or mutual funds per annum at 15% rate while the other half 75m in dollars MF which is $50,000 at 9% gives $4,500 which is roughly 6.5m.
Total annual income 17.5m in passive income and we are here debating it is a peanut.
For a country where over 85% of the population are earning less than 10m as house hold income per year (wife and husband total income)
Well, this is internet sha were everyone is a billionaire are living in mansions

goran3310:
I can’t imagine myself — not even in the worst nightmare — being married or in any kind of relationship with a woman who has a child.
She can’t possibly look that good, be that good of a person, be that smart, be that young — nothing. There’s no such woman in the world who could make me agree to let another man’s child into my home.

That would be deeply, deeply humiliating in every possible sense. Me, raising someone else’s child? I’d rather die than agree to that. Never. Not even then. There’s no scenario in which that would ever happen.

Even the thought of having a casual relationship with such a woman disgusts me — simply because that kind of relationship is far below and far more hypocritical than being with a prostitute. I can’t picture myself in that situation. And many men who actually have value think exactly the same way.

I do understand those women. They’ve ended up in that situation for all sorts of reasons — but that’s not my problem, just like it wouldn’t be theirs if the situation were reversed. They desperately try to find a new life, a new partner, without realizing that, in the eyes of men who actually have worth and could give them what they want, they are worth nothing.

That’s why they end up with low‑quality, weak‑character men who can’t get real women, so they settle for divorced ones — promising them everything, only to run away later because they have no real potential for anything. And that, in turn, frustrates those divorced women even more, making them increasingly toxic over time.


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Psychological Profile of a Man Who Stays with Divorced Women with a Child

1. Low Self-Esteem and Confidence

He does not believe in his own value or that he can get a better option.

He depends on the woman’s attention and is willing to tolerate compromises he would never accept if his partner had no children.



2. Emotional Insecurity

He constantly seeks validation from his partner.

Fear of rejection or loneliness keeps him in a burdensome relationship.



3. Inadequate Strategy and Resources

He cannot “target” free, quality women because he lacks social, financial, or status capital to be competitive.

Often weaker, more passive, and less ambitious.



4. Compensation Through Control or Promises

If he is seen as a “good guy” by the woman, he often promises everything to maintain the relationship.

If he lacks real potential, he runs away when things get serious or when investment is required.



5. Limited or Illusory Emotional Intelligence

He does not recognize that a relationship with a divorced woman with a child comes with a complex emotional package and responsibilities.

He believes he can “fix” the situation or be a heroic partner.



6. Passive Comfort and Compliance

He settles for a situation below his real potential because “something is better than nothing.”

He tolerates manipulation, drama, and complex dynamics that a quality man would avoid.





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Essence:
These men are not “bad” in themselves, but they are not a challenge for a woman seeking real value. They are the backup choice in the relationship market — men who do not have enough to choose from, so they settle for what is offered, regardless of additional complications.

In short: divorced women with a child do not get a man “who truly has value,” but a man who is not valuable enough to choose a free woman without baggage.

Chaii

WriterrNg:
⚡Ukraine prepares new graves for the aftermath of Pokrovsk.

🇺🇦 Ukraine prepares new graves for the aftermath of Pokrovsk.

So many graves … pic.twitter.com/aLZsUwGhOv

— Lord Bebo (@MyLordBebo) October 31, 2025

The reason why they won't stop is because none of their families are fighting the battle.
Other people's fathers, sons and uncles can go die for all they care.

WriterrNg:
⚡Pete Hegseth to ASEAN members:

We must ensure that China is not seeking to dominate you or anybody else.

Pete Hegseth to ASEAN members:

We must ensure that China is not seeking to dominate you or anybody else. pic.twitter.com/tlm5PLvyvU

— Clash Report (@clashreport) November 1, 2025

But you have dominated and subdued your own neighbors and don't want an external party to interfere in your affairs with them.

Gerrard59:
This is the same state where Islamic terrorists have gradually invaded, and the governor has SAID NOTHING about it. A Kwaran resident here has complained bitterly that the same man has not bought new patrol vehicles for policemen in the state to man key locations in Kwara North. Tomorrow, we will blame the White man when he points out the insecurity in Kwara. Did the White man tell the governor to forgo his security responsibilities to dance skelewu in London (not Abuja or Lagos)?

You people would never call out the ineptitude and irresponsibility of Nigerian elites!

WriteerNg:
⚡Marco Rubio:

"The reason the U.S. is preparing to attack Venezuela is the influence of Iran and Russia in that country. The Iranians are exploring the possibility of building drone manufacturing plants in Venezuela."

Interesting.
For a country arming other countries to attack their perceived enemies, so they want to attack Venezuela because of Russia and Iran's INFLUENCE, emphasis on INFLUENCE and not large scale /massive arming of Venezuela just like they did to Taiwan and Ukraine.
Interesting

kintus:
Why are some people happy when the market bleeds?

Do you take delight in seeing your fellow brother lose money? Why celebrate another man’s downfall?

How does it even give you joy to come here and keep chanting “red, red, red”?

If this were a village setting, such an attitude would easily be likened to witchcraft.

We need to be more considerate of others — their emotions and mental health — before throwing our unsolicited jabs.

Better days are ahead. 🌱

Stray bullet....